https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 29 Apr 2026 08:39:54 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/overwhelmed-with-but-trying-to-be-hopeful#post-1272143 Tue, 10 Dec 2013 15:54:24 +0000 CatchAFallingStar 1272143@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@SunshineMcC: I've heard that Clomid can increase FSH, too. Not sure if that's true.</p> <p> I'm still in the TWW, but tested yesterday, BFN at 13dpo. I have really long luteal phases, usually 16-17 days and 31-32 day cycles. So, AF really isn't due until Friday, but I'm assuming a BFP would have showed by now. </p> <p> Anyway, keep in touch!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/overwhelmed-with-but-trying-to-be-hopeful#post-1271568 Tue, 10 Dec 2013 12:00:28 +0000 LovelyPlum 1271568@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Welcome! I'm sorry you're struggling, but I'm glad you've found us. Feel free to share anytime :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/overwhelmed-with-but-trying-to-be-hopeful#post-1271166 Tue, 10 Dec 2013 08:55:39 +0000 SunshineMcC 1271166@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@littlelashestoes: my FSH levels have varied each month, from 5.6 up to 9, depending in the time of the month. I can understand being scared about getting more info, but at least then you'll know what you're dealing with. I think that's easier than the great big unknown! If your ovarian reserve numbers are low, that will just further help your doc and team to make decisions about the best course of action. For example, because my AMH levels were on the low side of normal, our doc decided to start me out on a higher level of clomid for more stimulation. The unknown is definitely scary, so try not to focus too much in that. I'm excited for you to meet your RE in January!</p> <p>I hope this is our month too! I've had a lot of anxiety the past couple of weeks and am trying to trust and stay in the moment, accepting where I am. But, it's much easier said than done. Here's hoping you have a great day! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/overwhelmed-with-but-trying-to-be-hopeful#post-1270908 Tue, 10 Dec 2013 01:20:19 +0000 CatchAFallingStar 1270908@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@SunshineMcC: I'm so scared to even have my AMH checked. I don't want bad news. I think I'm afraid I'd lose hope. What are your FSH levels? Thank you so much for your thoughtful reply!! I'm so excited for you. I think this is your month!! :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/overwhelmed-with-but-trying-to-be-hopeful#post-1270829 Mon, 09 Dec 2013 23:20:15 +0000 SweetiePie 1270829@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hi! Just wanted to chime in that you are SO not alone! It feels that way to me sometimes in real life. But the ladies on these IF boards have been a Godsend. Both in emotional support and knowledge.<br /> I'm currently 2 days post retrieval and it's brutal waiting to hear how my 10 embryos are doing :-) And then it's probably going to be weeks before I hear about my PGD results, so we're in the waiting game together!<br /> Looking forward to getting to know you better. Good luck in this TWW. Praying for a sweet ending! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/overwhelmed-with-but-trying-to-be-hopeful#post-1270798 Mon, 09 Dec 2013 22:44:41 +0000 SunshineMcC 1270798@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Wow - you ladies are awesome!</p> <p>@littlelashestoes - I'm so glad we found each other too - I was literally ear to ear when I read your post, thinking, "Yes, she gets me!" :) In terms of testing, my DH has done multiple semen analyses, as well as testosterone checks - all his numbers are very low. I've done the HSG (tubes were open!), AMH (numbers were on the low side of normal) and the rest of the hormone and other levels seem normal. I do feel anxious about being over 35 (my DH is 42), as we want to have several kids - we keep joking that we'd really be okay with triplets - one and done for us!</p> <p>In terms of highs and lows, it's so, so hard. I see a therapist weekly and it's been really helpful in terms of talking through how I'm feeling with the IF issues and having someone reassure me that it's all normal - but it's still hard. We're in our TWW now, and I just want to know what's going on in there, to prepare myself for whatever result we get on the next PG test.</p> <p>There's nothing wrong with you guys (!!) - so be sure to remember that! It'll happen, it will definitely happen. It'll be interesting to see what your RE says in January. For me, more information is always helpful, so that we can narrow down what the issue is. For us, we're 99% sure that it's DH's numbers, which is both good to know, and hard to know - because it's hard to change them. Let's hang in there together!! XOXO</p> <p>@kentuckygirl - CONGRATS! So happy for you! Thanks so much for sharing a bit about your journey and your success. It really helps to hear that. Did you go straight to IVF or try IUI?</p> <p>@sweettooth - thanks for the virtual hug! I've needed that the past couple of weeks. Congratulations to you! I'm doing clomid right now (on our second IUI), and don't really understand the difference between it and injectibles - what made you decide to use injectibles for your IUI? Also, if you don't mind me asking - did you do 3 IUI's in a row, or take a break between any of them?</p> <p>@sadieloo - thanks for the hug and for sharing your journey. Congrats to you! I swear I can turn ANY symptom or sensation into a PG one, especially cramping! I'm glad to hear that the IUI was ultimately successful with low numbers. My DH is on clomid, but has always taken a multivitamin. Our doc suggested something called proxeed, and high levels of zinc and some others, so he's going to try that next. Thanks again for the support!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/overwhelmed-with-but-trying-to-be-hopeful#post-1270369 Mon, 09 Dec 2013 18:52:15 +0000 CatchAFallingStar 1270369@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Sadieloo: So great for you to share this! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/overwhelmed-with-but-trying-to-be-hopeful#post-1270262 Mon, 09 Dec 2013 17:56:38 +0000 Sadieloo 1270262@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@SunshineMcC: welcome sister! Sorry to see you joining on this board, but many of us have been there. </p> <p>I am 33, my hubs 36. After TTC for 6 months we saw an RE and Hubs was diagnosed with low morphology, motility and count. We did 4 IUI cycles without drugs the first three of which failed. </p> <p>Every cycle I thought we'd get prego for sure.It was really challenging and heartbreaking - wondering every month if my cramps were period cramps or implantation cramps. Then my period would come and I'd be in hysterics. On our 4th cycle, we had decided that if it didn't work we'd move onto drugs. It worked and We now have a 2 month old lilttle boy. </p> <p>I am sure there are lots of what if questions going through your head, but it will get easier. I'm not sure it will help you, but I reminded myself that some people with more significant problems had gotten pregnant and never gave up hope. </p> <p>Also, not sure it helped but when my hubs started taking a multivitamin his numbers went up. </p> <p>Hang there and know you are not alone. *hugs* </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/overwhelmed-with-but-trying-to-be-hopeful#post-1270137 Mon, 09 Dec 2013 17:17:50 +0000 sweetooth 1270137@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@SunshineMcC: hugs - you are not alone. I'm glad you reached out for support here on HB. I just turned 35 three days before my son was born - 1 month ago. We had success on our 3rd IUI, with injectibles. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/overwhelmed-with-but-trying-to-be-hopeful#post-1270122 Mon, 09 Dec 2013 17:11:11 +0000 CatchAFallingStar 1270122@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@kentuckygirl: And, congratulations!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/overwhelmed-with-but-trying-to-be-hopeful#post-1270118 Mon, 09 Dec 2013 17:11:02 +0000 CatchAFallingStar 1270118@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@kentuckygirl: Thank you so much. Did you try IUI before IVF? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/overwhelmed-with-but-trying-to-be-hopeful#post-1270084 Mon, 09 Dec 2013 16:59:26 +0000 kentuckygirl 1270084@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@SunshineMcC: @LittleLashesToes: I just saw this thread and your last comments and I wanted to chime in. I am now 38 years old and 14 weeks pregnant with our first baby via IVF. So very recently I experience the same lows and bursts of brief hope and know how heartwreching infertility/struggling with TTC can be. I also am all too familiar with the panic of being 35+. I was so afraid of never being a mommy. I am just now starting to feel like it might really happen 14+ weeks into my pregnancy. I am writing to share that I was there but to also, maybe give you hope. </p> <p>We TTC for about 20 months before moving on to IVF. They only retrieved 3 eggs and only 2 fertilized but I am shocked and thrilled that we are now PG with 1 baby boy! I just want you to know that, even though I am now on the other side, you are not alone. I found the support here to be invaluable and hope that you both find comfort from the other ladies and in sharing your experiences. </p> <p>Best of luck to you both! Please let me know if you have questions that I might be able to answer. Hugs! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/overwhelmed-with-but-trying-to-be-hopeful#post-1269822 Mon, 09 Dec 2013 15:32:36 +0000 CatchAFallingStar 1269822@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@SunshineMcC: I feel this way every month. I'm 35 and we've been trying on and off for a year. Each month is so hard when it doesn't happen. I'm facing a down day today, after I noticed I'm spotting, which I do every month. </p> <p>I'm glad to talk to someone in my age group. Seems many of the ladies on here are very young (under 30) and as wonderful as they are, I'm not sure how well we relate. Being 35+ adds a certain amount of anxiety and fear. Are you feeling that way? </p> <p>I've been on Clomid for two cycles. I had an HSG this month (which is known to increase fertility). Husband's semen is A-OK. So, I just don't get it. I'm at a loss for what we're doing wrong or what else might be wrong with us. </p> <p>My FSH is 8.58, which is within normal limits. I haven't had my AMH tested yet because my OBGYN says it's not necessary. I'm switching to an RE in January. </p> <p>What testing have you had done? </p> <p>My feelings are so close to yours, as you explained them. Ups and downs and really deep downs. </p> <p>Glad to have found you!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/overwhelmed-with-but-trying-to-be-hopeful#post-1259487 Wed, 04 Dec 2013 13:51:21 +0000 SunshineMcC 1259487@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@trailmix - thanks for the welcome and the inspiration! What made you decide to go with injectables vs. clomid, or another treatment?</p> <p>@shutterbug - thanks for the kind words! We're gearing up for IUI #2 this week, and I'm trying to be hopeful! Good luck to you!</p> <p>@gingerbebe - good luck with your consult! I remember feeling overwhelmed after the consult, because the doctor was sharing SO much information with us. I took tons of notes that I still refer to, and it really helped me keep track of things. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/overwhelmed-with-but-trying-to-be-hopeful#post-1258059 Wed, 04 Dec 2013 06:46:15 +0000 swedishfish 1258059@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@SunshineMcC: no he did not. The urologist didn't recommend anything. His numbers were so bad with our round of IUIs that IVF was recommended for us right away. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/overwhelmed-with-but-trying-to-be-hopeful#post-1255066 Mon, 02 Dec 2013 21:58:28 +0000 SunshineMcC 1255066@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@SwedishFish: Thanks for the welcome and for sharing your story with me. IVF w/ ICSI definitely is an option for us, but we're going to see if we can get the IUI to work. We're likely doing our second one later this week. Did your DH try any meds or supplements to increase his numbers? My DH is trying to cut out alcohol and caffeine, and is on clomid, so we're hoping those might impact things.</p> <p>@faithfertility: thanks for the reminder about faith! Our sermon at church this week was about waiting, and they two things really help with that... Comfort and hope! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/overwhelmed-with-but-trying-to-be-hopeful#post-1249185 Thu, 28 Nov 2013 12:35:38 +0000 Trailmix 1249185@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Welcome to HB! I'm sorry you're struggling with IF, it's a very hard thing to go through. I had my twins thanks to injections and an IUI, if it helps to hear success stories...best of luck! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/overwhelmed-with-but-trying-to-be-hopeful#post-1249178 Thu, 28 Nov 2013 12:20:36 +0000 FaithFertility 1249178@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Welcome! No, you are def not alone! Keep going strong and faith will carry you on! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/overwhelmed-with-but-trying-to-be-hopeful#post-1248184 Wed, 27 Nov 2013 19:28:36 +0000 swedishfish 1248184@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@SunshineMcC: welcome! I did IUI but ultimately, with my DH's sperm issues, IVF with ICSI worked for us. He had similar issues to your husband. Good luck! We are here to listen if you need to vent. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/overwhelmed-with-but-trying-to-be-hopeful#post-1248019 Wed, 27 Nov 2013 17:45:12 +0000 Lindsay05 1248019@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Welcome to the greatest community out there :) good luck on your journey </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/overwhelmed-with-but-trying-to-be-hopeful#post-1248018 Wed, 27 Nov 2013 17:43:16 +0000 Shutterbug 1248018@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Welcome!! I've been TTC for 19 months and have done 4 IUIs - this community is sooo wonderful. I'm glad you joined :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/overwhelmed-with-but-trying-to-be-hopeful#post-1247493 Wed, 27 Nov 2013 13:23:44 +0000 gingerbebe 1247493@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hi there. We just got referred to fertility last week and will have our first consult soon, so I'm in the boat with you! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/overwhelmed-with-but-trying-to-be-hopeful#post-1247487 Wed, 27 Nov 2013 13:20:28 +0000 pui 1247487@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Welcome, we're really happy to have you! You'll find a safe place to vent around people who are in your shoes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/overwhelmed-with-but-trying-to-be-hopeful#post-1247478 Wed, 27 Nov 2013 13:17:41 +0000 dc yoga bee 1247478@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Welcome to the bee. I'm sorry that you're going through this. Youll find a great community here. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/overwhelmed-with-but-trying-to-be-hopeful#post-1247434 Wed, 27 Nov 2013 12:58:18 +0000 Happygal 1247434@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@SunshineMcC: A big welcome to you! I'm sorry you're on that roller coaster, but I do hope it will be comforting to discuss all this with people who know exactly how that feels. We're here for support and to cheer you on! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/overwhelmed-with-but-trying-to-be-hopeful#post-1247355 Wed, 27 Nov 2013 12:35:36 +0000 Alivoo01 1247355@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Welcome!!! I think you'll find this community to be awesome and supportive. We have a huge range of ladies from all spectrums of life that can provide all types of advice and suggestions! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/overwhelmed-with-but-trying-to-be-hopeful#post-1247342 Wed, 27 Nov 2013 12:32:53 +0000 SunshineMcC 1247342@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@BlueStripedBee - thanks so much for the welcome and for sharing the inspiration and weekly threads. It means a lot!</p> <p>@Smurfette &amp; @AutumnLove - thanks for the welcomes!</p> <p>@Mrs.Someone - thanks for the info about the weekly check-in thread, it's helpful to learn how things work on the board! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/overwhelmed-with-but-trying-to-be-hopeful#post-1247326 Wed, 27 Nov 2013 12:29:18 +0000 MCD919 1247326@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Welcome!! This is a great community &amp; you will find lots of support here! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/overwhelmed-with-but-trying-to-be-hopeful#post-1247297 Wed, 27 Nov 2013 12:23:17 +0000 Mrs.Someone 1247297@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Welcome! Unfortunately, by the time we reach IF, most of us feel just like you do, and all we want is to get off this rollercoaster. Most of our chatting goes on on the weekly check in thread, but of course many other threads pop up too. Happy to have you here! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/overwhelmed-with-but-trying-to-be-hopeful#post-1247285 Wed, 27 Nov 2013 12:19:27 +0000 autumnlove 1247285@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Welcome and good luck TTC! </p>