https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 22 Apr 2026 08:58:29 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/paci-wars-stay-strong-or-give-in#post-2332661 Sat, 24 Oct 2015 19:38:35 +0000 yellowbird 2332661@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Okay, I am in the minority here but I would give it back. I would be scared that it wouldn't help but I'd probably try anything for better sleep. It's important! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/paci-wars-stay-strong-or-give-in#post-2332604 Sat, 24 Oct 2015 16:15:42 +0000 MamaCate 2332604@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@photojane: we ditched the paci at 3. We had been using it for nights/naps only and spent a lot of time talking up the transition. LO was excited...BUT she had the hardest time going to bed and would tell me, "but i just want something to suck on". I spent several hours per night helping her fall asleep for the first week. It got better after the first week though, and once she fell asleep she stayed asleep. </p> <p>So in your case I would be tempted to give it back and try again because it seems like it should get better by now. I wonder if you talk to her about what might help her if she has any ideas. The fact that she hasn't asked for it does mean you might be able to introduce something new, like a different lovey, but sleep is important.</p> <p>I just wanted to share since we also did a late goodbye to the paci! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/paci-wars-stay-strong-or-give-in#post-2332596 Sat, 24 Oct 2015 15:50:51 +0000 sapphire 2332596@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>At 2 1/2 years old, j definitely wouldn't give it back. It takes time to adjust to any big change. I second the idea to get a new lovey. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/paci-wars-stay-strong-or-give-in#post-2332451 Sat, 24 Oct 2015 09:21:24 +0000 littlecasita1122 2332451@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would say try to wait it out one more week - doesn't it take like 21 days to break a habit or something? I swear I've heard that saying before :) Also, we have friends who took their daughter to Build-A-Bear - she was able to build a stuffed animal and add the pacifier to the stuffing inside so she knows it's always in there. Maybe something like that will give her a different source of comfort? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/paci-wars-stay-strong-or-give-in#post-2332422 Sat, 24 Oct 2015 08:24:32 +0000 hilsy85 2332422@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We had the exAct same situation. We dropped the paci at 2.5 and his sleep went to crap--fighting nap, not falling asleep til 1-2 hours after we put him in bed, crying, grumpy. We did not give it back and just toughes it out. We ended up moving his bedtime later, til around 9. And for naps, we have to sit with him. I wish we had waited to drop it, but I didn't want to go back after doing it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/paci-wars-stay-strong-or-give-in#post-2332419 Sat, 24 Oct 2015 08:10:29 +0000 MrsSRS 2332419@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We gave it back, but it doesn't leave the crib. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/paci-wars-stay-strong-or-give-in#post-2332418 Sat, 24 Oct 2015 08:08:48 +0000 BadgerMom 2332418@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I plan to follow the advice of these sleep experts: <a href="https://childsleepscience.wordpress.com/2014/04/03/pacifiers-and-sleep/" rel="nofollow">https://childsleepscience.wordpress.com/2014/04/03/pacifiers-and-sleep/</a><br /> For exactly the issues you are having. For me as pp said, sleep before everything else. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/paci-wars-stay-strong-or-give-in#post-2332407 Sat, 24 Oct 2015 07:45:09 +0000 pinkb 2332407@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Don't do it! You have already made it 2 weeks, it will get better!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/paci-wars-stay-strong-or-give-in#post-2332404 Sat, 24 Oct 2015 07:37:24 +0000 Mrs. Sunshine 2332404@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My LO is 2 and also still has a paci and this is exactly why I'm terrified to ditch it! I agree with @blackbird. Similar to sleep training, you don't want all this craziness to be for naught but on the same note, no one in your house can live this way. I'd give it just a little longer and then just give in. I think you're doing great sticking it out for as long as you have!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/paci-wars-stay-strong-or-give-in#post-2332402 Sat, 24 Oct 2015 07:32:27 +0000 sorrycharlie 2332402@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@blackbird: Same. Sleep or bust.. Exactly why my kid was in a crib past 3 😂 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/paci-wars-stay-strong-or-give-in#post-2332400 Sat, 24 Oct 2015 07:31:19 +0000 blackbird 2332400@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd give it another week and then give it back for sleep only. I value sleep above most things, though. Also I don't care about a sleep paci so that colors my view </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/paci-wars-stay-strong-or-give-in#post-2332399 Sat, 24 Oct 2015 07:29:43 +0000 T.H.O.U. 2332399@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>What about going to the store and picking out big girl sheets, a new blanket or a new stuffed animal to cuddle with. I would do just about anything to not give the paci back. </p> <p>There are also calming oils and drops you can use to maybe help? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/paci-wars-stay-strong-or-give-in#post-2332398 Sat, 24 Oct 2015 07:29:10 +0000 sorrycharlie 2332398@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So.. I've been there. I tried this last year and cut the entire pacifier off the wubbanub animal. I got so ugly that I gave it back (well gave her the other one). She's 3 now obviously, and has it but with no nipple to speak of. I cut a small hole, she wailed all day, and every few days after that I snipped more off. The last time I took the last amount off and she didn't even say anything. She only had it for sleep to begin with but I feel like going slowly and judging her readiness was huge for it to be successful!</p> <p>It was easier second time around for us. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/paci-wars-stay-strong-or-give-in#post-2332397 Sat, 24 Oct 2015 07:28:21 +0000 T.H.O.U. 2332397@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope. I would not go back. It will only be harder the second time around. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/paci-wars-stay-strong-or-give-in#post-2332395 Sat, 24 Oct 2015 07:25:44 +0000 Bao 2332395@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would not give it back, because you could potentially have to deal with this all again. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/paci-wars-stay-strong-or-give-in#post-2332393 Sat, 24 Oct 2015 07:23:54 +0000 photojane 2332393@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Two weeks ago we ditched the paci. My 2.5 year old was totally on board. She was thrilled to become a big girl. She hasn't asked for it once since I threw it away. She has handled it well.</p> <p>But, her sleep has completely gone to hell. She was sleeping 8:30-8:30, and taking a 2.5 hour nap every day. She went right to bed without much protesting and slept all night. Since we've gotten rid of the paci she has only taken 3 naps (in 2 weeks), and has been going to sleep at 11-12 every night after hours of crying, protesting, tossing/turning. I have to go in her room over and over. She's also waking up in the middle of the night unable to get back to sleep like a newborn. It's exhausting. She has been grumpy. And, honestly, so have I. Toddler sleep is so important to their development, so I know she needs to be getting more.</p> <p>I know that not having the paci anymore is a big transition--she's had it everyday of her life!--so I expect it to be hard on her. I want to be sensitive to that, but neither of us are getting enough sleep and I am losing my patience. I thought it would've gotten even a little easier/better by now.</p> <p>So, I'm thinking of giving it back until she seems more ready to let it go. My husband doesn't want to go back, but he's not the one with her all day after she doesn't sleep! </p> <p>If you were in my shoes-- would you give it back for the sake of her sleep? Or would you just wait it out and pray it gets better sooner? </p> <p>Also-- any advice/commiseration? </p>