https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 27 May 2026 21:45:21 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pacifier-and-checks#post-2800696 Tue, 30 Jan 2018 00:43:08 +0000 littlejoy 2800696@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We are doing modified Ferber too. Our LO does best when we don't check in (found out by trial and error), but if she's really losing it, I will give her the paci. I don't have a problem with it, as she only has it to fall asleep, and I plan to wean her from it at 12 months. I'm in the camp of whatever works for you. </p> <p>PS, sleep training can totally include middle of the night feedings. It sounds like things are going relatively well for you guy. Good luck!!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pacifier-and-checks#post-2800671 Mon, 29 Jan 2018 20:35:38 +0000 annem1990 2800671@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@erinbaderin: Sorry if that was confusing. I do only go in if he's crying. If he's just talking/moaning I don't do the checks.</p> <p>If we don't put the pacifier back in, the whole process just takes a lot longer. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pacifier-and-checks#post-2800656 Mon, 29 Jan 2018 20:01:55 +0000 erinbaderin 2800656@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I thought you were only supposed to do checks if they were crying? What happens if you don’t put the pacifier back in? What if you don’t go in at all? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pacifier-and-checks#post-2800652 Mon, 29 Jan 2018 19:56:48 +0000 annem1990 2800652@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>LO is 4.5 months old. Although I'm not sure we are officially "sleep training" because I still expect him to wake at night to eat, we are trying to get some sleep routines in place. My question relates to the beginning of the night...</p> <p>We've been doing a sort of Ferber method. We do our routine, and I rock him with his pacifier. He goes in his bed barely awake and then we go in to check in 5ish min increments. He will cry/groan a bit but it rarely escalates between checks. When we go back in, I usually pat him and then put the pacifier back in. After a few of these checks, he will fall asleep. </p> <p>Are we hindering the entire process by putting his pacifier back? Do I need to do the checks without giving him it back? I feel bad taking it away because it definitely helps him calm down, but I don't want to create a bad sleep crutch. </p>