https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 10 Apr 2026 12:36:28 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/painting-a-positive-picture-of-work#post-2206368 Fri, 12 Jun 2015 07:39:24 +0000 tinyperson 2206368@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had a fairly positive view of work from my dad. He worked for the same railway company from the time he left university till the time he retired (a year and a half ago). He loved his job. He never complained (at least not in front of us), and he would tell us stories about the projects he was working on. I hope I can provide the same positive outlook to my LO as she grows up.</p> <p>ETA: I think it's one of those things that you don't realize/recognize till later in life and you're working yourself. I really appreciate his attitude. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/painting-a-positive-picture-of-work#post-2206364 Fri, 12 Jun 2015 07:37:44 +0000 rachiecakes 2206364@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had a really tough time in high school and I remember my dad saying high school was the best time of your life and work was miserable. I was happy to find that I actually love to work and his statement was totally untrue. </p> <p>Right now J sees it like school, he goes to school, I go to work, we each do activities and come home to talk about it. When he's bigger I will tell him about how I found something I really love to do when I was in school and that's how I found my job. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/painting-a-positive-picture-of-work#post-2206319 Fri, 12 Jun 2015 07:05:05 +0000 looch 2206319@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We've taken our son to our office building for an afterwork kids event, he's 4 and he gets that we are working when we all go about our day. I tell him I have friends there, I eat lunch there, just like he does at school and I think he feels comfortable with it. </p> <p>We try not to bring work home, but sometimes it's not possible to avoid it and one of us is in charge of keeping our son out of the way because he does tend to talk loudly and people hear him on conference calls!</p> <p>I knew my dad had to work as I kid, I remember knowing from very young that is how we got money to do things. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/painting-a-positive-picture-of-work#post-2205901 Thu, 11 Jun 2015 19:35:43 +0000 Andrea 2205901@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We've also compared it to school so I don't think they are getting a negative image of work. It's just what parents have to do. I am a SAHM, but I can't play with the kids all day either. They know that I cook, clean, and take care of all my "work" first and then I can play with them once I am free. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/painting-a-positive-picture-of-work#post-2205754 Thu, 11 Jun 2015 18:07:23 +0000 mrbee 2205754@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Tiger: @yoursilverlining: That's smart to compare it to school!!</p> <p>The trick for us is that we do a fair amount of work outside of school hours... hmm, maybe we should start telling the kids that it's homework! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/painting-a-positive-picture-of-work#post-2205747 Thu, 11 Jun 2015 18:02:42 +0000 yoursilverlining 2205747@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Tiger: ditto - we treat work like school, E goes to school, I go to work and we each talk about our day. </p> <p>I never thought about my dad working when I was growing up. My mom was a SAHM and sometimes I wondered why she didn't go to work like my dad did. </p> <p>I think it's ok not to play with your kids every time they ask; such is life. No one always gets their way :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/painting-a-positive-picture-of-work#post-2205725 Thu, 11 Jun 2015 17:39:08 +0000 mrsjazz 2205725@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My daughter wants to work, so I think we paint a positive picture of it for her. She likes to have a job, sometimes her job is to play, sometimes she's a writer like me, sometimes she's a waitress. She likes to pretend to have many jobs.</p> <p>My mom sometimes had to work two jobs and was really tired when she did. But I never had a negative image of work, even when she was gone a lot--I knew that was our circumstances. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/painting-a-positive-picture-of-work#post-2205706 Thu, 11 Jun 2015 17:14:17 +0000 Mrs. Tiger 2205706@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>K thinks it's like school. I never complain in front of the kids. He's started asking what did I do / did I have fun at work today? Just like I ask him about school. I tell him I read, I wrote things, and I talked to people! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/painting-a-positive-picture-of-work#post-2205703 Thu, 11 Jun 2015 17:08:21 +0000 Anagram 2205703@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My LO is too young, but is it weird that I didn't think positively or negatively about my parents' work when I was growing up? But maybe because it was a different time when most parents weren't expected to play with their kids so much?</p> <p>Not sure...when I was 6-12 years old, my parents both worked full time (as a pilot and a teacher) AND owned a fairly large daycare, so we kids were at the daycare before and after school either in a class or helping once we got older (I had to clean daycare bathrooms after school every single day from age 8 and up).</p> <p>I never resented it though! I was always super excited when Dad came home though, since he would be gone three days, back three days. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/painting-a-positive-picture-of-work#post-2205646 Thu, 11 Jun 2015 16:08:26 +0000 Torchwood 2205646@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've never thought about that. My mom had to work a lot when I was growing up, usually 2-3 jobs, so I definitely didn't ever see work as something you should expect to enjoy. DH and I will need to make sure to keep that in mind as LO grows up! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/painting-a-positive-picture-of-work#post-2205631 Thu, 11 Jun 2015 15:47:36 +0000 mrbee 2205631@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Someone I follow on social media was talking about the importance of "painting a positive picture of work."</p> <p>It really made me think, because sometimes I worry that my kids see work as their "competition." Sometimes we have to do a little work from home before they go to bed, especially since they go to bed so late (sometimes after 9 pm). Usually it's not an issue, but sometimes they'll ask why we have to work instead of playing with them.</p> <p>I realized that I haven't done a good job of painting a positive picture of the work! Thinking now about how to go about that...</p> <p>What do your kids think about your working? Do they have a positive picture of work? </p>