https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 03 May 2026 20:17:47 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/parent-attended-cio#post-1314490 Thu, 02 Jan 2014 18:01:26 +0000 Silva 1314490@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@allison: well, the most important thing to me, and our biggest issue, was her putting herself to sleep &amp; then staying asleep by herself. once we did that, I felt rested enough to continue with the wake ups (as long as she was in our bed).</p> <p>we sort of do what works as long as it works. Lately co-bedding hasn't been working, but we've had a lot going on (teeth, milestones, travel, illness, schedule chnages) so we're going to wait a little longer and see if she returns to sleeping better. I do think she won't sleep through the night until we move her out of our room.</p> <p>When we do that, we will do some form of CIO. It worked really well for us, and wasn't terrible. I listened to my ipod and she really just whined- never got too upset. Plus, there was a huge improvement from night one to night two. My husband took the first night- is that an option for you? Once it was my turn it was so much easier for me because I had seen her do it the night before. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/parent-attended-cio#post-1314457 Thu, 02 Jan 2014 17:51:53 +0000 allison 1314457@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Silva: Interesting. So did something happen, specifically, to make you not want to CIO anymore? Other than just not getting enough sleep? Our issue is that he was sick/teething and decided he doesn't want to sleep in his crib anymore. </p> <p>My LO is in our room, in his crib (for the first part of the night anyway), too. Do you think moving your LO will help? I'm really nervous about this, as well.</p> <p>Basically, I'm terrified for tonight and just trying to encourage myself. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/parent-attended-cio#post-1314316 Thu, 02 Jan 2014 16:50:07 +0000 Silva 1314316@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@allison: we decided to do it in phases. For the first week I nursed her to sleep and then set her down. I figured if this worked, great. She did get better at staying asleep through the transfer, but it had no effect on her MOTN wake ups. After a week, we changed our routine so that I nursed first, then went on with the rest of the routine with my husband putting her down in the crib fully awake. On the second night she slept straight until 2 am in the crib.<br /> However, we weren't ready to move her to her own room, and she started waking up more frequently again. Not as bad as before, but still several times a. Night. Getting out of bed to nurse her back to sleep wasn't working, so we started co bedding again.</p> <p>All of that to say, we did it slowly. She puts herself right to sleep most nights, and sleeps alone for the first few hours. Usually she wakes up twice to nurse during the overnight.</p> <p>We are thinking about moving her out of our room and will probably have to do some sleep training to address over night wake ups then. </p> <p>Good luck! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/parent-attended-cio#post-1314294 Thu, 02 Jan 2014 16:43:03 +0000 allison 1314294@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Silva: Okay, I'm about to do parent-attended CIO tonight for the first time. My LO always nurses to sleep at night... Did you find that it was important that your LO NOT fall asleep while nursing? What about during MOTN feedings? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/parent-attended-cio#post-1170728 Thu, 24 Oct 2013 09:09:52 +0000 Silva 1170728@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Revel: I really feel like we somehow picked the perfect time to do it. I could tell it was getting harder and harder for her to sleep because she was so dependent on nursing, but that she was also very tired. I was uncomfortable with leaving her to CIO at this age. and although it was tough to stay in the room with her, I think it worked best for us. Her sleep isn't perfect yet, but it is so much better! Good luck! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/parent-attended-cio#post-1170633 Thu, 24 Oct 2013 08:47:49 +0000 immabeetoo 1170633@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Silva: yay!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/parent-attended-cio#post-1170552 Thu, 24 Oct 2013 08:20:20 +0000 Revel 1170552@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You're having such fantastic results, that is awesome! We are slowly working on my LO (almost 5 months) to put herself to sleep and we have lots of stops and starts. We don't want to do traditional CIO but this method sounds like it would work for us down the line if we need it, so thanks for posting your experience. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/parent-attended-cio#post-1170512 Thu, 24 Oct 2013 08:07:48 +0000 Silva 1170512@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>SO- last night she put herself to sleep without any crying. Woke up about 45 minutes later, but fell right back asleep as soon as my husband sat on the bed next to her (she's in the cosleeper).<br /> She woke up at 11:30 and 4:00 (and then 6 when the alarm went off- but we snoozed in bed together until 7). I fed her each time she woke up and she ate quite a bit.<br /> She has been nursing so much at night that I think it will take a little while for her to shift that calorie consumption to the day time. Honestly, I'm thrilled with her only waking up twice- she was up every 2 hours for a month before we did this!</p> <p>This morning I got her ready for her nap, put her in the co-sleeper, lay next to her for 15 minutes and she put herself to sleep. </p> <p>I cannot believe how amazing she is! She learned so quickly, and already everything feels so much easier!</p> <p>What the hell am I going to do with all of my free time now? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/parent-attended-cio#post-1167934 Wed, 23 Oct 2013 09:01:39 +0000 blackbird 1167934@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>good luck! we sleep trained E at a week shy of 6 months (she fussed/cried/whined on and off for 20 min the first night) and she started STTN shortly after and we're going on week 3 or so. It's been amazing. I hope you have the same experience! It was life changing :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/parent-attended-cio#post-1167903 Wed, 23 Oct 2013 08:54:44 +0000 Silva 1167903@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: fingers crossed :) we agreed to give it a week. But she is already in the cosleeper instead of our bed which is so nice. Really, we had such a terrible sleeper that anything feels like an improvement! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/parent-attended-cio#post-1167813 Wed, 23 Oct 2013 08:23:12 +0000 Adira 1167813@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Silva: I've HEARD that night 3 can be more rough than the first two, so if tonight doesn't go as well, be prepared and know that it's normal!! But hopefully it gets better and better!!! Good luck to you! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/parent-attended-cio#post-1167777 Wed, 23 Oct 2013 08:13:39 +0000 Silva 1167777@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Night two was better! She fussed for 20 minutes less than night one (so 40 minutes total). And she woke up once at 11:30, once at 4:00, and then at 6:00 when my husband's alarm went off! I fed her at each waking because I was so engorged....<br /> So I know that often people sleep train to get away from one or two night feedings. I am thrilled with this- I had been feeding her at least 4 times a night. This is a HUGE improvement.<br /> Hopefully she starts eating more during the day, and things balance out- it hurt! </p> <p>Also, I pulled her into bed with me at 6:00 and we slept for another 2.5 hours....probably bad of me, but I kind of hope I can keep doing that because morning snuggles are the best. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/parent-attended-cio#post-1165397 Tue, 22 Oct 2013 08:55:26 +0000 NovBaby1112 1165397@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>this is pretty much what we did at 6.5 months! we used the stay in room method in the sleep sense program. the first night she cried for 45 minutes while i just reassured her and patted her, and picked her up when she was hysterical 1 or 2 times. the second night was much better- i sort of forget how long she cried but it wasn't bad. the third night was even better. gradually, we got closer and closer to the door, and then just left the room and did checks here and there ferber style. it worked really well and it was easier on me emotionally because even though she was crying, i felt like just being there made me feel better. we had maybe 1 or 2 regressions- going on vacation, etc. but there but it only took 1 night or so to get back on track. good luck! hope it goes good!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/parent-attended-cio#post-1164682 Mon, 21 Oct 2013 20:24:38 +0000 Silva 1164682@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@hilsy85: she's in the co sleeper in our room. I have no idea how the rest of the night will go, but for her to be asleep by herself is already a huge win! We figure transitioning to the crib (in our room) after the cosleeper might be easier than going from our bed to the crib.</p> <p>We live in a tiny apartment, so there isn't much space!</p> <p>@scg00387: thanks! I probably just jinxed myself....but I had to share! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/parent-attended-cio#post-1164679 Mon, 21 Oct 2013 20:23:58 +0000 Smurfette 1164679@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sounds like the first night went well! Hope it keeps up!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/parent-attended-cio#post-1164677 Mon, 21 Oct 2013 20:22:24 +0000 immabeetoo 1164677@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Silva: Yay glad the first night went well! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/parent-attended-cio#post-1164670 Mon, 21 Oct 2013 20:20:24 +0000 hilsy85 1164670@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>yay!!! good luck, glad it's off to a good start! is she sleeping in her own room or still in your room? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/parent-attended-cio#post-1164669 Mon, 21 Oct 2013 20:19:32 +0000 Silva 1164669@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So we hit a place of needing to sleep train our 6 month old. We cobed and I have nursed to sleep her whole life, but it wasn't working anymore. We didn't feel like we could leave her alone, so we decided to try parent attended CIO. My husband took night one. After bedtime routine I nursed her and then put her in the co sleeper. He just lay next to her, occasionally sushing and rarely giving a little pat.</p> <p>After one hour she fell asleep. I still can't believe she put herself to sleep.</p> <p>She never sounded scared, just some whining and fussing. I feel pretty good about our choice, although it was hard to get here.</p> <p>Tomorrow I will be the one in the room...We are planning to slowly decrease support, so that by the end of the week we are doing checks. Fingers crossed, we are desperate! </p>