https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 27 May 2026 14:24:18 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/parental-nudity/page/2#post-1278964 Fri, 13 Dec 2013 08:42:59 +0000 edelweiss 1278964@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>really interesting question! it. LO is 11 months and i'm not sensing any need to cover up around him yet, but i guess it's different for each family. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/parental-nudity/page/2#post-1278837 Fri, 13 Dec 2013 05:25:33 +0000 mjane 1278837@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's totally normal for kids to find naked parents embarrassing--even developmentally appropriate--but it's also okay for parents to teach their kids that nudity is not a big deal and bodies are not shameful. I think it's a balance. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/parental-nudity/page/2#post-1278833 Fri, 13 Dec 2013 05:16:27 +0000 mjane 1278833@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Arden: well said! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/parental-nudity/page/2#post-1278803 Fri, 13 Dec 2013 02:35:59 +0000 lamariniere 1278803@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We are taking a wait and see approach. While we don't really walk around naked, DS, who is almost 3, comes and goes as he pleases when we are in the shower, on the toilet, etc. DS and DH even took a bath together just the other night. I would have joined but was only 1 week PP at that point. It's still not a big deal for us. </p> <p>DH and I discussed recently and he remembers taking showers with his dad until really late or changing at the gym when he was a teen and it was not a big deal. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/parental-nudity/page/2#post-1278512 Thu, 12 Dec 2013 22:08:13 +0000 LovelyPlum 1278512@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Arden: this! I don't know if I've ever seen my dad naked (I'm sure when I was really little, yes), but my mom? Goodness, that doesn't bother me at.all.</p> <p>We're just going to play it by ear. When it makes someone uncomfortable, we'll stop. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/parental-nudity/page/2#post-1278180 Thu, 12 Dec 2013 19:38:00 +0000 OldEnglandMama 1278180@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We haven't talked about it (and LO isn't here yet) but I agree with @sarac:, @DigAPony:, and@Arden: - there should be nothing shameful about our bodies so I guess my answer is until/if they become uncomfortable. It's just nakedness, there's nothing sexual about it. </p> <p>My parents are aging hippies and definitely had no qualms about being naked around us. In fact, my Mum eventually had to ask my Dad to please start sleeping in underwear when my brother and I were tweens because he would get up to use the bathroom in the morning and forget he was naked, and we'd often have friends around or whatever. We weren't scarred by his nakedness (nor my Mum's - but she was better at remembering to cover up) but it would have been shocking for our friends that weren't used to that I think! </p> <p>(I guess it's important to remember that as well as the hippie side of things, we're also European, which I feel is a slightly less prudish culture than the US anyway - topless beaches etc for example.) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/parental-nudity/page/2#post-1278068 Thu, 12 Dec 2013 18:55:28 +0000 sunny 1278068@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We have thought about this too. My parents were never nude around us (that I can remember) and I'm not comfortable being nude/semi-nude in front of others either. For instance, I can't get in the hot tub naked with a friend. We usually bring bathing suits if we plan on getting in the hot tub at the gym together. </p> <p>Hubs has already started to be uncomfortable being totally naked around DD when he's getting dried off from a shower. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/parental-nudity/page/2#post-1278058 Thu, 12 Dec 2013 18:53:37 +0000 NorCalWayfarer 1278058@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd probably say 3-4ish. I remember when I was like 8 or 9 my friend's grandpa would come over to her house and skinny dip in the pool during the day while we were out there playing and it made me *really* uncomfortable. I have another friend whose dad walks around the house naked (does to this day) and I think it's strange (he puts shorts on when guests come over but friend told me he just walks around naked). He also walks up the down the street with no shirt on and tiny shorts which I just think is kinda unnecessary (put a shirt on dude!).</p> <p>Although I used to live in SF and see naked people all.the.time. so I don't feel like I'm that prudish.... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/parental-nudity/page/2#post-1278033 Thu, 12 Dec 2013 18:47:01 +0000 sarac 1278033@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Arden: This is exactly my answer. Never, or until someone starts to feel uncomfortable. Nudity, our bodies, etc, are not a problem. I won't teach my daughter that they are.</p> <p>My husband's father was nude around his sons all their life, though, and at some point it made them uncomfortable. They asked him to stop, but he just said that it was his house, and so it wasn't his problem. We will stop as soon as any one of us feels uncomfortable with it. I've actually mostly stopped bathing with my daughter because she keeps trying to nurse. My husband still bathes with her, but he'll likely stop some day.</p> <p>@DigAPony I feel exactly the same way. If my daughter asks questions about any body parts, we answer them. If she makes a grab for something, we just remind her that that part is just for mommy to touch. If she doesn't listen, bath time is over. But she does, pretty much universally. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/parental-nudity/page/2#post-1278014 Thu, 12 Dec 2013 18:40:49 +0000 NurseMommy 1278014@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@DigAPony: good point. Never thought about it that way! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/parental-nudity/page/2#post-1277976 Thu, 12 Dec 2013 18:28:38 +0000 DigAPony 1277976@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@NurseMommy: Sorry to jump in as your question wasn't addressed to me, but I think if a daughter tried to touch her dad's penis, it could be a good moment for teaching boundaries--"No, daughters don't touch their daddies there. These are our private parts." </p> <p>Apparently when I was little I tried to imitate the romantic kisses I saw in movies with my mom (clearly I was very young and didn't understand different kinds of loving relationships, or that there was a difference between a peck on the lips and a romantic kiss) and she just used it as a teachable moment--"No, kids and parents don't kiss that way." It doesn't have to be mortifying or shameful. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/parental-nudity/page/2#post-1277971 Thu, 12 Dec 2013 18:27:15 +0000 spaniellove 1277971@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I definitely remember seeing each of my parents completely naked around 3 or 4 and wish I didn't have that memory, so I'm going to say no older than 2. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/parental-nudity/page/2#post-1277956 Thu, 12 Dec 2013 18:20:32 +0000 mrsjazz 1277956@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Arden: As an adult I can look back on my mom's nudity or minimal clothing and laugh but as a teenager I was kind of mortified and embarrassed. Also because she had no sense of privacy, just waltzing in while someone was in the shower, etc. Ha. I don't want my girl to be mortified by me but I think that probably comes along with the parenting territory. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/parental-nudity/page/2#post-1277921 Thu, 12 Dec 2013 18:10:26 +0000 NurseMommy 1277921@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@BabyBoecksMom: this, I think, is what I'm nervous about. What if dd tries to touch dh's penis? i feel like this would be so weird to me. I don't want my children to think there's anything weird or wrong about our bodies though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/parental-nudity/page/2#post-1277903 Thu, 12 Dec 2013 18:01:53 +0000 DigAPony 1277903@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm with @Arden: -- I'm surprised that people are saying they were "scarred" by seeing their mothers' naked bodies. That's unfortunate. </p> <p>I showered with my mom occasionally until…sometime in elementary school, I think? And we've always shared dressing rooms, and when I'm visiting her there's no problem if I need to get something out of her bathroom and she's changing or just showered, and vice versa. I also know that I occasionally showered with my dad when I was little…I think that stopped when I was maybe three? Not sure.</p> <p>As far as how my husband and I will be with our son and other future kids, we plan to treat it as the non-issue it is and play it by ear. I'm assuming that I'll just be able to sense when it's no longer no big deal for my son to see me naked. As he ages we'll also teach him about privacy and I'm sure he'll request privacy for himself too. </p> <p>I don't want any of my kids to grow up thinking that there's something shameful about the human body. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/parental-nudity/page/2#post-1277878 Thu, 12 Dec 2013 17:51:56 +0000 NurseMommy 1277878@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Silva: I'm not necessarily saying it IS or SHOULD be different, I was really just curious about people's perceptions about it, because frankly, I'm still trying to work out my own feelings around this issue... Or nonissue... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/parental-nudity/page/2#post-1277806 Thu, 12 Dec 2013 17:27:24 +0000 Arden 1277806@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hmm, I think it's interesting that so many people are saying they were bothered/scarred by seeing their moms naked while growing up.<br /> My mom had only daughters, and we saw her naked all the time. It's not like she just walked around the house naked, but if she was changing or showering and we happened to be in the same room, no biggie. It's still this way when she's at my house (obviously not around DH) or I'm at hers.</p> <p>I mean, we've seen each other giving birth, nudity is just not an issue for us. It never occurred to me to be weirded out. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/parental-nudity#post-1277804 Thu, 12 Dec 2013 17:26:00 +0000 BabyBoecksMom 1277804@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH started covering up almost immediately, and definitely does now that DD seems to be interested in staring (and sometimes trying to touch!) what's between DH's legs LOL </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/parental-nudity#post-1277796 Thu, 12 Dec 2013 17:20:36 +0000 Sapphiresun 1277796@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@cmomma17: Haha, I actually remember once when I was in that totally awkward pre-puberty phase, my little cousin walked in on me in the shower and was like "Why don't you have lots of hair down there like my mommy??" I was totally mortified. Haha.</p> <p>I don't hang out naked regularly, but I don't think I'll ever find it to be an issue for DD to see me naked if I'm just like changing or something. If I ever went to the pool with my mom we always shared a family change room or just the open area, even now. Probably like 4 or 5 for a boy? </p> <p>And I know it's totally unequal treatment, but I kind of feel like she shouldn't see my husband naked after she's about two or so? I just see less situations where he'd be in a position where he was necessarily naked and singularly responsible for her after that age. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/parental-nudity#post-1277781 Thu, 12 Dec 2013 17:12:32 +0000 mrsjazz 1277781@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@blackbird: I know. I felt so bad for him but that didn't stop me from falling on the floor and laughing. We are very inappropriate and told her that she can't do that to her first boyfriend or he's going to cry. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/parental-nudity#post-1277771 Thu, 12 Dec 2013 17:09:27 +0000 luckypenny 1277771@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DD is 19 months and we both are still naked in front of her bDH even still bathes with her. She doesn't pay his penis any attention so we don't see the big deal. I do think he will stop with her before I do. I still see my mom naked. I don't think it's a big deal. But when she wants privacy for herself, I will respect that and follow her cues </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/parental-nudity#post-1277753 Thu, 12 Dec 2013 17:00:18 +0000 blackbird 1277753@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>hmmm good question. I have already wondered at what age it's inappropriate to not wear a bra around my hypothetical son. Or even my daughter...I saw way too much, and even now, feel like my mom isn't dressed appropriately sometimes. I'm just modest, even at home, and so is my husband. I think when they start to become aware and/or request their own privacy and become cognizant of what that means, will be the time to implement it. It's not like it's something to be ashamed of, but surely you can wait 5 minutes for me to put my pants on.</p> <p>@mrsjazz, LOL! Your poor husband, HAHA </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/parental-nudity#post-1277748 Thu, 12 Dec 2013 16:59:37 +0000 mrsjazz 1277748@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't know. LO is almost 20 months and DH has stopped being naked in front of LO because she points at his penis and laughs when she sees it :happy: I try not to be naked in front of her too much but not out of modesty--when she sees my boobs she wants to nurse and when she sees my butt she tries to chase me around and grab it. Crazy. But we still shower together sometimes. </p> <p>I had a mom who walked around in her bra and panties...I DEFINITELY do not want to be that type of Mom. Scarred for life. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/parental-nudity#post-1277732 Thu, 12 Dec 2013 16:56:12 +0000 MamaBehr 1277732@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would say 3.5 years old, but if I say that I'll never get to shower! Unfortunately DD (who is 3.5 years old) was in the room yesterday when I got my Strep B test done before delivery, that is something I wish she hadn't seen...... She thought it was HILARIOUS though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/parental-nudity#post-1277695 Thu, 12 Dec 2013 16:48:21 +0000 MoonMoon 1277695@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We'll have to cross that bridge when we come to it, because neither my husband or I are very private about nudity! I'm guessing our son will voice or demonstrate when/if it bugs him and we'll respect his boundaries. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/parental-nudity#post-1277687 Thu, 12 Dec 2013 16:46:30 +0000 deerylou 1277687@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Haven't really given it too much thought. DD is only five months, but we bathe/shower with her, and both change in front of her. When privacy is requested, or she begins to grow uncomfortable or inquisitive to the point where it borders on inappropriate, we'll make changes. While I want her to be instilled with enough modesty to remain safe, I would never want her to think that there is anything wrong with the naked body. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/parental-nudity#post-1277671 Thu, 12 Dec 2013 16:42:39 +0000 T-Mom 1277671@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My DD is 5 and is has gotten uncomfortable for both me and my DH to change in front of her. Because she is super curious and asks lots of questions, lol. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/parental-nudity#post-1277603 Thu, 12 Dec 2013 16:28:54 +0000 Arden 1277603@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When my child expresses discomfort and requests privacy themselves, I'll respect that.<br /> Otherwise, I'm not going to make a big deal out of it and end up wrongfully convincing my child there is something wrong with or bad about the naked body that I'm trying to hide. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/parental-nudity#post-1277569 Thu, 12 Dec 2013 16:18:40 +0000 Beyond2 1277569@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband and I still shower with my son at 15 months old. It doesn't even cross our mind at this point, but I'm sure with time we'll know. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/parental-nudity#post-1277560 Thu, 12 Dec 2013 16:16:20 +0000 HLK208 1277560@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH and I aren't that private...</p> <p>But DS is 4 and when I'm about to get dressed in my closet, I tell him I need my privacy but sometimes he barges in haha. I don't think there's much I can do. </p>