https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 25 May 2026 22:28:35 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/parenting-after-a-mc#post-2662147 Tue, 06 Dec 2016 16:17:06 +0000 nana87 2662147@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had a really hard time parenting after my cp-- and it didn't help that lo was going through a tantrumy phase/stroller-strike (our method of commuting) at the same time! I was literally losing the baby as she would scream and cry and freak out for our whole 20 min commute with people staring at us the whole way, I felt like the worlds worst mother and was basically in tears myself every day. About 2 weeks after my cp we actually got caught in a horrible freak incident (false alarm in a subway station that involved a stampede--after I gave up commuting by stroller) and I went to see a therapist shortly after that because the two events together had left me so shaken. I only went once but it really helped. I'm not sure exactly when I felt "normal" again, but at least a month </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/parenting-after-a-mc#post-2662027 Tue, 06 Dec 2016 12:56:18 +0000 2PeasinaPod 2662027@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm very sorry for your loss. My 3rd and 4th miscarriages were after my 1st son, and they were hard. People close to me who knew about the miscarriages were telling me to be thankful for the little boy I had. I know they meant well, but it infuriated me. I WAS grateful for the son I had, but it didn't make grieving the other children I lost any easier. </p> <p>After each, it took me about a month to start to feel ok again. It seemed to take longer each time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/parenting-after-a-mc#post-2662019 Tue, 06 Dec 2016 12:43:54 +0000 knittylady 2662019@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@winniebee: it's been a week and I feel worlds better. Maybe something about it being so early? With my loss at 8 weeks it was definitely a month and change. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/parenting-after-a-mc#post-2661999 Tue, 06 Dec 2016 12:13:39 +0000 lilyann 2661999@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had a missed MC in April and it took me a good month to heal. I still got sad on the major milestones though and it has made this pregnancy feel like it has lasted forever. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/parenting-after-a-mc#post-2661995 Tue, 06 Dec 2016 12:10:27 +0000 ocean81 2661995@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm sorry for your loss. For me (loss at 13 weeks), it took a solid 2 or so months. It was the only thing I could think about it and it took awhile to not cry every single day. I tried to fake it every day with my daughter and eventually the faking it, turned into genuine happiness again. I hope you are doing okay! &lt;3 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/parenting-after-a-mc#post-2661985 Tue, 06 Dec 2016 12:04:22 +0000 winniebee 2661985@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I feel like it was probably a week after my early losses before I felt totally with it again. After my late term loss, it was about 3 months. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/parenting-after-a-mc#post-2660411 Thu, 01 Dec 2016 21:56:29 +0000 mrskansas 2660411@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had a very long and drawn out miscarriage in October than turned out to be ectopic. I spent a lot of time researching and obsessing over other people's stories when I should have been spending time with my daughter. After a few weeks I just had to put my phone away and try to be mentally present. I really don't have any advice but you are not alone. It is hard. I may be going through another miscarriage soon and I'm struggling all over again. Hugs ❤ </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/parenting-after-a-mc#post-2660372 Thu, 01 Dec 2016 20:40:22 +0000 maddyz 2660372@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My MC came before I had two boys so it was different, but it took a while. I am posting to send love your way and to say that I know its hard but try to give yourself much space, care and love as you can. Your boys will adjust and be fine. Self care is so hard when you are a mom! Take long hot showers or whatever little thing you can do to honor where you are. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/parenting-after-a-mc#post-2660328 Thu, 01 Dec 2016 18:46:14 +0000 knittylady 2660328@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>How long did it take for you to feel like you were back in the swing of things? I know this will vary incredibly, but just looking for other people's experience and stories. I'm a little surprised by how hard this CP has been for me emotionally, and am struggling to be present for my two boys. </p>