https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 08 May 2026 08:58:59 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/parenting-class#post-2620495 Tue, 13 Sep 2016 07:35:50 +0000 irene 2620495@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: Sounds good! Let's see what happens in 8 weeks first ! :wink: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/parenting-class#post-2620491 Tue, 13 Sep 2016 07:17:29 +0000 mrbee 2620491@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@irene: If you ever want to do an interview about what you learned in the class, and how things have changed for you... I think it could be helpful to a lot of other parents, and also maybe be free advertising for the teacher. I'd be happy to do an email interview with you about it - just let me know!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/parenting-class#post-2620489 Tue, 13 Sep 2016 07:15:31 +0000 irene 2620489@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: I actually just emailed the instructor I got to know about her classes via hellobee.com message boards (which I did, because one of the other bees pointed me to it in one of my past posts). Maybe you guys can strike a deal in cross advertising / promotion, haha :wink: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/parenting-class#post-2620463 Tue, 13 Sep 2016 00:54:10 +0000 mrbee 2620463@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@irene: Please feel free to talk about the class here! It sounds very interesting and I'm so glad that it's working for you!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/parenting-class#post-2620457 Tue, 13 Sep 2016 00:04:11 +0000 irene 2620457@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@hellobeeboston: @Maysprout: @mrbee: @sunny: Thanks :) Half a week later and it still works. I like the fact that it works on ME. When I attempt to convert my order to a question, I naturally reminded myself that I need to model respectful behavior, and I naturally calm down. Sometimes I did snap back to "hey can you do this please?" but in general I throw in more questions and the general tone is softer, I hope. Today I did yell but I was yelling at DH who was downstairs (which is my fault, I was lazy to go downstairs and we were pass bedtime). It scared DS , he cried a bit and I apologize. I feel guilty afterwards for not modeling calm and respectful behavior but I remind myself that this is a series of practice. :) I did sign up for the classes just now which I am not going to talk about it here or @mrbee: may not be very happy :-P but feel free to PM me if you are curious how it goes. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/parenting-class#post-2618964 Fri, 09 Sep 2016 17:37:31 +0000 sunny 2618964@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@irene: Thanks for posting this. I listened to the recording yesterday and tried out the "As soon as you ___, you can ___" tip and it worked for my LO! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/parenting-class#post-2618954 Fri, 09 Sep 2016 17:12:20 +0000 mrbee 2618954@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@irene: So excited for you and your LO!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/parenting-class#post-2618806 Fri, 09 Sep 2016 13:10:30 +0000 Maysprout 2618806@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@irene: I'm not sure if it's typical but ours had a 'library' of parenting books you could borrow. Probably half were on breastfeeding but the other half were on a variety of parenting topics. It was really nice. They also gave me a free boppy like pillow, which I don't think is typical. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/parenting-class#post-2618801 Fri, 09 Sep 2016 13:08:40 +0000 hellobeeboston 2618801@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Good for you!</p> <p>Thanks for sharing... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/parenting-class#post-2618769 Fri, 09 Sep 2016 12:37:48 +0000 Boogs 2618769@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@irene: She gave some great info. It was with dawdling, as she called it, and listening. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/parenting-class#post-2618742 Fri, 09 Sep 2016 12:09:30 +0000 irene 2618742@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Maysprout: LLL as in le leche league? They have books and meetings about parenting? I thought they were more for breastfeeding...! That's amazing.</p> <p>@Mrsbells: tell me about it....</p> <p>@travellingbee: @Freckles: Do it soon because I think the audio recording will expire by Monday or earlier...., and I hope it helps you too!</p> <p>@Boogs: So sorry it didn't help - What was the situation you were in and why did you say it didn't work? For me one of my biggest struggles was not listening. During the role playing exercise she did, when she bark the orders, like "clean up now", "come down and have dinner" (which I am guilty of too), she made a very good point that it rubs you the wrong way and you naturally want to rebel against it. I feel that when I ask the question, my DS would take it as a challenge and he wants to show me what he knows. So he naturally listens. I don't know. I just like that I am no longer getting irritated when I ask the question. I only started it for the past 2 days so I'll report back if it doesn't work anymore! Another thing is, after she stopped the recording I asked a question and she suggested that there are multiple techniques that can be used together, such as getting down to his level/eye to eye, distraction (at his age), and humor (do you think you can bunny hop to the bathroom?). She didn't go into too much detail, of course, cuz that was a "free" session. hehe.</p> <p>We had a babysitter coming in yesterday and I do notice that the technique doesn't work when there are other major distraction (eg. he wants to show the babysitter around instead of sitting down to finish his dinner)... That was yesterday. I'll see for the future and keeping my cool and fingers crossed!</p> <p>One of the things she said really really resonates with me, that "it is impossible to disrespect someone who is respectful to you". Being respectful to others is one of the qualities that I want him to have when he grows up. So by "asking curious questions", I feel that I am respecting him and modeling the behavior for him, and hopefully I can keep it going and he will pick it up in the next 15 years. I am really hoping I can keep my cool. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/parenting-class#post-2618740 Fri, 09 Sep 2016 12:08:50 +0000 GoGoSnoGirl 2618740@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Good tips, thanks for sharing! And good for you to have found a good resource for adding some new tools to your parenting toolbox! ☺ </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/parenting-class#post-2618685 Fri, 09 Sep 2016 10:34:56 +0000 Freckles 2618685@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thank you for this - i will have to watch her video later today. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/parenting-class#post-2618672 Fri, 09 Sep 2016 10:06:57 +0000 Boogs 2618672@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So, I listened to the whole thing yesterday and I tried using some of her tips and have today also. So far they aren't working! I wonder if it's something that you won't notice changes for a bit? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/parenting-class#post-2618650 Fri, 09 Sep 2016 09:29:44 +0000 travellingbee 2618650@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Looking forward to reading this. Always looking for tips to help with my very strong willed 3.5 year old. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/parenting-class#post-2618643 Fri, 09 Sep 2016 09:20:56 +0000 Mrsbells 2618643@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@irene: As a mom of a 4.5 year old myself I can share in your frustration sometimes, its like they have a phD in exactly what butttons to press to make you lose your cool!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/parenting-class#post-2618585 Fri, 09 Sep 2016 08:07:05 +0000 Maysprout 2618585@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So glad it helped. I went to a few LLL meetings after lo1 was born and borrowing books from their library. Some stuff made me roll my eyes it so much I was like yes, that would have been helpful when I was a kid. It's different than I think a lot of our parents were taught to empathize and consider the kids feelings and opinions to an extent. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/parenting-class#post-2618563 Fri, 09 Sep 2016 07:43:26 +0000 irene 2618563@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: @looch: @edelweiss: Thanks! I hope I am on the road to become a better mom!</p> <p>@hummusgirl: Glad that I helped ! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/parenting-class#post-2617815 Thu, 08 Sep 2016 11:25:09 +0000 edelweiss 2617815@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>that sounds awesome! thanks for sharing, and big parenting win for you! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/parenting-class#post-2617750 Thu, 08 Sep 2016 10:01:51 +0000 looch 2617750@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@irene: So glad to read this from you!</p> <p>I agree, I use phrasing such as "what can I do to help you understand what I just asked you to do" rather than "why aren't you listening." It's worked wonders. Small steps mama, small steps! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/parenting-class#post-2617697 Thu, 08 Sep 2016 09:04:08 +0000 hummusgirl 2617697@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks for sharing! I've been looking for something like this. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/parenting-class#post-2617641 Thu, 08 Sep 2016 08:12:06 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2617641@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@irene: thinking back on some of your old posts I am so glad for you and your LO you sought out peaceful parenting and it worked! A friend of mine started using the techniques on her then rambunctious 2 year old. She says choosing to follow the method is a constant work in progress because her LO still is a little person with his own ideas and desires, but the techniques make her feel good about herself. Good luck keeping it up! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/parenting-class#post-2617576 Thu, 08 Sep 2016 07:10:17 +0000 irene 2617576@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have been having issues with my screaming and lack of patience when it comes to parenting to my now 4.5 years old for the past year (or more!), and have been in denial on finding help while really really hating myself. So I've been looking for parenting support groups earlier and came across this free class on 6 Obstacles to peaceful positive parenting. I signed up with no expectations really, and yesterday I called in for it. And oh boy, maybe I've been under a rock, but it was so helpful and liberating! They sent out the recording and notes after the class, which will expire shortly (next Monday?), and I thought I'd share it here:</p> <p><a href="http://workingparenting.com/replay-of-6-obstacles-to-peaceful-positive-parenting-and-how-to-get-around-them/" rel="nofollow">http://workingparenting.com/replay-of-6-obstacles-to-peaceful-positive-parenting-and-how-to-get-around-them/</a></p> <p>I used their technique yesterday on "asking curious questions" instead of "barking orders" (eg. "What do you think we should do in order to get your room tidy before bedtime?" instead of "it is almost bedtime clean up your room now ") on everything I can do and OMG. DS basically listens and do what I need him to do 99.5% of the time. I don't know if it is just a good day yesterday or what's going on. I am actually very tempted on signing up for the 8 week class because that will be more useful to me than therapy.</p> <p>I am in no way affiliated with this place, but I just thought I'd share because this is the most useful thing on parenting I've encountered for a while! </p>