https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 24 May 2026 01:04:03 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/parents-of-2-do-you-feel-like-you-give-your-kids-equal-attentionlove#post-528160 Fri, 25 Jan 2013 16:51:18 +0000 MamaBehr 528160@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have to admit that now that DS is almost one and DD is almost three, the idea of splitting time is a little easier. DD can play by herself more, and enjoys it, so DS gets my attention then. DS is taking naps and goes to bed first so DD gets my attention then. In the beginning though, it was tough. I have a feeling that it is going to get easier too (I hope!!). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/parents-of-2-do-you-feel-like-you-give-your-kids-equal-attentionlove#post-528153 Fri, 25 Jan 2013 16:44:49 +0000 sandy 528153@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@chopsuey119: I like the idea of 3 (sometimes 4) but I'm 33 too so we'll likely stop at 2</p> <p>I worry about dividing my attention all the time...which is why I'm putting off baby #2...it doesn't seem fair to LO so I want to wait until she's at least 2 to start TTC and shoot for a 3 year age gap </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/parents-of-2-do-you-feel-like-you-give-your-kids-equal-attentionlove#post-528028 Fri, 25 Jan 2013 15:34:22 +0000 heffalump 528028@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@chopsuey119: My mom was very lucky, got to be a SAHM until I was in school, and then she worked for my dad so she set her own hours. I also would love three but hear you on the tough pregnancies.... I'm not looking forward to my 2nd..... which is why we aren't even TTC again yet! My migraines are soooo tough for me during pregnancy :( I think for us if we want 3 the third will be adopted. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/parents-of-2-do-you-feel-like-you-give-your-kids-equal-attentionlove#post-528006 Fri, 25 Jan 2013 15:27:52 +0000 chopsuey 528006@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@artbee: both my parents worked and were 1st gen immigrants so I think it was tough and stressful for them.<br /> Ahhhh I like the idea of a 3rd but my 2nd pregnancy was so painful and exhausting. Can't imagine chasing after 2 while pregnant. I think if I was younger I'd go for it, but I'm 33! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/parents-of-2-do-you-feel-like-you-give-your-kids-equal-attentionlove#post-528002 Fri, 25 Jan 2013 15:26:46 +0000 Honeybee 528002@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Train: I also operate on the "not equal but fair" mentality. I try to give both kids what they need, but that doesn't always mean they get the same.</p> <p>Pretty much the only times I feel like 3 might be possible is when DD and DS are playing together on their owm. Luckily that is becoming a lot more common the older DS gets! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/parents-of-2-do-you-feel-like-you-give-your-kids-equal-attentionlove#post-527986 Fri, 25 Jan 2013 15:21:41 +0000 heffalump 527986@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@chopsuey119: My mom wanted 4! They stopped at 3 because of financial reasons more so I think. By the time I came around my mom said it was easy peasy, she would just sit me in the corner and my brother and sister would be running around the house entertaining me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/parents-of-2-do-you-feel-like-you-give-your-kids-equal-attentionlove#post-527982 Fri, 25 Jan 2013 15:19:34 +0000 chopsuey 527982@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@artbee: I'm #3 too and feel the same way about my upbringing..<br /> I'm sure it was tough on my parents though. Haha. Pretty sure it was bc my mom told me I should stop at 2 and that 3 is tough! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/parents-of-2-do-you-feel-like-you-give-your-kids-equal-attentionlove#post-527945 Fri, 25 Jan 2013 15:10:02 +0000 heffalump 527945@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm only a parent of one, but my parents have 3. I never ever felt like I didn't get enough attention. Maybe that's because I'm the baby of the family :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/parents-of-2-do-you-feel-like-you-give-your-kids-equal-attentionlove#post-527941 Fri, 25 Jan 2013 15:09:23 +0000 Mrs. Train 527941@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>On bad days I feel spread to thin, but most of the time we do just fine. I try to go on the not equal but fair premise. When my youngest was born she obviously needed more time. After a long nursing session I would make sure to get down and play with my boys. It may not have been as long and when we are all playing its not individual,attention but it is quality time. One of my sons loves to cook with me so on a day when I am doing more baking or cooking he might have more time with me than one of the other boys who doesn't like to cook. But after dinner I will make sure to do what he wants me to do.</p> <p>I don't know if that quite makes sense but I try my best to do what each kids likes to do with me even if the time is not equal. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/parents-of-2-do-you-feel-like-you-give-your-kids-equal-attentionlove#post-527919 Fri, 25 Jan 2013 15:00:58 +0000 mrbee 527919@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>At some point, the kids start paying attention to each other! I never thought we could survive 3 kids, but now that Charlie and Olive are entertaining each other... we could definitely do it if we had to! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/parents-of-2-do-you-feel-like-you-give-your-kids-equal-attentionlove#post-527913 Fri, 25 Jan 2013 14:58:41 +0000 umlo 527913@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You read my mind! Although I have two (2.5 and 9weeks), I often wonder how my mom, who had 3, and my grandma, who had 6, managed it all. The family planning discussions are now difficult because we love to have more but there is so much more to think about (support, finances, sharing the love, etc.) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/parents-of-2-do-you-feel-like-you-give-your-kids-equal-attentionlove#post-527834 Fri, 25 Jan 2013 14:37:58 +0000 chopsuey 527834@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd love to have a 3rd or even a 4th, but we're stopping at 2 because I can't imagine having to give another baby my attention. Splitting myself 3 ways is challenging enough!<br /> (Dh, dd,DS) </p> <p>Parents who have 3+.. How do you do it?! Does is just come naturally? Do you ever feel like you're spread thin? </p>