https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 15 Apr 2026 00:30:18 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/parents-of-grown-children-visit-them-for-the-holidays#post-1251625 Sat, 30 Nov 2013 21:24:55 +0000 daniellemybelle 1251625@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The main reason I think this is hard is that most parents have more than one child &amp; would have to pick one, whereas all the grown kids &amp; their families might travel home.</p> <p>Having said that, we will soon have Christmas at our own house every year, and family will always be welcome. We want to have our own family traditions with LO in our own home. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/parents-of-grown-children-visit-them-for-the-holidays#post-1250811 Fri, 29 Nov 2013 23:25:42 +0000 Mrs. High Heels 1250811@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Much easier to host with two little ones, and that's what we did this year. It's great because we get to keep most of the leftovers too! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/parents-of-grown-children-visit-them-for-the-holidays#post-1250773 Fri, 29 Nov 2013 22:36:21 +0000 autumnlove 1250773@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I prefer visiting my parents. I don't want to sit around doing nothing...which is what they usually like to do when they visit. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/parents-of-grown-children-visit-them-for-the-holidays#post-1250550 Fri, 29 Nov 2013 19:36:04 +0000 mrs.shinerbock 1250550@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We hosted Thanksgiving this year and we've done family "Christmas" (a week after Christmas if we've gone to visit the ILs for actual Christmas) a few times. My parents only live about 2 hours away, so it's not a big deal for us to go there or them to come here.</p> <p>My ILs on the other hand, refuse to travel, even when we've offered to pay for the tickets, so I never have to host them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/parents-of-grown-children-visit-them-for-the-holidays#post-1250463 Fri, 29 Nov 2013 17:42:04 +0000 Cherrybee 1250463@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm desperate to host Christmas at our house - I hosted for family and friends for almost ten years before meeting DH - but DH wont hear any of it. We've been to his mum's every year since we met (and she invites my mum to dinner every year). DH's SIL is Jewish and so cooking kosher for her plus non-kosher (pigs in blankets!) for everyone else is a huge performance involving MIL's two ovens and ample workspace. He's adamant I couldn't pull it off in our teeny kitchen. And of course there will never be a year that she isn't coming for Christmas because her family don't bloody celebrate it. Ugh! So I'm stuck going to MIL's every year. Gutted! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/parents-of-grown-children-visit-them-for-the-holidays#post-1250235 Fri, 29 Nov 2013 14:24:21 +0000 erinpye 1250235@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I absolutely 100% agree! We have faced some turmoil from family that lives a few hours away, but we decided we have our own family, our own home, and we are starting our own traditions which includes Christmas Day at home. Family is welcome to visit us, but we won't be traveling anywhere far. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/parents-of-grown-children-visit-them-for-the-holidays#post-1250128 Fri, 29 Nov 2013 13:05:08 +0000 Dandelion 1250128@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Both sets of parents live within minutes of us, so I'm ok with going ton them to let the moms do the work of it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/parents-of-grown-children-visit-them-for-the-holidays#post-1250077 Fri, 29 Nov 2013 12:09:45 +0000 Andrea 1250077@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Our parents all come visit us! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/parents-of-grown-children-visit-them-for-the-holidays#post-1250072 Fri, 29 Nov 2013 12:06:05 +0000 PurplePeony 1250072@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My parents and I haven't been together for Thanksgiving in years. When we lived nearer to them, DH always had to work the day after, and I did too during our final year there. I could have taken the day off but he couldn't. Now that we're 3000 miles away, it's even harder. I've been saving my vacation days for maternity leave, and my parents don't get a ton of vacation time either...not to mention, the price of air travel around Thanksgiving is just crazy. After the baby comes, it will definitely be easier if they come here, but since the baby's birthday will be close to Christmas, they'll probably prefer to see each other then (assuming we only get together for one holiday). Soooo...I don't know. But I do get sad that we finally have a big house and could easily host, but don't have anyone here TO host. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/parents-of-grown-children-visit-them-for-the-holidays#post-1250052 Fri, 29 Nov 2013 11:52:46 +0000 skipra 1250052@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My parents are local to us but often visit my sisters for Thanksgiving. I think it's nice because my sisters visit us during the summer. It's tough for one of my sisters to travel because she's got 3 kids and the other one's husband hates traveling.<br /> We have never really been in the position to host Thanksgiving but next year when we are in our new house I'd like it if my parents or IL's came to us, especially since we're expecting to have two LO's (hopefully) by then. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/parents-of-grown-children-visit-them-for-the-holidays#post-1250042 Fri, 29 Nov 2013 11:46:17 +0000 nana87 1250042@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm hoping they will come to us next year for baby's first thanksgiving </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/parents-of-grown-children-visit-them-for-the-holidays#post-1250039 Fri, 29 Nov 2013 11:42:06 +0000 Baby Boy Mom 1250039@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>With two little ones it would definitely be easier if they came to us. Alas, this has yet to happen. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/parents-of-grown-children-visit-them-for-the-holidays#post-1250016 Fri, 29 Nov 2013 11:23:52 +0000 runsyellowlites 1250016@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I see hosting being in our future with our dietary needs. It's not that we can't have to normal scrumptious holiday foods, we just have to have them a little different &amp; I don't really expect anyone else to have to learn all that. Our house is much to small to host right now though! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/parents-of-grown-children-visit-them-for-the-holidays#post-1250013 Fri, 29 Nov 2013 11:23:02 +0000 cascademom 1250013@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My inlaws are awful guests. They're super high maintenance and not flexible with a little one's schedule. It's so much easier for to go through the headache of travel to see them, then host them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/parents-of-grown-children-visit-them-for-the-holidays#post-1250001 Fri, 29 Nov 2013 11:19:07 +0000 Beyond2 1250001@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We don't have to travel too far to visit family, but this year is the first we've put our foot down and said we will be staying home, but everyone is invited. It will be more work for sure but not having to mess around with my son's sleep is a huge benefit. Plus I got to be home for Christmas growing up and I want the same for my children. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/parents-of-grown-children-visit-them-for-the-holidays#post-1249998 Fri, 29 Nov 2013 11:16:46 +0000 yin 1249998@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Both parents live nearby so distance isn't an issue. I would rather visit them so that I don't have to worry about hosting. The cooking and cleanup is too much for me to handle on top of caring for a toddler and infant. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/parents-of-grown-children-visit-them-for-the-holidays#post-1249988 Fri, 29 Nov 2013 11:10:39 +0000 ALV91711 1249988@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>As much as I like going back home to visit, then I get to see extended family, with a baby it is easier for them to come here. And it isn't too much more work because they will help with cooking and clean up and I would do the same at their house. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/parents-of-grown-children-visit-them-for-the-holidays#post-1249980 Fri, 29 Nov 2013 11:07:34 +0000 Marfi 1249980@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Well my parents live 10 minutes from our house so with them it doesn't matter but I would rather have my ILs visit us hands down, they only have twin beds and so my husband and I can't sleep in the same room very easily. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/parents-of-grown-children-visit-them-for-the-holidays#post-1249975 Fri, 29 Nov 2013 11:04:22 +0000 pui 1249975@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When we have a bigger house and a few kids, I would prefer my parents visit us. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/parents-of-grown-children-visit-them-for-the-holidays#post-1249971 Fri, 29 Nov 2013 11:02:09 +0000 Anagram 1249971@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Would you prefer having your parents or in laws visit you, or do you prefer to visit them? And why?</p> <p><a href="http://www.slate.com/blogs/xx_factor/2013/11/28/black_friday_advice_to_parents_of_grown_children_visit_them_for_christmas.html" rel="nofollow">http://www.slate.com/blogs/xx_factor/2013/11/28/black_friday_advice_to_parents_of_grown_children_visit_them_for_christmas.html</a></p> <p>For me, there are pros and cons. Both of our families live either a flight or an 8-10 hour drive away, so getting there is quite a production. Then, baby is out if her comfort zone and naps and night time sleep usually get much worse. It's hard to lug all the stuff you need for the baby in a car and impossible on a flight. On the upside, you (hopefully) get to enjoy someone else's cooking. But in my case (MSPI mamma) that is more stressful than enjoyable.</p> <p>Having them come to us is much easier for baby. But then involves lots of pre cleaning, continual cleaning up after more people, more cooking (which also means more shopping $$). </p> <p>And finally, while I think I am actually a very good host, my mother is still the BEST host and if I were to make 2 desserts for guests, if we were at her house, we'd have 5. I would have cute table decor, but her holiday decor would be amazing. </p>