https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 14 May 2026 15:39:58 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/parents-who-have-an-so-that-works-out-of-town-and-dealing-with-parent-preference#post-1528761 Fri, 28 Mar 2014 08:56:37 +0000 lovehoneybee 1528761@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>D doesn't work out of town, but because of his schedule he and E barely see each other, and they'll be getting even less time during the week starting Monday. </p> <p>He was definitely a mama's boy until like 8-9 months? It really didn't help that I was home with him every day. Things I did that helped were show him lots of pictures of D and talk him up excitedly. "Do you see Dada? Isn't he handsome? We love Dada so much!" and if D was on his way home "Dada's coming!" and make a really big deal when he came in. </p> <p>That sort of worked a little bit, and letting them have alone time on the weekends helped. He eventually came around (around 10 months?) and now they're BFFs. I'm chopped liver if D is around! Unless he's sick or hurting, and then he turns back to me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/parents-who-have-an-so-that-works-out-of-town-and-dealing-with-parent-preference#post-1528736 Fri, 28 Mar 2014 08:52:07 +0000 singingbee 1528736@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsMccarthy: @locavore_mama: we have a vide of him saying good night and we FaceTime daily when he is not here. She's happy to see him and love on him, only if she's in my arms. We will keep trying to do those things. Glad to hear we aren't alone in this. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/parents-who-have-an-so-that-works-out-of-town-and-dealing-with-parent-preference#post-1528711 Fri, 28 Mar 2014 08:42:39 +0000 regberadaisy 1528711@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@singingbee: Dh doesn't work out of town but I will say up until she was 20 months she had a VAST preference to me. We did all the typical things, had him do bathtime, night time routine, get her MOTN wakeups, one on one play time etc. It didn't really matter she just still preferred me.<br /> She would cry and freak out sometimes if daddy tried to take her. It really made him sad and hurt for a long time.</p> <p>Then around Christmas it started to change and she is totally becoming a daddy's girl. They have their things now that she does wiht daddy. Kind of like their "inside joke". It's so sweet to see and makes my heart balloon and I know DH is absolutely even more in love, if that's even possible. ;)</p> <p>Anyway, keep trying to push the daddy/LO alone time and in time hopefully she will come around. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/parents-who-have-an-so-that-works-out-of-town-and-dealing-with-parent-preference#post-1528680 Fri, 28 Mar 2014 08:32:44 +0000 MrsMccarthy 1528680@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Can you guys video conference daily when he is out of town? It also might help to make a point to show her pictures of daddy and talk about him often when he isn't there. When she is old enough maybe even give her one of his tee shirts to sleep with? We are dealin with the same thing over here at 18 months and in our case what helped was my husband getting more involved (or it helps the days he does) with general child care but that can be hard long distance. Good luck! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/parents-who-have-an-so-that-works-out-of-town-and-dealing-with-parent-preference#post-1528592 Fri, 28 Mar 2014 08:13:33 +0000 singingbee 1528592@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Lo is almost 6 months old and lately has had a really strong attachment to mommy. This being our first child for both of us, we are kind of at a loss as to what to do. I reassure dh that its normal, but he is convince she hates him sometimes and the fact that he works out of town doesn't help anything. His schedule isn't that consistent so we can even say he will do things on the weekend or not. </p> <p>Any tips? I'm trying to pump extra so he can give her a bottles more often and we tried him giving her a bottle at night and then me 'topping her off' with nursing. </p> <p>I'm open to anything. </p>