https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 09 May 2026 22:22:28 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/passive-smoking-what-would-you-do#post-439600 Sat, 08 Dec 2012 23:49:35 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 439600@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I definitely wouldn't go! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/passive-smoking-what-would-you-do#post-439595 Sat, 08 Dec 2012 23:46:04 +0000 sera_87 439595@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't go, and I would "make" your DH stay home. I "let" DH go out to NYE without me last year (preggo at 8ish weeks) and it was AWFUL. </p> <p>after that, NYE will always be celebrated together. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/passive-smoking-what-would-you-do#post-439593 Sat, 08 Dec 2012 23:41:28 +0000 mamimami 439593@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think one night would do you and the baby any harm, but I personally would not be able to relax and enjoy myself in that environment. Also keep in mind that first trimester fatigue... You may not even be able to stay up till midnight at that point! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/passive-smoking-what-would-you-do#post-439515 Sat, 08 Dec 2012 21:37:43 +0000 dagret 439515@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ugh cigarette smoke was literally the only thing that made me want to vomit in the first trimester. Besides the health risks, I wouldn't go for that reason alone. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/passive-smoking-what-would-you-do#post-439489 Sat, 08 Dec 2012 21:12:06 +0000 Ra 439489@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I won't even go into my own father's house for an extended period of time because he smokes in the house.</p> <p>Even if I knew for sure that it wouldn't harm the baby, I still wouldn't go. I don't know about you, but my sense of smell is magnified like 1000% (that is how it feels at least!) and I don't enjoy the smell of smoke when I am not pregnant. Being around that much smoke while pregnant would probably make me vomit. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/passive-smoking-what-would-you-do#post-439481 Sat, 08 Dec 2012 21:02:42 +0000 heffalump 439481@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't go even if I wasn't pregnant. That's not good for anybody's lungs, even if its just one night. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/passive-smoking-what-would-you-do#post-439456 Sat, 08 Dec 2012 20:39:04 +0000 Sweet T 439456@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't go. I would just tell your husband that he is more than welcome to go but you will be staying home. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/passive-smoking-what-would-you-do#post-439452 Sat, 08 Dec 2012 20:33:33 +0000 lemondrop 439452@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't go- not so much for the health risks, but more in that I don't tolerate the smell of cigarette smoke very well- it gives me migraines normally, and during pregnancy it made me super nauseous. </p> <p>I had a (adult) student that was a heavy smoker, and I just could not be in the same room with her without getting sick. She would have to Febreeze the heck out of herself just so I could interact with her without running for the toilet. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/passive-smoking-what-would-you-do#post-439443 Sat, 08 Dec 2012 20:25:21 +0000 sorrycharlie 439443@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I totally would not go. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/passive-smoking-what-would-you-do#post-439441 Sat, 08 Dec 2012 20:22:19 +0000 Bao 439441@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would refuse to go! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/passive-smoking-what-would-you-do#post-439440 Sat, 08 Dec 2012 20:18:40 +0000 MamaMoose 439440@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would not go. My hubs is also frustrating when it comes to smoking because his whole family smokes. If it were anyone else he would never want baby around smoke but with his family he feels bad hurting their feelings. My in laws are here right now and earlier I took the baby from MIL and I could smell lingering smoke on the baby. I went in another room and cried a little. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/passive-smoking-what-would-you-do#post-439432 Sat, 08 Dec 2012 20:11:24 +0000 SugarplumsMom 439432@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was in a car with someone smoking out the window for less than 15 mins before I found out I was pregnant. I was paranoid during my whole first trimester because of it! Yeh, I would avoid that party like the plague! </p> <p>I do not think you overreacted at all. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/passive-smoking-what-would-you-do#post-439407 Sat, 08 Dec 2012 19:42:41 +0000 ladyfingers 439407@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't go. I can't even stand being around people who are smoking one cigarette remotely close to me outdoors. It would really bother me being in a room full of it all night. I think you're well within your rights not to go, and if DH doesn't understand, that's his problem! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/passive-smoking-what-would-you-do#post-439398 Sat, 08 Dec 2012 19:31:21 +0000 Cherrybee 439398@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Arden: DH's argument, when I told him about studies such as this, was "what counts as exposure to smoke?". These studies, he said, are conducted with subjects who endure repeated exposure to smoke, not just on one occasion. He's so frustrating because he likes to "debate" everything - even if he agrees with me. </p> <p>At the end of the day, I know beyond a shadow of a doubt that it's a bad idea. My baby gets his/her oxygen from me, which is already is short supply due to my asthma. To dilute it further, as well as fill the poor (developing) thing with all those other chemicals, is just wrong, I think,. This study emphasises that for me. Thank you. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/passive-smoking-what-would-you-do#post-439395 Sat, 08 Dec 2012 19:29:03 +0000 DigAPony 439395@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Another former smoker here who would also skip the party. It's just not worth the potential risks. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/passive-smoking-what-would-you-do#post-439386 Sat, 08 Dec 2012 19:15:03 +0000 Arden 439386@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p><a href="http://www.medpagetoday.com/OBGYN/Pregnancy/25210" rel="nofollow">http://www.medpagetoday.com/OBGYN/Pregnancy/25210</a></p> <p>"Nonsmoking women who breathe secondhand tobacco smoke during pregnancy increase their risk of stillbirth, major birth defects, and other harms to their babies, according to a meta-analysis."</p> <p>Your "mother's intuition" is right. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/passive-smoking-what-would-you-do#post-439382 Sat, 08 Dec 2012 19:04:52 +0000 plantains 439382@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That just seems unpleasant anyway to be sitting in clouds of smoke for ages. And I used to smoke! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/passive-smoking-what-would-you-do#post-439381 Sat, 08 Dec 2012 19:03:25 +0000 lawbee11 439381@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>While I don't actually think it would do the baby any harm, I would not go--not worth it to me! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/passive-smoking-what-would-you-do#post-439379 Sat, 08 Dec 2012 19:00:53 +0000 T.H.O.U. 439379@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I went to a bar where they allow smoking but it wasn't a thick fog of it. It was a two story bar so the smoke kinda rose. </p> <p>I 100% agree with not going but the odds are it would not hurt anything in the long run. It's one night and its not like you are smoking. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/passive-smoking-what-would-you-do#post-439378 Sat, 08 Dec 2012 18:59:17 +0000 .twist. 439378@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would also not go and I am an ex-smoker as well. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/passive-smoking-what-would-you-do#post-439367 Sat, 08 Dec 2012 18:39:05 +0000 BelugaBean 439367@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would absolutely not go. My DH would totally agree with me too and I don't think he'd expect me to even consider going. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/passive-smoking-what-would-you-do#post-439354 Sat, 08 Dec 2012 18:25:17 +0000 mrsjyw 439354@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would not go. And I'm an ex-smoker who gave up smoking right before our TTC journey. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/passive-smoking-what-would-you-do#post-439308 Sat, 08 Dec 2012 17:16:34 +0000 Cherrybee 439308@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Arden: I said that!! :-) I asked him if he'd take a newborn to the party in a car seat! He said no!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/passive-smoking-what-would-you-do#post-439306 Sat, 08 Dec 2012 17:15:26 +0000 DillonLion 439306@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm usually very lax about being around smoke like that, but I wouldn't expose myself for hours on end like that while pregnant. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/passive-smoking-what-would-you-do#post-439302 Sat, 08 Dec 2012 17:09:52 +0000 Arden 439302@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would not be going. </p> <p>Would you give your baby one cigarette? Just one? No. But you'd probably passively smoke several at the party....</p> <p>You are totally right so say you aren't going. They should understand. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/passive-smoking-what-would-you-do#post-439300 Sat, 08 Dec 2012 17:07:26 +0000 Cherrybee 439300@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Earlier today, I broached the subject of New Years Eve with DH. Every year, we go to a party at his best friend's house. I love his friend - he introduced us and was best man at our wedding - and I love his parties but for one thing: The Fog. </p> <p>Best Man is a confirmed bachelor and lives with a bunch of other guys in a shared house in which they all smoke. When they have parties, somewhere around thirty people will be in this house most of whom will be smoking - the air is thick with it. It bothers me at the best of times, being asthmatic, but I try not to be a party pooper and nip off to the bathroom with my inhaler whenever it gets too much. </p> <p>Anyway, this year, I will be 10 weeks pregnant and so I definitely don't want to be breathing in all that smoke, all night. Long story short, there was an, erm, heated discussion - DH clearly thinks I'm being over dramatic about it; he feels that as it is just one night it isn't going to do the baby any harm. </p> <p>I'm 100% not going to the party. The end. But I am interested to know what your take on it is - am I being over the top? Would you go?? </p>