https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 02 Aug 2026 12:36:16 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/paying-for-your-owen-admission-for-kids-bday-party#post-1074404 Mon, 09 Sep 2013 13:01:25 +0000 HLK208 1074404@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't be offended especially if it was family or a close friend. But I do think it's polite to pay for those who are invited usually. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/paying-for-your-owen-admission-for-kids-bday-party#post-1074281 Mon, 09 Sep 2013 12:15:28 +0000 sunny 1074281@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>In general, I think if you are inviting people for a party, you should cover the costs of the party! So if they couldn't cover the cost of admission, they could have done it at home or a park, etc. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/paying-for-your-owen-admission-for-kids-bday-party#post-1074168 Mon, 09 Sep 2013 11:32:04 +0000 Lozza 1074168@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: Agreed. If we were talking $50 a person, I'd think "wow, I'd really rather not do that," but at least for us, $8/person is within what we'd totally willingly spend on a weekend activity. And in my extended family, we normally celebrate birthdays just at someone's house, but sometimes we go out for dinner and each family grouping kind of pays their own way (it's definitely not on the birthday boy/girl's family to pay for everyone) so this situation seems analogous to me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/paying-for-your-owen-admission-for-kids-bday-party#post-1074091 Mon, 09 Sep 2013 11:04:58 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 1074091@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't be annoyed because it's family. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/paying-for-your-owen-admission-for-kids-bday-party#post-1074087 Mon, 09 Sep 2013 11:03:33 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 1074087@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>1) I'd still go &amp; totally keep my mouth shut<br /> But.... That is inappropriate. I strongly believe the family should pay admission.</p> <p>I think if one can't afford a party, they either Gould t do it or do it at home. Parties are not a necessary part of life; they are a luxury. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/paying-for-your-owen-admission-for-kids-bday-party#post-1074072 Mon, 09 Sep 2013 10:55:34 +0000 mrbee 1074072@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't mind since it's family and the cost is not too bad? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/paying-for-your-owen-admission-for-kids-bday-party#post-1074064 Mon, 09 Sep 2013 10:51:33 +0000 Adira 1074064@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would be annoyed. It's one thing to just go to an amusement park and let people know you're going if they want to join you, but it's another thing to have your party there and force your guests to pay up or have to decline the party altogether. That'd be like hosting a party and making your guests bring their own food. I'd be that person going "What time will you be back for pizza? I'll show up for that." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/paying-for-your-owen-admission-for-kids-bday-party#post-1074051 Mon, 09 Sep 2013 10:43:00 +0000 BSB 1074051@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Since its just family and its a small get together, I wouldn't be annoyed.</p> <p>If I were planning the party, I would definitely pay for everyone but I could see certain people from my family pulling this kind of thing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/paying-for-your-owen-admission-for-kids-bday-party#post-1074037 Mon, 09 Sep 2013 10:37:41 +0000 mrs. wagon 1074037@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Personally I would be a tiny bit annoyed but it wouldn't stop me from going and paying, especially if it were a place I'd like to take the kids to anyway. I would only be annoyed because I've paid for those birthday party packages and it really includes EVERYTHING for the guests. They just show up and everything is taken care of. And it's expensive for the host... but I did it because it was convenient.</p> <p>But like I said, I'd still go and have a great time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/paying-for-your-owen-admission-for-kids-bday-party#post-1074028 Mon, 09 Sep 2013 10:33:50 +0000 littlek 1074028@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Smurfette: I would think it's a little tacky, but it's family so I would not be annoyed. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/paying-for-your-owen-admission-for-kids-bday-party#post-1074023 Mon, 09 Sep 2013 10:31:35 +0000 Smurfette 1074023@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bunnylove08: This is probably true! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/paying-for-your-owen-admission-for-kids-bday-party#post-1074014 Mon, 09 Sep 2013 10:29:35 +0000 bunnylove08 1074014@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Smurfette: maybe they thought it was okay to go this route since its family. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/paying-for-your-owen-admission-for-kids-bday-party#post-1074006 Mon, 09 Sep 2013 10:27:48 +0000 lawbee11 1074006@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would probably be slightly annoyed but I would also feel bad for them that they couldn't afford to pay for everyone. If they were wealthy and were asking everyone to pay then that would annoy me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/paying-for-your-owen-admission-for-kids-bday-party#post-1074005 Mon, 09 Sep 2013 10:26:47 +0000 Smurfette 1074005@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@blackbird: This is my thoughts exactly. We are going because he is my nephew and I don't want to miss his party but I don't think that is right to ask people to pay to something you are "throwing". They should just have pizza at the house. I mean he is 3, and would be just as happy wrestling on the ground or playing cars with us. He has been to the place before and I haven't heard him talk about going back before. </p> <p>But like @Foodnerd81: I complained to DH but I won't say anything to them about it. The cost isn't high or anything, again I thought more of principal. </p> <p>@bunnylove08: I see nothing wrong with this because you are paying for one ride and if a parents chooses to let their child ride again, that is there choice. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/paying-for-your-owen-admission-for-kids-bday-party#post-1073989 Mon, 09 Sep 2013 10:20:11 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 1073989@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would not be annoyed. They are telling you upfront the cost of the activity instead of blind siding you when you arrive. You can choose to attend or not. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/paying-for-your-owen-admission-for-kids-bday-party#post-1073972 Mon, 09 Sep 2013 10:11:17 +0000 Maysprout 1073972@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't be annoyed. </p> <p>The only time I get annoyed is when it's disclosed after the fact. Like one time we took the van provided at a destination wedding to downtown. At the end of the evening we were told if you used the van you needed to chip in $50. Now that annoyed me since we could have taken a cab or bus downtown and back for $10. </p> <p>But for a kids birthday party I can see how it can get expensive and I can see why a mom might want to take her kid to the zoo for a birthday even if she can't or doesn't want to pay for everyone else's kid. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/paying-for-your-owen-admission-for-kids-bday-party#post-1073964 Mon, 09 Sep 2013 10:08:08 +0000 ShootingStar 1073964@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I do think it's not great etiquette, but if they truly can't afford $8/person for 8-10 people, I'd just feel bad for them and pay it. It's not the kid's fault his parents can't afford a party :(. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/paying-for-your-owen-admission-for-kids-bday-party#post-1073949 Mon, 09 Sep 2013 10:00:58 +0000 wonderstruck 1073949@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@blackbird: This is exactly what I think. If you just tell people you're going to the park/zoo and say they're welcome to join, that's one thing. But if it's a birthday party and you're being invited, I think the host either needs to pay up or just have the party at their house. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/paying-for-your-owen-admission-for-kids-bday-party#post-1073935 Mon, 09 Sep 2013 09:54:00 +0000 Foodnerd81 1073935@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@blackbird: exactly. If it was like we are going here if you want to join, that wouldn't bother me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/paying-for-your-owen-admission-for-kids-bday-party#post-1073928 Mon, 09 Sep 2013 09:51:13 +0000 blackbird 1073928@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it's kind of tacky. They should've just had something at the house instead of a pseudo-party where people pay their own way.</p> <p>It's not like it was a "hey we're doing this, join if you want". It's specifically an invite to a party. and you'd feel bad not attending </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/paying-for-your-owen-admission-for-kids-bday-party#post-1073927 Mon, 09 Sep 2013 09:50:02 +0000 kjpugs 1073927@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If they can't afford to throw a big party, I think it's fine to invite close family to join them if they want. Sounds like a great compromise for if they can't do a big party where they pay for everyone. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/paying-for-your-owen-admission-for-kids-bday-party#post-1073922 Mon, 09 Sep 2013 09:48:59 +0000 SugarplumsMom 1073922@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Foodnerd81: same. </p> <p>This happened to us before and it was at a restaurant with games. We assumed it was a reserved party space, but it wasn't. It was a little shocking and I was a little embarrassed for her. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/paying-for-your-owen-admission-for-kids-bday-party#post-1073916 Mon, 09 Sep 2013 09:47:52 +0000 BananaPancakes 1073916@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Since it's family, I wouldn't really be annoyed. Even if it were close friends I probably also wouldn't be annoyed. I think it's better etiquette to pay for everyone (and that's what I would do if it were my son's party), but it wouldn't really bother me at all. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/paying-for-your-owen-admission-for-kids-bday-party#post-1073914 Mon, 09 Sep 2013 09:47:29 +0000 mrsjyw 1073914@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd be annoyed, but like you, would still attend. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/paying-for-your-owen-admission-for-kids-bday-party#post-1073909 Mon, 09 Sep 2013 09:46:27 +0000 bunnylove08 1073909@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldnt be. I'm doing a carousel themed bday party for DD's bday and I'm buying the first ride for the kids and after that if they're parents want another ride they can pay. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/paying-for-your-owen-admission-for-kids-bday-party#post-1073902 Mon, 09 Sep 2013 09:45:07 +0000 travelgirl1 1073902@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It sounds more like a get together than a party and I think if my sister arranged something like this I would expect to pay my own admission actually. I'd probably feel differently if it was an actual party in the park with food and party activities etc. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/paying-for-your-owen-admission-for-kids-bday-party#post-1073895 Mon, 09 Sep 2013 09:42:19 +0000 Foodnerd81 1073895@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd be sort of annoyed but would still go and not complain to anyone other than Dh. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/paying-for-your-owen-admission-for-kids-bday-party#post-1073894 Mon, 09 Sep 2013 09:42:15 +0000 Mrs. Pen 1073894@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it's general rule of thumb to cover admission for guests... often times there are discounts for groups and parties to help offset cost... if she had an issue with paying I think the right thing would have been to ask attendees individually if they wouldn't mind paying their own admission. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/paying-for-your-owen-admission-for-kids-bday-party#post-1073890 Mon, 09 Sep 2013 09:41:22 +0000 cyndistar3 1073890@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>While I do think that if you're inviting people you should pay I also understand not having the money to do so. So no, I wouldn't be annoyed. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/paying-for-your-owen-admission-for-kids-bday-party#post-1073888 Mon, 09 Sep 2013 09:40:54 +0000 runsyellowlites 1073888@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We do parties at our house due to finances... we'd never plan something where there is admission charge &amp; then expect others to pay it if they want to come. Alot of time my mom will cover herself when we do things (the beach, dinner, etc) but I wouldn't plan something expecting that. :/ </p>