https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 26 Apr 2026 16:21:58 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/people-inviting-others-to-your-home-without-asking#post-464219 Mon, 24 Dec 2012 13:53:35 +0000 Grace 464219@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Soooooo annoying!! But at least you had warning! One year one of my cousins bought a a date (not a girlfriend, just a date), to our Christmas dinner. There were already 26 people there and we didn't have enough forks for a 27! Some people.... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/people-inviting-others-to-your-home-without-asking#post-463825 Mon, 24 Dec 2012 08:39:43 +0000 autumnlove 463825@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would be annoyed! :-( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/people-inviting-others-to-your-home-without-asking#post-463822 Mon, 24 Dec 2012 08:38:45 +0000 Bookish 463822@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ugh, that would drive me crazy!! Sounds a lot like my SIL. The opposite problem aggravated me this year because her mother was *supposed* to come to Thanksgiving, so I had the table/chairs set up all beautifully for 9 people. It involved getting extra napkin rings, arranging things so they sort of matched... and then SIL shows up w/o her mother with barely a *sorry!* Ohh it made me mad. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/people-inviting-others-to-your-home-without-asking#post-463788 Mon, 24 Dec 2012 08:06:33 +0000 MrsTiz 463788@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oooh that irks my nerves so much, I have a girlfriend who invites her flavor of the week or her cousins over to my house without asking me. Then once they're here she says "make yourself at home!" &amp; if they ask where the bathroom is she will tell them before I can. Uhhhg. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/people-inviting-others-to-your-home-without-asking#post-463775 Mon, 24 Dec 2012 07:49:13 +0000 Anagram 463775@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm a more the merrier type of person, so I think my friends and family know I wouldn't mind, BUT I know most people aren't like me. Do you think there was a miscommunication, like she'd already mentioned it to your husband and he forgot to tell you? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/people-inviting-others-to-your-home-without-asking#post-463763 Mon, 24 Dec 2012 07:34:49 +0000 Rubies 463763@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Very rude, yes. If it were me, and they had asked first, I would have been like, "Yeah! For sure! The more, the merrier!" But without asking, I would have been very irritated. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/people-inviting-others-to-your-home-without-asking#post-463671 Mon, 24 Dec 2012 02:29:30 +0000 Arden 463671@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think that's quite rude, yes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/people-inviting-others-to-your-home-without-asking#post-463667 Mon, 24 Dec 2012 02:21:09 +0000 Ash 463667@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I find it extremely rude... even though I would never turn down a guest! It's common courtesy to ask the hostess prior to offering out the invite!<br /> @MamaMoose: DH's family is completely opposite of me too... They would do the same thing. Heck, I finally got them to knock before entering our house! I like my privacy I guess. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/people-inviting-others-to-your-home-without-asking#post-463575 Mon, 24 Dec 2012 00:13:53 +0000 MamaMoose 463575@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is something that I would find extremely rude and annoying but my husband and his whole family wouldn't even think twice about it. Being married to him has taught me that the idea of manners and boundaries can be viewed very differently by some people! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/people-inviting-others-to-your-home-without-asking#post-463561 Sun, 23 Dec 2012 23:46:43 +0000 Bao 463561@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: I'll try my best, nothing a little wine can't help with ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/people-inviting-others-to-your-home-without-asking#post-463556 Sun, 23 Dec 2012 23:44:07 +0000 Bao 463556@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Smurfette: I know that's kind of how I'm feeling, really overwhelmed like I'm not prepared. I know it's only one extra person, but still... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/people-inviting-others-to-your-home-without-asking#post-463554 Sun, 23 Dec 2012 23:43:23 +0000 mrbee 463554@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Bao: The real trick will be to hide your irritation! :) Not sure I could do it!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/people-inviting-others-to-your-home-without-asking#post-463553 Sun, 23 Dec 2012 23:42:13 +0000 Bao 463553@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: eh...we aren't super close, no. I guess I just couldn't imagine showing up with someone else in tow without at least asking first. This is coming from the same person who earlier said, "do I have to bring a dish?" Well, no I'm supplying everything since I'm the host but if you are springing on me the night before, that you are bringing another guest, a little something extra would be appreciated! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/people-inviting-others-to-your-home-without-asking#post-463551 Sun, 23 Dec 2012 23:39:49 +0000 Smurfette 463551@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would have asked first. I would feel bad not being prepared and having a gift for him. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/people-inviting-others-to-your-home-without-asking#post-463550 Sun, 23 Dec 2012 23:37:46 +0000 mrbee 463550@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Bao: It's definitely polite to ask first!</p> <p>She may be assuming he can come, because she feels so close to you and your DH? In that sense, sometimes family takes liberties that others might not... don't know how close she is to you guys though! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/people-inviting-others-to-your-home-without-asking#post-463547 Sun, 23 Dec 2012 23:36:14 +0000 Pink Champagne 463547@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it's much more respectful to ask if its ok to bring a guest, even if you're positive the hostess will say yes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/people-inviting-others-to-your-home-without-asking#post-463538 Sun, 23 Dec 2012 23:32:08 +0000 Bao 463538@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I just got a text from my SIL (on DH's side) saying "my dad is coming tomorrow, let me know if I need to bring an extra chair" I found this to be a little on the rude side. First of all, he isn't even part of our family and I've never met this guy before and I wasn't planning on anyone else but DH, his parents, and his brother/SIL. I am all for getting everyone together for the holiday's, and he is more than welcome to come, but asking would have been respectful and much appreciated. </p> <p>I think it's common courtesy to ask the host before bringing an extra guest to their home. What are your thoughts? Rude? No big deal either way? </p>