https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 16 May 2026 14:45:11 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/perfectionist-toddler#post-2370464 Thu, 26 Nov 2015 06:42:27 +0000 gracecat 2370464@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My toddler is just like this too! But not for everything, just some things, she gets so frustrated if it doesn't go how she wants to, and can end up in tears. I think it's quite common as a toddler. And the more tired she is the more likely she is to have a melt down about something not going the way she wants it to, like being able to put blocks a certain way. I wouldn't tag it is a personality trait already at 1.5 years! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/perfectionist-toddler#post-2370457 Thu, 26 Nov 2015 06:34:18 +0000 BananaPancakes 2370457@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Personality trait. My 3.5 year old is this way. I'm always trying to explain to him that you just have to try again or keep practicing, but he gets frustrated quickly. He also chose not to walk and talk until he could straight up walk across a room and say a full sentence. It's like he gets embarrassed if he can't do something perfectly. We're working on it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/perfectionist-toddler#post-2370456 Thu, 26 Nov 2015 06:33:54 +0000 anonysquire 2370456@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This sounds like my 20 month old!!! She gets so frustrated! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/perfectionist-toddler#post-2370405 Wed, 25 Nov 2015 23:56:06 +0000 ALV91711 2370405@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it is personality.</p> <p>My 33 month old is like this. Gets super upset if things don't go exactly the way he thinks they should. He has been like this for quite some time.</p> <p>Then I see my 20 month old niece and nothing seems to phase her, she is more go with the flow. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/perfectionist-toddler#post-2370322 Wed, 25 Nov 2015 21:38:13 +0000 travellingbee 2370322@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My 33 month old is like this too and I think he just gets easily frustrated when he can't do what he is trying to do. Like when he can't make physically happen what he mentally can imagine... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/perfectionist-toddler#post-2370316 Wed, 25 Nov 2015 21:35:07 +0000 Tanjowen 2370316@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My 23 month old is doing this as well. It's hard not to laugh because he'll get so mad, and go put himself in time out in a corner and cry. I just try to calmly sit and play with the toys and eventually he'll stop and return to playing with me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/perfectionist-toddler#post-2370296 Wed, 25 Nov 2015 21:21:14 +0000 Pirouette 2370296@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I say personality trait, but not necessarily a permanent one. I mean, they are learning to explore their worlds and figure out the appropriate reaction to events, but there are definitely personality differences in how different 2 year olds react. My almost 2 year old is definitely sensitive, and gets sad when things aren't perfect. Obviously I don't think she's going to always be so sensitive, she will learn to react more appropriately to different situations as she learns what is worth getting upset over and what isnt. But she'll always be somewhat more sensitive than other kids, I think. If that makes any sense. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/perfectionist-toddler#post-2370286 Wed, 25 Nov 2015 21:13:58 +0000 ElbieKay 2370286@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Rockies11: Ahhhh, that makes sense. Thanks for clarifying! (And happy Thanksgiving!) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/perfectionist-toddler#post-2370280 Wed, 25 Nov 2015 21:09:20 +0000 Rockies11 2370280@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ElbieKay: sorry I meant mine is also in the terrible twos! She started to get really bad with that type of thing around 20 months. So it could be the 2 thing, but I think it's a low frustration tolerance type personality. Like if she is on a playdate with another similarly aged kid, she loses her cool much more quickly and more frequently. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/perfectionist-toddler#post-2370276 Wed, 25 Nov 2015 21:06:01 +0000 ElbieKay 2370276@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Rockies11: Thanks for your reply! To clarify, my son is just past 1.5, not 2.5. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/perfectionist-toddler#post-2370275 Wed, 25 Nov 2015 21:04:43 +0000 Rockies11 2370275@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Mine is like that and also 2.5, but based on observation of other similarly aged kids, I think it's a personality trait. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/perfectionist-toddler#post-2370260 Wed, 25 Nov 2015 20:52:24 +0000 ElbieKay 2370260@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My 20mo has started freaking out when certain things don't follow his expectations while playing. E.g., if the electric train derails due to a faulty track, or if he spills something by mistake. He's usually pretty easygoing other than this. He seemed especially tired this evening, and he was flipping out so much that I had to cut off two activities in succession and finally just call an early bedtime.</p> <p>Is the likely to be a personality trait, or is this the start of the terrible twos? </p>