https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 21 Apr 2026 18:48:43 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/personal-life-and-work-life#post-373993 Thu, 01 Nov 2012 22:17:38 +0000 anonysquire 373993@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MsMini: thank you for the perspective :) I definitely can see where he is coming from. I just found it a little distracting. I absolutely love working with cnas! They are great :)</p> <p>@hummusgirl: Yes, and I was starting to find him annoying. </p> <p>@scg00387: Lol that is a good point, I feel like a ton of people open up to me and I'm like wtf did I just hear. Like he also said that he was raped by his uncle. And I feel bad that he had to go through that but what am I supposed to say? Eeeee! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/personal-life-and-work-life#post-373975 Thu, 01 Nov 2012 22:11:31 +0000 immabeetoo 373975@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>In regards to being transgendered, I agree with @mrsbee and imagine I'd want to do the same if I were transgendered and transitioning myself - just to stave off questions or confusion.</p> <p>In regards to everything else, I think its just a personality thing, I am relatively private, especially at first. I have often been surprised when someone is confiding in me about their divorce/spousal troubles/etc. Sometimes I think that folks who want to share are more likely to share with people who are reserved as opposed to people who love to small chat or 'gossip' (for lack of a better word, not in a malicious sense) because they think it'll stay private. My husband is pretty similar in temperament and we often come home and wonder out loud at what someone said at work that day!</p> <p>Hope you can tune it out or he picks up the vibe that you'd rather just do your job :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/personal-life-and-work-life#post-373974 Thu, 01 Nov 2012 22:11:03 +0000 hummusgirl 373974@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I like to get to know people on a personal level at work. I figure I spend more awake hours there than with my family, so I may as well feel like I'm working with friends (even though I rarely hang out with work people on weekends). This is dependent on the person, though. If I find someone annoying, I don't really care to know more about their outside life. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/personal-life-and-work-life#post-373969 Thu, 01 Nov 2012 22:08:34 +0000 MsMini 373969@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@anonysquire: I am a nurse as well, but I work in an RN only environment, so we all take turns in the top position. I guess in your case its no big deal, but I find a lot of my coworkers are similar to me, where personal trust and rapport builds professional trust and rapport. I was just giving you my perspective. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/personal-life-and-work-life#post-373959 Thu, 01 Nov 2012 22:04:24 +0000 anonysquire 373959@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MsMini: good thing it doesn't matter anyway since I will be delegating the tasks. I'm the nurse, he's the aid. But knowing his life story isn't going to make me give or not give him tasks. He's a hard worker and I could tell that without hearing his story. I guess with my anxiety it just really irks me when people keep talking. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/personal-life-and-work-life#post-373950 Thu, 01 Nov 2012 22:01:56 +0000 MsMini 373950@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@anonysquire: See, no offence, but I don't trust people I don't know much about in general. So I would be less likely to delegate important tasks to someone unless I feel I had connected to them. Maybe that is the type of environment you are going into? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/personal-life-and-work-life#post-373938 Thu, 01 Nov 2012 21:58:30 +0000 anonysquire 373938@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MsMini: well we do work as a team mostly but I still think some things are left alone. He kind of went through his whole life story. Like my coworkers don't know where I live, if I'm married (unless they saw my ring), whether I have kids, anything about my two precious cats. I really don't think any of my life would help us get our job done. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/personal-life-and-work-life#post-373931 Thu, 01 Nov 2012 21:56:13 +0000 MsMini 373931@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have always been a pretty open person, so I don't find it that odd. I think it helps build rapport to be open about yourself with your coworkers, especially if you work in an environment where you work a lot as a team. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/personal-life-and-work-life#post-373924 Thu, 01 Nov 2012 21:53:01 +0000 anonysquire 373924@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@spaniellove: ya lol. He's just strange. He asked me how many tattoos I had, not if I had them. Then I said I don't have any and he was like oh everyone here has them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/personal-life-and-work-life#post-373921 Thu, 01 Nov 2012 21:52:09 +0000 anonysquire 373921@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I guess I'm just not used to openness. At least not when we are strangers... He just has a really strange vibe. And I swear it's not the tranny part of him. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/personal-life-and-work-life#post-373920 Thu, 01 Nov 2012 21:51:12 +0000 spaniellove 373920@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@anonysquire: Oh I doubt he's thinking about you honestly! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/personal-life-and-work-life#post-373913 Thu, 01 Nov 2012 21:50:26 +0000 anonysquire 373913@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@spaniellove: we work graveyards so some days there is a lot of down time. Ya the misfit thing didn't bug me, just wondering why I come across as a misfit to him lol. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/personal-life-and-work-life#post-373868 Thu, 01 Nov 2012 21:37:10 +0000 spaniellove 373868@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@anonysquire: I think the misfit comment might have been an attempt to bond, although it didn't exactly come across too well. Maybe he's in a place with his identity where expression is a huge priority. Telling you he's trans is one thing, but I'm surprised he had four hours on the job to keep talking about anything. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/personal-life-and-work-life#post-373835 Thu, 01 Nov 2012 21:28:47 +0000 pinkcupcake 373835@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I try to keep work &amp; personal life very, very separate, but I've noticed there are some people who don't seem to mind sharing everything... I usually just listen politely and make my getaway as quickly as possible. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/personal-life-and-work-life#post-373777 Thu, 01 Nov 2012 21:12:54 +0000 mrsjyw 373777@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think some people are just a lot more open about personal things than others in a workplace setting. It's kind of rude what he said about "misfits" and calling you one, but at this point, I'd take it with a grain of salt. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/personal-life-and-work-life#post-373762 Thu, 01 Nov 2012 21:09:03 +0000 Alivoo01 373762@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Interesting break chat! Guess people are more "open" now days. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/personal-life-and-work-life#post-373391 Thu, 01 Nov 2012 19:36:09 +0000 anonysquire 373391@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: Well I guess I understand that it was just kind of strange how he said it. Like we were on break chatting and he asked me if I was wondering why his hair was long, and I was like no, some boys have long hair. Then he said its cause he's a transvestite. And then proceeded to talk about it for like 4 more hrs. Which is cool, but I'm not big on talking. </p> <p>He then told me that I am lucky to be able to witness this journey with him. And then said this company only hires misfits and I must be a misfit. Anyways he was kind of all over the place. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/personal-life-and-work-life#post-373375 Thu, 01 Nov 2012 19:32:15 +0000 mrbee 373375@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's not uncommon for some who is trans to put it out there early in a meeting.</p> <p>Life as someone transgender is so hard that I'm willing to do small things that make things easier. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/personal-life-and-work-life#post-373343 Thu, 01 Nov 2012 19:21:12 +0000 anonysquire 373343@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So I just started a second job this week. It's always a little stressful trying to get a new routine down. Anyways on my second night I worked with a normal looking male with long curly blonde hair and painted nails. I just thought he liked nail polish or something. Anyways we worked together and he then told me that he is a transvestite. Which is great for him, really cool that he is finding himself or whatever. But do you think it was nessecary to tell me on my second night of work, first time meeting him. So far at my second job no one knows anything about my personal life, and I'll probably keep it that way. How far is too much information for you guys? </p> <p>And for the record I'm not a homophobe or anything, it's just still foreign to me, </p>