https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 06 May 2026 13:00:17 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pet-peeve-assuming-my-son-is-rough-cause-he-is-a-boy#post-2885035 Mon, 20 May 2019 10:21:46 +0000 pachamama 2885035@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yeah my son is rough, not terribly so, but way more physical than every girl I know. I think the stereotype exists for a reason 😂 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pet-peeve-assuming-my-son-is-rough-cause-he-is-a-boy#post-2885001 Sun, 19 May 2019 21:16:11 +0000 Nutella 2885001@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@runnerd: haha, I’m sure it’s coming from a good place (or a genuine concern 😅) but I had more issue with when I just started hearing all these stories demonising boys in general. I got very protective I think! I also found it quite awkward when people would immediately ask if o was going to keep trying for a girl - I would joke and then say “imagine if it was another boy!” 😆 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pet-peeve-assuming-my-son-is-rough-cause-he-is-a-boy#post-2885000 Sun, 19 May 2019 19:46:06 +0000 runnerd 2885000@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Nutella: I’m all for disproving stereotypes but I think those stereotypes might be because of families like mine. I do have 2 rough (but also incredibly sweet and kind hearted) boys 😂 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pet-peeve-assuming-my-son-is-rough-cause-he-is-a-boy#post-2884999 Sun, 19 May 2019 18:02:10 +0000 lamariniere 2884999@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@cyoung: I can relate! My 8yo DS has always been the sweet, sensitive type and my 5yo girl is much more of a daredevil. We live in a condo with a ton of kids and my son is more likely to be playing with younger kids or girls his age than running around screaming and wrecking havoc with the older boys. We also live in a culture where people perpetuate the boy/girl stereotypes, and it can be annoying. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pet-peeve-assuming-my-son-is-rough-cause-he-is-a-boy#post-2884998 Sun, 19 May 2019 17:57:19 +0000 bees_knees 2884998@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Amen! (Mother of 3 boys here!) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pet-peeve-assuming-my-son-is-rough-cause-he-is-a-boy#post-2884997 Sun, 19 May 2019 17:54:27 +0000 Nutella 2884997@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@cyoung: ugh yes - I have two boys and when my youngest was born (&amp; when I was pregnant) I got a lot of rude comments about how boys are the most hard work, and I had friends saying they would hope their second was a girl because two boys... :meh:<br /> They are so sweet and loving, and now I can eye roll when people say stupid things. But it was annoying AF when I heard people wax lyrical about how much worse boys were and how having girls is so much better for the mother when she got older 🙄🙄🙄 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pet-peeve-assuming-my-son-is-rough-cause-he-is-a-boy#post-2884996 Sun, 19 May 2019 16:18:29 +0000 wrkbrk 2884996@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, I also can’t stand it. Especially when it comes from daycare teachers bc my son naturally believes everything they say! (He’s 3). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pet-peeve-assuming-my-son-is-rough-cause-he-is-a-boy#post-2884994 Sun, 19 May 2019 15:35:48 +0000 SweetCaroline 2884994@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@cyoung: That is annoying!</p> <p>A coworkers is constantly telling me how easy I have it, because I have a girl. Boys are much harder. STFU. I don't know if that is true or not because I don't have boys. She doesn't know either, she does not have girls. Furthermore, she has not raised my girl and all children are different, sooo... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pet-peeve-assuming-my-son-is-rough-cause-he-is-a-boy#post-2884991 Sun, 19 May 2019 14:02:15 +0000 Mrs. Turtle 2884991@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Anagram: Same. I have an exuberant, rough, loud girl with minimal impulse control, and people either say that, or they think something is wrong with her because she doesn't fit their image of what a girl should be. She does, however, wear a tiara constantly. :grin: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pet-peeve-assuming-my-son-is-rough-cause-he-is-a-boy#post-2884990 Sun, 19 May 2019 13:20:05 +0000 ALV91711 2884990@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Annoying. DS1 is so kind &amp; caring. He is so calm and doesn’t take much risk. My niece on the other hand is loud &amp; crazy and a daredevil. </p> <p>I get lots of sympathy looks or comments because I have two boys! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pet-peeve-assuming-my-son-is-rough-cause-he-is-a-boy#post-2884989 Sun, 19 May 2019 12:41:05 +0000 cyoung 2884989@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Littlebit7: omg that my daughter. She does so many things it irritate her brother. Shell steal his cars all the time. Bless his heart!!</p> <p> @Anagram: I've had a few friends with only boys tell me I have it easy cause I'm gonna have two girls. Like no lol...kids are kids and all kids can be easy or hard besides gender Haha<br /> My daughter is a daredevil too. My husband says one day my daughter will be up a tree one day and not even care. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pet-peeve-assuming-my-son-is-rough-cause-he-is-a-boy#post-2884987 Sun, 19 May 2019 12:31:47 +0000 Anagram 2884987@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@cyoung: ha! Opposite but similar problem here. If I ever complain to my friends who are “boy moms” about how energetic/clumsy/daredevil with a side of risky behaviors my 2nd girl is, I always get comments like “imagine how much worse it would be if she were a boy!”. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pet-peeve-assuming-my-son-is-rough-cause-he-is-a-boy#post-2884986 Sun, 19 May 2019 12:17:11 +0000 Littlebit7 2884986@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Same in our house. My older daughter is WAY more rough. My son is so sweet and cuddly. My daughter was never cuddly; she only sits on my lap now because it make her brother mad. </p> <p>It’s frustrating. Sometimes I think people can’t think of anything to say when it comes to kids if they aren’t in the trenches themselves, so they resort to the easiest things to say. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pet-peeve-assuming-my-son-is-rough-cause-he-is-a-boy#post-2884983 Sun, 19 May 2019 09:48:06 +0000 cyoung 2884983@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Dahlia: yeah my daughter is similar at times. I hate that people do this. </p> <p>Like I'm never mean to people who say this. I normally just jokingly correct them (if I even feel the need to) and move on. I still smile and I'm nice. It's just bothers me at times. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pet-peeve-assuming-my-son-is-rough-cause-he-is-a-boy#post-2884978 Sun, 19 May 2019 09:04:47 +0000 Dahlia 2884978@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, this drives me nuts! I have a girl who is very into dolls and everyone always makes comments about how girly or motherlike she is. And is she is, but she also loves playing in dirt, riding her bike, and playing pretty rough. And I hear all the time about how the little boys we know are rough and wild "because they're boys." Yeah, sure. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pet-peeve-assuming-my-son-is-rough-cause-he-is-a-boy#post-2884977 Sun, 19 May 2019 08:57:46 +0000 gotkimchi 2884977@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ugh tell them to stfu. My mil always says boys don’t do well in school. Like yah probably not with that attitude. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pet-peeve-assuming-my-son-is-rough-cause-he-is-a-boy#post-2884975 Sun, 19 May 2019 08:50:24 +0000 cyoung 2884975@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Man I normally don't rant. I guess I want to see if other moms with boys have this issue. I swear 9 times out of 10 people assume because my son is boy he is naturally more "rough" or more "mischievous" and will be a hand full. I know it's a stereotype in the US but honestly it's not always true. It shouldn't bother me but my son is sweetest, most gentle kid. He does have a lot energy but never is "rough." He will kiss and hug his stuffed animals and be more affectionate then my daughter. He is tender hearted at times and is so sweet. My daughter is the rough one. She throws her babies and stuffed animals and pokes them in the eyes lol. (She is sweet but in her own way) But she out of both my kids is the mischievous one or the one who will pick on her brother.<br /> Like I know at the end of the day it probably doesn't matter. I just have family member who make that comment a lot. </p> <p>Any other moms have this similar pet peeve or issue? Any other pet peeves? </p>