https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 17 Jun 2026 08:03:57 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/photographer-advice#post-1883230 Tue, 30 Sep 2014 16:53:40 +0000 cheert16 1883230@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@youboots: good to see it from the other side! maybe it will be a relief for her!<br /> @catomd00: she wont accept money- so I buy her gift cards and gifts for doing them! I always offer to pay her the regular rate first- when she says no- I give her a gift card or gift equal to what a typical client would be paying!<br /> @birdofafeather: hopefully she takes it that well!! :-) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/photographer-advice#post-1883155 Tue, 30 Sep 2014 15:52:51 +0000 catomd00 1883155@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Do you pay your friend? If not, it kind of sounds like she's over doing work for free...</p> <p>If you don't have anything scheduled with her, I wouldn't mention you hired anyone else unless she brings it up. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/photographer-advice#post-1883146 Tue, 30 Sep 2014 15:48:50 +0000 youboots 1883146@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm also a photographer, and while I'm happy to do portraits of friends and family sometimes it is not my favorite, because I tend to be much more flexible and not enforce my normal policies. I have recently had a close friend reschedule on me two times this summer. (Not saying this is the case at all) What I am trying to say is she might be relieved to be put back in the friend zone. When I have shot friends weddings I am always happy when they hired another family photographer. </p> <p>The one exception is my best friend who is also a photographer @vegmama and we have more of an open trade agreement that's works for us. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/photographer-advice#post-1883046 Tue, 30 Sep 2014 14:35:43 +0000 birdofafeather 1883046@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>As a photographer myself, I would like an upfront, "hey, sorry the dates weren't working out, so we hired someone else!" I've had that happen, no harm, no foul! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/photographer-advice#post-1883041 Tue, 30 Sep 2014 14:33:52 +0000 Adira 1883041@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree with @Mrs. Jump Rope:'s wording!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/photographer-advice#post-1882968 Tue, 30 Sep 2014 13:59:24 +0000 cheert16 1882968@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Jump Rope: that's a nice way of saying it!!!</p> <p>@loki: yeah- that's what I should of done.... but I already booked the other photographer! urg- I was in a mood and just did it without thinking about the repercussions! I think I will use this approach still though- using part of what @Mrs. Jump Rope: said- and what you said! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/photographer-advice#post-1882963 Tue, 30 Sep 2014 13:57:20 +0000 loki 1882963@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i would definitely talk to her before i booked. i would just say something like hey listen, i know you're super busy so i'm thinking of booking this other photographer so i can get the photos done while the trees are nice. i love your photos but don't wanna stress you out. thoughts?<br /> and she will hopefully be like no worries! and it will be a stress relief for her. i wouldn't lie or just not tell her. i think that could cause way more hurt feelings than being straight up. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/photographer-advice#post-1882932 Tue, 30 Sep 2014 13:36:50 +0000 Mrs. Jump Rope 1882932@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@cheert16: I would just tell her, "I'm sorry we couldn't find a date that works for both of us! I went ahead and booked someone, so please don't worry about us!" </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/photographer-advice#post-1882930 Tue, 30 Sep 2014 13:34:12 +0000 Mrs.KMM 1882930@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@cheert16: I recommend upfront. Letting her find out through FB just feels passive-aggressive to me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/photographer-advice#post-1882927 Tue, 30 Sep 2014 13:31:59 +0000 cheert16 1882927@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: I feel like I should mention something upfront too! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/photographer-advice#post-1882918 Tue, 30 Sep 2014 13:27:12 +0000 mrbee 1882918@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@cheert16: I would mention something upfront. Maybe give her one last chance to do the pictures before she leaves on vacation? If she says no, then you can book the other photographer guilt-free! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/photographer-advice#post-1882901 Tue, 30 Sep 2014 13:21:18 +0000 cheert16 1882901@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: I am scared of this conflict too- I just know she is going to be pissed- but I gave her the chance and she was weird about it!<br /> @Mrs.KMM: @Mrs. Jump Rope: @mrs.shinerbock: You are all right! </p> <p>Do you think she would be more hurt if I let her find out via social media- as opposed to mentioning something upfront? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/photographer-advice#post-1882806 Tue, 30 Sep 2014 12:45:11 +0000 mrs.shinerbock 1882806@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Stress that you really love the pictures that she has done and that you look forward to having more, but that you did not want to put pressure on her to get them done between her vacation and the holidays. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/photographer-advice#post-1882790 Tue, 30 Sep 2014 12:37:51 +0000 Mrs. Jump Rope 1882790@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't even tell her, to be honest. I don't see why you need to come out and say it.</p> <p>When she asks, I'd be honest. You tried to set a date and book her, but she gave you the run around and nothing was ever set in stone. You didn't have a firm date. </p> <p>This is important to you and I understand the need and want for a scheduled day and time for this to be done. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/photographer-advice#post-1882777 Tue, 30 Sep 2014 12:28:31 +0000 Adira 1882777@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so scared of conflict that I probably wouldn't really say anything and then if she asks about it at some point, I'd say what @Mrs.KMM: suggested - that your availabilities didn't seem to be lining up and you had a friend recommend this photographer who was available when you needed her, so you went with her. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/photographer-advice#post-1882671 Tue, 30 Sep 2014 11:35:38 +0000 Mrs.KMM 1882671@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Just tell her that your availability / dates needed didn't align with when she could take the photos. It is hard to argue or be upset about that </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/photographer-advice#post-1882639 Tue, 30 Sep 2014 11:18:27 +0000 cheert16 1882639@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So my best friend started a photography business and has done a lot of great pictures of my son. I have been asking her since June to do some family pictures for us since we will soon be a family of 4- I wanted to have some of when we are still a family of 3. She has been really weird about it and never wants to set a date to take the pictures. She then tells me that newborn pictures for LO#2 will have to wait till she is back from vacation (gone Nov. 15-Dec 22) My due date is 12/13/14- which should be fine- but we are talking 3 days before Christmas and she will have been gone the whole month- I am feeling doubtful that she will be able to take them in a timely manner (aka within the 10 day window)<br /> Since we are getting closer to my due date (and the foliage here in NE is beautiful) I looked into other photographers to do our pictures. I got a great recommendation for someone - and her prices are great, pictures are awesome and she was available this upcoming weekend for family pictures- perfect! I also inquired about doing some newborn shots for when Baby girl arrives in Dec- again her prices are right and she will come to the house and make it super easy on us! Exactly what we need.<br /> Now the big dilemma- how do I tell my best friend that I am hiring someone else??? I have gone back and forth on just not telling her and hopes that she doesn't see any of the pictures (unlikely because she stalks this other photographer on FB) and then I was going to make up a story about someone gifting them to me..... but I just need to be honest- and I am super nervous.... Advice? What would you do? </p>