https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 15 May 2026 05:45:35 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pickiness-that-just-keeps-getting-pickier#post-2735871 Mon, 15 May 2017 01:24:40 +0000 sarac 2735871@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@DesertDreams88: Hello fellow adult picky eater! I too wish that I'd had the kind of help that kids get now. I struggled to maintain a healthy weight, but my life is ok. It's not the end of the world. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pickiness-that-just-keeps-getting-pickier#post-2735864 Sun, 14 May 2017 22:07:34 +0000 Pancakes 2735864@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Cherrybee: I really feel for you. My oldest is very picky and I feel like it has gotten worse (she's 6). I really struggle with not reacting emotionally to her food refusals. I recently took a class on feeding disorders in children, and we were told that if a child eats fewer than 30 foods, then that is one indicator of a feeding disorder, so that's something to think about. In the US, speech language pathologists often diagnose and treat feeding issues, along with OT. I don't know if you would need a referral from your DD's primary care provider, but that might be a place to start. I've also heard great things about Ellyn Satter, but I've had a hard time getting my husband on board. It's so frustrating, and I hope you find a solution that improves things for your family. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pickiness-that-just-keeps-getting-pickier#post-2735829 Sun, 14 May 2017 19:26:51 +0000 DesertDreams88 2735829@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>*hugs* I know it must be so, so, so hard.<br /> I know this because I regularly only eat 6-8 foods.<br /> 85% of my days I eat Cheerios for breakfast, whole grain spaghetti for lunch, and pizza or macaroni and cheese for dinner. And that macaroni is only one of two shapes, with a certain kind of cheese. I take a daily multivitamin. I wish I weren't this way, but not enough that I'm going to force myself to eat things I gag on all the time. </p> <p>This has made my life difficult in many ways (socializing, Non-American restaurants), but simpler in many ways (groceries, cooking). </p> <p>I think getting a feeding specialist would have helped me a ton; my friend did with her child and she said it was one of the parenting decisions she ever made. I try to do food chaining here and there and it has helped. </p> <p>But, in the end, if your daughter never really expands her palate, take comfort in this.... as of now at age 28, I have always had excellent health. I have extensive blood panels done every other year. I had a healthy pregnancy and nursed my healthy baby for 16 months and counting. I sleep well, hiked and ran regularly before LO, and maintain a healthy weight. Cheerios and vitamins do wonders. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pickiness-that-just-keeps-getting-pickier#post-2735822 Sun, 14 May 2017 19:20:29 +0000 MrsSRS 2735822@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Maybe try reading Ellyn Satter's book?<br /> I know people with run of the mill picky toddlers and people with sensory issues and so far everyone who has tried this approach with consistency has had success. Worth a shot?<br /> <a href="http://www.ellynsatterinstitute.org/" rel="nofollow">http://www.ellynsatterinstitute.org/</a> </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pickiness-that-just-keeps-getting-pickier#post-2735784 Sun, 14 May 2017 16:21:52 +0000 Foodnerd81 2735784@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Cherrybee: yes I just reread my post- want to emphasize that C is being very much like this. And I have been catering more and more to the point that she's like "I wish this macaroni and cheese was shell shaped" and "I don't like these chicken nuggets". And I'm like, if you are going to complain about these not even healthy crap kid food I'm giving you, forget it. Plus then I end up giving G the same crap kid food and feeling guilty about that, and g is getting picky now too. So far she's done ok, and isn't awfully grumpy usually. But we still have the same breakfasts and lunches all the time and sometimes she complains about those too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pickiness-that-just-keeps-getting-pickier#post-2735783 Sun, 14 May 2017 16:16:40 +0000 Cherrybee 2735783@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@looch: great, thank you; it's a starting point. I genuinely think that E is weirded out by some foods (but is deliberately being difficult other times). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pickiness-that-just-keeps-getting-pickier#post-2735777 Sun, 14 May 2017 16:06:33 +0000 looch 2735777@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Cherrybee: Well, I know it's different in the US, but basically, I had begun with the nutritionist that was on staff with our pediatrician's office. That led me to an oral motor specialist, then an occupational therapist and ultimately a feeding therapist. It was process of elimination to the extreme to diagnose my son, but finally figured it out this year.</p> <p>He started eating everything and then gradually began eliminating things from his diet. I thought it was control issues, but it turned out to be a motor problem this entire time.</p> <p>I am reading a book called "Food Chaining" that covers a lot of ground. It might give you some ideas on what you can do. A lot of the advice that you might get is from Ellyn Satter, but when none of that stuff worked with my son (I now know why), I started looking around. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pickiness-that-just-keeps-getting-pickier#post-2735772 Sun, 14 May 2017 16:01:50 +0000 Cherrybee 2735772@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Foodnerd81: I've just reread your post and realised that you're also saying that C was/is the same! That is such a relief! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pickiness-that-just-keeps-getting-pickier#post-2735771 Sun, 14 May 2017 15:59:55 +0000 Cherrybee 2735771@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Foodnerd81: the problem with that approach is she is such a grumpy madam when she's hungry..... and, oh God, does it make mealtimes unpleasant when she's whining about not liking things and freaking out because there's something offensive on her plate. Yeah, she eats a little at school but shes coming back with more and more uneaten stuff in her lunchbox.... and she's even difficult with my inlaws now..... </p> <p>@looch: where might one find a feeding specialist? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pickiness-that-just-keeps-getting-pickier#post-2735769 Sun, 14 May 2017 15:48:18 +0000 looch 2735769@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have a problem eater, not a picky eater, so my perspective is totally different, but if I could have a redo with my son, I would have taken him to a feeding specialist much sooner than I did.</p> <p>There are methods to deal with this kind of stuff, so don't despair. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pickiness-that-just-keeps-getting-pickier#post-2735768 Sun, 14 May 2017 15:19:35 +0000 Foodnerd81 2735768@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would lose it too. Which of course isn't the best way to deal with it but that's really hard. </p> <p>She still eats at school and with your inlaws? Can you just say eff it and feed her (tiny portions) of whatever you eat knowing for a while it will end up getting tossed? C is getting similar and I've decided to stop catering to her. Lunches are usually ok still but I'm just making her and G something similar to what DH and I eat. I include something healthy she usually likes (like carrots or tomatoes). Sometimes she eat a few bites of the "offensive" food (usually any meat) and some veggies. It's not much but since she was just getting pickier I gave up trying. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pickiness-that-just-keeps-getting-pickier#post-2735755 Sun, 14 May 2017 14:44:08 +0000 Cherrybee 2735755@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I lost my temper at the dinner table again today. Like, really lost it. :crying: I don't know why this particular issue gets my goat so much.... </p> <p>E has never been a huge fan of food. She never loved solids as a baby and would only eat a few foods as a toddler. Her acceptable foods were toast, crumpets, fish fingers, chicken nuggets and sausages, French fries, yoghurt, apples and cake, and pasta with smooth sauce. I gave up feeding her actual, real food because it just ends up in the bin. But, of late, one by one, she has started to refuse even the foods she used to like..... It started with the crusts on her toast, then toast altogether - she won't eat it if it's crispy, it has to be soggy (but not so much it makes her fingers sticky). She makes me cut the edges off her crumpets because they are slightly crispy. Then it was the coating on nuggets and fish fingers - I have to "peel" them (but she won't even try actual chicken or fish because it's not uniform in colour and shape). Then it was fries, she won't eat crispy ones and agonises over every fleck on the others. Then it was sausages - she didn't like the ends or the skin - and I would have to peel them too. Then today she even refused to eat the peeled sausages because she said they had bits in them (she was looking at tiny, tiny flecks of differences of shade in the sausage meat). </p> <p>Today she ate virtually nothing. Her toast was yucky. Her sandwiches were too crusty (they were made with soft bread with crusts cut off but went dry because she wouldn't eat them) and her sausages had bits in. The potato alphabet letters were too crispy. She ate two slices of apple before bed (after I yelled at her). </p> <p>What am I going to do? </p>