https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 06 Apr 2026 09:31:55 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pissing-contests#post-98880 Thu, 22 Mar 2012 08:40:55 +0000 Andrea 98880@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Maysprout: there are certain situations where i don't want people to feel bad so the lying makes more sense. my friend's LO is about the same age and she's so excited that he can say "car" now. it would just be too cruel to tell her that my LO is speaking in sentences. i don't want to stress her out and make her think that her son is delayed. so i just mumble something and move on when she asks me what my LO can say. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pissing-contests#post-98875 Thu, 22 Mar 2012 08:36:29 +0000 tequiero21 98875@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Maysprout: i don't think there's any point in lying. i say just state when your LO hit the milestone. if they feel stupid, maybe they won't ask you anymore. they're the ones asking you! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pissing-contests#post-98769 Thu, 22 Mar 2012 02:58:23 +0000 looch 98769@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My son isn't a great sleeper and apparently every one else's kids are Olympic level sleepers...I am talking needing to be woken up after 13 hours of night time sleep. So naturally, the first question everyone seems to ask is if my son sleeps through the night. </p> <p>At first, I got angry about it. Now, I've talked to a lot of other moms about it and have found some humor in the situation. I just say something along the lines of "No, he's not a great sleeper, but at least I won't have to worry about waking him up early to go to school" or something like that. Then I change the subject, to something about what book the parents are reading, what movie they recently liked, etc. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pissing-contests#post-98763 Thu, 22 Mar 2012 02:48:15 +0000 Boogs 98763@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I hear this one mom pulling that crap all the time at swim lessons. That's exactly why I'm not friendly towards her and don't talk to her at all. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pissing-contests#post-98724 Wed, 21 Mar 2012 22:25:52 +0000 Red 98724@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't see anything wrong with actually being truthful about your LO's milestones if it's apparent that you're not bragging or being competitive. If the other parents take issue with it, that's their issue. Luckily, my mommy friends all know that kids develop at different rates and don't fall into the competitive trap - otherwise, they wouldn't be my friends.</p> <p>And, IMO, there's nothing wrong with being proud of your LO so bragging once in a while is ok in my book too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pissing-contests#post-98695 Wed, 21 Mar 2012 21:22:53 +0000 Maysprout 98695@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Andrea: Ha! Nice to know someone else does this too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pissing-contests#post-98689 Wed, 21 Mar 2012 21:08:19 +0000 Andrea 98689@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I also don't say anything about my LO or when asked, lie in the opposite direction, too! Or usually it is just apparent. Like my SIL always likes to brag and say how many words her daughter (2 months older) knows but when we're together, the girl doesn't speak very much. Meanwhile, my daughter actually does say a lot of words in front of her so that just speaks for itself...literally. It was hilarious when my 4 year old nephew pointed out "Wow, she talks so much more than my sister". Uh-huh. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pissing-contests#post-98686 Wed, 21 Mar 2012 21:06:08 +0000 Nskillet 98686@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Maysprout: Have you considered answering honestly but redirecting? Example : Baby Sprout hit this milestone a bit earlier but you know all children develop at different rates, maybe she/he will tie their shoes late! Doesnt matter as long as they're happy/healthy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pissing-contests#post-98682 Wed, 21 Mar 2012 21:00:13 +0000 Maysprout 98682@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@chopsuey119: I hibernate all winter but then I talk about a mile a minute to anyone who will listen to me once it gets to be warm weather and I can go outside again. Most people are great, and put up with the crazy lady (me) who walks up to them and says basically you have a baby, I have a baby, lets be friends. But then there's some who I think could be nice once we get the pissing contest out of the way. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pissing-contests#post-98681 Wed, 21 Mar 2012 20:52:53 +0000 Maysprout 98681@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: Yeah, that definitely seems to works but they usually at some point ask about my LO. If I've just been saying oh that's great and my LO hit a milestone after, then it's all good and I can tell the truth. If my LO however hit the milestone first then I feel stuck, especially if I've just been saying oh that's great about their LO. So then I lie and pretend like LO didn't hit the milestone first, or I find a milestone that she hit a bit later than normal to counterbalance the earlier one. </p> <p>@artbee: I think it's because I live in a university town so a lot of the people work for the university and are competitive people anyways. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pissing-contests#post-98679 Wed, 21 Mar 2012 20:48:36 +0000 chopsuey 98679@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I haven't run into any competitive moms! I don't go out on too many play dates and haven't talked to many moms in general though. :P </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pissing-contests#post-98677 Wed, 21 Mar 2012 20:45:41 +0000 MsMini 98677@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would avoid that type of person like the plague, and if I couldn't I wouldn't enter any type of discussion that could lead to competitive talk. I just don't think it is worth it to get into. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pissing-contests#post-98673 Wed, 21 Mar 2012 20:43:47 +0000 mrbee 98673@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I just never mention anything about our kids' development when I'm with someone like that. Or if the other person does, I keep the focus on their child and say something like, "Wow, that's great. She's developing so well!" </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pissing-contests#post-98669 Wed, 21 Mar 2012 20:41:55 +0000 heffalump 98669@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I haven't really run into that. I do have a friend that seems kind of competitive ... but my lo's older so.she.always wins. I think for the most part I would just try to stay away from that kind of person though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pissing-contests#post-98668 Wed, 21 Mar 2012 20:38:06 +0000 Maysprout 98668@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We've been meeting more parents out and about and most have been lovely. A few though I've felt like are kind of aggressive when we've been chatting and want to get in a pissing contest about everything from our LO to ourselves. I usually end up putting myself down or lying about milestones (not in the good direction) so as not to give the impression of competing but I feel like there's probably a better way of tackling this problem. </p> <p>Any masters of conversation that know how to undue the pissing without offending, lying or just walking away? </p>