https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 17 Jun 2026 20:46:43 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/planning-when-to-ttc-around-health-issues#post-173653 Wed, 30 May 2012 14:11:51 +0000 tororojo 173653@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@artbee: Ahh, that make sense that your LO would be a little young to help out with the new babies very much. I absolutely understand that your family will be excited about all grandkids, I just meant that other people (acquaintances, people at church/school/wherever) may steer a disproportionate of their attention to the triplets. It sounds like that's not something that would bother you, and it very likely wouldn't even happen in your situation, it was just something to consider. I see how much attention is showered on my cousin's triplets, while their slightly younger cousin gets overlooked sometimes (even at her baby shower--the whole time people kept asking how the triplets were doing and steering the conversation back to them instead of the expectant mom we were supposed to be celebrating!). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/planning-when-to-ttc-around-health-issues#post-173616 Wed, 30 May 2012 13:51:10 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 173616@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@artbee: Ah, got it...</p> <p>Well, I'm sure whatever you decide will be the right decision :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/planning-when-to-ttc-around-health-issues#post-173575 Wed, 30 May 2012 13:30:21 +0000 heffalump 173575@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@jessiejo17: The surgery helps with the migraines, but doesn't cure them. The goal is to have them be 50% better. I had them daily after LO and now it's 1-2 times a week. But I've learned that pregnancy migraines are a whole different story, so I'm just not going to count on it working then.</p> <p>@Mrs. Jacks: I'm not worried about when my next baby is born. I'm worried about when I'm pregnant because that's when the migraines are bad and I can't take any real meds for them so I just have to suffer. And DH works so he can't help me take care of LO during the day.</p> <p>@tororojo: LO is only 10 months now. We wanted them to be 2 years apart, but that means I'd have to get pregnant when LO is younger and she wouldn't be the helper age yet. I really don't think that my LO's would get any less attention because of the triplets. My parents will be crazy excited about any and every grandchild that they have..... and my mom even says that my LO will always be the most special grandchild because she was the first. Plus I could care less if I get attention while pregnant, I'm not one for being center of attention anyway so I'd prefer not to have any. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/planning-when-to-ttc-around-health-issues#post-173557 Wed, 30 May 2012 13:16:54 +0000 tororojo 173557@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My cousin has triplets and her sister (also my cousin) had a daughter about 6 months after they were born. The thing is, when you're wrangling 3 babies already, I don't think adding another kid to the mix changes things a whole lot. That's not to say that it's easy, but when you have more kids than arms you learn to deal with chaos to a certain extent. I'm not sure how old your LO is (2? 3?), but s/he will probably enjoy "helping" grandma out with the babies once they're here, which will help prepare for a new sibling, and if you guys have a baby while the triplets are really young, he/she will have 3 cousins similar in age to run around and play with, which is great! </p> <p>Another thing to think about: triplets get a TON of attention (huge birthday parties, people are always gawking/asking questions/saying how extraordinary the mom is to manage all of it/giving extra gifts and baby swag) and a child born really soon afterward will not get nearly as much attention from people in general, plus your pregnancy won't seem as exciting in comparison to them (although it absolutely is!). If that's something that would bother you (this might be affected by how relaxed or competitive relationships in the family are), it could give you more peace to wait a little while and cut down on potential rivalry later. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/planning-when-to-ttc-around-health-issues#post-173421 Wed, 30 May 2012 11:43:05 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 173421@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We just decided to suck it up and cluster the babies. We don't have a ton of help or support in our new town, but between the two of us we can tag team and get it done. I didn't want my girls to be that far apart in age and I didn't want to be 65 when the youngest was graduating high school :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/planning-when-to-ttc-around-health-issues#post-173330 Wed, 30 May 2012 10:52:27 +0000 LuLu Mom 173330@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think if you are sure your recent surgery isn't going to correct the migraines when you are pregnant, then you need to think about your current LO first. I know it stinks when you get the urge to start TTC, but if you aren't going to have the help you might cause even more stress for yourself/causing more pain. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/planning-when-to-ttc-around-health-issues#post-173329 Wed, 30 May 2012 10:52:14 +0000 chopsuey 173329@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@artbee: Age was definitely a concern of mine too, but I think you should be fine. I had LO when I was 31, will have #2 at almost 33! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/planning-when-to-ttc-around-health-issues#post-173314 Wed, 30 May 2012 10:48:02 +0000 Andrea 173314@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It sucks but I can see how much easier it will be once the LO is in preschool. If your mom won't be able to help that much and you can't hire a nanny, it would just be too hard! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/planning-when-to-ttc-around-health-issues#post-173313 Wed, 30 May 2012 10:47:45 +0000 heffalump 173313@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@chopsuey119: Yeah my siblings and I are all 2 1/2-3 years apart. I just also hate waiting because I feel like I'm getting old! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/planning-when-to-ttc-around-health-issues#post-173311 Wed, 30 May 2012 10:46:54 +0000 chopsuey 173311@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it's a good idea that you wait. I don't have migraines or health issues, but it's SO TIRING and HARD being pregnant with a young toddler!<br /> I always thought having kids 3 years apart was ideal. My sisters and I are all about 2 years 10 months apart and my mom said it was really easy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/planning-when-to-ttc-around-health-issues#post-173306 Wed, 30 May 2012 10:45:41 +0000 heffalump 173306@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Rubies: I'd love a nanny, but we can't afford that or daycare. We were thinking if we wait then LO will be in preschool, but even then I don't want her going full time right away. Thanks for your response, it sucks to be in this situation and good to know I'm not alone. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/planning-when-to-ttc-around-health-issues#post-173302 Wed, 30 May 2012 10:43:45 +0000 Rubies 173302@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh, friend! I can understand how sad it must feel to have to put off TTC. Would you consider hiring a nanny? How does your husband feel about it?</p> <p>For us, the desire is to have another baby soon-ish but the reality is that we need to wait a bit longer.</p> <p>HUGS. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/planning-when-to-ttc-around-health-issues#post-173291 Wed, 30 May 2012 10:39:19 +0000 heffalump 173291@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Anybody who knows me on here knows I get really bad migraines. When I was pregnant, they were even worse. I spent weeks just lying on the couch, I couldn't get up or do anything. I had to go to the er every other weekend because it just got too bad. At the time I wasn't working because we had a feeling that might happen, so I wanted to be prepared and take away migraine triggers like a stressful job.</p> <p>I'm lucky to have family close by who can help me with LO. My mom is able to take off work whenever needed because she works for my dad, and she loves watching my LO. Which would be perfect if I wanted to get pregnant again...... but my SIL is having triplets, and they'll still be pretty tiny when we're planning on TTC again. So I know my mom will be busy helping them, and probably won't have as much time for my LO. DH's parents can help some, but they own a gym so they're pretty busy there, and I don't feel like I can count on them whenever I need them. </p> <p>So we're thinking of postponing TTC. We think it might be easier if LO is a little older and more independent, plus by that time the triplets will be older so my mom might have more time for us. It just makes me really sad. Ever since LO was born I've been itching to have another one, and I really don't want to wait.</p> <p>What would you do? Any advice? </p>