https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 26 Apr 2026 04:39:12 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/please-help-how-do-you-and-your-so-split-the-sleepless-nightsearly-morning-wake-ups#post-1701988 Sun, 15 Jun 2014 23:14:43 +0000 jedeve 1701988@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@googly-eyes: agree. Sleep deprivation made my ppd worse. I felt much happier when I let DH help at night. </p> <p>You will find a rhythm that works for both of you! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/please-help-how-do-you-and-your-so-split-the-sleepless-nightsearly-morning-wake-ups#post-1701851 Sun, 15 Jun 2014 20:10:51 +0000 avivoca 1701851@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>In the beginning, DH was up with me every time she was up. When he went back to work, I took over all MOTN waking a, and now at 8 months old, I still take the MOTN wakings. I WOH and we are EBF, so when she wakes, she usually wants to eat. But there are times that I send him in to shush her and put the paci back in because she was just up.</p> <p>ETA: we no longer change her in the middle of the night unless there is poop. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/please-help-how-do-you-and-your-so-split-the-sleepless-nightsearly-morning-wake-ups#post-1701808 Sun, 15 Jun 2014 19:21:01 +0000 catlady 1701808@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it's good to have a plan but how well it goes will largely depend on your baby. I'm lucky to have a DH who split alot of the work with me in the early days. LO slept in our room for the first 3 months, so we both woke up when she woke anyway. DH would change her if she needed it and then bring her to me to nurse. Even with the help, I was exhausted. She didn't sleep well day or night, and I never got any sleep during the day. She was also close to colicky, and DH and I both knew that he had the easier daytime job. </p> <p>After I went back to work, she hit the 4 month regression and it got really, really bad. We moved her to her room and started taking shifts. Eventually, we had to sleep train, but she has done well ever since. Since then, she usually only wakes to eat, so I deal with all the MOTN wakings now and it has been manageable. She is 8 months and is getting to the point where she is STTN every so often and wakes only once otherwise. </p> <p>I think if you have a decent sleeper and/or you are able to nap in the daytime, your plan will be ok. Just be sure to have a contingency plan. I would have been deeply resentful if my DH had not helped me during our LO's worst periods. Even with two of us taking shifts, we came very close to hiring a night nurse. Meanwhile, we have friends whose baby has slept through the night since she was 3 weeks old. You just never know! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/please-help-how-do-you-and-your-so-split-the-sleepless-nightsearly-morning-wake-ups#post-1701715 Sun, 15 Jun 2014 17:20:57 +0000 Mrs. Jump Rope 1701715@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs tartan: whatever works for your family is best!</p> <p>My husband had a three week paternity leave and spent the whole three weeks waking up with me in te MOTN. Once he went back to work, I did all MOTN by choice (WAHM but on maternity leave). I slept on the couch for about 12 weeks, also by choice. After we transitioned our baby to her crib, and I was back in our bed, we split MOTN.</p> <p>If Chloe woke up before 4am, I took over. If she woke up after 4am, he took over. </p> <p>He got up at 6:15 for work anyway, so an extra two hours wasn't unreasonable. </p> <p>We made sure we both went to bed early, especially me, so we at least got a few hours of sleep before she woke up. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/please-help-how-do-you-and-your-so-split-the-sleepless-nightsearly-morning-wake-ups#post-1701692 Sun, 15 Jun 2014 16:07:31 +0000 Radish 1701692@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I always did MOTN wakes because I was nursing, but I would sleep in when she was up for the day because she was happy and content with just a bottle of pumped milk and her dad. I needed that sleep in time to get through the rest of the day on my own. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/please-help-how-do-you-and-your-so-split-the-sleepless-nightsearly-morning-wake-ups#post-1701687 Sun, 15 Jun 2014 16:03:59 +0000 Applesandbananas 1701687@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's definitely great to talk through your expectations, hopes, fears, etc. but once LO arrives, it could change. I was adamant that I'd EBF and take all the night wakings but lo had medical issues that required EPing for a few stretches and some formula supplementation so suddenly DH, who thought he'd be off the hook (which we both felt was fair since i was on mat leave and could and did sleep during the day too) got thrown into figuring out bottles and warmers and pump parts and formula! </p> <p>Our best routine, until I started EBFing, was he'd get home at 5:30, we'd eat dinner together and I'd go to bed around 7. He'd tidy up the kitchen, wash pump parts, prep bottles, etc. and hang out with LO until he was ready for bed, which was usually 12-1am (LO watched a ton of the history channel during this time but oh well, it's about surviving!) and he'd bring LO into our room and LO would usually sleep until 2 or so, depending on when DH fed him the last bottle. DH was going to be up anyway and LO slept a ton in those early months anyway, so snuggling on the couch watching tv and heating up an occasional bottle wasn't too taxing on DH after working all day. And I got to sleep from 7-2. We settled into this routine at about 4 weeks and I just made sure I pumped right before I went to bed and as soon as LO finished his bottle around 2 and it worked out. But, it was far from what I imagined when I was pregnant! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/please-help-how-do-you-and-your-so-split-the-sleepless-nightsearly-morning-wake-ups#post-1701676 Sun, 15 Jun 2014 15:50:40 +0000 Cherrybee 1701676@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I did all of the night wakings while I was on maternity leave (until she was 6.5 months old). My DH also works Saturday mornings so we used to take it in turns to lie in on Sundays. What I will say is that it was really, really hard. And lonely. I got PND and I attribute it almost entirely to lack of sleep - I was so exhausted and there was a fair bit of resentment on my part. After all, looking after a baby in the day is NOT a walk in the park and I needed to be well rested to be a good mum and to heal up physically (and bounce back from my PND). When I went back to work, DH started to do more night wakings and it really, really eased the burden on me not least because I *felt* supported...... life got better then..... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/please-help-how-do-you-and-your-so-split-the-sleepless-nightsearly-morning-wake-ups#post-1701667 Sun, 15 Jun 2014 15:41:45 +0000 Rockies11 1701667@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was on a long mat leave and did all of the night wake-ups and the mornings, and had DH look after her for a couple of naps every weekend. She is EBF so it made sense from that perspective but also I could be a SAHM on little/no sleep, he could not do his job on little/no sleep, so practically speaking that was the best choice. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/please-help-how-do-you-and-your-so-split-the-sleepless-nightsearly-morning-wake-ups#post-1701647 Sun, 15 Jun 2014 15:19:07 +0000 googly-eyes 1701647@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>As others have said it will depend a lot on your baby.</p> <p>I feel that it's really dangerous for my dh to be out on patrol without adequate sleep, but we have adjusted our expectations of what "adequate" means since becoming parents. He's spent quite a bit of time on nights since lo was born so it's not like I've totally had a choice but I do the majority of nights/early mornings. (eta- she is a toddler now so we don't have too many night wakings.) In the beginning I worried about dh so much I told him not to help because I wanted to make sure he was rested. That I regret. And I think it at least worsened the ppd/ppa I went through. I learned to accept his help and trust him when he said he was or wasn't sleeping enough. I don't get mad when he sleeps in on his weekends and I don't insist on doing it all myself on the days he has to work.</p> <p>I think you will have to play it by ear. If you breastfeed you'll be getting up anyway but it's still reasonable for him to get up and put lo back to sleep. I would have him getting up on the weekends to start, and then either let him have that sixth day or not based on how you are feeling. It doesn't need to be one set schedule all the time. It probably won't work out that way anyway. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/please-help-how-do-you-and-your-so-split-the-sleepless-nightsearly-morning-wake-ups#post-1701595 Sun, 15 Jun 2014 14:22:09 +0000 Mrs Green Grass 1701595@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it will depend on your baby. If you are nursing, you might as well be the one to get up...but if he's taking a bottle, maybe your dh can get up one time on particularly bad nights. </p> <p>We did every other waking, but had a baby who slept pretty well. At the beginning, he would go to bed early and if stay up late, then he'd do morning. That might be an option for you too... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/please-help-how-do-you-and-your-so-split-the-sleepless-nightsearly-morning-wake-ups#post-1701559 Sun, 15 Jun 2014 13:34:25 +0000 Sapphiresun 1701559@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH is in the same profession as yours, so I also really protect his sleep on work days. It's just too dangerous for him to be over tired.</p> <p>I'm still nursing at 10 months, so I tend to do most of the MOTN wake ups, since that's likely what she wants, so I'd be getting up anyway. And especially in the early days where she woke up a fair bit, I had the "luxury" of being able to nap when she napped. And DH just had to get over the fact that some days the house was a disaster and no dinner made. </p> <p>As for early morning wake ups, DH is really not a morning person, so I tended to do most of those too. Maybe 4 or 5 times since she's been born he's been the one that got up with her in the morning. That part I don't think is so fair... when I'd be up 3-4 times a night, and then still up with the baby at 6, while he peacefully slumbers in the guest room from 11pm-10am. Source of much arguing in our house, so can't say I have much advice for you there. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/please-help-how-do-you-and-your-so-split-the-sleepless-nightsearly-morning-wake-ups#post-1701556 Sun, 15 Jun 2014 13:31:57 +0000 Glitter 1701556@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I SAH and DH works fulltime.</p> <p>I usually nap in the late part of the night - from about 10 to 12. DH never falls asleep before midnight, so he feeds G pumped milk if he wakes up during this time and takes care of him.. G would wake again around 2-3 am. I would feed and change and put him back to sleep. Then he'd wake again around 6 and I would feed him then pass him to DH and go back to sleep. DH changes him and puts him back to sleep then gets ready for work at 8. </p> <p>So I nap, do one full wake up, then one feed. DH handles the first wake up, then gets about 6 straight hours of sleep, then does a half wake up (change and put down) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/please-help-how-do-you-and-your-so-split-the-sleepless-nightsearly-morning-wake-ups#post-1701543 Sun, 15 Jun 2014 13:16:28 +0000 BabyBoecksMom 1701543@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That's how we do it while I'm on leave, mainly because it's easier for me to go and pop a boob in her mouth and get her back to sleep in MOTN than it is to hear her crying the entire time it takes DH to get the bottle ready and give it to her (and listening to her cry wakes me up and I stay awake until DH gets back to bed), so I might as well do it. But if she's waking up a lot and doesn't need to eat, I send DH in to soothe her so I can get a little rest. </p> <p>If she wakes a lot, I just try to get a nap(s) in when she does during the day. It really sucks at first but you get used to it. The other thing I do is make him take her if she wakes up after he gets up, and give her to me before he leaves. That's almost an hour nap that really refreshes me in the morning, and usually keeps me going all day. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/please-help-how-do-you-and-your-so-split-the-sleepless-nightsearly-morning-wake-ups#post-1701502 Sun, 15 Jun 2014 12:29:57 +0000 mrsrain 1701502@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The first two weeks we had to wake her up every 3 hours to eat at night. So if she went down at 9pm, we'd have to feed her at 12, 3, and 6. (I pumped so he could help). We literally switched off feedings. Not sure I could have handled it on my own! *</p> <p>At two weeks we got the go-ahead to let her sleep up to four hours and let her wake us when she is hungry. Now the routine is that I feed her and put her down at 10pm (at which point we also go to bed). I get up at about 2am to feed her again and pump; DH gets up at 6 to feed her before work so I can sleep until 8. We are both getting about 7 hours a night which is great.</p> <p>* I should note that LO is still pooping at every feeding, so getting up with her requires at least one diaper change in addition to feeding her, and sometimes a change of pajamas, too. </p> <p>I think flexibility is the important thing. The proposed schedule might work great for you both, but I would go into it with the understanding that it might need to change, too, There's no telling until LO arrives. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/please-help-how-do-you-and-your-so-split-the-sleepless-nightsearly-morning-wake-ups#post-1701491 Sun, 15 Jun 2014 12:20:00 +0000 Smurfette 1701491@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I did all wake ups since I was nursing. DH slept in the room with us till 2, or the first wake up. Would change her diaper and then head to the guest room to get some sleep before work. Once I went back to work I did it all since he was back to traveling . </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/please-help-how-do-you-and-your-so-split-the-sleepless-nightsearly-morning-wake-ups#post-1701440 Sun, 15 Jun 2014 11:10:09 +0000 artsyfartsy 1701440@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I did all the MOTN wake ups when I was on mat leave and DH worked. I nursed him anyway so I would just do the diaper change too. Now that we're both working DH goes and gets T and changes his diaper and brings him to me in bed. I'm ready to nurse him and just nurse him side lying and all 3 of us go back to sleep until it's time to get up. </p> <p>Most of the time his wake up is around 4am which is when DH gets up for work so DH basically sleeps all night anyway. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/please-help-how-do-you-and-your-so-split-the-sleepless-nightsearly-morning-wake-ups#post-1701436 Sun, 15 Jun 2014 11:04:43 +0000 sunny 1701436@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I did all MOTN wake ups since we EBF and I was on mat leave. At the beginning when LO was waking up every 2 hours, DH would help me in the early evening with wake ups (like until midnight or so), but I wanted him to sleep after that since he needed to be rested for work. </p> <p>Luckily, our LO stopped pooping in her sleep pretty early on (4 months?) and we sleep trained her around 4.5 months and she started sleeping pretty well at that point so even though I still had to do 1 wake up to go get her, I didn't need to change a diaper and we just fell back asleep easily. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/please-help-how-do-you-and-your-so-split-the-sleepless-nightsearly-morning-wake-ups#post-1701387 Sun, 15 Jun 2014 10:04:15 +0000 spaniellove 1701387@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't have as much experience yet as the other posters, but can say that it's just hard to know until LO gets here. My DH also has a demanding job and gets home pretty late in the evening. </p> <p>Although it's too early for us to be on a definite schedule, I've learned that SAH with a baby and trying to keep everything together at home is no less demanding than a tough WOH job! You quickly realize that it goes on and on and there is no break from it all. I think we are happiest when we're able to split up the nights, like I take the first and last feedings and he takes the middle so that I can sleep uninterrupted and wake up early or vice versa. It was when we unintentionally stopped switching off that things got a little dicey! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/please-help-how-do-you-and-your-so-split-the-sleepless-nightsearly-morning-wake-ups#post-1701378 Sun, 15 Jun 2014 09:44:55 +0000 mrs.shinerbock 1701378@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it's a reasonable plan, but make sure that you both understand that you will end to be flexible. His job maybe super stressful, but if you are having breakdowns every day because you are sleep deprived and it's affecting your marriage, it would be time for him to step up and take some more responsibility. </p> <p>In our case, DH needs much less sleep than I do. He typically sleeps 6 hours and I need 7-8 to function. For the first 6 months or so, I did all of the MOTN wake ups because she was EBF and DH would take her in the mornings and I could sleep until he left for work. At about 6 months, I was getting super stressed out because she's not a great sleeper, so he started taking any wake up before midnight, since she didn't really need to eat and I take the rest. It works for us, but we are going to have to adjust when I go back to work soon. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/please-help-how-do-you-and-your-so-split-the-sleepless-nightsearly-morning-wake-ups#post-1701377 Sun, 15 Jun 2014 09:44:32 +0000 jedeve 1701377@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am not one of those awesome moms who could handle it all by herself! LO would poop everytime he nursed early on, which necessitated a diaper change and them being rocked back to sleep for ages. Eventually I got so sleep deprived DH had to help. I would nurse and change the baby, wake DH up, he would rock. That lasted until LO would nurse to sleep around five months. But by then motn wake ups were short, not one plus hours. When we wanted to start night weaning him, DH would go in to give him the paci. </p> <p>I work 3 days a week, and for me at least, being at work is sooo much easier than being at home if it's been a rough night. Probably completely different for your DH, but don't underestimate how hard SAH can be. You will deserve breaks and need help too! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/please-help-how-do-you-and-your-so-split-the-sleepless-nightsearly-morning-wake-ups#post-1701359 Sun, 15 Jun 2014 09:17:04 +0000 gilmoregirl 1701359@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Our baby is only 10 weeks, but in that time our balance has evolved as we've adjusted to parenthood and the needs of the baby (and ourselves).</p> <p>If that balance works for both of you and the baby, then it's fine. I would only suggest that you both be flexible and willing to change if it's not working when the baby arrives. Or if it works at first but not after six weeks. Etc. </p> <p>It's good to discuss and consider before the baby arrives though so you are both clear on the needs of the other. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/please-help-how-do-you-and-your-so-split-the-sleepless-nightsearly-morning-wake-ups#post-1701301 Sun, 15 Jun 2014 07:38:22 +0000 Modern Daisy 1701301@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>At 10 months you should be fine, but this all depends on your LO. I think it's way too early to decide on a schedule for wakeup duties since you really don't know what will be required of you at this point.</p> <p>My LO is 9 months old and STTN, the biggest inconvenience honestly is that he wakes up so early in the morning. If we go to bed early it isn't an issue, but on the weekends we always decide ahead of time who will get up with him the next morning. If you're splitting up night feedings while your DH works full time I think it's fair for you to take most of them, but no human can remain sleep deprived for too long, so he will have to help out at times to give you a break. It makes more sense to take this one day at a time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/please-help-how-do-you-and-your-so-split-the-sleepless-nightsearly-morning-wake-ups#post-1701294 Sun, 15 Jun 2014 07:27:51 +0000 Anagram 1701294@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs tartan: I think it really depends on your baby and how well you yourself can sleep with lots of wake ups (unless you have a magical well sleeping baby). My husband and I originally had a plan that I would do night wake ups during the week until I was back at work---but about 3 months in, LOs sleep started getting even worse and I started having daily breakdowns because I was so, so sleep deprived.</p> <p>1)I had (and still have!) one of the worst sleepers ever. She's 11 months old and was up at least 6 times last night. When at 3 months, her sleep regressed and she was up 8 times a night or so, I was just beside myself. By then I was EPing instead of BFing, so in the night I had to attend to her, PLUS pump, plus make bottles. I was averaging 3-4 hours a night, broken up--and that is just not sustainable.</p> <p>So at that point, my husband stepped in and we've been trading off nights ever since. 50/50 exactly.</p> <p>Also, I have problems napping during the day. I wasn't able to take even 1 nap on my whole maternity leave. Since I EPd, I would use her naps for me to pump, and her naps were so crappy she was usually up by the time I'd finished.</p> <p>As PPs said....I think it's fine for you and your husband to make a plan---but hopefully, if things don't go according to plan, he will step in and do his share.</p> <p>After I went back to work I could tell my husband definitively---staying home with a baby while being sleep deprived is not easier than going to work and being sleep deprived. It's really the same. My opinion changes if people get a chance to nap with the baby though. I didn't get that option because of pumping, but that probably would have saved my sanity. </p> <p>In any case--good luck!!! Fingers crossed you have a great sleeper. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/please-help-how-do-you-and-your-so-split-the-sleepless-nightsearly-morning-wake-ups#post-1701293 Sun, 15 Jun 2014 07:22:29 +0000 Foodnerd81 1701293@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It sounds like a reasonable plan, but remember that things change and you will have to find a groove that works with your specific baby. </p> <p>I sah and Dh works pretty long hours at a moderately stressful job. I also EBF. So I have handled almost every motn wake up, except on the really bad sleep nights when Dh would try to sooth her without feeding. It didn't make sense for him to get up with her usually since all she wanted was the boob anyway. The trade off for us was some<br /> Mornings if she woke up really early Dh would get her an play with her until se cried to be fed, then he would bring her to me in bed, which would sometimes buy me an extra hour of sleep. Now that she STTN usually he gets her in the morning and brings her to me, but she eats right away. </p> <p>On the weekends we are usually both up with her anyway, even if I try to let him sleep or vice versa, but it's fine since he STTN and sleeps until 6:30 most mornings. </p> <p>So in short I think it's a reasonable plan but you will need to be flexible. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/please-help-how-do-you-and-your-so-split-the-sleepless-nightsearly-morning-wake-ups#post-1701282 Sun, 15 Jun 2014 06:57:18 +0000 MamaMoose 1701282@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When I was on mat leave I handled all the wake ups once my husband went back to work (with a few exceptions here and there if it was a really bad night). The way I saw it taking care of the baby was my only job so I felt it was the fair thing to do. Also, if it was a really bad night, I could take a nap with the baby the next day... My husband didn't have that option. If my husband had a job where being alert could mean the difference between life and I death I would definitely want him to be well rested every day. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/please-help-how-do-you-and-your-so-split-the-sleepless-nightsearly-morning-wake-ups#post-1701280 Sun, 15 Jun 2014 06:45:52 +0000 wonderstruck 1701280@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think this is an okay plan as long as your DH doesn't treat it like a hard and fast rule that he NEVER has to get up with baby those days. My DH works 10 hour days 6 days a week, so yeah, I ended up doing almost all of the night wake-ups and on his day off we would take turns with who got to sleep in.</p> <p>But in my opinion there HAS to be some flexibility there. There will be some nights where baby is up for hours and hours and you are just completely mentally and physically drained and are going to burst into tears if you have to get up one more time or stay up any longer. And whenever one of those times did occur, all I had to do was wake DH up and say, "I really need you," and he would immediately get up and help so that I could try to sleep. And sometimes what was supposed to be his sleep-in day would end up being mine because I just really freaking needed it. And if I had to argue with him for that or he'd tried to tell me that it wasn't his night to be up with baby, it would have been hell on our marriage. So having a plan is okay, yours sounds fine and it's great that you're thinking about it in advance, but you should both understand that there absolutely must be some flexibility in the early sleep-deprived months. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/please-help-how-do-you-and-your-so-split-the-sleepless-nightsearly-morning-wake-ups#post-1701277 Sun, 15 Jun 2014 06:37:15 +0000 delight 1701277@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think you will get into a groove early on! I have handled all of the MOTN wake ups since LO was born in August. She is EBF so it made sense for me to go to her at night and early morning. I was off work for 7 months with her and then DH has been off for three. We have been lucky though and she has mostly STTN, at least 8-10 hours from early on (minute a few bumps along the way). Typically I just get up once around 5am. The nights that she was up multiple times, he would go in and try to soothe her, but then I'm just lying there listening to her cry, so I always ended up going in and nursing. This really hasn't been an issue for us at all. She wakes up at 7/730 for the day and we both get up on the weekends then to hang out all together. Anytime I have had an opportunity to "sleep in", I can hear them playing and having fun and just want to join them anyways.<br /> Now, if I hadn't EBF or if she had not been a good sleeper and I had to getup multiple times for the last 10 months things would have definitely been different. You'll have to wait and see what your situation is. I think what you described sounds "fair" though. So cool your DH is a detective! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/please-help-how-do-you-and-your-so-split-the-sleepless-nightsearly-morning-wake-ups#post-1701275 Sun, 15 Jun 2014 06:30:15 +0000 bushelandapeck 1701275@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I handled the MOTN wakeups until DS was night weaned. I was a SAHM and DH has a very stressful job so I was fine with it. He would usually get up with him on weekends and let me sleep in for a while and, in the beginning, he would often stay up later with DS so I could go to bed earlier. I haven't figured out exactly what we will do once #2 comes around as it will depend on whether or not I go back to work. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/please-help-how-do-you-and-your-so-split-the-sleepless-nightsearly-morning-wake-ups#post-1701271 Sun, 15 Jun 2014 06:26:07 +0000 Charm54 1701271@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am on mat leave for a year, and dh works full time . She STTN pretty early on , but if she ever did have a random MOTN wakeup, I did them for the most part. If she ever had a really bad night, dh would get up alongside with me to make her bottle , take over so I could go back to bed. That was always a huge help and I really appreciated it since I knew he had to be up in a few hours to go to work . </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/please-help-how-do-you-and-your-so-split-the-sleepless-nightsearly-morning-wake-ups#post-1701267 Sun, 15 Jun 2014 06:18:41 +0000 Mae 1701267@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Depends on your kid and how you can deal with being on night duty I think. My lo has been a good night sleeper since we got home from the hospital. She usually gives me 5-7 hours per night at least with 2 wake ups to feed. </p> <p>What we do is go to bed early together. I feed her and get her to sleep from 9-10 then we sleep. I wake up and feed her around 2-3 and my husband sleeps (he works I don't right now ). Then I put her back down and she wakes up to eat around 5 or 6 and I feed her. Weekdays I then hand her off so I can shower before dh goes to work. Weekends I put her back to sleep.. Which only works maybe 1/3 of the time. If she wakes up dh takes her and let's me sleep until her next feed. </p>