https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 24 Apr 2026 16:56:39 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/please-help-not-sure-what-else-to-do#post-112045 Thu, 05 Apr 2012 09:40:02 +0000 Alivoo01 112045@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Bless your heart!! Hope there's a turnaround for you soon! *hugs* </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/please-help-not-sure-what-else-to-do#post-112019 Thu, 05 Apr 2012 09:21:56 +0000 heffalump 112019@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Do you think it could be reflux? LO had so much trouble napping when she was little, and when I googled it a lot of things said that babies have trouble napping when they have reflux. LO would cry for hours and I couldn't do anything to soothe her, it was heartbreaking! Then I finally took her to the doctor, she got meds, and all of a sudden she was a happier baby. It was awesome. Also, we don't put her on her back or tummy right after a bottle because that hurts her belly and makes the reflux worse. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/please-help-not-sure-what-else-to-do#post-111995 Thu, 05 Apr 2012 08:50:16 +0000 Andrea 111995@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@BabyBoecksMom: it sounds like she is doing a great job trying to self soothe. just let her have at it then! when my LO was ready to self soothe herself to sleep, she started having fits whenever i rocked her. i was so confused, at first, and frustrated because i didn't know what was going on. so one night i just plopped her down and she fell asleep right away and never needed me to rock her again! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/please-help-not-sure-what-else-to-do#post-111946 Thu, 05 Apr 2012 08:33:26 +0000 mrs. wagon 111946@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@BabyBoecksMom: oh I just read that she sucks on her hands-- that's good!!! When Wagon Jr started that he didn't want his pacifier anymore either. She just needs to learn how to use her hands every time. We also started using a lovey (angel dear blankie) and this helped a TON. Once he learned how to self-soothe, all he needed was his blankie and his fingers and he was GREAT. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/please-help-not-sure-what-else-to-do#post-111941 Thu, 05 Apr 2012 08:32:29 +0000 mrs. wagon 111941@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>How old is she again? It definitely sounds like she's ready for some kind of sleep training. I've heard great things about the 90 minute sleep program as well. It may be time for her to learn how to self-soothe since she won't let you soothe her!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/please-help-not-sure-what-else-to-do#post-111935 Thu, 05 Apr 2012 08:30:50 +0000 BabyBoecksMom 111935@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't let her stay up longer than an hour between naps and I usually went off her signals to know that she's tired (like yawning). Once she started this, I started putting her down earlier, hoping that would help. </p> <p>I used to swaddle her because it would calm her down. But now that she's found her hands, she likes to suck on them and she HATES to be swaddled. </p> <p>It would be a lifesaver if I could get her to take a pacifier again. I know that's really all she needs to calm down, but she just won't take it. I've tried 4 different brands/shapes now, and she refuses them all. (It actually makes her more mad if I try to give it to her) </p> <p>@Andrea: thanks for the link - I'm buying that today! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/please-help-not-sure-what-else-to-do#post-111792 Thu, 05 Apr 2012 05:29:34 +0000 Andrea 111792@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When my LO was very young, she could only be up for 90 minutes max. I noticed this and then discovered that there was a whole book written about it.</p> <p><a href="http://www.amazon.com/The-90-Minute-Baby-Sleep-Program/dp/0761143114" rel="nofollow">http://www.amazon.com/The-90-Minute-Baby-Sleep-Program/dp/0761143114</a></p> <p>It was crazy but I would start my LO's nap routine about 75 minutes after she just woke up so that she would be asleep again by 90 minutes. I couldn't leave the house but she was sleeping so it was fine. I also swaddled and used a paci. </p> <p>Hang in there. We have all gone through sleep issues and are here to support and help!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/please-help-not-sure-what-else-to-do#post-111775 Thu, 05 Apr 2012 01:49:25 +0000 looch 111775@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>In the early months, I noticed that if my son was yawning, I was already too late and missed his optimal nap window. I found that monthly schedule that was floating around really helpful to tell me about how long DS should be awake between naps.</p> <p>Are you using a pacifier? I know some moms are against them, but if she's rooting, maybe she just wants to suckle a bit. I am okay with pacis at nap and bedtimes if needed. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/please-help-not-sure-what-else-to-do#post-111760 Thu, 05 Apr 2012 00:06:24 +0000 lemondrop 111760@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Have you tried going back to swaddling? We had one rough day and night about 2 weeks ago- that is the only thing that got him to fall asleep, and he usually hates swaddling. </p> <p>Anyway, hang in there, you are a good mommy! Just remember that she will change again soon, that seems to be all babies do is change. Sending happy, calm thoughts your way! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/please-help-not-sure-what-else-to-do#post-111747 Wed, 04 Apr 2012 23:11:20 +0000 Mrs. Bee 111747@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>how long is she staying up between naps? could she be overtired? by the time they get fussy, they can be overtired so starting the soothing/nap routine 15 minutes before you think you should could make a big difference. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/please-help-not-sure-what-else-to-do#post-111742 Wed, 04 Apr 2012 22:50:18 +0000 BabyBoecksMom 111742@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I really hope you guys can give me some advice. I've already broken down twice in the past 2 days because I've met my breaking point. </p> <p>My LO has been a pretty happy baby at all times and up until last week, she has been pretty good about going down for naps and at night. But now, if she has any indication that she might be going to sleep or getting tired, she starts screaming inconsolably and I can't find anything that will calm her down. She doesn't need to be fed or changed, and she's not gassy. She's just tired. </p> <p>She will no longer let me hold her like a baby to rock her... in fact, if I do that, she tries to root (even if she's just been fed) or screams bloody murder for over an hour. I can't rock her, hold her, shush her, etc... All results in her getting more and more worked up. I've tried letting her just cry - doesn't work. She ends up getting so worked up that she chokes. And she is now refusing the pacifier. </p> <p>If she does actually fall asleep, she doesn't sleep for long at all. (30 min nap instead of normal 1-2 hours, and only 4 hours at a time at night instead of 6-8 hours)</p> <p>I try to stay as calm as I can to fight through it each time, but after doing this for every nap and every bedtime, I'm exhausted. I don't understand what has made her change all of a sudden and I am absolutely out of ideas of how to solve it. It breaks my heart to see her so upset and have no way of fixing it. </p>