https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 29 Apr 2026 11:28:30 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/please-help-us-decide-doctor-left-decisions-up-to-us/page/2#post-1439600 Fri, 21 Feb 2014 01:17:34 +0000 sunny 1439600@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So glad you're able to go see an RE. I would be confused too if an OB gave me so many options. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/please-help-us-decide-doctor-left-decisions-up-to-us/page/2#post-1439257 Thu, 20 Feb 2014 22:06:45 +0000 mrswin 1439257@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@CupQuakeWalk: So glad you are able to get into the RE without a referral! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/please-help-us-decide-doctor-left-decisions-up-to-us/page/2#post-1438918 Thu, 20 Feb 2014 20:54:57 +0000 pui 1438918@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@CupQuakeWalk: Yay that is great news! I am sure an RE will be able to help you better. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/please-help-us-decide-doctor-left-decisions-up-to-us/page/2#post-1438908 Thu, 20 Feb 2014 20:52:55 +0000 swedishfish 1438908@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@CupQuakeWalk: yay, I'm so glad! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/please-help-us-decide-doctor-left-decisions-up-to-us/page/2#post-1438852 Thu, 20 Feb 2014 20:42:17 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 1438852@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>UPDATE!!!<br /> DH had a long talk with insurance and apparently I don't need a referral to a RE. So, I am calling one tomorrow. I just got off the phone with a friend who highly recommends one in town and he has amazing ratings and reviews.<br /> For this cycle, we decided to do the HSG and up the Clomid with monitoring.</p> <p>Thank you ladies for all your advice!! I feel hopeful that we are moving in the right direction now:) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/please-help-us-decide-doctor-left-decisions-up-to-us/page/2#post-1437863 Thu, 20 Feb 2014 16:46:30 +0000 CatchAFallingStar 1437863@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@CupQuakeWalk: You probably need to have the HSG BEFORE Clomid. You most likely should have all the testing (blood work, etc.) before you take meds. You could take all the Clomid in the world, but if your tubes are blocked, the sperms and egg will not meet. The HSG is not painful at all. It's like a Pap smear. Sounds like you might want to talk to an RE. OBs just aren't as experienced with the proper steps in TTC. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/please-help-us-decide-doctor-left-decisions-up-to-us/page/2#post-1437252 Thu, 20 Feb 2014 15:01:08 +0000 Jenn23 1437252@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh, I remember you from WB. :) You were on our fall '2012 boards. :) Good to talk to you again and I wish you all the best with this process! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/please-help-us-decide-doctor-left-decisions-up-to-us/page/2#post-1436545 Thu, 20 Feb 2014 12:48:15 +0000 LindsayInNY 1436545@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My post yesterday had a lot of really good advice about monitoring and which doctor to see. Aside from that, I don't like the fact that she wants to do Clomid for so long and seems against a HSG. I don't have personal experience but at my consultation yesterday, my doctor ordered a bunch of blood work along with a HSG. So it's weird that your doctor won't try that... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/please-help-us-decide-doctor-left-decisions-up-to-us/page/2#post-1436498 Thu, 20 Feb 2014 12:36:56 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 1436498@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Shutterbug: hey, why didn't I think of that? My PCP is actually a family friend and knows we've been trying so she would probably have no issues doing that. I'll call her. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/please-help-us-decide-doctor-left-decisions-up-to-us/page/2#post-1436495 Thu, 20 Feb 2014 12:35:53 +0000 Mrs. Blue 1436495@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@CupQuakeWalk: I can't give you any advice on what to do intervention wise, but can you call your OB and have a frank talk about getting a referral from her. I know it's hard to confront doctors since they are the ones who are supposed to have the answers, but I feel like you could say that you highly value her as your OB, but that you feel strongly that you need to see a specialist (RE) who will have a vast array of experience and will be able to best guide you in making decision about what procedures should be done, medicines, dosage, etc. Maybe mention things like, "As you know, you can only take Clomid for x months, and I don't feel comfortable not seeing and RE during that entire time," etc. I guess I'm just wandering if there is any chance she would refer you without her "standard procedures." If not, I would take a stab at calling your regular doctor and discussing with them if you can get an RE referral. </p> <p>Good luck! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/please-help-us-decide-doctor-left-decisions-up-to-us#post-1436470 Thu, 20 Feb 2014 12:28:27 +0000 ShootingStar 1436470@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@CupQuakeWalk: Yup, like everyone's said you definitely need an RE. I know you've been trying a little while and if it was me I wouldn't want to go another 6 months in this direction. *But* if you guys decide to stick with her, I think it's really important to ask what she will do if you do not respond to the dose she gave you. And for what it's worth, Clomid did not thin my lining or have any of the bad side effects people talk about and I think I got up to a 250mg dose. </p> <p>And check on the monitoring too. If by monitoring she means CD3 blood work and CD21 progesterone, then don't even bother seeing her, go right to an RE.</p> <p>ETA: I did an HSG but my RE didn't push it until we started talking about doing more extensive procedures like IUI. She thought it was a good idea from the beginning, but she finally convinced me after I had a CP and we were looking to go to injectables and she said you don't want to go to all this trouble to find out a)it's not going to work, and b)there was a simple solution.</p> <p>ETA2: HSGs aren't typically painful unless you are indeed blocked. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/please-help-us-decide-doctor-left-decisions-up-to-us#post-1436467 Thu, 20 Feb 2014 12:27:03 +0000 mrswin 1436467@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@CupQuakeWalk: Please go see an RE, try calling around to see if they will take a self-referral. What your OB is proposing sounds completely ridiculous. Like some other PP's have mentioned you should not be taking Clomid, etc with out a full diagnostic work up which would include a HSG.</p> <p>ETA: I don't actually think she can refuse to provide a referral! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/please-help-us-decide-doctor-left-decisions-up-to-us#post-1436441 Thu, 20 Feb 2014 12:18:08 +0000 MrsMccarthy 1436441@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>First off I wanna hug you! Second I wanna punch your OB and my old OB. OBs can be S-O-Bs regarding any sort of fertility issue. If you can I would see a RE. When I got my preconception testing done I was determined that if we weren't pregnant within 6 months I would see a RE because I knew more about the damn tests than she did. I am wishing you luck and the easiest and quickest journey possible. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/please-help-us-decide-doctor-left-decisions-up-to-us#post-1436420 Thu, 20 Feb 2014 12:14:44 +0000 Shutterbug 1436420@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@CupQuakeWalk: could you get a referral from your PCP? That's all I needed for my insurance, and all I did was call the PCP and ask for the referral. They faxed it over, insurance covered it, easy peasy. Good luck! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/please-help-us-decide-doctor-left-decisions-up-to-us#post-1436366 Thu, 20 Feb 2014 12:00:35 +0000 cheert16 1436366@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Go see an RE! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/please-help-us-decide-doctor-left-decisions-up-to-us#post-1436359 Thu, 20 Feb 2014 11:58:49 +0000 Mrs. Jump Rope 1436359@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@CupQuakeWalk: I promise you that 100mg of clomid won't dry you up. I was a damn geyser the month I got pregnant. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/please-help-us-decide-doctor-left-decisions-up-to-us#post-1436283 Thu, 20 Feb 2014 11:35:08 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 1436283@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Jenn23: Turtledoves:) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/please-help-us-decide-doctor-left-decisions-up-to-us#post-1436107 Thu, 20 Feb 2014 10:54:34 +0000 Jenn23 1436107@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@CupQuakeWalk: Oh, what was your name on WB? So curious! If you don't mind telling, that is....yep, glad to give my Clomid story. I was under my RE at that time, though, and had monitoring. I wouldn't advise doing that under your OB, especially with 100mg since you could end up with quite a few follicles and there would be a higher chance of multiples. Plus my RE would check the lining to make sure it wasn't too dry. Sorry you are dealing with all this....I know how hard it is! :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/please-help-us-decide-doctor-left-decisions-up-to-us#post-1436088 Thu, 20 Feb 2014 10:47:38 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 1436088@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Jenn23: Jenn:) I was hoping you would chime in, as we were together on WB on the TTC boards and I always respected how on top of things you were. Thanks for telling me your piece on the 50mg vs. 100mg. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/please-help-us-decide-doctor-left-decisions-up-to-us#post-1436087 Thu, 20 Feb 2014 10:46:24 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 1436087@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@swedishfish: @pui: :heart: OK, you guys can help me explain this to my insurance.I will be like, "I know your rules and all, but I need an OVERRIDE!" </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/please-help-us-decide-doctor-left-decisions-up-to-us#post-1436084 Thu, 20 Feb 2014 10:45:54 +0000 Jenn23 1436084@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Everyone has already given great advice (I agree that you should get in to see an RE, not deal with your OB anymore) but I will say that I did one month of 50mg Clomid, then the next on 100mg and I didn't notice a difference with being any dryer. I took mucinex both cycles to help combat that. You can use preseed, too. So in my case I didn't see a difference with that, though I know it can happen. I had two follicles when I took 50mg and had 4 on 100mg. (3 on one side, 1 on the other) Just giving you my story. I would definitely have monitoring to see if you have good follicles and how many! But really, I would have the HSG, see an RE and not deal with her anymore. They really aren't the best for these things. Better to move on to an RE! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/please-help-us-decide-doctor-left-decisions-up-to-us#post-1436081 Thu, 20 Feb 2014 10:44:41 +0000 pui 1436081@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@CupQuakeWalk: @swedishfish: Exactly. It doesn't seem like she really knows, especially since you haven't had complete testing and are not diagnosed. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/please-help-us-decide-doctor-left-decisions-up-to-us#post-1436068 Thu, 20 Feb 2014 10:39:58 +0000 swedishfish 1436068@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@CupQuakeWalk: the problem is she's not a fertility expert...that's why she's leaving it up to you. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/please-help-us-decide-doctor-left-decisions-up-to-us#post-1436061 Thu, 20 Feb 2014 10:37:02 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 1436061@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@pui: shouldn't she have decided for me? I feel like if she truly beleives I should stay on 50mg, then she shouldn't have given me the option. I just picked them up from my pharmacy. She said, if you take 100mg, it'll dry you up. If you take 50mg, it won't, but the O may not happen. So, it's a toss up. She wants me to take 50mg, but is appeasing me by giving me 100mg. I feel like as the OB, she needs to just decide FOR me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/please-help-us-decide-doctor-left-decisions-up-to-us#post-1436050 Thu, 20 Feb 2014 10:34:31 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 1436050@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ShootingStar: when I asked about the drug Femera, she said it's a lower "class" drug and the RE will use it on me only after Clomid rounds. As I type this I realize how badly I need a RE. Like bad. Badddddd. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/please-help-us-decide-doctor-left-decisions-up-to-us#post-1436042 Thu, 20 Feb 2014 10:31:30 +0000 pui 1436042@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@CupQuakeWalk: I think you should do more diagnostic testing first and then see what your RE recommends before deciding 50mg or 100mg. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/please-help-us-decide-doctor-left-decisions-up-to-us#post-1436040 Thu, 20 Feb 2014 10:31:20 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 1436040@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@pui: I know! I told her I get 5 days in a row of VERY positive OPKs. I needed a frikkin ultrasound to see my follicles. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/please-help-us-decide-doctor-left-decisions-up-to-us#post-1436036 Thu, 20 Feb 2014 10:30:44 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 1436036@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>OK ladies, the consensus is the RE.<br /> I will work my dh's insurance today and get myself into a RE. I promise. I know this will take weeks to get into, so for this month, I will do the monitoring, the clomid and the HSG.</p> <p>50MG or 100? She said the ONLY reason she isn't moving up is because it'll dry me up and make getting pregnant even harder. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/please-help-us-decide-doctor-left-decisions-up-to-us#post-1436035 Thu, 20 Feb 2014 10:30:43 +0000 pui 1436035@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@CupQuakeWalk: LH spiking unfortunately doesn't always mean you O'd... with PCOS I got LH spikes all the time (indicated with OPKs) and still ended up with an anovulatory cycle. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/please-help-us-decide-doctor-left-decisions-up-to-us#post-1436032 Thu, 20 Feb 2014 10:29:52 +0000 ShootingStar 1436032@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So I think you should do what I did with my RE. The MOST important thing is to be monitored during your cycle, both with blood work and ultrasound. What they should do is start you at 50mg for 5 days and do all the appropriate monitoring. This means approximately CD3, CD10, CD13, etc until ovulation. They should know by your E2 if your follicles will keep growing.</p> <p>If the dose doesn't work then the Dr should bump you up to the higher dose either that cycle, or the next one. My RE did it in the same cycle. Do NOT keeping taking clomid at the same dose for 6 months. If you don't respond to the lower dose, you will only waste time, and an RE won't let you do clomid for that long anyways.</p> <p>But honestly, if I were you I'd seek out an RE even if it's not paid for by insurance because your OB is not treating you the way an RE (the experts in fertility treatments) would. Or, I would even get a new OB/GYN who will refer you. No RE would even let you do 6 months of clomid, much less keep you at the same dose for months with no results. It's also possible you may be clomid resistant (which I am) and would benefit from a different drug like Femara. </p> <p>If you have any questions, I'm happy to answer :). </p>