https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 11 Apr 2026 03:59:35 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/please-talk-me-down-from-throttling-my-husband#post-41197 Sun, 25 Dec 2011 00:29:24 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 41197@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't blame you for being upset. I would be too! We have a rule of not buying yourself anything in December. And around birthdays. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/please-talk-me-down-from-throttling-my-husband#post-41193 Sat, 24 Dec 2011 21:59:38 +0000 mrstilly 41193@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It must be a guy thing. All the guys in my family, and DH's family, including DH do it. It's so aggravating. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/please-talk-me-down-from-throttling-my-husband#post-41074 Sat, 24 Dec 2011 10:09:32 +0000 Jenn23 41074@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh, my, I'd be upset, too. I agree there is an unwritten/unspoken rule that you don't shop for yourself before Christmas. One of my gifts for my husband two years ago was a new electric razor. (He had mentioned he wanted a new one) So I bought one. About three days before Christmas a package came from Amazon and I asked what he ordered. He shows me and it was a new electric razor. I just said, "Oh". I didn't have time to return the one I got him and get him something else, so I still had him open it on Christmas. We both laughed about it but I told him not to buy anything for himself before Christmas anymore! Sorry your husband kept buying things and spoiled your gift, too. :( Hopefully after this experience this won't happen again!! I would be upset, too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/please-talk-me-down-from-throttling-my-husband#post-41056 Sat, 24 Dec 2011 08:53:59 +0000 sorrycharlie 41056@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am so glad that I'm not crazy! He totally thinks I am. I'm sure in a couple months I'll laugh about it, but right now I'm livid! I think more because of HOW many times he did it, without learning from the previous mistake. Sigh.</p> <p>I told him next year, no Christmas! I was kidding, of course, but partly serious - he can just buy his own gift, maybe that'll be easier!! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/please-talk-me-down-from-throttling-my-husband#post-41034 Sat, 24 Dec 2011 07:23:29 +0000 mediagirl 41034@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sorrycharlie: I love the fact that now that he knows he is getting an XBox from you, he starts buying stuff for it. I think it's time for a. "this is what I think should occur around Christmastime" conversation! Hopefully you can get through Christmas without doing bodily harm to him. :-) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/please-talk-me-down-from-throttling-my-husband#post-41033 Sat, 24 Dec 2011 07:20:38 +0000 mediagirl 41033@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ecogirl: yes! We have instituted a rule:no shopping for yourself, especially off your Amazon list, between Thanksgiving and Christmas! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/please-talk-me-down-from-throttling-my-husband#post-41005 Sat, 24 Dec 2011 01:04:36 +0000 Rosie Girl 41005@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd be so pissed! He shouldn't have been buying anything, knowing that Christmas was coming up! I have had to tell DH a present before because of that same thing, he was insistent on getting it. It really sucks and makes me mad! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/please-talk-me-down-from-throttling-my-husband#post-40992 Sat, 24 Dec 2011 00:49:03 +0000 tequiero21 40992@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>awww i feel ya. you were just so excited to see him surprised and he ruined it. 3 times! it's kinda funny if you think about it. hopefully you can laugh about it in a few months. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/please-talk-me-down-from-throttling-my-husband#post-40875 Fri, 23 Dec 2011 19:11:26 +0000 venice4504 40875@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ugh that sucks and it's totally happened to both of us before too! We're both known for just buying what we are looking for during December when things are on sale and I know that I've probably ruined a couple of surprises but oh well... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/please-talk-me-down-from-throttling-my-husband#post-40874 Fri, 23 Dec 2011 19:10:59 +0000 mrbee 40874@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Boogs: I have never heard of this rule. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/please-talk-me-down-from-throttling-my-husband#post-40871 Fri, 23 Dec 2011 19:09:20 +0000 Boogs 40871@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: There is an unspoken rule! Especially if they are things you know others are aware you want. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/please-talk-me-down-from-throttling-my-husband#post-40867 Fri, 23 Dec 2011 19:04:07 +0000 mrbee 40867@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sorrycharlie: I'm serious! Is there a unspoken rule that you don't buy things for yourself the month of Christmas? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/please-talk-me-down-from-throttling-my-husband#post-40865 Fri, 23 Dec 2011 19:00:57 +0000 sorrycharlie 40865@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: LOL :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/please-talk-me-down-from-throttling-my-husband#post-40862 Fri, 23 Dec 2011 18:58:35 +0000 mrbee 40862@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Wait I don't get it... what did he do wrong again? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/please-talk-me-down-from-throttling-my-husband#post-40844 Fri, 23 Dec 2011 18:09:48 +0000 L2sweetpea 40844@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>He sounds just like my husband! We now just joke that he ruins every gift anyone ever gets him because he guesses them all the time! It used to bother me a ton, but now I just choose to make jokes about it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/please-talk-me-down-from-throttling-my-husband#post-40812 Fri, 23 Dec 2011 16:58:22 +0000 Clementine 40812@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So annoying! My DH is like that it's so hard to surprise him! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/please-talk-me-down-from-throttling-my-husband#post-40809 Fri, 23 Dec 2011 16:53:22 +0000 Rubies 40809@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Do it. FULL THROTTLE! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/please-talk-me-down-from-throttling-my-husband#post-40794 Fri, 23 Dec 2011 16:14:13 +0000 Boogs 40794@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sorrycharlie: Ha maybe that's his excuse! Don't worry, you're not crazy, though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/please-talk-me-down-from-throttling-my-husband#post-40790 Fri, 23 Dec 2011 16:08:00 +0000 sorrycharlie 40790@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Boogs: I keep trying to chalk it up to, "he doesn't know" because he was raised as a Jehovah's Witness, so it's only his 4th Christmas..but c'mon! wouldn't you think he'd have learned after the xbox for the game?! lol..sigh..at least no one is telling me I'm nuts for being upset! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/please-talk-me-down-from-throttling-my-husband#post-40786 Fri, 23 Dec 2011 16:02:38 +0000 Boogs 40786@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sorrycharlie: Omg I can't believe he told you! Crazy guy! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/please-talk-me-down-from-throttling-my-husband#post-40785 Fri, 23 Dec 2011 15:59:52 +0000 sorrycharlie 40785@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Boogs: not mean at all! he kind of felt bad about the xbox - but his way of making up for it was telling me my gift (?!) He goes, "Well if it helps, I got you a kindle!". My mouth just dropped in target - other women were trying not to laugh. </p> <p>then the game, he was like, "well I never told you about it! why would I think you got it?!" and I said, "that is the POINT of not opening gifts beforehand because they are SUPPOSED to be a surprise!" </p> <p>and the third, well, he could care less. luckily my mom just said, "$20 in my pocket!" but to me it's more that he didn't learn his lesson the first 1 or 2 times, haha! Grr.. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/please-talk-me-down-from-throttling-my-husband#post-40778 Fri, 23 Dec 2011 15:45:30 +0000 Boogs 40778@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ugh!! I don't know what causes them to do that, but that's what happened with the surprise snowboard I was trying to work on with his parents. I was so excited just like you, too. He felt sooo bad about it after, though. Does your husband at least feel a little bit bad? It sounds mean, but knowing that made me feel a bit better. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/please-talk-me-down-from-throttling-my-husband#post-40777 Fri, 23 Dec 2011 15:45:03 +0000 Meridian 40777@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh my... I totally would want to throttle him too!! How frustrating!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/please-talk-me-down-from-throttling-my-husband#post-40773 Fri, 23 Dec 2011 15:40:03 +0000 ecogirl 40773@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You poor thing. I hate it when people shop for themselves at holiday time. I say just throttle him. You will feel better after haha :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/please-talk-me-down-from-throttling-my-husband#post-40772 Fri, 23 Dec 2011 15:38:17 +0000 sorrycharlie 40772@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So I bought DH an Xbox 360 in November for a great deal. I have not looked forward to Christmas this much since I was a kid! I couldn't wait to see his face, because he's wanted it for years. Fast forward to Black Friday, he sees it on sale and plants his feet in the store saying he's going to buy it. I'm trying to talk him out of it, claiming money, and he refuses to listen. So I had to tell him that was his gift and almost burst into tears because my surprise was ruined.</p> <p>I eventually got over it, kind of, and last week asked my friend (who is friends with DH) what game I could surprise him with that he wants but didn't ask for, and she told me. I order this game, get home, and he tells me he's buying it with a gift card he received. I try, again, to talk him out of it and he refused. So I had to tell him I bought it - I burst into tears because it was literally the only other gift he was getting, and the only surprise I had. </p> <p>Then I come home today, and he bought himself the headset! My Mom had no ideas for him and picked that up, and he bought it. I think it's a combination of hormones and frustration, but I'm in tears. He says who cares.</p> <p>Why didn't he take the hint the first 2 times and STOP shopping the week of Christmas? Is this a man thing? He doesn't think it's a big deal at all! </p>