Hellobee Boards Topic: Positive OPK - tell your SO to BD or too much pressure?

Hellobee Boards Topic: Positive OPK - tell your SO to BD or too much pressure? https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 06 Apr 2026 13:51:15 +0000 leelee on "Positive OPK - tell your SO to BD or too much pressure?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/positive-opk-tell-your-so-to-bd-or-too-much-pressure#post-52187 Fri, 13 Jan 2012 16:50:14 +0000 leelee 52187@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I always told DH when a got a positive. He knew my cycle and would start asking me if I got a smiley or not when I didnt tell him. GreenThumb on "Positive OPK - tell your SO to BD or too much pressure?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/positive-opk-tell-your-so-to-bd-or-too-much-pressure#post-52158 Fri, 13 Jan 2012 16:00:48 +0000 GreenThumb 52158@https://boards.hellobee.com/ We talked about it last month when I had a positive OPK and DH got really excited at first. But then the pressure kicked in, I think, and it was very much downhill from there. There was no way last month was going to work! This time around I didn't tell him and things have been much more successful. We've talked through a lot of the details of this process so I didn't think the pressure would get to him. I'll selectively share from now on. Mrs. Oatmeal on "Positive OPK - tell your SO to BD or too much pressure?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/positive-opk-tell-your-so-to-bd-or-too-much-pressure#post-50430 Wed, 11 Jan 2012 16:06:42 +0000 Mrs. Oatmeal 50430@https://boards.hellobee.com/ My hubby's up for it anytime, all the time, so I barely even have to look at him and he's ready to go. During O-week, he just knows that he's on standby, lol. Now that we're on cycle 12 TTC, he realizes just how important timing is. Especially with the new 'schedule' our RE gave us...takes the romance right out of it, but hey...its not like we're not enjoying ourselves. ladyfingers on "Positive OPK - tell your SO to BD or too much pressure?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/positive-opk-tell-your-so-to-bd-or-too-much-pressure#post-46284 Wed, 04 Jan 2012 14:26:46 +0000 ladyfingers 46284@https://boards.hellobee.com/ He knows I want to start temping after my next AF (we're TTC, but I'm not expecting anything right away since I stopped BC in December), but I don't plan on telling him when omg it's time it's time. Earlier this go-around, he mentioned it was funny that I wanted to do it all the time all of a sudden (usually it was once a week, before the wedding it was bad, nearly once a month) and I said, "Hey, I don't know when I'm going to drop an egg yet!" and he said later it felt like he was in a petri dish. I don't see a need to tell him - I'm not hiding anything from him or sneaking around with TTC efforts, but we'll see. If he wants to be more "in the know," he'll tell me. MamaMoose on "Positive OPK - tell your SO to BD or too much pressure?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/positive-opk-tell-your-so-to-bd-or-too-much-pressure#post-45957 Wed, 04 Jan 2012 09:15:14 +0000 MamaMoose 45957@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Nope I told him. We actually both kind of think it's a turn on to know we could be making a baby. But we're also in our first month of trying. If things take a long time I would imagine at a certain point the stress and pressure may get to us. winniebee on "Positive OPK - tell your SO to BD or too much pressure?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/positive-opk-tell-your-so-to-bd-or-too-much-pressure#post-45941 Wed, 04 Jan 2012 09:02:13 +0000 winniebee 45941@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I tried to keep it to myself but never did (because he would always ask!) We ended up DTD every other day from day 8 until after my smiley - with my husband's work schedule sometimes it didn't work out that we could be intimate on the smiley day. Also remember that it's good to try to get the swimmers up there before you get the smiley, too! tejbee on "Positive OPK - tell your SO to BD or too much pressure?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/positive-opk-tell-your-so-to-bd-or-too-much-pressure#post-45906 Wed, 04 Jan 2012 01:11:21 +0000 tejbee 45906@https://boards.hellobee.com/ DH has said the pressure can be hard to get over. I say keep the smiley face as a secret and then seduce your SO for some sexy time. You can tell him about the smiley face after the fact. :) cyneswith on "Positive OPK - tell your SO to BD or too much pressure?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/positive-opk-tell-your-so-to-bd-or-too-much-pressure#post-45878 Tue, 03 Jan 2012 22:21:19 +0000 cyneswith 45878@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I let him know the likely fertile window whenever AF shows. We have an active sex life, so the likelihood of missing the window is super-slim even if he didn't know - and knowing I'm fertile doubles his sex drive. lemondrop on "Positive OPK - tell your SO to BD or too much pressure?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/positive-opk-tell-your-so-to-bd-or-too-much-pressure#post-45874 Tue, 03 Jan 2012 22:15:19 +0000 lemondrop 45874@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @cokiezombie: I'm guilty of a few smiley face photos too... I usually told him after I ovulated, so he had a vague idea of where we were in the month. After a few months of unsuccessful trying he definitely thought I went overboard with charting and keeping track of everything, his preference was to just go with the flow and not worry about dates. Mrsbells on "Positive OPK - tell your SO to BD or too much pressure?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/positive-opk-tell-your-so-to-bd-or-too-much-pressure#post-45857 Tue, 03 Jan 2012 21:53:46 +0000 Mrsbells 45857@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I always assumed that people who were actively TTC would just tell their husband when they ovulated, thats what I hear from others and see in movies. Especially considered all the work involved in figuring out when you ovulate. But I havent been in this position myself so I dont know from experience. heffalump on "Positive OPK - tell your SO to BD or too much pressure?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/positive-opk-tell-your-so-to-bd-or-too-much-pressure#post-45846 Tue, 03 Jan 2012 20:57:58 +0000 heffalump 45846@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I always told my hubby. Well actually he tracked my temperature on his phone app so he told me :) But we both loved knowing, there's something amazing about the fact that you could be making a baby! Mrs. Pickle on "Positive OPK - tell your SO to BD or too much pressure?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/positive-opk-tell-your-so-to-bd-or-too-much-pressure#post-45791 Tue, 03 Jan 2012 19:31:16 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 45791@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I tell my husband. When I don't he asks. cokiezombie on "Positive OPK - tell your SO to BD or too much pressure?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/positive-opk-tell-your-so-to-bd-or-too-much-pressure#post-45784 Tue, 03 Jan 2012 19:16:51 +0000 cokiezombie 45784@https://boards.hellobee.com/ good point. I think I went overboard last month when I snapped a photo of the smiley face and texted him, "Honey! It's time to get it on tonight!". whoa talk about pressure! now I know better. and yes, I love those smiley faces. hopefully it's the last one I'll need to pee on for a while... ;) lemondrop on "Positive OPK - tell your SO to BD or too much pressure?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/positive-opk-tell-your-so-to-bd-or-too-much-pressure#post-45776 Tue, 03 Jan 2012 19:05:52 +0000 lemondrop 45776@https://boards.hellobee.com/ No, we had talked about it ahead of time, and decided it would be best if I just initiated things instead of announcing what our timing was. I figured he's easy, its a treat to have the girl get things going, and my husband never gave a single thing to timing unless it was something we really did NOT want to happen. PS- good luck and have fun with your smiley, I loved getting those! cokiezombie on "Positive OPK - tell your SO to BD or too much pressure?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/positive-opk-tell-your-so-to-bd-or-too-much-pressure#post-45769 Tue, 03 Jan 2012 18:55:50 +0000 cokiezombie 45769@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Last month I got a smiley face on the OPK and excitedly told my hubby that it was time to do the deed. however the both of us felt so pressured to baby dance that we couldn't bring ourselves to it. Eventually we did, but it was an unsuccessful month and I allude it to the fact that we both felt stressed to "perform" that it actually backfired. Today I got my smiley face again and I'm so excited that I want to tell him... but fear we'll feel pressured and as a result, his swimmers won't be up for it, so I'm gonna keep it on the downlow and just see we can go at it naturally without the added pressure of "My-egg-is -dropping-in-12-48-hrs. Hurry!" How about you TTC ladies?