https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 21 Apr 2026 20:06:18 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/possible-mommy-fail-summer-camp#post-2757056 Tue, 11 Jul 2017 08:57:49 +0000 2PeasinaPod 2757056@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Really glad to hear he had such a great time. This is one situation where you look back and pat yourself on the back for being an AWESOME mom! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/possible-mommy-fail-summer-camp#post-2757052 Tue, 11 Jul 2017 08:46:26 +0000 avivoca 2757052@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@irene: I'm so glad he had a great day! I hope the rest of the week goes wonderfully. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/possible-mommy-fail-summer-camp#post-2757051 Tue, 11 Jul 2017 08:38:44 +0000 looch 2757051@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@irene: Love it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/possible-mommy-fail-summer-camp#post-2756953 Mon, 10 Jul 2017 19:50:48 +0000 Boogs 2756953@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@irene: See, knew he would be happy! Hope dad isn't just has happy now. ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/possible-mommy-fail-summer-camp#post-2756937 Mon, 10 Jul 2017 18:49:54 +0000 erinbaderin 2756937@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@irene: This makes me so happy, I'm so happy he had a great day! Sorry your husband caused you so much stress about it, though. Thanks for updating! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/possible-mommy-fail-summer-camp#post-2756919 Mon, 10 Jul 2017 18:05:06 +0000 My Only Sunshine 2756919@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@irene: Such a great update. Your love for your son comes through so much in this post. What a relief when we worry about a new experience for our babies and it turns out well! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/possible-mommy-fail-summer-camp#post-2756898 Mon, 10 Jul 2017 16:51:36 +0000 travellingbee 2756898@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@irene: Glad to hear the great update! Kids are so much more adaptable and open-minded than we are as adults. We don't give them enough credit . As adults we carry around all of our own insecurities that we have developed over time, but it's important not to pass those onto our kids if we can help it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/possible-mommy-fail-summer-camp#post-2756888 Mon, 10 Jul 2017 16:28:56 +0000 SweetiePie 2756888@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@irene: that's an awesome update! So glad he liked it and I really hope that it is an eye opener for your husband! All the worry over nothing! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/possible-mommy-fail-summer-camp#post-2756879 Mon, 10 Jul 2017 16:03:01 +0000 youboots 2756879@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@irene: wonderful update. Sounds like the staff can really support his learning. I've been thinking of you today. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/possible-mommy-fail-summer-camp#post-2756863 Mon, 10 Jul 2017 15:34:36 +0000 T.H.O.U. 2756863@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@irene: Great update! Please write more!</p> <p>I hope you and DH can have a good conversation about it too! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/possible-mommy-fail-summer-camp#post-2756859 Mon, 10 Jul 2017 15:31:25 +0000 irene 2756859@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Update!!</p> <p>I just picked DS up and he was so happy, and he said he LOVES the camp!!!!!!!! Phew!!!! He was so proud he told me he caught a ball that was being thrown from far away :heart: Thanks for your support :heart: May write more soon but just want to give a quick update :heart: :goodluck: :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/possible-mommy-fail-summer-camp#post-2756702 Mon, 10 Jul 2017 11:59:28 +0000 codeitall 2756702@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd also add that sports camps tend to attract the parents obsessed with their kid's athletics. So they may have been sitting around talking up state championships and all that to sound like their kid is the best. Basically a big bragfest/intimidation technique. So I'd write that off until your kid has to interact with those parents. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/possible-mommy-fail-summer-camp#post-2756698 Mon, 10 Jul 2017 11:57:52 +0000 gingerbebe 2756698@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Skills camp means they are working on skills - whether its improving skills you already have or picking up new ones. If your son has never had baseball before, he's going to learn how to hold a bat, wear a helmet, throw or catch a ball, etc. Its perfect for a newbie. And that's why they have the large age differences - because each player is going to be perfecting skills they already have or trying to pick up new ones at their own pace, instead of playing against each other. </p> <p>Your son may be inspired by a 12 year old who knocked it out of the park and think its super awesome that he hit a ball off a T - mixed skill levels is a GOOD thing if the instructors are handling it right and being positive.</p> <p>Your husband is being completely irrational. FWIW, my parents are the ones who ruined sports for me growing up because they were so critical and negative about my skills. My husband, on the other hand, lettered in 4 sports and played just about every kind of sport there is and his parents never put pressure on him about it. They just signed him up for lots of classes and camps and let him try it out and he figured out the things he liked to do and met lots of new friends that way. Tell him to HANDLE IT and pull his ass together. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/possible-mommy-fail-summer-camp#post-2756684 Mon, 10 Jul 2017 11:47:00 +0000 ShootingStar 2756684@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So what is the big deal if your son hates baseball for the rest of his life? I mean, I am no fan of playing or watching it, and I'm still a functional adult. I'm even married to a Red Sox fan. </p> <p>You have to expect that kids will try a lot of things and not love all of them. I hope to expose my kids to art, theater, have them play an instrument, have them play multiple sports. I hope they'll love some of it, or find something else to love. But one bad camp/sport experience is nothing to cry over. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/possible-mommy-fail-summer-camp#post-2756637 Mon, 10 Jul 2017 10:41:43 +0000 erinbaderin 2756637@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would be really mad at my husband if he did this to me. You did a LOT of work to set up something fun for your son, make sure it would be appropriate, etc. Did your husband talk to all the other kids about their experience? How much baseball experience does he think the average 5 year old has? Does he think that the camp organizers and the people who set the age limits don't know what they're doing, and he knows better how this camp will be run? Your husband is making a LOT of assumptions based on a 3 minute exposure to something, and it's inappropriate of him to freak out based on the negligible knowledge he has and even more inappropriate of him to take this out on you. </p> <p>Also I really don't believe his claim that he has friends who forever hated a sport because they had a bad summer camp experience as a kindergartener. </p> <p>I'm agreeing with all the other people that you should do pickup, you should do it with a big excited smile on your face and lots of questions about how his day was, and then go from there. If he seems quiet and upset and like he hated it, reassess, but I'd be surprised if that happened. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/possible-mommy-fail-summer-camp#post-2756633 Mon, 10 Jul 2017 10:37:09 +0000 littlejoy 2756633@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Your husband is totally overreacting, and projecting his own insecurities onto your decisions ... that's not fair, and I would try to brush it off. Who knows if you LO was the last one there. You know 5 year olds can be slow in the mornings - maybe there's a few more little ones who arrived later. </p> <p>You can always check in with the camp directors to ensure they still feel like it's a good place for him. I'm guessing it'll be great!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/possible-mommy-fail-summer-camp#post-2756623 Mon, 10 Jul 2017 10:20:37 +0000 T.H.O.U. 2756623@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Also, if he is in a "group of one", maybe he will have 1:1 training and get lots of experience! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/possible-mommy-fail-summer-camp#post-2756619 Mon, 10 Jul 2017 10:15:22 +0000 hellobeeboston 2756619@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@irene: I know your husband has issues to deal with - you should really see if he can speak with someone about this - it will just make everyone's lives easier.</p> <p>In regards to camp - you totally did the right thing by reaching out and making sure if he should be in it... so, not fault to you at all. And, perhaps when your DH dropped him off, he saw the older kids - I'm sure the younger kids break out into smaller sessions to learn skills. As a side note: you might want to look into T-ball, then do baseball. But a lot of kids go right into baseball and they have to learn somehow! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/possible-mommy-fail-summer-camp#post-2756616 Mon, 10 Jul 2017 10:07:28 +0000 Boogs 2756616@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think he's putting the cart before the horse. He's making a bunch of assumptions off a quick impression. I would wait to as DS at the end of the day what he thought of it, and maybe tomorrow go a bit before pickup to watch what the camp is all about. My DS is starting a similar one this week and isn't very experienced, but they have to get their first exposure from somewhere. And kids are more resilient than people realize and adapt to new situations better than most adults! I'll bet DS will come home saying he had a fun day, and he'll sleep extra well at night. ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/possible-mommy-fail-summer-camp#post-2756614 Mon, 10 Jul 2017 09:56:19 +0000 T.H.O.U. 2756614@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Im so sorry. </p> <p>First you are doing all you can to do this correctly. You did exactly what I would have done in terms of registering. We are new to the camp world as well and I'm amazed at how unorganized some seem to be (like does camp start at 9, or should we drop off before 9)? </p> <p>Secondly, I get that your husband is concerned but it sounds like he's blaming you which isn't correct. If he's so worried, tell him to go down there and sort it out! Or if he's so worried about lasting impact then I would let DH figure out another camp or other child care arrangement for this week. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/possible-mommy-fail-summer-camp#post-2756612 Mon, 10 Jul 2017 09:55:06 +0000 looch 2756612@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@irene: And to that I reply, so what, that he doesn't like baseball, it's okay, there are so many other things out there. My son doesn't like soccer, he tells me he "quit his team" when he didn't like the soccer skills class and I just dropped it and we didn't do it again. This year we're trying martial arts, and we are doing a parent child class...is there something your husband might want to do with your son? I would start there. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/possible-mommy-fail-summer-camp#post-2756611 Mon, 10 Jul 2017 09:54:03 +0000 Mamaof2 2756611@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@irene: " DH then said well he will be grouped in a group of one because he is the youngest and he has no experience compare to everyone. "</p> <p>Is this what your DH thinks or what they actually said to him?<br /> I would imagine its only what your DH thinks!</p> <p>Are you doing pick up? If not, I would arrange it so you do - your DS needs a big smile and a happy parent to pick him up </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/possible-mommy-fail-summer-camp#post-2756610 Mon, 10 Jul 2017 09:53:08 +0000 sunnyday 2756610@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My DD will start camp next week as an underage complete clueless newbie. She loves said sport and is going "too young" because of my background/connection in the sport. The person who runs the camp and 90% of the kids there will have experience. Your son will hopefully not feel what you and DH are feeling or are worried about. I hope he has a great time and does have people around him who do know what they are doing to give him a great base/foundation in baseball!! I'm hopeful for him (and you!!) that it's all not a big deal and he has a great time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/possible-mommy-fail-summer-camp#post-2756609 Mon, 10 Jul 2017 09:52:15 +0000 irene 2756609@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@looch: Honestly I am not sure what is his issue. I am not in the position to discuss (or guess) what is he thinking but I just feel that since he became a father, he kicked into the ultra-perfectionist mode. I think he wants to make sure that DS is given a fair chance that he will be inspired to like the sport (or anything that we introduce him to, really). I am guessing he is worried right now that we have made a wrong step and potentially this 1 week of camp will be so miserable that he doesn't want to play baseball altogether in the rest of his life. He said he has known friends from high school that they didn't like a certain thing / sport because of a bad summer camp experience. Or like me I become paralysed with math because of a bad teacher from high school. I don't want to go into detail and everyone please be gentle about your feelings to DH as well.... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/possible-mommy-fail-summer-camp#post-2756607 Mon, 10 Jul 2017 09:50:19 +0000 2PeasinaPod 2756607@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@irene: I wouldn't worry until you pick your son up and see how he liked the camp. I think most camps are designed to help improve players. If he has no experience, he has nowhere to go but up!</p> <p>As for your DH, I have no idea what to do there. If my DH ever spoke to me this way and I had to put him on do not disturb due to his negativity, we'd have a major issue. We're partners...if he was that negative, he'd be in charge of choosing all summer camps from here on out. That is not the way we treat each other. I'm not his punching bag and he can suck it if he ever treated me like one. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/possible-mommy-fail-summer-camp#post-2756606 Mon, 10 Jul 2017 09:49:41 +0000 SweetiePie 2756606@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Edited once I read your update. Because the fact that he's still going at it means he most likely won't see the error in his ways and apologize. He's had a while to calm down.<br /> Maybe he does need therapy, but he sounds like the kind of guy that would be adamantly opposed.<br /> I hope you know this is coming from a good place - but it sounds like he's always really hard on you and kind of demeaning (judging by past posts too). And I would find it really hard to be happy in that situation.<br /> Have you ever had a bigger discussion with him about the way he speaks to you and treats you? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/possible-mommy-fail-summer-camp#post-2756604 Mon, 10 Jul 2017 09:45:41 +0000 Truth Bombs 2756604@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@irene: I would tell him he needs to get his mind right before he sees your son this evening. Projecting his insecurities on your son doesn't do anyone any good. And as @Mrs. Pickle: said I'd probably add in a "f*ck off" for treating you like crap too. You're not his "punching bag" no matter what minor headaches he had to deal with at drop off this morning. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/possible-mommy-fail-summer-camp#post-2756601 Mon, 10 Jul 2017 09:42:49 +0000 looch 2756601@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Pickle: To your point, I think they also say it's a skills camp when they aren't playing actual games against each other in teams. My son went to a soccer skills class as a toddler, the point was that it wasn't kids playing games against each other, it was learning to manage the ball.</p> <p>@Irene: what's your husband's concern about your son possibly not liking baseball? Did your husband always want to play or something? So what if your son doesn't like baseball...... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/possible-mommy-fail-summer-camp#post-2756600 Mon, 10 Jul 2017 09:42:19 +0000 irene 2756600@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Update:</p> <p>I think DH is super insecure.... he finished his morning meeting and started texting me again with all the negativity I have to put him on do not disturb. I think he is extremely worried. He doesn't understand that I am his wife but not his therapist. Whatever he unloads on me put 20 times the pressure. I am really hoping all is well at the end of the day..... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/possible-mommy-fail-summer-camp#post-2756597 Mon, 10 Jul 2017 09:39:10 +0000 SweetiePie 2756597@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Boopers: that's a great point about the husband's attitude.<br /> If he goes into it negatively and your son hears that, it might not matter how he genuinely feels about it. I would emphasize with my husband that he has to be positive and ask open ended questions at the end of the day. Let your son decide how he likes it.</p> <p>Also want to add that it's GOOD to try new things. That's the only way to learn and grow. And if he doesn't love it I think it's good to make him go all week anyway - we can't always quit things because we don't like it. Sometimes we need to give it a shot and power through and I think 5 is probably old enough to start learning that. If it was ALL summer and he was miserable, that's different. But one week? I'd make him go. </p>