https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 06 May 2026 03:50:07 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/post-mc-how-did-you-process-others-pregnancy-announcements#post-2846969 Mon, 24 Sep 2018 07:45:38 +0000 skinnycow 2846969@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry :heart: </p> <p>I don't handle pregnancy announcements well. It's been almost a year since my miscarriage and it still really stings when I see one. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/post-mc-how-did-you-process-others-pregnancy-announcements#post-2846948 Sun, 23 Sep 2018 19:26:09 +0000 pachamama 2846948@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@creativemomma15: I'm so sorry for your loss. It's so hard. I had a dream&amp;c at 12 weeks (lost baby around 9). I handled people's announcing terribly. They never knew it but their news made me cry. I even stopped going on social media. I never felt bad about this. It was just part of the process. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/post-mc-how-did-you-process-others-pregnancy-announcements#post-2846933 Sun, 23 Sep 2018 11:07:18 +0000 nicollette1189 2846933@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It doesn't help when it's someone I'm not expecting, but I have unfollowed people on social media who have announced when we were going through our still birth and then again during our miscarriage. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/post-mc-how-did-you-process-others-pregnancy-announcements#post-2846301 Wed, 19 Sep 2018 09:43:35 +0000 FaithFertility 2846301@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>:heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/post-mc-how-did-you-process-others-pregnancy-announcements#post-2846285 Wed, 19 Sep 2018 08:41:46 +0000 periwinklebee 2846285@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm really sorry for your loss :heart: </p> <p>I had a couple of losses before my first viable pregnancy, and so many friends happened to be due around the time we would have. Like others have said, I think the main thing that helps is time. Meanwhile, be kind to yourself and give yourself as much space as you need to process the feelings. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/post-mc-how-did-you-process-others-pregnancy-announcements#post-2846252 Wed, 19 Sep 2018 02:50:55 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2846252@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I’m sorry for your loss. </p> <p>Honestly, pregnancy announcements didn’t sting. It wasn’t like someone else’s ability to get pregnant and stay pregnant had any bearing on my ability or inability. I do recall declining to attend a birthday party for a little girl who had a small baby sister. I just wasn’t up for fielding the question about when we’re “next” when I could still count how many weeks along I should have been. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/post-mc-how-did-you-process-others-pregnancy-announcements#post-2846249 Tue, 18 Sep 2018 23:48:48 +0000 MamaCate 2846249@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@creativemomma15: sending hugs. Your loss is a real loss for you so there is no reason to minimize it.</p> <p>I had a friend who had a history of losses tell me “they don’t have my baby” when I asked how she handled other pregnant friends/births. What she explained was that she didn’t want their babies, she wanted her baby who had passed. I am not sure I am explaining it right but it helped me separate my loss from other people’s outcomes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/post-mc-how-did-you-process-others-pregnancy-announcements#post-2846237 Tue, 18 Sep 2018 22:21:25 +0000 Nutella 2846237@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@creativemomma15: so sorry - it is hard but it ends up being something that just takes time. Over months passing I was still upset and sad when I saw announcements but eventually I was excited when I either met their baby, or realised their pregnancy was separate from my journey! So hard though. Each time was like a separate little kick in the guts :bummed: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/post-mc-how-did-you-process-others-pregnancy-announcements#post-2846228 Tue, 18 Sep 2018 21:20:01 +0000 Chuckles 2846228@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm sorry for your loss. I had my second MC this summer, and it's been really hard to hear about other people's pregnancies. A family friend who didn't know about my MC was going on and on about how her daughter was pregnant with her third and was so tired and having a rough pregnancy. And I wanted to be like, I can't even stay pregnant with a second kid. I'd love to be tired and nauseous. Instead I just left the room for awhile. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/post-mc-how-did-you-process-others-pregnancy-announcements#post-2846206 Tue, 18 Sep 2018 18:16:41 +0000 Littlebit7 2846206@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So sorry. It’s really f-ing hard. It will get better. Give yourself space for a while </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/post-mc-how-did-you-process-others-pregnancy-announcements#post-2846203 Tue, 18 Sep 2018 18:09:47 +0000 karenbme 2846203@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@creativemomma15: I totally understand this. I had multiple friends due within a few weeks of when my first would have been due. For me, I had to be willing to distance myself from those people a little bit or it would have been too much. I bailed on a girls trip last year that I go on every year because 3 of 5 other women were pregnant, 2 of them within days of what I would have been, and the group chat leading up was too much for me even. Also know that you can mute people on social media, which was really helpful for me, and seriously cut down on the number of bump photos, etc. I was exposed to. The relationships will still be there if they’re real, even if you don’t tell them about your mc. People get busy and lose touch for a little while all the time. Focus on yourself and what you need right now, once you’ve healed some it will be easier to be happy for them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/post-mc-how-did-you-process-others-pregnancy-announcements#post-2846173 Tue, 18 Sep 2018 15:48:43 +0000 creativemomma15 2846173@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thank you all for the love and support. I've been hesitating to post about my MC on here for some reason. This was our 4th pregnancy and our 1st loss so I realize and acknowledge that others have been through longer and harder trials with MC's and losses. I don't have many around me though that have experience with this to talk to. </p> <p>It's been really hard with the particular announcements because they are due within days/weeks of when we were due. I'm afraid of how I am going to feel watching them go through their pregnancies and just constantly thinking of how far along I would have been. And I am feeling frustrated with the unknown waiting of being able to try again, but maybe that's for another post. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/post-mc-how-did-you-process-others-pregnancy-announcements#post-2846128 Tue, 18 Sep 2018 14:08:35 +0000 paigeface 2846128@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry. Hugs to you. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/post-mc-how-did-you-process-others-pregnancy-announcements#post-2846119 Tue, 18 Sep 2018 13:51:02 +0000 crazydoglady 2846119@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry. I had two losses before my first and was really bitter when other people would announce their pregnancies. One thing that did help was acknowledging that I didn't know other people's stories. Maybe they had a loss, too, or maybe they tried for a long time. Not that I would wish any of those things on other people, but that outward appearances don't always show the struggles. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/post-mc-how-did-you-process-others-pregnancy-announcements#post-2846116 Tue, 18 Sep 2018 13:35:58 +0000 ElbieKay 2846116@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had a close friend get pregnant shortly after my last miscarriage. But this was after her fourth round and final round of IVF, so of course I was happy that it worked out for her. I tried to remember that pregnancy is not a zero sum game. It’s not like she was the reason I couldn’t get pregnant.</p> <p>I have had three miscarriages. I know it’s hard. Trust me, they don’t get easier with more experience! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/post-mc-how-did-you-process-others-pregnancy-announcements#post-2846112 Tue, 18 Sep 2018 13:16:59 +0000 Mrsbells 2846112@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>:heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/post-mc-how-did-you-process-others-pregnancy-announcements#post-2846110 Tue, 18 Sep 2018 13:13:36 +0000 Alba4 2846110@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It’s sucks. I remember right after my first MC, my best friend announced her pregnancy. I was happy for her, but also was so sad for myself and wanted to be pregnant again immediately. I was lucky enough to get pregnant again the next month, but the superstition never goes away and it’s hard to enjoy the early stages of pregnancy.</p> <p>I found it helpful to unplug and not visit social media so much. It just eases the pain a bit. </p> <p>Sending ❤️. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/post-mc-how-did-you-process-others-pregnancy-announcements#post-2846109 Tue, 18 Sep 2018 13:12:09 +0000 LAZB 2846109@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@creativemomma15: it’s definitely tough, I’ve had two losses this summer (5 and 8 week), and I’m seeing announcements for my actual due dates a lot, and that’s been hard. I think@mrskansas: is right, time is really all that helps. It’s tough, but I hope you get a rainbow soon </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/post-mc-how-did-you-process-others-pregnancy-announcements#post-2846108 Tue, 18 Sep 2018 13:04:58 +0000 mrskansas 2846108@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm really sorry :heart: </p> <p>I've been trying for 2 years and had three losses in that time. There have been countless announcements in there and the only thing that has really helped is time passing. It does still hurt sometimes but not nearly as bad as when I was fresh off of a loss.</p> <p>Hugs :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/post-mc-how-did-you-process-others-pregnancy-announcements#post-2846105 Tue, 18 Sep 2018 13:00:50 +0000 creativemomma15 2846105@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We just had a miscarriage about one month ago and I've been having a few rough days. Since our miscarriage and D&amp;E at 9.5 weeks, we've had our best friend and other family announce their pregnancies to us. They've both been very kind and supportive of us, but I am struggling. </p> <p>How do you mentally process this? I can't help but think they are having the pregnancy we so badly wanted and it's been hard. </p>