https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 08 Apr 2026 21:15:46 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/postpartum-baby-blues#post-617458 Wed, 06 Mar 2013 12:33:52 +0000 purrpletulips 617458@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Listen, encourage, let her take a nap or shower. Letting her know your milk took 9 days to come in might be a comfort to her. </p> <p>My milk took 10 days to come in with DS. I think it might have contributed to my PPD since he was my second and everyone kept saying my milk would come in faster. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/postpartum-baby-blues#post-617318 Wed, 06 Mar 2013 11:46:55 +0000 ladyfingers 617318@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Agree with letting her nap or shower (you might need to encourage her, I felt like I needed to entertain and didn't want to burden anybody), offering to throw in a load of laundry, do dishes or tidy up, etc. Don't expect too much from her because like others said I really wanted visitors but felt overwhelmed by them because I was so tired. I also felt bad for feeling bad, like I had to be all sunshine and roses. Thankfully my blues passed around 4 weeks but when I had them I kept thinking, I'm going to run away, he'd be better off without me, if I knew it would be this hard I never would have had him. At the same time feeling terrible for thinking like that and feeling intense love and very protective of him. I needed to tell somebody I was thinking those things and have them tell me it was normal (which I did, and they did). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/postpartum-baby-blues#post-617291 Wed, 06 Mar 2013 11:40:33 +0000 autumnlove 617291@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sorrycharlie: I don't want her to ask me when my milk came in...it was 9 days PP and I was also a wreck! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/postpartum-baby-blues#post-617287 Wed, 06 Mar 2013 11:40:13 +0000 T.H.O.U. 617287@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree with offering to hold the baby so she can go get a shower. </p> <p>I know sometimes when visitors came (no PPD) but sometimes I was too tired to "chat". See what kind of mood she is in and go from there. </p> <p>Also, maybe offer to see if there is any "chore" you can do to help or if she needs you to bring anything specific when you come (like lanolin or something she may have forgotten to get but now needs). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/postpartum-baby-blues#post-617286 Wed, 06 Mar 2013 11:40:01 +0000 DillonLion 617286@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Here are the things I needed: to talk, to take a shower, to be told I was doing a good job. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/postpartum-baby-blues#post-617281 Wed, 06 Mar 2013 11:39:18 +0000 ninja 617281@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, just let her know its normal, and it doesn't make her a bad mom. I was blessed to have a wonderful momma friend who did this for me, and it really helped. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/postpartum-baby-blues#post-617279 Wed, 06 Mar 2013 11:38:39 +0000 photojane 617279@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Let her talk! Commiserate &amp; encourage. I needed to talk it out bad, and my husband just didn't understand. Being able to talk honestly about my feelings to my sister in law who has been in the same shoes, and hearing that I'm normal &amp; it will pass was just so encouraging. Dinner &amp; sweets are good too! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/postpartum-baby-blues#post-617260 Wed, 06 Mar 2013 11:35:17 +0000 sorrycharlie 617260@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I just wanted someone to tell me I was normal and that new moms weren't perfect! and that it was hormones and not my own fault. I think letting her vent, cry, etc and reassuring her it's normal and maybe even commiserating with a story of your own PP time period? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/postpartum-baby-blues#post-617199 Wed, 06 Mar 2013 11:20:46 +0000 MsLipGloss 617199@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@autumnlove: That's even better . . . then I wouldn't feel guilty thinking someone slaved over a hot stove for me! :D </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/postpartum-baby-blues#post-617189 Wed, 06 Mar 2013 11:18:52 +0000 T-Mom 617189@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree on doing a lot of listening. As a PPD sufferer, the most therapeutic thing was when I got to talk a friend's ear off (mostly complaining and talking out my "inner demons") and not be judged. I was hard enough on myself. Also maybe hold her baby so she can take a shower. If her milk has not come in yet, that is rough. Encourage her to keep nursing frequently, if she wants to BF. I feel for her! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/postpartum-baby-blues#post-617164 Wed, 06 Mar 2013 11:14:49 +0000 autumnlove 617164@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@creativemomma15: I know she loves baked goods...maybe I will pick up some cupcakes or brownies at the grocery store! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/postpartum-baby-blues#post-616816 Wed, 06 Mar 2013 09:48:10 +0000 creativemomma15 616816@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@autumnlove: Thai takeout sounds delicious! You could offer to pick anything up at the store she might need? One of my friends just had a baby and I ran out to get her lanolin to ease her pain. But I agree with previous posts, lend an ear and let her know she is not alone! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/postpartum-baby-blues#post-616806 Wed, 06 Mar 2013 09:45:52 +0000 Sugar.Biscuit 616806@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Listen. Support. Understand. Encourage. My BFF suffered from PP depression the first 3 months after her LO was born. It was an unplanned pregnacy &amp; she kept saying things like "I didnt ask for this". I had her LO with me once/ twice a week for the first few months to help out and give her breaks. Her SO was working over nights 5 nights a week &amp; wasnt much help during the day. After about a month she gave in and went to the doctor. They put her back on her antidepressant &amp; her pp depresion cleared up quick! Another thing that helped was not focusing on baby 100% of the time. Momma probably needs a break from everything baby. Maybe bring some nail polish and help paint her nails &amp; have girl time? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/postpartum-baby-blues#post-616805 Wed, 06 Mar 2013 09:45:24 +0000 Weagle 616805@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh man, I loved having friends bring dinner...especially when family were overwhelming me. Maybe offer to hold the baby while she naps or showers? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/postpartum-baby-blues#post-616801 Wed, 06 Mar 2013 09:44:00 +0000 MamaMoose 616801@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Just let her vent and assure her that everything she is feeling is TOTALLY normal and every new mom goes through the exact same thing. My baby blues were intense for a couple weeks and I needed constant reassuring from my mommy friends that the first few weeks are incredibly hard for everyone and I wasn't a failure. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/postpartum-baby-blues#post-616795 Wed, 06 Mar 2013 09:41:32 +0000 autumnlove 616795@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MsLipGloss: Thai takeout! :-) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/postpartum-baby-blues#post-616757 Wed, 06 Mar 2013 09:28:02 +0000 MsLipGloss 616757@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Just let her know that she is not alone and that she isn't doing anything wrong because it's not going *perfectly* . . . and that all moms struggle, whether we admit it openly or not.</p> <p>ETA: And dinner sounds lovely - I would have killed for a good home-cooked dinner (that I didn't prepare) after my LO was born! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/postpartum-baby-blues#post-616739 Wed, 06 Mar 2013 09:22:45 +0000 autumnlove 616739@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm going to visit a friend later today who might be going through PP Baby Blues. Her baby was born last week and she is feeling really overwhelmed...breast feeding has been hard, her milk hasn't come in yet and her family is stressing her out.</p> <p>I was planning on bringing dinner. Any other tips? </p>