https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 04 Apr 2026 08:49:24 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/postpartum-bodies-and-expectations/page/3#post-1262776 Thu, 05 Dec 2013 14:36:12 +0000 Kemma 1262776@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Anagram: well there was an early blog post where she stated that she was avoiding chemicals and going outside because they might turn her baby gay (I'm totally paraphrasing but that was the general gist if it). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/postpartum-bodies-and-expectations/page/2#post-1262750 Thu, 05 Dec 2013 14:31:47 +0000 MamaMoose 1262750@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lawbee11: I've been searching but sadly I read it through Facebook and can't find it again or remember the original source! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/postpartum-bodies-and-expectations/page/2#post-1262455 Thu, 05 Dec 2013 13:31:03 +0000 Anagram 1262455@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Weagle: @Kemma: Really? I only browsed through her blog that once when someone posted it here, but I just looked at it again. Which part is cray cray? (Asking genuinely, because I'm at work and don't have a lot of time and everyone on the first couple of pages looks like normal mommy blog stuff).</p> <p>In any case, from the quick read I did right now, some of the comments on her blog are SUPER snarky, sometimes for no reason at all. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/postpartum-bodies-and-expectations/page/2#post-1262343 Thu, 05 Dec 2013 13:09:41 +0000 Kemma 1262343@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Weagle: definitely cray-cray... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/postpartum-bodies-and-expectations/page/2#post-1262310 Thu, 05 Dec 2013 13:04:17 +0000 Weagle 1262310@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Anagram: The Art of Making a Baby. She's kind of cray... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/postpartum-bodies-and-expectations/page/2#post-1261671 Thu, 05 Dec 2013 11:17:57 +0000 fairy 1261671@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mediagirl: oh wow, yeah her belly never got big. Mine looked like that 2nd trimester! By the time I have birth (large baby) my uterus measured "46 weeks" lol so there was no way I would have a belly like that right away. </p> <p>Good for them for looking so good, but I do think these pictures, while possibly encouraging to pre-pregnancy women that it won't ruin their bodies necessarily, it does at a pretty high and often unattainable bar for most part partum women. I have separated abs still at 6m pp so I have never been able to work my abs yet. Lots of sagging belly skin, but in clothes most people tell me that I bounced right back (they don't see the sagging skin or extra 7-10lbs!) I much prefer the real post partum bodies threads here and other sites to get a more realistic view of the range. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/postpartum-bodies-and-expectations/page/2#post-1261594 Thu, 05 Dec 2013 11:01:06 +0000 JoJoGirl 1261594@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrsjyw: This. I don't get why "ugh you b(*#% you bounced back so quickly" is any more acceptable than "wow you still have a lot of baby weight to lose". I get it's a 'compliment' but can't we all just drop the commentary? Or say "you look great" and leave it alone? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/postpartum-bodies-and-expectations/page/2#post-1261577 Thu, 05 Dec 2013 10:58:32 +0000 mrsjyw 1261577@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@.twist.: i'm 1 year pp and i still get those comments at work. i tried to take them as compliments in the beginning, but now it's just like "really? leave me alone." "yes i did have a child" "yes i was pregnant last year" ;alskdjf;alksdjf;aljdsf</p> <p>judgment/looks/etc is on both sides of the fence. why can't ppl just NOT comment on other's appearance? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/postpartum-bodies-and-expectations/page/2#post-1261575 Thu, 05 Dec 2013 10:58:17 +0000 Anagram 1261575@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@TurtleDoves: someone posted it here on HB a long time ago when I was preggo, because this blogger was controversial about some of her other pregnancy stuff. Like...she didn't go outside during her pregnancy because she was afraid of environmental toxins or something? And a link was posted here on HB, so I clicked it and browsed just a few times.</p> <p>In my short browsing time, she seemed pretty normal and just maybe had that one "not going outside" wierdness.</p> <p>Lemme see if I can find it.... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/postpartum-bodies-and-expectations/page/2#post-1261574 Thu, 05 Dec 2013 10:58:08 +0000 blackbird 1261574@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@rachiecakes, people are pretty effing cruel. End of story. </p> <p>@anagram, ugh, women are allowed to have priorities besides their baby. You don't have to let yourself go to hell in a handbasket! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/postpartum-bodies-and-expectations/page/2#post-1261562 Thu, 05 Dec 2013 10:55:01 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 1261562@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Anagram: can you share that blog or any others on my wall please? I am always looking for mommy blogs of any sort! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/postpartum-bodies-and-expectations/page/2#post-1261531 Thu, 05 Dec 2013 10:50:38 +0000 rachiecakes 1261531@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@JoJoGirl: the first day I noticed my feet were crazy swollen I got a ton of cackle-cackle "that's what happens when you're pregnant, just wait, haha" comments but I knew something was wrong. I called my doctor, they saw me immediately and sent me to the hospital. It wasn't a "haha, pregnancy ruins your body" moment, it was a sign that I developed PIH, eventually pre-e and was actually, really sick. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/postpartum-bodies-and-expectations/page/2#post-1261519 Thu, 05 Dec 2013 10:47:49 +0000 rachiecakes 1261519@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LemonLong: exactly! everyone is so different. I was 118lbs, 5'3" pre-pregnancy and was just under 180lbs when I gave birth. I didn't do anything differently diet-wise but I couldn't exercise due to pre-e/bedrest. 40+lbs were off by my 6 week appointment. The rest took some time with getting back into exercising and breastfeeding (I couldn't get the last couple off until I stopped nursing).<br /> My mother didn't get stretch marks, neither did I.<br /> By 11 months I was back pre-pregnancy weight, a cup size bigger, still there a year later. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/postpartum-bodies-and-expectations/page/2#post-1261487 Thu, 05 Dec 2013 10:41:12 +0000 LemonLong 1261487@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think a lot of it is genetics. I was 5'4", 116 lbs pre pregnancy, gained only 20 lbs, and within a couple days you couldn't even tell I had a baby. My body actually looked better, because my boobs were huge, and I ended up losing 10 lbs from my pre-pregnancy weight in the couple of months post partum! I didn't get stretch marks and my stomach was flat. I've never been into working out, I'm just genetically lucky. I'm on my second pregnancy now though, so we'll see what happens with that! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/postpartum-bodies-and-expectations/page/2#post-1261420 Thu, 05 Dec 2013 10:28:34 +0000 Anagram 1261420@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrsmate: actually this reminds me of a mommy blog I read once, where she posted all about her pregnancy. She was a naturally tall and thin person. When she posted about a new maternity dress she bought to wear home from the hospital, that happened to also be kind of a mini dress (on her, since she was tall), in the comments of her blog were a TON, TON of snarky comments like "clearly you haven't had a baby because you will not be able to wear that dress coming home from the hospital". "You'll find out when you have a baby that your priorities won't be staring at yourself in the mirror and choosing outfits, but will be on your baby." Just a lot of mean stuff. It was a knit dress, by the way...so totally stretchy.</p> <p>Sure enough, she posted her going home from the hospital picture...wearing that dress so many people said she wouldn't/couldn't wear. </p> <p>So I kind of get it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/postpartum-bodies-and-expectations/page/2#post-1261234 Thu, 05 Dec 2013 10:00:03 +0000 .twist. 1261234@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@JoJoGirl: LOL, I wouldn't.... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/postpartum-bodies-and-expectations/page/2#post-1261219 Thu, 05 Dec 2013 09:57:33 +0000 JoJoGirl 1261219@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MsLipGloss: @rachiecakes: @.twist.: YES. I had one friend who continually told me I "was gaining a lot of weight" and "looking huge" just to add "this is the only time in your life I get to tell you you're fat, so deal with it, ha ha!". Hilarious, dear friend.</p> <p>She's preggo now so trying my best to be the bigger person... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/postpartum-bodies-and-expectations/page/2#post-1260646 Wed, 04 Dec 2013 23:27:11 +0000 mrsmate 1260646@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I read that the 4 days pp lady got a lot of comments before she had her baby that her body would never be the same. So I think that was the motivation behind posting the selfie. I got similar comments along those lines on just about everything baby-related, "Just you wait, you're never going to sleep again/go to the bathroom by yourself again/keep up CDing/etc…" so I totally get her wanting to shut up the naysayers.</p> <p>As for Maria Kang, she is just some lady on the Internet. I get that she's kind of obnoxious, but isn't she easy enough to ignore? Now that I know what her deal is, I will not be clicking on any click bait with her name in the title. It does seem like the people who fly into a rage about her are projecting their own issues. Maybe I'm the only one who thought "What's your excuse?" was a rhetorical question. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/postpartum-bodies-and-expectations/page/2#post-1260609 Wed, 04 Dec 2013 22:57:38 +0000 MsLipGloss 1260609@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@rachiecakes: so I was lucky . . . my gain was only 45% of my body weight. ;). And snickering and comments? Seriously? WTF is wrong with people?! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/postpartum-bodies-and-expectations/page/2#post-1260604 Wed, 04 Dec 2013 22:45:37 +0000 Mrs. Sunshine 1260604@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The football players wife: well that's just dumb luck. I don't care who you are, looking like that 4 days PP just isn't possible with work, it has to come naturally. As far as Maria goes, I say good for her!! Part of it is her job, regardless, she worked hard &amp; should e proud!! I'm not saying we should all be expected to look that way but we can't use our babies as an excuse to be unhealthy forever! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/postpartum-bodies-and-expectations/page/2#post-1260603 Wed, 04 Dec 2013 22:44:56 +0000 rachiecakes 1260603@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MsLipGloss: yes.</p> <p>I gained half my body weight. I'm a petite person, it was a lot (damn you pre-e &amp; all the swelling). There was third trimester snickering and comments about my body that made me very self-conscious. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/postpartum-bodies-and-expectations/page/2#post-1260595 Wed, 04 Dec 2013 22:39:12 +0000 .twist. 1260595@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MsLipGloss: so true. Everyone's struggles are different. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/postpartum-bodies-and-expectations/page/2#post-1260567 Wed, 04 Dec 2013 22:26:10 +0000 lulibee 1260567@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm not hating (maybe a little) on women who happen to have amazing genetics/luck/whatever - there is no reason they should feel bad about bouncing back so quick. </p> <p>However, it's laughable that that lady is saying that is her 4 days post partum. Let's be real, she'd be wearing a huge ass pad. Come on now! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/postpartum-bodies-and-expectations/page/2#post-1260563 Wed, 04 Dec 2013 22:25:43 +0000 jedeve 1260563@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Eh I think she is just sucking in. I don't think it's too hard to get the shadows of the side of a belly to look like abs if you get the light right! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/postpartum-bodies-and-expectations/page/2#post-1260552 Wed, 04 Dec 2013 22:19:12 +0000 MsLipGloss 1260552@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@.twist.: Asshats. Makes me want to *HulkSmash* their faces! And yeah, I get told all the time about how nobody can believe I got my figure back (uh, yeah, they don't know I have 15 pounds to go still!) . . . But really? So you were rooting for me to look like I was pg for the rest of my life? *BAER* I was lucky in many respects (no stretch marks, and my hair didn't fall out pp . . . those are the only two I can come up with), and really not lucky in others (pre-term labor, amnio leak, horrific delivery, PPA, and 60 pound weight gain, to name a few) . . . having been through that, I know the same is true for everyone else, i.e., that there was good and bad. But I don't hate someone or resent them because they didn't struggle with the same things I did. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/postpartum-bodies-and-expectations/page/2#post-1260535 Wed, 04 Dec 2013 22:09:09 +0000 .twist. 1260535@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MsLipGloss: I bounced back pretty easily after pregnancy. I'm still mushy, but lost all my preg weight. It is so weird to have been considered "not real" because I don't have some drastic body change... I have also had comments like "you bitch, FYI everyone hates you and your body" . It's been said jokingly, but honestly makes me feel so self conscious.</p> <p>Eta: that's been said to me by more than one person too!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/postpartum-bodies-and-expectations/page/2#post-1260417 Wed, 04 Dec 2013 21:15:08 +0000 sosaysmegan 1260417@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Like @Kemma: , I have two different responses to these pictures. Maria Kang's snotty "What's your excuse?" caption makes me soooo ragey, while my reaction to the other woman's pictures is more, "Meh, good for her." My body has never looked like that, and probably never will. Bodies are so, so different from each other that comparison is pretty much useless, and for Kang to overtly position herself as superior to women who don't look like her is pretty gross to me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/postpartum-bodies-and-expectations/page/2#post-1260406 Wed, 04 Dec 2013 21:10:06 +0000 immabeetoo 1260406@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MsLipGloss: yep, I agree whole heartedly! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/postpartum-bodies-and-expectations/page/2#post-1260386 Wed, 04 Dec 2013 21:02:12 +0000 MsLipGloss 1260386@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@scg00387: I just hate the idea that any woman is made to feel *less than* because of what others can or can't *see* . . . as if the physical changes are required for someone to be a *real* mom. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/postpartum-bodies-and-expectations/page/2#post-1260350 Wed, 04 Dec 2013 20:46:28 +0000 immabeetoo 1260350@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MsLipGloss: Yep. It has the same ring to me as epidural vs. non-epidural battles. No one gets bonus points for having more stretch marks.</p> <p>I'm inspired by mamas who take the time to pursue their passions and prioritize their health postpartum. This looks vastly different for many people - these two people clearly are passionate about their physical appearance, ostensibly their health as well, and prioritized their exercise and eating habits accordingly. Good for them! But I certainly don't need 'an excuse' for not doing the same :)</p> <p>Also, my comment above was because even though I look thin, my stomach is a train wreck thanks to diastasis and stretch marks: <a href="http://boards.hellobee.com/topic/real-bellies-the-gold-version#post-1026410" rel="nofollow">http://boards.hellobee.com/topic/real-bellies-the-gold-version#post-1026410</a> </p>