https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 23 May 2026 04:03:06 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/postpartum-family-amp-friends#post-438036 Fri, 07 Dec 2012 14:56:18 +0000 edelweiss 438036@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i'm also trying to plan out visits from people. i think staggering is a really good idea. also, i think with the number of people who want to come, it's smart to reserve the first two weeks for you, your husband and baby because everyone can understand why your little family is first priority--if you chose someone to stay with you right after the birth, there might be jealousy issues (although maybe not, i just think your plan is a good one). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/postpartum-family-amp-friends#post-437847 Fri, 07 Dec 2012 14:06:05 +0000 chrispygal 437847@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>OMG, yes definitely stagger people. The first day we had all sorts of people in the room come visit us after we delivered. It was so hectic, people wanted our attention and they wanted the baby and didn't want to share. I was also sweating profusely and dry heaving, so honeslty I was relieved when everyone left. haha! People wanted their own time with the baby and if everyone is there at once, it will just be added stress on you. You need to give yourself and your hubby time to adjust so I agree that having the first person visit after a couple of weeks will be smart. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/postpartum-family-amp-friends#post-436961 Fri, 07 Dec 2012 07:57:33 +0000 boiledpnut 436961@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We've asked that anyone who will need to stay with us wait for 2 weeks after the baby is born to come visit. That way we can kind of get in a groove without the stress of guests. Then we're limiting all overnight visits to one week max. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/postpartum-family-amp-friends#post-436958 Fri, 07 Dec 2012 07:54:50 +0000 DillonLion 436958@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>For anyone who doesn't have to book a plane ticket or can be flexible with timing, allow yourself to change your plans with them if you need it. Some days I've needed the support from people and other days I've really needed to have no visitors..people were always understanding if I needed to change plans last minute. My LO is 10 days old today so this is all still pretty fresh. It was a little difficult turning people.away sometimes, but the guilt was personal, and like I said, no one gave us a hard time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/postpartum-family-amp-friends#post-436956 Fri, 07 Dec 2012 07:51:33 +0000 Weagle 436956@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree with Artbee. We loved having my parents around while DH was off because he could focus on me and LO and they did EVERYTHING else. But that only works if your visitors are selfless. We tried to schedule a few days to ourselves between visitors, and a few weeks between our last family visit and first friend visit. Worked for us. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/postpartum-family-amp-friends#post-436929 Fri, 07 Dec 2012 07:25:39 +0000 heffalump 436929@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I feel like this is one of those things that is a personal preference and everyone does differently. My brother has has his mil for four months and they love it..... I would have been miserable with anyone and wanted it to be just dh and me with visitors only during the day. </p> <p>That being said as first time parents we managed alone. If its an emergency you can call the doctor and if you have questions you can still call your mom. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/postpartum-family-amp-friends#post-436925 Fri, 07 Dec 2012 07:22:03 +0000 hellobeeboston 436925@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That sounds like a great plan!</p> <p>I had my mom up the first week because my husband had to work - so great having her or someone that first week - esp since you will be a little sore and recovering from delivery! </p> <p>I would love if more people were around to help! You may want a little break in the middle at some point though - I've enjoyed it just being me and my son, but someways I wish someone else was around so I could get some stuff done! dH has been good about coming home at lunch and early at night though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/postpartum-family-amp-friends#post-436917 Fri, 07 Dec 2012 07:08:30 +0000 sea_bass 436917@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hi! </p> <p>I wanted to get some opinions from people who have "Been there, done that", so to speak. </p> <p>We are due our first child in mid-june. I live away from my family although my mother lives in the same country as me. </p> <p>Already some close friends/family members have said they want to come over to see me and baby for/after the birth. </p> <p>I am pleased to think people would come and try to support me as this is our first child. My mother has also said she will take time off work after baby is born. </p> <p>However, when all these people were in my life around my wedding it was le shitstorm. They all wanted to be number 1 in my life and would get annoyed if I didn't have time for them in the few days leading up to our wedding. It was an unmitigated disaster. </p> <p>My DH will also get two weeks off after baby is born. What I was thinking was to stagger peoples time with us. </p> <p>For example, tell my Mom to take her time off for when my DH has gone back to work. Once my Mom's time off has ended to have my sister come and stay, once that has ended have a friend come to stay. </p> <p>It would mean that for around 2 months I would probably have someone who would be coming around to spend time with me and baby while my DH is at work. (Only my friend would need to stay at our place). </p> <p>I like this plan. I am scared about when baby arrives and DH is back at work if I will be able to manage looking after baby alone. I am fine with these people seeing my house a mess etc so I don't feel like it would be like having constant houses guests. </p> <p>What do you think? Did you get sick of constantly having people around? Or would you have preferred to have had more people around for support in the first few months? </p> <p>Does staggering the people make sense? Or do you think my mother should take the same time off as DH as we don't really know what we are doing (its our first child, but she could come over in the evening). </p> <p>I know it sounds overkill to try to plan this now, but people have to book flights that cost serious money and I would prefer to let them know our plans first rather than they all presume they will be here from the birth etc. </p> <p>Thanks! </p>