https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 03 May 2026 12:40:40 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/potty-power-struggle-wwyd#post-2019816 Mon, 12 Jan 2015 09:07:31 +0000 ShootingStar 2019816@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We're not at this stage yet, but do you think she might understand a bigger reward for a longer period of time with no accidents? Like if you told her if she goes a week without accidents she gets a new she toy she wants or something? And if she makes it a month she gets a larger reward? That way she gets rewarded, but not in a way that she can milk it to get more treats? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/potty-power-struggle-wwyd#post-2019812 Mon, 12 Jan 2015 09:02:06 +0000 mamimami 2019812@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We are on almost the same exact schedule as you and had the same problem over Christmas/New Year. Tons of "accidents" that were not accidents at all. I am happy to tell you that regression is mostly over!</p> <p>DON'T go back to diapers. Tough it out. </p> <p>We did try different strategies with rewards (food, clapping, etc.) and consequences (no treats, "now you can't wear your favorite shoes because they're all wet!") and honestly I did get really frustrated and scolded her sometimes. I am not sure if anything worked or if she just worked through it. </p> <p>Always carry 2-3 changes :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/potty-power-struggle-wwyd#post-2019803 Mon, 12 Jan 2015 08:44:37 +0000 PinkElephant 2019803@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks ladies! </p> <p>@kemma: I do think she'd understand to some degree, but I don't think she'd care. Her big cousin is coming this weekend and I hope that being like the cousin, who is 13, will provide motivation. She used to want to be like the big girls in her potty books, but the novelty has worn off in afraid!</p> <p>@brownie: I do like the alarm idea! She's definitely annoyed by forced potty breaks so maybe that'll work if I tell her I'll stop asking if she starts going! Very glad to hear this isn't just my daughter being particularly strong willed! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/potty-power-struggle-wwyd#post-2019662 Mon, 12 Jan 2015 00:08:19 +0000 brownie 2019662@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have found potty training to be two steps forward and then two steps back. It seems if he grows bigger we have a while with potty accidents. Then he is a rock star and then he has accidents again. It sounds like she may be going through one of these. </p> <p>His school did a great activity of setting an alarm every 20 minutes and making him go. He hated that so he stopped having accidents. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/potty-power-struggle-wwyd#post-2019653 Sun, 11 Jan 2015 23:40:34 +0000 Kemma 2019653@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Do you think she would understand if you explained that you have to put her back in diapers because she won't use the potty? Let her make the choice and then go with it so you've taken the power struggle away? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/potty-power-struggle-wwyd#post-2019650 Sun, 11 Jan 2015 23:32:43 +0000 PinkElephant 2019650@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DD started peeing on the potty a bit this summer (after she turned two) "just for fun" before her nap and at bedtime. I waited until around thanksgiving to start full blown potty training (we were in the midst of an international move and adjusting to a new baby this summer/fall) and things went pretty well - she was excited about it, would use the potty for pee without reminders, and would poop on the potty most of the time with coaching. Her accidents were tiny - like she'd catch herself and stop, and usually only happened when we were out. She was wearing underwear except for naps, bedtime, and a very long car trip (6hrs), and asking to go potty when she needed to but couldn't (ie she was in the stroller).</p> <p>However...starting around Christmas she started wetting her pants at home and out...and waiting for her naptime diaper to poop. I've taken away the underwear to have her go bare bottomed around the house, and unless constantly forced to take a potty break (and sometimes even when I do make her take one), she's peeing on the floor. Sometimes she acts like she didn't notice, most often she tells me like 10 minutes later, will point out where she did it and say "I pee peed by x. Not in the potty!" Rather gleefully. She is mostly keeping undies dry when we go out, but had two massive accidents while out this week - one she acted like she didn't notice, one she told me about.</p> <p>It feels like a power struggle and I've got no idea what to do...go back to diapers and retrain in another month or so? Just press on and ignore it? Try a new tactic like a reward method, or bring more regimented? I'm stumped. Is prefer not to use food rewards - I dabbled in that briefly and she would just pee a teeny bit at once over and over to get more rewards. She's 2.5 so no huge rush, but it's clear she has the bladder control to hold it when she wants to...so it seems silly to have her back in diapers.</p> <p>I'd welcome any and all advice from those who have been through this! Thanks in advance! </p>