https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 12 May 2026 18:21:29 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/potty-training-q-am-i-risking-success-if-we-take-it-slow#post-2692910 Tue, 07 Feb 2017 10:49:11 +0000 nana87 2692910@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Tbh, lo has been occasionally using the potty for over a year now (she's 2 months shy of 3 now), and on the advice of her dr and working w daycare, we just don't push it--mostly bc lo2 is due any day now, and our ped said just to wait at least 3 months or so until after baby is here to avoid a regression. sometimes she asks, sometimes she insists on going in her diaper even after we ask if she wants to use it. we talk about it a lot, she knows when she's going most of the time. she wears pull ups at daycare though not at home. we have underwear and she's put in on before but doesn't want to wear it. We read books about it. I'm not a fan of pushing anything, for lo at least that's just a recipe for creating an unnecessary battle for control. When she's really ready, she;ll be ready. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/potty-training-q-am-i-risking-success-if-we-take-it-slow#post-2692897 Tue, 07 Feb 2017 10:42:44 +0000 caterw 2692897@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Mine is nearly 3.5 and isn't potty trained. She totally gets it but doesn't want to train. I really need to get on this so she can enroll in preschool in the fall so I recently took the pullups away and am just dealing with the accidents. She is allowed to ask for a pullup to poop in still. We had been taking it reeeeeally slow and I wish we had just ripped off the bandaid and stopped with the pullups months ago. I think if she had been younger when I finished the training she would have been less opinionated about it. Letting her get to this age morphed simple potty training into a major control issue. For baby #2 I'm going to do the 3 day method when she shows readiness signs. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/potty-training-q-am-i-risking-success-if-we-take-it-slow#post-2692876 Tue, 07 Feb 2017 10:29:50 +0000 Anagram 2692876@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Oliviapope: I had a baby right when my oldest turned 2. So I ignored her readiness signs because I wasn't ready. She definitely peed on the potty several times in that time period, but I didn't really do anything else.</p> <p> I decided I was ready when she was 28 months old--it was the end of my maternity leave and I realized it was my last chance to do potty training without having a daycare to help/harm the process. So in spite of my "ignoring" the readiness signals for 4-5months, we jumped into the Oh Crap method (blocks, not days) and it was really successful. By the end of the week she was basically potty trained for pee and poop. The first day was the hardest. Day 2 she had only 2 accidents all day. Day 3-5 she had 1 accident a day--always when I was busy with my new baby--and then after that she didn't have any accidents for a long time.</p> <p>So, don't worry too much if you are ignoring some of her signs. You have to be ready and in the right mindset to potty train, I think. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/potty-training-q-am-i-risking-success-if-we-take-it-slow#post-2692791 Tue, 07 Feb 2017 08:57:06 +0000 Mrs. Carrot 2692791@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Training is just as much about your readiness as it is about theirs. If you don't think it's quite the right time, don't do it. Follow your gut. My daughter is 3 and a half, and we took potty training pretty slowly. Tried to do the 3 day method, hated everything about it, gave up and just kept on prompting her slowly. The move to underwear only happened when she asked for it and seemed to have some concept of potty=pee. We're just now finally getting her to do #2 on the potty - she's been trained since last May but always asked for a diaper for poop. Control issue more than anything, and it seems she's feeling more comfortable now (and the Daniel Tiger app is helping LOL). I wouldn't have done anything differently - I really believe they're ready when they're ready, and the best thing to do is follow their cues. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/potty-training-q-am-i-risking-success-if-we-take-it-slow#post-2692758 Tue, 07 Feb 2017 06:10:57 +0000 ElbieKay 2692758@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>For about 4 months, my son was wearing underwear and using the potty at school and then came home and would put in a pull-up. Then at home he started pooping on the potty but still peeing in the pull-up. Whenever we tried to put him in underwear at home, he would pitch a fit about using the toilet: And sometimes he would deliberately pee on the floor just to see what would happen. (Answer: We got annoyed.)</p> <p>Then one Saturday a little past 2.5, he told me he wanted to wear underwear. He is almost 3 and has barely had any accidents since the day he told me he was done. He still sleeps in pull-ups though.</p> <p>So, waiting worked for us! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/potty-training-q-am-i-risking-success-if-we-take-it-slow#post-2692751 Tue, 07 Feb 2017 01:54:20 +0000 808love 2692751@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Agreed, do it when you are ready. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/potty-training-q-am-i-risking-success-if-we-take-it-slow#post-2691148 Thu, 02 Feb 2017 23:34:35 +0000 Foodnerd81 2691148@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I felt a lot of pressure (self inflicted) to train at just the right time for her based on signs of readiness and everything. But I was pregnant and exhausted and just couldn't pile one more thing on. When the baby was a few months old and things settled down and she seemed interested we went for it and it was probably the easiest thing we have done with her. I know it's different for everyone but I just want to say we did it when we were ready and it worked out. I think what you are doing it working fine. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/potty-training-q-am-i-risking-success-if-we-take-it-slow#post-2691144 Thu, 02 Feb 2017 23:21:13 +0000 shellio 2691144@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I too wanted to wait until my son showed me he was ready - but at 2.5 I had the weekend off and I was so tired of changing poopy diapers. So I just sat him on the potty every 30 minutes or so and made a big fuss if he did anything. I was surprised that he often did and then started telling me when he had to go - honestly he caught on almost immediately and had so few accidents after that. So he was ready, I just didn't realize it. (He wasn't attempting to sit on the potty or anything else up until that time.) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/potty-training-q-am-i-risking-success-if-we-take-it-slow#post-2691134 Thu, 02 Feb 2017 22:28:09 +0000 AprilFool 2691134@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We 100% let LO take the lead and took it slow and it really worked for us. She's had minimal accidents because she was really ready. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/potty-training-q-am-i-risking-success-if-we-take-it-slow#post-2691128 Thu, 02 Feb 2017 21:50:48 +0000 catomd00 2691128@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Mine started initiating toilet trips like that around 20 months or so. We chose to follow her lead and she never upped the consistency enough for us to take advantage of it until she was 2.5. We tried undies and after a few accidents on day 1 and unwillingness to sit when we told her to, we asked if she wanted undies or diapers and she said diapers. We let it go for a few months until she asked for undies again around thanksgiving. It was so easy that time. Within 3 weeks she was day and night trained. The first week was rough but she kept saying she wanted undies when we would give her the choice, so we kept at it. She hasn't had an accident since Christmas, we never have to remind her to go, she just goes on her own. I'm all about following their lead if you're in no rush! We weren't even planning to start trying until 3. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/potty-training-q-am-i-risking-success-if-we-take-it-slow#post-2691111 Thu, 02 Feb 2017 20:54:21 +0000 PinkElephant 2691111@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Personally, I'd just keep doing what you're doing (with the diapers), and when she starts asking to go pee herself, step things up a bit. I know there are lots of opinions on this topic - mine is that if you're having to ask the child to go to the bathroom constantly, then its really the parent who is trained rather than the kid! I've taken different approaches with each of my daughters so far, and the only thing I'm sure of is that, as you said, I will definitely avoid training DD3 in the winter b/c of all the layers. We did that w/ DD1 and...yeah! Not again! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/potty-training-q-am-i-risking-success-if-we-take-it-slow#post-2691081 Thu, 02 Feb 2017 20:02:26 +0000 FaithFertility 2691081@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't ignore signs like if she asks you to go<br /> But I don't think you have to push her either</p> <p>With that said might be easier to try if she is interested now that might go away and then it might not be as easy..... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/potty-training-q-am-i-risking-success-if-we-take-it-slow#post-2691079 Thu, 02 Feb 2017 19:58:33 +0000 Bluebonnet 2691079@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If she's ready, train her now!</p> <p>With LO1, potty training was much harder than it could have been because we waited until we were ready. By that time, LO wasn't as interested/motivated and would rather be defiant. </p> <p>As soon as LO2 showed consistent signs of readiness, we trained her at it was relatively painless. (Our course there were accidents, but it wasn't a power struggle). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/potty-training-q-am-i-risking-success-if-we-take-it-slow#post-2691071 Thu, 02 Feb 2017 19:35:48 +0000 Kemma 2691071@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>She'll tell you when she's ready! Have you thought about just popping some undies in a draw and just letting her know they're there for when she's ready to wear them? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/potty-training-q-am-i-risking-success-if-we-take-it-slow#post-2691068 Thu, 02 Feb 2017 19:26:52 +0000 Mrs. Pajamas 2691068@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think your daughter is showing all the readiness signs but if you're not ready then I wouldn't bother. We just trained my 25 month old DD and it was a pretty significant effort for us despite DD being totally ready. There's inevitably accidents, lots of prompting, some stress about leaving the house, etc. I stayed home for 4 days to really get the concepts down and then went from there. But there are other methods out there. It depends on what you're comfortable with and what you're willing to commit to. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/potty-training-q-am-i-risking-success-if-we-take-it-slow#post-2691044 Thu, 02 Feb 2017 17:32:39 +0000 Oliviapope 2691044@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>LO is 25 months. We've had a potty seat that goes on the toilet for a month or two, ever since she's been talking about potties, etc. She is in day care a few days a week and in her room, kids who are actively training use the potty with help, I'm pretty sure it's talked about frequently. The teachers take her to try as well, but I don't think much has happened at daycare.</p> <p>For a couple of weeks she'd just sit on the potty maybe once a day. Not much happened but she was excited to sit and talk about who else goes on the potty.</p> <p>Last couple of days at home, when we put her on (at her request) she seems to pee. She's getting it. We don't consistently put her on - more like, before bath sometimes, sometimes in the morning, when we have a few minutes.</p> <p>This morning she peed - great! Then she wanted to sit there and she pooped! It was no big thing to her - she was just happy. </p> <p>And then we flushed and went and put a diaper on.</p> <p>I'm wondering today - is it a problem if I don't take advantage of her willingness and try to get her out of diapers right now? We wanted to just introduce the concept now and wait and see what happened, maybe try more formally in the spring. I was just thinking it would be easier to do in nicer weather when kids have less layers on, we'd be playing outside a lot, etc.</p> <p>But it seems like if she's doing so well, I'm worried by not seizing the opportunity I might be screwing up.</p> <p>Any advice or similar experiences? What do you know now that you wish you knew then? Will I screw it up by keeping her in diapers and just encouraging potty time? </p>