https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 07 Apr 2026 15:28:48 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/potty-training-wwyd-3/page/2#post-2834567 Tue, 17 Jul 2018 16:22:29 +0000 Meso 2834567@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>sorry, haven't read all the responses, so not sure if someone already mentioned it. but my LO was like this too, hated when i would ask her to go potty and threw a tantrum. what helped was buying a potty watch, they're like $10. you can set a timer for every 30, 60, 90 mins and it'll play a song when time is up. my LO thought it was fun and i didn't have to tell LO to go to the potty. after a month, she was going on her own without the watch. only time i have to ask her to go is before we go out and sleeping. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/potty-training-wwyd-3/page/2#post-2834564 Tue, 17 Jul 2018 16:02:09 +0000 KT326 2834564@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsADS: FWIW, my son is 6 and there are times I have to tell him to just go potty! He trained at 3.5 and if I remember correctly he still had to be reminded to go until almost 4.5, otherwise it was a race to the potty. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/potty-training-wwyd-3/page/2#post-2834563 Tue, 17 Jul 2018 15:45:55 +0000 Dahlia 2834563@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsADS: Sorry you're still having trouble at home! It does seem like a good sign to me that he can do it at school, though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/potty-training-wwyd-3/page/2#post-2834551 Tue, 17 Jul 2018 13:38:03 +0000 MrsBucky 2834551@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsADS: My son trained at school before he got it at home also, which was so frustrating. He did eventually get it, though! At least the school concern is resolved mostly for the time being? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/potty-training-wwyd-3/page/2#post-2834550 Tue, 17 Jul 2018 13:35:35 +0000 MrsADS 2834550@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Dahlia he is doing a lot better... at daycare. Not at home. He is super compliant for them and does whatever they ask, so he is in underwear full-time there (except for naps) and as long as they take him to go every 30 mins or so, he stays dry. He is having about 1 accident a day at school. But he won't go on his own - they have to remind him to go. But, baby steps.</p> <p>At home...yeesh. He knows what to do but I think he's like rebelling against having to do it at school. He comes home and cries his eyes out if I ask him to use the potty, hits me, tantrums, has accidents. On weekends if we leave the house I still have to put a diaper on him. I am hoping eventually the success at school will become second nature at home. I hate having to push him to do it at school. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/potty-training-wwyd-3/page/2#post-2834432 Tue, 17 Jul 2018 06:39:09 +0000 Dahlia 2834432@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsADS: How's the potty training going? Was thinking of you and hoping it's getting better! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/potty-training-wwyd-3/page/2#post-2833277 Wed, 11 Jul 2018 08:31:38 +0000 MrsADS 2833277@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks all... sorry for the delayed update, 6 week old + 2 year old = no time to do anything. No change on the home front, he is not motivated, but will occasionally pee on the potty. He is in underwear at daycare as of yesterday. Yesterday he had 3 accidents in the morning and 1 in the afternoon. He came home wearing his underwear but refused to pee on the potty at home and had an accident. Daycare wants to keep him in underwear, so I guess we will continue and see how this goes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/potty-training-wwyd-3/page/2#post-2832897 Mon, 09 Jul 2018 14:26:07 +0000 wrkbrk 2832897@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Turtle: Ordered the watch! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/potty-training-wwyd-3/page/2#post-2832896 Mon, 09 Jul 2018 14:25:34 +0000 Mrs. Turtle 2832896@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@wrkbrk: I don't feel like we get a ton of out smarting victories with her, so when I do I like to celebrate. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/potty-training-wwyd-3/page/2#post-2832885 Mon, 09 Jul 2018 14:01:59 +0000 wrkbrk 2832885@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Turtle: God so so true hahahaha. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/potty-training-wwyd-3/page/2#post-2832884 Mon, 09 Jul 2018 14:01:25 +0000 Mrs. Turtle 2832884@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@wrkbrk: @Dahlia: @MrsADS: When using the potty watch I'd play it up too, "Oh my gosh, what's that song? Is that YOUR watch? What is it telling you to do??" With O, she'd respond "PEE ON THE POTTY!!!" And then I knew I'd won. :grin: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/potty-training-wwyd-3/page/2#post-2832878 Mon, 09 Jul 2018 13:58:28 +0000 Mrs. Turtle 2832878@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Dahlia: @wrkbrk: They break quickly, if we were still using it I'd go ahead and order a couple! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/potty-training-wwyd-3/page/2#post-2832811 Mon, 09 Jul 2018 11:09:31 +0000 wrkbrk 2832811@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Turtle: Genius - looking it up now. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/potty-training-wwyd-3/page/2#post-2832771 Mon, 09 Jul 2018 09:41:30 +0000 Dahlia 2832771@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Turtle: A friend just showed us their potty watch last night! They look super fun. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/potty-training-wwyd-3/page/2#post-2832742 Mon, 09 Jul 2018 07:46:01 +0000 Adira 2832742@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsADS: I feel your pain. Potty training a strong-willed child is pure torture!</p> <p>You can read all about my torture here: <a href="http://boards.hellobee.com/topic/veterans-day-potty-training" rel="nofollow">http://boards.hellobee.com/topic/veterans-day-potty-training</a></p> <p>But I think the key is really trying to be a low-key about it as possible. Let HIM decide when he has to go potty. Let HIM figure it out. Make HIM help clean up messes. While potty training, I put a garbage bag on the couch with a towel over it and told him he could sit on the couch, but it had to be on the towel. He wasn't a fan, but I wasn't making him do it "You can choose to sit on the couch on the towel or sit on the floor." But whenever I tried to force him to use the potty is when we had set backs. And just celebrating when he actually DID use it. Make it as positive an experience as possible and try to act like you just don't care otherwise.</p> <p>Daycare SHOULD be experienced with potty training children. Mine had no issues with me sending my son in underwear during training. I sent a ton of spare clothes, including spare shoes, and just apologized a bunch, but they were totally cool with it. Hopefully your daycare will be the same.</p> <p>If you're serious about training, I wouldn't turn back now. These first few weeks will absolutely be the worst, but I imagine going back to diapers will just make trying again later HARDER because he'll know that if he's stubborn enough, you'll give in! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/potty-training-wwyd-3/page/2#post-2832741 Mon, 09 Jul 2018 07:29:51 +0000 looch 2832741@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsADS: Have you tried asking your son what you can do to help him better understand what you're asking him to do?</p> <p>I use this technique with my son when he's trying to turn something into a power struggle, and granted, he's older, but I honestly think if I had tried this earlier, we could have avoided some blow ups. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/potty-training-wwyd-3/page/2#post-2832731 Sun, 08 Jul 2018 23:49:48 +0000 Mrs. Turtle 2832731@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree about waiting. However, the only thing I have to add which worked wonders for our stubborn girl who has gone through several short phases of refusal is a potty watch. There are a few different versions. One actually looks like a potty! They're cheap on Amazon, really simple, and toddlers think they're SO COOL. You set it to 30, 60 or 90 min intervals and it lights up and plays a little song. Super simple. For some reason, having the potty watch be the one reminding her it was time was SUPER DUPER FUN and me reminding her was basically the end of the world. Whatever. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/potty-training-wwyd-3/page/2#post-2832728 Sun, 08 Jul 2018 22:58:36 +0000 Dahlia 2832728@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Coming back to say we just finished day 2 with three pees on the potty and no accidents (girlfriend is a camel). The last two pees she just calmly walked herself to her potty, sat down and peed without saying anything. Even getting her to sit on the potty was a full on meltdown two weeks ago, so if tomorrow doesn't go well I would definitely try waiting a few weeks. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/potty-training-wwyd-3/page/2#post-2832706 Sun, 08 Jul 2018 19:10:15 +0000 wrkbrk 2832706@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@jape14: Got it thanks! I kind of assumed everyone did oh crap or a version of it. My wife says it very much wasn’t for our son. This gives me hope there are other ways! Instead of just tying the same thing again in two months or whatever. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/potty-training-wwyd-3/page/2#post-2832705 Sun, 08 Jul 2018 19:05:13 +0000 Mrs. Goose 2832705@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LBee: this is a good idea too. </p> <p> Toddlers are so tricky and I find it’s so often a battle of trying to sort of outsmart them and tread the very thin emotional line...daily. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/potty-training-wwyd-3/page/2#post-2832704 Sun, 08 Jul 2018 19:05:00 +0000 jape14 2832704@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@wrkbrk: first - we didn’t do the oh crap method for what that is worth. We had been doing a nightly pee on the potty regularly for many months and he started wanting to do it in the mornings too (he would ask). He also started staying dry after lots of naps and other times. We did have the school deadline but I’m glad we waited until closer to 3 versus earlier in that summer. </p> <p>He’s a pretty easygoing kid but I do think the oh crap approach wouldn’t have worked for him. We tried to make it low key and fun (read: filled with bribes). We also had a newborn in the house so there was no way we could have gone with such an intense method. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/potty-training-wwyd-3/page/2#post-2832703 Sun, 08 Jul 2018 19:02:01 +0000 Mrs. Goose 2832703@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsADS: my kid has also done that, a lot, and so we couldn’t go do whatever the thing I said we were going to do was and I waited out a tantrum. The only time I guess that fails is if you have to go some where, but it isn’t something the kid cares about anyway. I feel like doing this isn’t technically forcing them, because they still have to take the time and go to the potty if they want to do /have whatever the thing is.</p> <p>I cant force my toddler to the potty/toilet because an epic meltdown will ensue and likely nothing will come out anyway, but I know that she can usually squeeze out a drop of pee if she hasn’t gone for a while and decides she wants to....so it’s tricky. </p> <p>Do you think if you wait a few more days or weeks it’s going to be any less of a power type struggle? I also agree with pp that the next day(s) May just get easier, or hopefully will. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/potty-training-wwyd-3/page/2#post-2832702 Sun, 08 Jul 2018 18:56:09 +0000 LBee 2832702@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsADS: from the other side of things (this was our exact situation), BACK OFF. Go back to pull ups and don’t mention the potty for 2 weeks. It’ll be so tempting to offer it but do not say a word. In 2 weeks, leave the underwear out and say “my mistake, I forgot you don’t use these anymore.” See his reaction and go from there. He has identified he has power, that this matters to you, and you are about to go down a rough road. I attempted to fight through it at first and things spun out pretty dramatically. </p> <p>@jape14: You fail to mention that you were just equally traumatized by T’s training and were just waiting until J potty trained himself. </p> <p>On the plus side, hopefully he shows such resilience when presented with peer pressure in future years? 🙈😂 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/potty-training-wwyd-3/page/2#post-2832698 Sun, 08 Jul 2018 18:06:14 +0000 wrkbrk 2832698@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@jape14: How did you know he was ready? We tried this weekend and my son was not (even though I thought he was). We have four 1/2 months until he’s 3.... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/potty-training-wwyd-3/page/2#post-2832692 Sun, 08 Jul 2018 17:46:36 +0000 jape14 2832692@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsADS: I agree with @Dahlia: that I’d wait a couple more weeks. We started potty training with DS exactly 2 weeks before his 3rd birthday, which was a few days before preschool started and he was expected to be fully trained. He did really well with it - we never used pull ups and he had no accidents at school. In our case we waited bc we had a newborn and wanted to get through the first 6 weeks. Also, for what it’s worth, the second day of training was the worst and mentally very draining for us. So don’t lose hope based on one bad day! </p> <p>(We did straight bribery. Stickers to fill in a dinosaur scene I drew on big paper for every pee. Pick a matchbox car from a treasure chest for (1) every poop and (2) staying dry all day with no accidents.) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/potty-training-wwyd-3/page/2#post-2832689 Sun, 08 Jul 2018 16:40:36 +0000 gotkimchi 2832689@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsADS: in that situation I would say ok! Let me know when you’re ready so we can leave/watch show whatever! And then just go about my business </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/potty-training-wwyd-3/page/2#post-2832688 Sun, 08 Jul 2018 16:21:03 +0000 Dahlia 2832688@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsADS: I think I'd wait a couple of weeks (maybe try again August 1? That would still give you a few weeks to get it by his birthday). DD used to get hysterical and scream and cry if we tried to get her to use the potty. We took her diapers away yesterday and this time she's been great! We are nowhere near potty trained (0/3 successes yesterday and one success and a lot of pee holding today) BUT this time she is happy to sit on the potty and hasn't gotten emotionally upset at all. And it's only been a few weeks since last time we tried. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/potty-training-wwyd-3/page/2#post-2832684 Sun, 08 Jul 2018 15:06:27 +0000 MrsADS 2832684@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Goose yeah except when I do that, he screams "NOOOO I DON'T WANT TO USE THE POTTY!" So... Then what do I do? I can't force him </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/potty-training-wwyd-3/page/2#post-2832676 Sun, 08 Jul 2018 13:33:37 +0000 Mrs. Goose 2832676@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Also came back to say that you can give him some choice/ ownership of potty training by saying “do you want to pee in the big toilet or the potty before we go out or do whatever activity/ watch a show etc”. There is no option not to pee, just the option of location. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/potty-training-wwyd-3/page/2#post-2832675 Sun, 08 Jul 2018 13:29:00 +0000 MrsADS 2832675@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@wrkbrk uggh hugs mama. Honestly I want to quit too but I feel like we have to push on b/c of the school deadline.</p> <p>@mrsbucky thanks! Those are all good ideas. He is just soooo strong willed that everything becomes a huge battle. Like the wet pants - I was totally fine with him being naked but I wasn't going to let him sit in wet pants all day, you know? Because he would literally keep them on all day. And whenever I have to force an issue (i.e. taking off the wet pants, or I won't let you sit on the couch while you're learning to potty) results in a HUGE TANTRUM. Like screaming, hitting, total hysteria. So I can put it on him but he will flip out. It's a total power struggle, you're exactly right. And I guess if he's in his 2's class a little longer it's not the end of the world. I don't think they will let him stay forever though - like within a few months he's going to have to move up or leave b/c they have such a high demand for spots.</p> <p>@pollywog thanks! that is great advice. That is basically what we did this morning and that's the plan for today. Thank you for sharing your experience, that's exactly what I was hoping to hear. I don't think he will be ready to go to school in underwear on Tuesday. Being stuck at home SUCKS and I cannot imagine 5 more weekends of sitting at home outside peeing everywhere (we are in south Florida and it's boiling hot). I would like to be able to go out and do stuff .Maybe pullups when we go out and no diaper at home, IDK.</p> <p>@caitcat thanks. I think we will continue bottomless, eventually moving to commando, then to undies at home, but probably pullups/diapers while out and about for a little while because he's not quite there and I can't deal with being stuck at home for weeks at a time. </p>