https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 19 Jun 2026 10:13:29 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pp-mood-issues-4-months-after-baby-born#post-1896238 Fri, 10 Oct 2014 06:36:42 +0000 SleepyMonkey 1896238@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@spartysammy: how old is she? Its OK to let your baby cry for a little bit, and step away or just get ready for work. Who takes care of her while you are at work? Don't feel like a horrible mom! You are doing a great job and that is just the effects of sleep deprivation talking. Do you and dh take turns on the weekend with napping for yourselves? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pp-mood-issues-4-months-after-baby-born#post-1896233 Fri, 10 Oct 2014 06:23:20 +0000 spartysammy 1896233@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@SleepyMonkey: unfortunately, or fortunately depending on how one looks at it, I work four days a week. So no naps for this mom. She wont even let me put her down this morning to get ready (DH is already at work), I have no idea what I am gonna do. She has been up 20 minutes and I have already cried once. I feel lik like a horrible mom. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pp-mood-issues-4-months-after-baby-born#post-1896205 Fri, 10 Oct 2014 05:24:16 +0000 SleepyMonkey 1896205@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@spartysammy: sorry that you are going thru this too! Sleep deprivation is a powerful thing. I have no good advice except that it does get better over time. Do you have someone that can come help you during the day so you can nap? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pp-mood-issues-4-months-after-baby-born#post-1896190 Fri, 10 Oct 2014 02:43:14 +0000 spartysammy 1896190@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I know this is an older thread but I s m up at 3:30 in the morning looking at all the boarda. It is nice to know I am not alone. My LO is a horrible sleeper, the more sleep deprived I get the sadder I get. I am having a really rough time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pp-mood-issues-4-months-after-baby-born#post-1868842 Thu, 18 Sep 2014 17:11:53 +0000 Lindsay05 1868842@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>4-5 months was my worst with both LOs. Once a routine was established, things got much easier. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pp-mood-issues-4-months-after-baby-born#post-1868831 Thu, 18 Sep 2014 17:01:29 +0000 jedeve 1868831@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm three months pp and struggling more. I'm already on antidepressants since I had PPD with #1. At this stage, help is scarce, the baby is more demanding than a sleepy newborn blob, sleep deprivation is getting old. </p> <p>You aren't alone! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pp-mood-issues-4-months-after-baby-born#post-1868810 Thu, 18 Sep 2014 16:49:55 +0000 catomd00 1868810@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes!!! I haven't weaned yet but def had some pp mood issues around 4-6 months. It's been way better since I told DH, asked for more help (a little help has gone a looooong way) and gotten more sleep! Hang in there. You aren't alone and don't be afraid to ask for help! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pp-mood-issues-4-months-after-baby-born#post-1868746 Thu, 18 Sep 2014 16:11:23 +0000 meredithNYC 1868746@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Beebug: I haven't quite had this experience, as my PPD struck quite a bit earlier. But maybe you can relate to the author of this blog? <a href="http://joannagoddard.blogspot.com/2012/02/motherhood-depression-and-weaning.html" rel="nofollow">http://joannagoddard.blogspot.com/2012/02/motherhood-depression-and-weaning.html</a> </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pp-mood-issues-4-months-after-baby-born#post-1868723 Thu, 18 Sep 2014 15:54:12 +0000 Beebug 1868723@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Rainbow Sprinkles: when DH gets home from work I usually take off for an hour or so, need the escape. Usually get a chocolate shake and take the dog for a swim, lol. Support system is eh, I'm touch and go with others in good times, again, it's hard to talk to people, makes it awkward on them not knowing what to say.</p> <p>@SleepyMonkey: I will see him Monday and know I will start bawling the monent he asks. Thankfully my whole fam sees him so he knows all the fam stuff too, Nevermind "just" the kid stuff.</p> <p>@MrsKoala: it probably happened 3/3.5m with DD and by the time I saw doc at 4m I was a disaster. Interesting it happened even later for you.</p> <p>@HTownMom: sorry it happened to you too, but comfort in not being the only one.</p> <p>@Greentea: sleep is tough because his sleep is garbage and he's not #1 so I can't nap when he naps, that would be a dream, lol. Exercise is coming, I had knee surgery a month ago and slowing easing back! I get out for two walks a day at least (with the kids in stroller, and dog!). I'm counselled out the wazoo right now for other stuff, I'm definitely not in a place to get to know a new one, nor have time for another, I could see if the current one I could talk about that stuff with her. I love me some counselling, went most of my childhood and plenty in the last few months. I have no idea on thyroid, we eat really healthy (I do most meals, we eat out maybe 1x a month?) and I don't think id consider thyroid an issue?</p> <p>Thanks all. *sigh* </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pp-mood-issues-4-months-after-baby-born#post-1868595 Thu, 18 Sep 2014 14:42:13 +0000 loveisstrange 1868595@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I know people who presented PPD up to 6 months after birth. I think medically, it can happen up to a year. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pp-mood-issues-4-months-after-baby-born#post-1868584 Thu, 18 Sep 2014 14:38:15 +0000 Greentea 1868584@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had a worse time later on actually, but the onset can happen anytime in the first year. Sleep if you can, find a way. Exercise if you can. Go easy on yourself. Consider talking to a counselor- this does NOT mean I think you "need therapy"- I actually find that sentiment destructive and likely keeps people from going when they could benefit- a counselor is just somebody to talk to that can listen without judgement and offer advice. I went once and it helped me. (Doesn't mean I think something is wrong with you- rather that what you are going through is common- parenting is validly difficult and vent-worthy! ) Eat healthy if you can. Have you checked your thyroid? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pp-mood-issues-4-months-after-baby-born#post-1868575 Thu, 18 Sep 2014 14:31:10 +0000 HTownMom 1868575@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes this happened to me at 4 mths PP too! It's because your hormones are getting back into some regulation after the "4th trimester" or months 0-3. I also had PPD and finally reached out to my OB about it. She then recommend I see a therapist at Women's center that is connected to the hospital and specifically for PPD/PPA. It really helped to talk to someone about it and realize I wasn't crazy or the only one who feels these things. I have been on medication and continued to breastfeeding and feel a lot better!</p> <p>Good luck and hugs! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pp-mood-issues-4-months-after-baby-born#post-1868554 Thu, 18 Sep 2014 14:16:48 +0000 MrsKoala 1868554@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My postpartum anxiety reared its head around 6 months pp but I felt it as early as 5 months. I was honestly shocked that it could happen that late, to the point where I convinced myself that I didn't have a problem. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pp-mood-issues-4-months-after-baby-born#post-1868549 Thu, 18 Sep 2014 14:15:16 +0000 SleepyMonkey 1868549@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I struggled the most from 0-3 months but I've read your situation with the sleep deprivation and I can see that being a big part of it. Have you talked to your doctor about it? You sound a bit ppd-ish. I've read that PPD can show up several months after giving birth. At least chat with your doc about what you are ffeeling and get the names of some therapists that you can talk to. I'm sorry you are having a tough time right now! Big hugs. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pp-mood-issues-4-months-after-baby-born#post-1868535 Thu, 18 Sep 2014 14:10:06 +0000 Rainbow Sprinkles 1868535@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So I've read that the biggest dip in hormones happens at 4 month pp. 4 months pp is when I started to struggle with PPD and wanted to give up on EVERYTHING on numerous occasions. Just know there is nothing wrong with you and you're a great mom. It is really common for women to feel this way, especially around 4 months. Life is hard. Mothering is hard. Throw other stressors, sleep deprivation, and hormone swings into the mix, and it's no wonder you're having a hard time! </p> <p>I'm sorry you're dealing with all this, but things WILL get better. How's your support system? Can you squeeze in some you time? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pp-mood-issues-4-months-after-baby-born#post-1868509 Thu, 18 Sep 2014 13:57:39 +0000 Beebug 1868509@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have a lot going on right now (life, relationship, kids) and not in a good way. I know my lack of sleep definitely is a main factor in my bad days (today, can you tell?) and I go to my family doc Monday for DS's 4m appt.</p> <p>I quit bf'ing LO1 at 4m, I felt at my worst then with her, don't think it's any coincidence this time around. I had a crap time with my MIL after #1 that I got worse about around the 4m mark, I wrecked some friendships and wasn't a great person to be around. I totally feel I'm sending myself that way again and don't even care to fix it.</p> <p>It's hard to talk to DH, friends, Mom about any of what I'm feeling, I hate thinking and feeling a lot of what's gone through my head, hard to be at a point where I signed up for this and all I want to do is walk away, bleh.</p> <p>I'm not looking for any pity, the above more a rant. Did anyone experience pp stuff later on (like 4m?) and how did you come through it? Anything... </p>