https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 27 May 2026 22:24:28 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pre-baby-were-you-worried-your-dhso-was-too-impatient-for-kids#post-2050142 Mon, 02 Feb 2015 02:50:40 +0000 Cherrybee 2050142@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It was me we were worried about! I really don't like children! I hate the noise, I hate the mess! I am infinitely more patient with E...... but my expectations are still too high! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pre-baby-were-you-worried-your-dhso-was-too-impatient-for-kids#post-2050141 Mon, 02 Feb 2015 02:50:12 +0000 birdofafeather 2050141@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No, DH is super patient and that's good because I'm usually not! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pre-baby-were-you-worried-your-dhso-was-too-impatient-for-kids#post-2050131 Mon, 02 Feb 2015 02:10:27 +0000 BSB 2050131@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Espion: lol! Thank you. I didn't take it that way.</p> <p>@MrsMccarthy: Thank you! Yeah, DH definitely needs his sleep. </p> <p>@T.H.O.U.: Thank you. Yeah, I think it's so great he wants to be a SAHD.</p> <p>@NurseDMB: Thank you! That's so great!</p> <p>@ShootingStar: Good point! Thanks!</p> <p>@ChiCalGoBee: thank you for sharing! So many good points.</p> <p>@Mrs. High Heels: @blackbird: @Mae: @meredithNYC: @mrsrugbee: @BeachMama: @mamimami: Thank you for commenting. DH actually had to convince me to have kids before we were married and I'm sure when I'm alone with a crying baby, I'll be so frustrated. I think I didn't seem to stress this last week with out house guests because the parents were nearby. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pre-baby-were-you-worried-your-dhso-was-too-impatient-for-kids#post-2050082 Sun, 01 Feb 2015 23:17:19 +0000 ChiCalGoBee 2050082@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bluestriped bee: Patience was one of the things I worried about, but it was also combined with me being nervous that, knowing our entire lives were about to be turned upside down, that my husband would panic or be too nervous. He had zero experience with babies. I had a decent amount of experience with babies and I was panicking a bit! All that was for nought, though-he fell for our baby hook, line, and sinker from the second he saw him. And yes, we both have our moments where we're frustrated/our nerves are fried as parents of a newborn, but the overwhelming love trumps any impatience you might feel. We've both spoken about how we love our *real* baby far more than the theoretical one we talked about pre-pregnancy, or even when we imagined what it would be like when I was actually pregnant. Once your baby/babies are here, you'll both find your inner patience! To answer your last question, too...yes, he surprised me in the best possible way with how he interacts with and feels about our baby! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pre-baby-were-you-worried-your-dhso-was-too-impatient-for-kids#post-2050063 Sun, 01 Feb 2015 23:00:18 +0000 mamimami 2050063@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am still too impatient for kids! (And I have two of them.) my husband is super patient and always has been! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pre-baby-were-you-worried-your-dhso-was-too-impatient-for-kids#post-2050002 Sun, 01 Feb 2015 21:54:11 +0000 ShootingStar 2050002@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Before DS was born DH was a little worried about his ability to be patient. I told him I used our dog as a way to practice being patient. She's a good dog, but still a dog :silly: .</p> <p>Now that DS is here (and has been a while) DH's patience is great I think. It's not perfect, he still has his moment, as do I. And usually he just loses it at things that would drive anyone crazy. For example, D is currently in a shrieking phase. Happy, sad, stuck in his cozy coupe, everything gets an ear-piercing shriek. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pre-baby-were-you-worried-your-dhso-was-too-impatient-for-kids#post-2049971 Sun, 01 Feb 2015 21:33:17 +0000 PrincessBaby 2049971@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband's patience is almost never-ending. When he loses patience, head for the hills, because it's something bad! But he is the lovely tempered one. I am the hothead, and my patience just sucked. But having a child flipped a switch somewhere, and I am SOOOOOO much more patient in general, not just with my daughter, but with everything. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pre-baby-were-you-worried-your-dhso-was-too-impatient-for-kids#post-2049927 Sun, 01 Feb 2015 20:51:31 +0000 NurseDMB 2049927@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bluestriped bee: Honestly, I really wasn't sure how my husband would be as a dad. We were never really around kids but then when his best friend had a daughter, I saw how good he was with her.</p> <p>He is the most amazing dad to our 18 month old son, who is such a daddy's boy. It's so great to see, I love their bond! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pre-baby-were-you-worried-your-dhso-was-too-impatient-for-kids#post-2049918 Sun, 01 Feb 2015 20:40:30 +0000 BeachMama 2049918@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No way. DH is by far the most patient person I know. I, on the other hand, am very impatient and often lose my temper with DD. It's something I'm trying to work on but honestly am not being very successful =( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pre-baby-were-you-worried-your-dhso-was-too-impatient-for-kids#post-2049910 Sun, 01 Feb 2015 20:26:03 +0000 mrsrugbee 2049910@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My DH is also infinitely patient. I was worried I wouldn't be as patient. As it turns out, DD has shown me I have WAY more patience than I ever could have imagined. I empathise with her a lot when she's grumpy which definitely helps: "I know! Baby! I'm grumpy too - Neither of us have slept/Your teeth hurt/ you want all the hugs" </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pre-baby-were-you-worried-your-dhso-was-too-impatient-for-kids#post-2049905 Sun, 01 Feb 2015 20:21:41 +0000 T.H.O.U. 2049905@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Once it's your own kids it definitely changes. </p> <p>However, I really think it takes a VERY special man to have the patience to be a SAHD (meaning full time not just stay home with kids on occasion). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pre-baby-were-you-worried-your-dhso-was-too-impatient-for-kids#post-2049830 Sun, 01 Feb 2015 19:10:27 +0000 meredithNYC 2049830@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm the impatient one in our relationship and I can honestly say that I have grown so much in this area since having children. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pre-baby-were-you-worried-your-dhso-was-too-impatient-for-kids#post-2049809 Sun, 01 Feb 2015 18:53:06 +0000 Mae 2049809@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wasn't worried about DH because he's a pretty patient person. But I'm a super impatient person and sort of surprised myself that I have lots of patience for LO. It's different when it's your kid! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pre-baby-were-you-worried-your-dhso-was-too-impatient-for-kids#post-2049791 Sun, 01 Feb 2015 18:30:46 +0000 MrsMccarthy 2049791@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband is a very impatient person. It still shows up to some degree but honestly he is wonderful with our son so long as sleep deprivation or MON wake ups aren't involved. He is a bear without sleep. He has improved some there though as well. I think it will be goo for your husband. Can't wait for your BFP!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pre-baby-were-you-worried-your-dhso-was-too-impatient-for-kids#post-2049789 Sun, 01 Feb 2015 18:29:17 +0000 blackbird 2049789@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not really-he's got more patience than me! That being said, other peoples' kids irritate me pretty quickly. Far more than mine </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pre-baby-were-you-worried-your-dhso-was-too-impatient-for-kids#post-2049769 Sun, 01 Feb 2015 17:55:10 +0000 Mrs. High Heels 2049769@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This wasn't ever a fear of mine because DH is the most patient person I know!! I was surprised at how patient I became after having kids though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pre-baby-were-you-worried-your-dhso-was-too-impatient-for-kids#post-2049746 Sun, 01 Feb 2015 17:19:24 +0000 Espion 2049746@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have seen the most kid-disliking, neurotic people have infinite patience when it comes to their own children. I think you never know until you know!</p> <p>(ETA: not to suggest your DH is any of those things!) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pre-baby-were-you-worried-your-dhso-was-too-impatient-for-kids#post-2049736 Sun, 01 Feb 2015 17:03:30 +0000 BSB 2049736@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH is definitely more impatient than I am and wasnt exactly patient with our house guests' kids when they were visiting. (I could tell he was stressing out on the crying or screaming fits they would ocassionally have.) I'm sure it will be different when it's our own kids and also he wants to be a SAHD so his heart is in it. </p> <p>I think I'm more patient because of being on this community and see all the crazy reasons a kid might being crying. </p> <p>Did you DH/SO surprise you when you did have kids? </p>