https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 10 May 2026 18:16:24 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pregnancy-after-early-miscarriage#post-2915303 Tue, 12 May 2020 18:30:11 +0000 Lahela017 2915303@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had a chemical and then a successful pregnancy right after. My daughter is now 13 months. I tested like crazy the second time. Sometimes it brought me comfort, and other times it was just more stress and worry. Honestly, I was worried for the first half of my pregnancy, but I think I would have been regardless of the chemical pregnancy. I deal with anxiety. I hope you can find joy in this new pregnancy, and find peace knowing that it is very common to have a successful pregnancy after a chemical, like pp said. Hugs! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pregnancy-after-early-miscarriage#post-2915287 Tue, 12 May 2020 12:57:20 +0000 Msglass 2915287@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thank you all for your support and for sharing your stories. Today has been rough in particular for some reason. Also it is scaring me that my cheap Amazon tests don’t seem to begetting darker even though I keep getting positive ClearBlue digitals. Have any of you had any experience with the brand Pregmate? That’s the one I’m using and I’m wondering if it just takes a while to see progression. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pregnancy-after-early-miscarriage#post-2915234 Mon, 11 May 2020 14:31:49 +0000 poppygirl15 2915234@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I’m so sorry for your loss, but congrats! Like you, I got pregnant with my rainbow baby the first cycle after losing my baby at 8 weeks. I’ll be honest, it was hard to relax throughout the pregnancy, but I focused on being happy with what I had at that moment, because what else can you do? Sending you sticky dust wishes! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pregnancy-after-early-miscarriage#post-2915230 Mon, 11 May 2020 12:59:18 +0000 JennyPenny 2915230@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry for your loss. Chemical pregnancies are such a cruel (and modern as @BUNBUN pointed out) circumstance. I had a chemical pregnancy right before a successful one. Actually one of the only things that brought me any assurance was the seemingly huge number of stories I found online of people having a successful pregnancy the cycle after a chemical. I did struggle to connect for a while though. It's like the first time I thought of it as a baby the second I saw a 2nd line and so even though it was only a few days before I lost the pregnancy in my mind I was losing a baby. I think to protect myself the next time I really saw the pregnancy more as a possibility. Like "Here, you've been given a chance to have a baby. It may not work out, but it might, and this is the only way to get there." So I was less excited for sure, but it helped me stay sane. And thankfully it all turned out well and that baby will be a month old this week :) I'm hopeful it turns out similarly for you. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pregnancy-after-early-miscarriage#post-2915224 Mon, 11 May 2020 12:19:07 +0000 BUNBUN 2915224@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>First of all, I'm so sorry for your early loss, I found my chemical harder to process than my 8 week miscarriage.<br /> Secondly, congratulations!</p> <p>FWIW: everyone is different, everyone is reassured by different information, please let yourself grieve, feel all the feelings, and don't hold yourself to any standards of "normal." For me, it helped to focus on what I could do today, and not think too far ahead. I'm a planner, that was hard. But living in the moment of "I'm pregnant today" (something I learned here on Hellobee) was helpful.</p> <p>My family members didn't even understand what a "chemical pregnancy" was because that tech didn't exist when I was born 40 years ago! It was hard to explain and not easy to process. They understood the miscarriage, but also hadn't been through it personally.<br /> For me (full disclosure, I'm a scientist), knowing that early losses are usually due to chromosomal abnormalities and there was NOTHING I could do helped. The fact that we never would even KNOW about these pregnancies without these super sensitive tests was reassuring.<br /> But my brain and my heart still took a little while to catch up to each other.</p> <p>My chemical was about 6 months before my next positive pregnancy test, but it definitely made me test more to look for "progression", and not let myself get excited until I had more than a week between positives. Then we were anxiously awaiting the first OB appointment for confirmation before we would "really, really believe it."<br /> That appointment didn't go as planned. The baby was measuring around 5 weeks when it should have been 8. My OB was encouraging us to be optimistic, but we knew our timing wasn't 3 weeks off.</p> <p>The miscarriage occurred on its own, at around 10 weeks. It was literally my busiest week at work (including news interviews, being on camera and radio, the works!), which helped keep me distracted, but added a layer of anxiety as I didn't know what to expect. I had no complications and didn't need to go to the ER. Once I was able to get in with an OB (mine was out of town), he suggested waiting a month before trying again. I knew (from chatting with friends in the medical field) that this was mostly for dating purposes, but also for our mental health. For us, it was more important to connect when we felt moved, rather than wait for the sake of waiting.<br /> Well, we got pregnant that month and I'm currently 36 weeks. For us, every ultrasound was a sigh of relief. We tried not to look too far ahead, to focus on the next milestone or test, not the one after the next. The blood test another reassurance, passing the first trimester another, and finally feeling her move (I have an anterior placenta, so that took forever!) was the final reassurance I needed that she was in there and ok. But I had to take it one day at a time and put a lot of faith in God and nature to take care of everything because there was nothing else *I* could do.<br /> We have since found out that she has a dilated renal pelvis, so there have been and will continue to be specialists and more appointments, but it's not a life-threatening condition, and again, there is nothing we can do right now.</p> <p>I do think I was more low-key and less excited with this pregnancy, but it's also hard to say why as we have a 3 year old and have been dealing with Covid-19. Again, focusing on what I *could* control and not what I can't has been key - with the toddler and with all of the Covid risk/precautions/etc.</p> <p>I hope you can find joy as you go through the waiting. I hope you seek and find support when you need it. I hope you're posting baby pics here in 9 months!<br /> Good luck :heart: :goodluck: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pregnancy-after-early-miscarriage#post-2915219 Mon, 11 May 2020 12:06:00 +0000 bhbee 2915219@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sending you the biggest biggest hugs. It is a really hard place to be (I’ve had 4 earlier miscarriages, 1 later and also 3 healthy pregnancies mixed in). At the beginning it was absolutely survival for me - one day at a time. Today I am pregnant. Admittedly lots of panic. I always tested until I got darker lines, but it’s hard to recommend that since it doesn’t change anything and can drive you crazy since tests aren’t really meant to be used like that and it doesn’t always work as expected (the darkening part) even for a healthy pregnancy. </p> <p>My first two losses were a cycle apart (one negative in the middle). I got pregnant with my oldest right after the second loss. I found it hard in first tri but it got a lot easier for me after that, once we were past NT (or NIPT now). After more losses and the later one, I struggled more throughout the pregnancy. But still it did get less overwhelming as things went on. I didn’t do betas with my third because it felt too high stress and again doesn’t change the outcome.</p> <p>I hope you find it gets better!! Part of it is just getting through. So much sticky baby dust for you :heart:</p> <p>ETA don’t worry about the joy part. You have lots of time to get there and you will. Right now, if mental distance helps, absolutely go with it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pregnancy-after-early-miscarriage#post-2915217 Mon, 11 May 2020 11:35:33 +0000 Msglass 2915217@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hello,<br /> I posted last month about how I ended up having a very early miscarriage. I got a positive pregnancy test and then two days later started bleeding. My husband and decided to try again right away, and I found out I am pregnant again. The fear and anxiety is killing me though. I’m still technically not supposed to miss my period until tomorrow or the next day. I’m scared I’ll suddenly start bleeding or get a negative test and that I’ll go through that horrible emotional roller coaster all over again. I have barely let myself be joyful. If you’ve had an early miscarriage/chemical, how did you cope afterwords? What was it like if you got pregnant again right after? Will it feel this way the entire pregnancy? </p> [attach=6934/20/qa6e3a.450x600.D38198D3-EE3B-4BCD-8624-61EC85419FE2.jpeg]