https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 25 May 2026 06:12:23 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pregnancy-after-if#post-1620754 Thu, 08 May 2014 08:06:57 +0000 night cheese 1620754@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>After a miscarriage, 7 failed IUI's, and an IVF that resulted in one vanishing twin, I've been a nervous wreck throughout this entire pregnancy, even though the surviving baby has been just fine throughout.</p> <p>I became a little less anxious once I felt baby kicking inside of me, but I don't think I'll ever fully calm down until baby's born and thriving. Maybe not even then. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pregnancy-after-if#post-1620344 Wed, 07 May 2014 20:25:47 +0000 CatchAFallingStar 1620344@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Kelli_Deluxe: Yay!! So glad you're doing better this time. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pregnancy-after-if#post-1620284 Wed, 07 May 2014 19:52:12 +0000 tequiero21 1620284@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Eh~ the worry never ended for me. It didn't feel real until I was holding the babies. Even then, other worries pop up, so worries never end. Plus, with this pregnancy, while I love my baby to pieces already, I still don't feel 100% connected cuz I'm still a lil worried. Not as much as with my first, but... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pregnancy-after-if#post-1620035 Wed, 07 May 2014 17:32:39 +0000 Kelli_Deluxe 1620035@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@CatchAFallingStar: They aren't entirely sure; my RE believes my body knew it wasn't a good pregnancy before I did. I found out at 4w2d... I don't know what my hcg was but my progesterone was at 3.5. They put me on suppositories but a week later I mc. </p> <p>My progesterone this time is already a 31 so that makes me feel A LOT better </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pregnancy-after-if#post-1620026 Wed, 07 May 2014 17:27:40 +0000 CatchAFallingStar 1620026@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Kelli_Deluxe: sorry for your loss last time! Do you know what happened? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pregnancy-after-if#post-1619997 Wed, 07 May 2014 17:15:12 +0000 Kelli_Deluxe 1619997@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@CatchAFallingStar: It's my 2nd, the first ended at 5.5w. We have been trying for 15mo (including this one). DH was diagnosed with MF but supplements got him back on track, everything was good with me except we JUST found out my tube on my right doesn't reach the ovary. I completely agree it's hard to grasp.... I think I'm still in shock we did it on our own, since our upcoming protocol was clomid + iui. And yes, I am with you on the scared bc I'm happy boat!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pregnancy-after-if#post-1619951 Wed, 07 May 2014 16:55:35 +0000 CatchAFallingStar 1619951@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@FaithFertility: I love that! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pregnancy-after-if#post-1619950 Wed, 07 May 2014 16:55:10 +0000 CatchAFallingStar 1619950@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Kelli_Deluxe: Yeah, I need to STOP Googling!! I found out on Sunday, too!! I'm 4w1d. Is this your first pregnancy? How long were you trying? Any IF diagnosis prior? I had stage 4 endo and borderline egg reserve. We had been trying since 10/2012. I think after such a long road, it's hard to grasp the happiness and curb the worry. I'm so very happy and excited, but so scared because I'm so happy. Make sense? :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pregnancy-after-if#post-1619782 Wed, 07 May 2014 15:52:04 +0000 FaithFertility 1619782@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My mantra :) </p> [attach=3878/14/n581ys.337x600.Screenshot_2014-05-07-16-50-54.png] https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pregnancy-after-if#post-1619693 Wed, 07 May 2014 15:08:09 +0000 Kelli_Deluxe 1619693@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@CatchAFallingStar: I'm only 3w4d (I found out Sunday). I really recommended NOT googling things haha. It always seems like a good idea until all the awful stuff starts popping up. Lots of happy thoughts your way :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pregnancy-after-if#post-1619407 Wed, 07 May 2014 13:45:04 +0000 CatchAFallingStar 1619407@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Kelli_Deluxe: this sounds exactly like the way I'm feeing... How far along are you? When's your first ultrasound? I've never been pregnant before, but all the miscarriage stories I've heard scare me so much. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pregnancy-after-if#post-1619392 Wed, 07 May 2014 13:43:20 +0000 CatchAFallingStar 1619392@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@FaithFertility: I only just found out on Sunday and I'm already so worried. I just want to be happy and enjoy this! I want to KNOW that our baby is healthy, which I do... deep down.. but I hate feeling the worry on top of it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pregnancy-after-if#post-1617892 Tue, 06 May 2014 22:19:11 +0000 msmug 1617892@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think I'm in the minority. After 3+ years of IF and m/c, when we finally got pregnant, I just felt peace about the whole thing. I was a little worried during the first trimester, but overall, I felt and still do feel like this really is out of my hands, and I personally am comforted and find peace in knowing that God's got this, no matter the outcome. Sorry I know it must all sound SO cliche, but after all the lows we've been through, it's where I am now.<br /> Congratulations on being pregnant. Just try and enjoy it every day. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pregnancy-after-if#post-1617862 Tue, 06 May 2014 21:41:59 +0000 Kelli_Deluxe 1617862@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so glad you posted this. I completely understand where you're coming from. My milestone is making it to the first ultrasound. I'm trying to take it moment by moment, esp since it's so early on. I can't help but think of my previous loss, and some of the stories I've heard. It honestly helps me to pray at bedtime then wake up and go through some positive affirmations. I AM pregnant. I AM healthy. This baby IS growing. I WILL give birth. I hope some more people chime in to give you a little peace of mind and you get to a place where you can really enjoy this pregnancy :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pregnancy-after-if#post-1617657 Tue, 06 May 2014 20:11:37 +0000 FaithFertility 1617657@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@magnolia: I talk to our baby too ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pregnancy-after-if#post-1617654 Tue, 06 May 2014 20:10:37 +0000 FaithFertility 1617654@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@runnerd: Thank you :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pregnancy-after-if#post-1617649 Tue, 06 May 2014 20:10:05 +0000 FaithFertility 1617649@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LMOG47: ;) not silly at all, I pray for peace daily too!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pregnancy-after-if#post-1617647 Tue, 06 May 2014 20:10:00 +0000 magnolia 1617647@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Once I get past the 12 week mark (which is when I found out about my 2nd m/c) I am hoping I will feel better...I am almost 10 weeks now... I don't have experience as much with IF as I do with staying pregnant..The ultrasound tech at my Ob is really sweet and told me to talk to baby everyday which helps. I try to take it day by day but it's hard. FX and hugs to you. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pregnancy-after-if#post-1617639 Tue, 06 May 2014 20:06:39 +0000 mrbee 1617639@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>After the two miscarriages, it just never ended! Until maybe a year after our second kid was here? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pregnancy-after-if#post-1617625 Tue, 06 May 2014 20:02:35 +0000 mlm2934 1617625@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@FaithFertility: omgosh!!! Either I completely missed you're pregnant or I totally forgot, but either way I'm so happy for you, congrats!!</p> <p>My journey hasn't been as long as many people, but after a m/c I was honestly sick with anxiety the entire first tri, and mildly worried up until I hit viability in the 2nd tri. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pregnancy-after-if#post-1617615 Tue, 06 May 2014 19:59:50 +0000 Caly 1617615@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@FaithFertility: thanks, I'm biased but I think they're adorable :silly:<br /> As time goes by, it does get better. I think everyone has the fears &amp; worry, it's probably a bit elevated for people who had issues getting pregnant. I honestly couldn't think past or look ahead too far and just focused on the present. It made it more manageable for me anyway. It sounds silly but I often prayed for peace it helped bring some calm. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pregnancy-after-if#post-1617563 Tue, 06 May 2014 19:49:13 +0000 swedishfish 1617563@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree with @LMOG47: that the worry never truly ended for me. I tried to take it one day at a time. I thought the worry would be gone after the first trimester but something always popped up for me. I focused on creating the nursery and my registry to keep my mind off of the worry once I hit 14-15 weeks. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pregnancy-after-if#post-1617536 Tue, 06 May 2014 19:42:36 +0000 FaithFertility 1617536@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LMOG47: Thank you :) Your babes are adorable!!!!! Yes, I often joke this baby is going to be in a bubble when he/she is here....lol </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pregnancy-after-if#post-1617525 Tue, 06 May 2014 19:40:08 +0000 Caly 1617525@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Honestly, the worry never ended. I thought it would lift once they reached viability, and it got a bit better as each milestone was reached but, it continued until they were born. And, now that they're here, I'm still worried something may happen. I'm so sorry you're dealing with so much worry, but know you're not alone.<br /> Oh, and every time my boobs stopped hurting, I felt an ache or pain or my nausea lifted for a period of time, I was so worried it was a bad sign. That's also normal :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pregnancy-after-if#post-1617449 Tue, 06 May 2014 19:16:52 +0000 FaithFertility 1617449@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Jump Rope: I know that I am not the only one makes me feel better, it is such a road, I think people don't understand and that makes it hard too....my mom will talk about things like the delivery and after, I think let me make it to my next appointment! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pregnancy-after-if#post-1617436 Tue, 06 May 2014 19:12:53 +0000 Mrs. Jump Rope 1617436@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@FaithFertility: you aren't alone! I don't have any magic words. I am 22 weeks along and the worry hasn't stopped for me. :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pregnancy-after-if#post-1617432 Tue, 06 May 2014 19:10:38 +0000 FaithFertility 1617432@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@redsmarties: Thank you, I guess I just feel more connected with this baby now and fear the worst, I know I am ok, all signs point to good, I just need to take a breath and claim all is well!!!!!!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pregnancy-after-if#post-1617426 Tue, 06 May 2014 19:08:41 +0000 Mrs. Oatmeal 1617426@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm really sorry you're dealing with all of these emotions - it is such a hard road. For me, it took some time. I had to continually remind myself that 'Today, I am pregnant'. Once my awful morning sickness kicked in, I had that symptom to hold on to, and then once I started feeling kicks, that made me feel much better.<br /> I know others have some valuable advice too - I'm sure they'll weigh in. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pregnancy-after-if#post-1617423 Tue, 06 May 2014 19:05:49 +0000 FaithFertility 1617423@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Anyone that dealt with IF, or a hard road before your pregnancy help with this....when did the worry slow down???? I thought once I saw a heart beat, it would calm me, but now i am so connected to this baby ......and love it more then I thought I could so early........Some days I am ok, others like tonight I just can't get passed the fact that so much has gone wrong in the past.....that I worry! My boobs are not crazy sore tonight and it worries me :/ </p> <p>I know all is ok, but it is the nature of the beast, trying so hard to give it all to God, sorry I just felt like I had to rant a little....... </p>