https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 16 Apr 2026 04:38:36 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pregnancy-after-if-and-social-media-announcements#post-2015665 Thu, 08 Jan 2015 16:47:39 +0000 Mrs.Pinecone316 2015665@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We didn't, All my family, close friends and coworkers knew so it isn't like it is a big secret but didn't care to share with people who are FB friends but aren't really in my life anymore. I do really appreciate people's honesty though when I have seen this on FB. It is very brave. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pregnancy-after-if-and-social-media-announcements#post-2004127 Wed, 31 Dec 2014 12:22:08 +0000 LindsayInNY 2004127@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Leialou: I've only subtly mentioned things up until now so feel like I want to keep with that? Make it subtle yet "obvious" to those familiar with IF? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pregnancy-after-if-and-social-media-announcements#post-2002450 Tue, 30 Dec 2014 11:59:40 +0000 FaithFertility 2002450@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Caly: same here, I had 2 Facebook friends reach out asking how long we tried and for advice! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pregnancy-after-if-and-social-media-announcements#post-2002449 Tue, 30 Dec 2014 11:58:24 +0000 FaithFertility 2002449@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LindsayInNY: I said that this baby had been loved and prayed for in our hearts for a long time! It was my way of saying we have been blessed! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pregnancy-after-if-and-social-media-announcements#post-2002436 Tue, 30 Dec 2014 11:53:09 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 2002436@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If I get pregnant I intend to mention it with any social media announcements. I've mentioned infertility and my miscarriage on Facebook before so most people know about it already. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pregnancy-after-if-and-social-media-announcements#post-2002421 Tue, 30 Dec 2014 11:44:23 +0000 LindsayInNY 2002421@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Caly: If you don't mind me asking, how exactly did you mention it in your announcement? Like you said, if it can help others, I would like to mention it somehow. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pregnancy-after-if-and-social-media-announcements#post-2002413 Tue, 30 Dec 2014 11:42:10 +0000 Caly 2002413@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I mentioned it in my announcement. We had already personally told close family &amp; friends when we announced on FB. Close friends/family knew we had been trying for years but a lot of others did not. I'm very open about our IF...if it can help others going through it, I'm happy. And a couple people reached out after the post to share their struggles...some currently &amp; some in the past. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pregnancy-after-if-and-social-media-announcements#post-2002346 Tue, 30 Dec 2014 11:07:14 +0000 LindsayInNY 2002346@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Jump Rope: I would love to see your video! I'm definitely not that creative so I haven't decided what I'll post to annouce. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pregnancy-after-if-and-social-media-announcements#post-2002344 Tue, 30 Dec 2014 11:06:42 +0000 LindsayInNY 2002344@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Happygal: It's crazy because a part of me is so surprised I've kept it a secret this long! I keep coming SO close to slipping to a good friend at work but haven't yet. The friends that my sister and I mutually share on FB know but most of my personal friends do not. DH wants to wait until work knows so that we don't have to warn people not to post/tag on FB. So maybe another week or two? Did you post on FB with a photo or something? I LOVE the wording you used! It's subtle but perfect. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pregnancy-after-if-and-social-media-announcements#post-2002332 Tue, 30 Dec 2014 11:01:58 +0000 Happygal 2002332@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We really liked having this little secret and wanted to share with good friends in person or over the phone before announcing on FB. We got far along enough that we decided to wait until we knew the sex of the baby.</p> <p>I've been really open with people when talking about being pregnant, usually saying something like, "It took us awhile and we ended up needing a little extra help to conceive, so we're extra grateful." I've had a handful of people open up and share that they went through similar things, so I'm really glad to do this. </p> <p>I was comfortable saying something with our FB announcement and stole the words from someone here on HB (wish I could remember who!) We said something along the lines of, "After a lot of waiting, hoping, and praying, we're happy to announce...." To me, it was an understated way to share that it wasn't something that happened easily, but didn't cloud the happiness of the news. I don't know if anyone thought much of it, but it felt right to us. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pregnancy-after-if-and-social-media-announcements#post-2002331 Tue, 30 Dec 2014 11:01:46 +0000 LindsayInNY 2002331@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@TheReelDeal: I MAY be?? I definitely think I am, LOL! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pregnancy-after-if-and-social-media-announcements#post-2002319 Tue, 30 Dec 2014 10:56:40 +0000 TheReelDeal 2002319@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lindsayinny: Lol! You may be overthinking it, but telling people personally is more gratifying. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pregnancy-after-if-and-social-media-announcements#post-2002302 Tue, 30 Dec 2014 10:49:04 +0000 LindsayInNY 2002302@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Jump Rope: I've been a little more open than you about IF but not completely open. For example, I'll tell people I know IRL, will like posts on FB, talk to others with IF experience... But that IF letter that was posted the other week? Absolutely perfect but I don't feel comfortable posting that on FB. I will likely acknowledge IF month this year though. So maybe that's enough and I don't need to do anything right away?</p> <p>@twodoghouse: A lot of family and friends know so I'm okay with subtly mentioning IF, just don't know how to or whether I should. Like I mentioned above, I would have no problem acknowledging IF awareness month a little more openly now.</p> <p>@TheReelDeal: My family (sister, MIL and SIL) posted on Christmas after we announced, I just asked that they not tag me in the posts since I'm friends with work people on FB and work doesn't know. So the news is slowly getting out! I think because I've been sorta vocal about things all along, I want to tell a lot of people personally? Maybe I'm overthinking all of this, LOL! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pregnancy-after-if-and-social-media-announcements#post-2002276 Tue, 30 Dec 2014 10:41:19 +0000 TheReelDeal 2002276@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I announced without mentioning our journey. It's a super personal experience for me and unless I know someone has struggled I don't typically share our story outside of close friends and my mom and sister. </p> <p>It's also normal not to tell right away. Every week after 15 weeks I would tell myself to just put something on social media them finally after we got maternity pictures done at 32 weeks I just changed my profile picture. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pregnancy-after-if-and-social-media-announcements#post-2002275 Tue, 30 Dec 2014 10:41:01 +0000 twodoghouse 2002275@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I did not when we announced (although I had several people message me to ask if we went through treatment since I was pregnant with twins). A year from our embryo transfer I did post on Facebook, though. I had been very open about going through fertility treatments so many of our friends and family already knew at that point. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pregnancy-after-if-and-social-media-announcements#post-2002263 Tue, 30 Dec 2014 10:35:50 +0000 Mrs. Jump Rope 2002263@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LindsayInNY: I didn't. I've never told anyone outside HB, my mom and my closest friend about our losses. I think my sister knows, too. But I definitely didn't tell aunts, cousins, extended family, FB friends, etc, and a general pregnancy announcement wasn't the time or place (for me!!) to make the announcement of our losses either. </p> <p>Instead, I made a subtle nod to our journey over the years (literally) by making a video collage set to the song "somewhere over the rainbow" (subtle, huh!) with photos of us over the last 8 years, including Chloe and two video clips of us telling my nana and nana we were expecting. </p> <p>I can walk you the video if you'd like! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pregnancy-after-if-and-social-media-announcements#post-2002253 Tue, 30 Dec 2014 10:32:40 +0000 LindsayInNY 2002253@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@jetsa: I always thought I would announce "right away" and yet that hasn't been the case. I feel like some of these friends should be told personally and not via FB since they've been so great and supportive? But I also want to acknowledge that it isn't always an easy journey for everyone, ourselves included, and that's it been emotional, etc. and want to give others hope. Is that all lame?</p> <p>ETA: Did you announce just without mentioning anything? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pregnancy-after-if-and-social-media-announcements#post-2002219 Tue, 30 Dec 2014 10:21:41 +0000 jetsa 2002219@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LindsayInNY: we didn't mention it at all, I didn't know a good way to broach it =/ </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pregnancy-after-if-and-social-media-announcements#post-2002214 Tue, 30 Dec 2014 10:19:36 +0000 LindsayInNY 2002214@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>For those of you who have dealt with (overcome? I don't even know the right word!) IF and been pregnant, if you announced on FB, did you acknowledge IF at all? Or the journey it took for you to get pregnant? Anything at all? Close IRL friends know about our "situation" (again, is that even the right word?!) so I'm not totally quiet about IF things. And I want to be mindful of others who may be going through it when/if I announce but not sure how to word it to do so. Any suggestions? </p>