https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 09 Apr 2026 06:51:22 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pregnancy-after-mc-support-thread#post-881236 Mon, 24 Jun 2013 21:12:08 +0000 LovelyPlum 881236@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm definitely subscribing to this thread. Can't wait to join you all on the other side...hopefully soon! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pregnancy-after-mc-support-thread#post-881186 Mon, 24 Jun 2013 20:53:29 +0000 lilteacherbee 881186@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsH: I think so too- I miscarried at the end of July and got pregnant with this rainbow baby at the end of February (almost exactly on the first baby's due date!). I got the doppler at 8 weeks and heard the heartbeat a few days later, BUT it wasn't consistent. There would be a few days when I couldn't find it and of course, I'd worry like crazy. At 10 weeks, I finally started hearing it each time I listened. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pregnancy-after-mc-support-thread#post-881130 Mon, 24 Jun 2013 20:33:48 +0000 78h2o 881130@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had a mc at 7 weeks and was super anxious during my second pregnancy. I just want to offer my support becuase I remember how difficult it was. Only my sister, who had a loss herself, and the girls on WB/HB understood. Even my DH didn't get it and would always tell me to stop worrying.</p> <p>All I can suggest is to try your best to be positive and let yourself be excited. My sister really helped me by listening to my worries, but also banning language like, "if this pregnancy sticks" in my everyday conversations with her. She bought me the belly book, requested belly shots, etc. </p> <p>The reasoning that helped me was thinking that if I had a second loss, I'd be devastated no matter what... no amount of worrying beforehand would make it easier... so I might as well be happy and excited... because chances were good that things were going to work out... and if not, it was going to suck regardless. </p> <p>As time went by, I tried to reassure myself with statistics... which helped to some degree. I also bought a doppler, which gave me a lot of peace of mind until I could regularly feel the baby move/kick. </p> <p>I also really relied on my faith and belief that things happen for a reason.</p> <p>I was, however, extra cautious with things like exercise (I stuck to yoga, swimming, etc), what I ate, etc. Not because I thought that it was really necessary, but more because if anything happened, I didn't want to second guess anything or blame myself. </p> <p>I would suggest that you minimize how much you read about loss while you are pregnant. I read about a few still births while I was 38-40 weeks and really scared myself. When LOs heart rate dropped during contractions, I was having an enternal FREAK out and I pushed with a crazy level of determination because I wanted her out, STAT! before anything bad could happen to her. (She was fine, though her first apgar was a 4). I don't think I would have been quite as freaked if I hadn't read those stories. </p> <p>Annnnnyway, I will be thinking of all of you! Please feel free to message me if you ever want some reassuance or someone to listen! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pregnancy-after-mc-support-thread#post-881036 Mon, 24 Jun 2013 20:02:36 +0000 MrsH 881036@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Jennimac: thanks! So glad your baby is giving you reassurance! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pregnancy-after-mc-support-thread#post-881032 Mon, 24 Jun 2013 19:59:57 +0000 singingbee 881032@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is a great idea! We had a late miscarriage at 20 weeks. I'm currently 23 weeks and just now starting to think that I can start planning and looking to the end. I take each day as a gift and I have a very active baby that is constantly reminding me that she is there and healthy. :happy: :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pregnancy-after-mc-support-thread#post-881007 Mon, 24 Jun 2013 19:51:03 +0000 MrsH 881007@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MamaMoose: @mrsbookworm: @sslm: thanks for support from the other side ladies!</p> <p>@Ash: gah, I was so nervous at the ultrasound too.</p> <p>@AuntieEm: glad I'm not the only one!</p> <p>@lilteacherbee: I think we were pregnant and m/c around the same time last year. How early did you start using the Doppler? I think I'd be afraid I would hear nothing and then freak out more. Congrats on being almost halfway!</p> <p>@artbee: so sorry about your pup. We have two labs and they are a huge part of our lives.</p> <p>@Sugar.Biscuit: I'm wearing the maternity loathes I bought last time, I totally understand.</p> <p>@IcebergMom: excellent.</p> <p>@wahine08: my dh and I (mostly I) struggle with trying not to over plan too.</p> <p>Well my story is that I m/c last July around ten weeks. We had heard the heartbeat twice but I spotted a lot in those ten weeks. Tomorrow I will be ten weeks, so far lots of ms and no spotting but still lots of worries. :)</p> <p>Thanks for the positive out pouring ladies. Hopefully this will be a good place for us to connect. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pregnancy-after-mc-support-thread#post-880657 Mon, 24 Jun 2013 16:41:32 +0000 wahine08 880657@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm subscribing to this! </p> <p>I'm 11wks tomorrow, My previous pregnancy (my first) ended in Dec 2012 in an early M/C.</p> <p>DH and I still struggle with trying not to overplan but also just enjoy this as we should! It's tough not to compare, especially when our only experience was with loss. We keep hoping after the first trimester, we'll breathe a big sigh of relief.. although our initial anxiety is gone after seeing the heartbeat twice alread.y. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pregnancy-after-mc-support-thread#post-880469 Mon, 24 Jun 2013 15:28:21 +0000 IcebergMom 880469@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd be down with this! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pregnancy-after-mc-support-thread#post-880465 Mon, 24 Jun 2013 15:27:24 +0000 Sugar.Biscuit 880465@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thank you for starting this thread! I am terrified that we will lose this on too. I won't buy anything baby until after my labs tomorrow &amp; still nervous about that. I want to wait till after our doppler july 10th but I'm not sure my stomach can handle my jeans anymore.</p> <p>We had an early MC in January at 5 weeks. I am currently 8 +5 &amp; nervous things aren't going well because I have had very little symptoms most of my pregnancy. DH is afraid I will end up stressing my self out so I can't even talk to him about it because he thinks ill have a panic attack every time I feel a twinge. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pregnancy-after-mc-support-thread#post-880446 Mon, 24 Jun 2013 15:22:03 +0000 heffalump 880446@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm actually on my 3rd pregnancy. First was a miscarriage, second gave me a healthy baby girl, and now I'm pregnant again. It's still just as scary even though I know I am able to carry a baby to full term, the risks of miscarriage are still the same. Unfortunately for me the day after my 12 week apt. when I felt like I could start getting excited we got awful news that my dog had cancer and my focus was on him. I think it's good and bad that I've been too busy worrying and grieving my pup so I can't really think about the pregnancy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pregnancy-after-mc-support-thread#post-880417 Mon, 24 Jun 2013 15:13:20 +0000 sslm 880417@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Like @mamamoose, I spent my entire pregnancy waiting for the other shoe to drop. Even during labor I was scared of something going wrong. It's really hard!!! My advice would be to just try as hard as you can to find joy in this pregnancy. I had a hard time with that... I couldn't even take my own advice haha. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pregnancy-after-mc-support-thread#post-880416 Mon, 24 Jun 2013 15:13:10 +0000 lilteacherbee 880416@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I can completely sympathize with how you're feeling. My first pregnancy was a missed miscarriage at 9 weeks. Baby measured right on time, but there was no heartbeat. It took 7 long months to get pregnant again and that was the hardest thing I've ever been through.</p> <p>Now I'm 19 weeks and I'm still nervous. The first trimester was so hard. When I got past 9 weeks, it got a little better and at 13 weeks, I felt pretty comfortable. I bought a doppler, which really helped to ease my mind. Now that I'm feeling baby's kicks and I've had a good anatomy scan, I feel like I can really be happy, but I'm still scared. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pregnancy-after-mc-support-thread#post-880399 Mon, 24 Jun 2013 15:07:29 +0000 SweetiePie 880399@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsH: Would love to join you on this thread! I had a miscarriage in January and am currently about 5w5d (still so early and it makes me so nervous to even utter the words "I'm pregnant"). I totally share all of the concerns and feelings you have and I think it would be great to have a group of gals to discuss them with! Sometimes you don't want everyone telling you "it'll be ok" you just want someone that relates and says "I feel that way too" :-) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pregnancy-after-mc-support-thread#post-880384 Mon, 24 Jun 2013 15:03:06 +0000 mrsbookworm 880384@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrsH: I feel the same way mamamoose does. My LO was born last month after having multiple miscarriages. I was nervous throughout my pregnancy and I think it's a great idea to have people to talk to about your experience. Once my son was born, it was a huge sigh of relief. One of the things I did during my pregnancy to try to stop myself from going crazy was I told myself I could obsess until a certain number of weeks ( chose 20) and after that I was going to consciously try to relax. It did help a little... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pregnancy-after-mc-support-thread#post-880377 Mon, 24 Jun 2013 14:59:26 +0000 Ash 880377@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Love this idea for a thread! :)<br /> I'm a little over 18 weeks and STILL think it's too good to be true to have made it this far - I am always nervous when they listen for the hb that it won't be there. The fear has definitely gotten better as the weeks pass by but I feel like I am just wishing for November to come instead of enjoying this time being pregnant. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pregnancy-after-mc-support-thread#post-880348 Mon, 24 Jun 2013 14:51:14 +0000 MamaMoose 880348@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsH: My baby is here now so I'm not still going through it but I can TOTALLY sympathize with you. I spent my entire pregnancy waiting for the other shoe to drop. Every time I made a purchase for the baby I felt a twinge of worry that I was "jinxing" myself. I never did any sort of facebook announcement or public announcement of any kind for the same reason. I hate to tell you that I did feel like the worry stole some of the joy from my pregnancy. BUT... as soon as my healthy LO was placed on my chest it was the most amazing rush of relief! Of course parenting comes with it's own set of worries but I think that the moment your healthy child is born is made even sweeter when you've gone through a tough path to get there. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pregnancy-after-mc-support-thread#post-880336 Mon, 24 Jun 2013 14:48:21 +0000 MrsH 880336@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So I know there is a thread out there for the IF ladies but wondered if anyone wanted to join me in a support thread for pregnancy after a previous m/c. I hate that I'm constantly thinking back to our m/c but I'm just to the point in this pregnancy where we lost our last one.</p> <p>I'm very happy to have made it this far but feel like my excitement is tempered and I'm kind of waiting for the other shoe to drop even though I feel completely different with this pregnancy. For example, I've been really wanting to buy a belly book or something like that to keep track of this pregnancy but at the same time I'm just so worried that something will go wrong. Hopefully I'm not the only one who feels the need for some support. I try not to voice my worries about this pregnancy to often because I really do feel as if it is different but just wondered if anyone else was in the same boat and we could help support each other. </p>