https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 27 Apr 2026 13:27:21 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pregnancy-after-miscarriage#post-794428 Sun, 19 May 2013 20:59:17 +0000 LovelyPlum 794428@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Running Elley: @oahujeni: @Weagle: @delight: thanks ladies :) I'm trying my best to stay calm and appreciate every day that we have with this little one. DH has been super sweet too...we both talk to baby all the time. My first appt. is in 10 days, so I'm hoping that that will help me to feel a little bit better. </p> <p>I appreciate the support :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pregnancy-after-miscarriage#post-792675 Sat, 18 May 2013 08:40:54 +0000 delight 792675@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Congrats!!</p> <p>It is very hard not to worry, I totally understand. I got pregnant 3 months after my mc and after the initial excitement set in, I was very nervous. I tried to keep thinking positively, and told myself that there was a much better chance of everything going well, than going wrong. I was fortunate enough to have early scans at 7 and 9 weeks so seeing the heart beat was reassuring. My DH and I also didn't talk about it too much until after 12 weeks. I tried to keep busy for the first few months to help time pass, because it goes sooooooo slowly at first.</p> <p>Take each day one day at a time and maybe tell yourself "today I'm pregnant" and send lots of good thoughts towards your baby. Oh yeah, I always talked to my baby at night before bed in those first few weeks. I'd rub my belly and say "I am so glad you're here, please stick with me, we love you so much already." Maybe I'm a little weird :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pregnancy-after-miscarriage#post-792644 Sat, 18 May 2013 08:10:55 +0000 Weagle 792644@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LovelyPlum: It's so hard to relax. I didnt feel like I could until LO was born. One thing that helped me was reminding myself that no matter how long our child is with us, s/he deserves to be celebrated and loved. So, with our first, we had 10 weeks before the miscarriage. I'm thankful for the 10 weeks we had, even though it was very hard. We're still celebrating with LO... Especially as she is napping right now :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pregnancy-after-miscarriage#post-792559 Sat, 18 May 2013 02:55:27 +0000 oahujeni 792559@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Just wanted to say congrats and I know it's hard to stay calm. I had an early mc and then got my bfp two cycles after and now have a healthy baby boy. Deep breathing helped me in the beginning! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pregnancy-after-miscarriage#post-792553 Sat, 18 May 2013 02:16:33 +0000 Running Elley 792553@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>After 2 miscarriages I didn't relax when I was pregnant with E. Honestly I felt like it was too good to be true and was waiting for the other shoe to drop until he was born and in my arms. It was almost worse at the end. I couldn't wait for labor to start so that I'd be in the hospital, monitored where I could be sure that he was still okay.</p> <p>Throughout I found ways to be happy though. I reminded myself that no matter how long the baby would be with us that baby deserved our happiness. So even though I was constantly worried I was, in a way, able to enjoy the pregnancy by reminding myself that it was what baby deserved. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pregnancy-after-miscarriage#post-792509 Fri, 17 May 2013 23:31:26 +0000 LovelyPlum 792509@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Bumping this, because holy cow, is this hard! </p> <p>I had an early miscarriage in April and am now 5 weeks with this little one. I'm trying to enjoy being pregnant, but every little twinge makes me worry. I had started to calm down, but we had a scare earlier this week with this little one. Amazingly, the little miracle is still here! We're in shock, but now it's got my worry radar up again. </p> <p>I'm finding that focusing on the baby, as opposed to the pregnancy, is helping. Not planning, but just getting excited to do things, like go for walks in the park. I know that nothing is certain yet, since it's still so early, but for me, there's no point in pretending I'm not already 100% attached to this baby. So I'm trying to enjoy it while I can. Easier said than done.</p> <p>Anyone else have thoughts? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pregnancy-after-miscarriage#post-657590 Thu, 21 Mar 2013 12:10:42 +0000 JamieLee 657590@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>First of all, congrats! </p> <p>I couldn't get in to see anyone until 10 weeks and was a nervous wreck. I'm now 17 weeks and am having a hard time enjoying my pregnancy to its fullest because I am still worrying. </p> <p>However, I think what @Jennimac: said is true. Worrying isn't going to change anything. Like @lilteacherbee: said, I worried with the first one and something bad did happen. I worry with this one and so far, all is well. </p> <p>I'm not saying I'm not excited or anything, I just think that if I hadn't gone through that or had the personality I do, I would be enjoying the experience more. I'm hoping once I have my 20 week ultrasound and start feeling movement, I will feel more at ease. </p> <p>I would suggest communicating with people like the wonderful ladies on HB who have been through this, as well as people on your due date month thread. Everyone on this site is amazing and supportive and have really helped me! </p> <p>Here for you if you need to talk to someone who is going through this a few months ahead of you. Happy and healthy 9 months to you! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pregnancy-after-miscarriage#post-657201 Thu, 21 Mar 2013 10:30:22 +0000 Ash 657201@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You ladies are amazing! Thank you so much for the support, everyone! I called my midwife's office today and they told me I couldn't see her so I asked to talk with the nurse and she got me in for tomorrow morning. I hope I can talk her into doing some early ultrasounds or betas... anything to help me feel less stressed. I've been trying to be optimistic.... but I'm just so scared. I will be keeping this thread close-by so I can look at everyone's advice and congrats to help me through these coming weeks. :)) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pregnancy-after-miscarriage#post-655429 Wed, 20 Mar 2013 15:24:58 +0000 duckduckkristen 655429@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Congrats!</p> <p>I spent my whole first and second trimester worrying about every little thing when I got pregnant after my miscarriage. I wasn't able to relax until the third trimester. I'm pregnant with LO number 2 now and I will tell you I don't worry about a thing this time! I even occasionally forget I am pregnant. I guess knowing that am able to carry a baby to term calmed my fears? That I'm just too busy with DS. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pregnancy-after-miscarriage#post-655426 Wed, 20 Mar 2013 15:23:44 +0000 Mrs. Champagne 655426@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No experience, but I'm a big worry and found this quote which helps me sometimes.. it goes something like:</p> <p>If you worry about the worst case scenario, and it actually happens, you've lived through it twice. If it never happens, you've wasted your time.</p> <p>Happy and healthy 9 months to you! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pregnancy-after-miscarriage#post-655413 Wed, 20 Mar 2013 15:18:49 +0000 2PeasinaPod 655413@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Ash: Congratulations! I'm cautiously optimistic for you!</p> <p>After you've had a miscarriage, it's so hard to get full on excited about any pregnancy after that. When I got pregnant the second time, I was excited, but felt as if I didn't want to get too attached, just in case. And even though I tried, I did get attached. And I miscarried again. It was so incredibly heartbreaking all over again.</p> <p>My 3rd pregnancy, I was a mess. I'm just going to say it. I was a ball of nerves from the moment I found out (a little later since I didn't want to get my hopes up that I was pregnant and then miscarry again), until our first appointment. And my first appointment was torture the morning of. Just wanted to let you know that your feelings are very valid, and just try to keep your DH by your side when you can! Wishing you lots of good things to come :o) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pregnancy-after-miscarriage#post-655400 Wed, 20 Mar 2013 15:15:15 +0000 Lozza 655400@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I didn't really relax until we did an amnio and got ok results back. And then after that, seeing everything look ok at the 20 week ultrasound was another big reassurance.<br /> In the early days, my OB office was really cool about seeing me early (they let me come in right away to confirm) and fairly often, to make sure things were progressing. I think I had an ultrasound at 5 weeks, 7 weeks, 10 weeks, 12 weeks, and then the amnio at 15 or 16. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pregnancy-after-miscarriage#post-655380 Wed, 20 Mar 2013 15:04:50 +0000 lilteacherbee 655380@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>As you know, I'm in the same situation. It's so hard. I really like what @Jennimac said.</p> <p>I've told a few friends and they have been very supportive. The first time, I was really nervous that something bad would happen...and it did. So clearly, worrying won't make anything better. I've decided to be positive, even though its so tough. I still have moments when I freak out and google too much, but overall I'm having faith that it will all be okay. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pregnancy-after-miscarriage#post-654964 Wed, 20 Mar 2013 13:10:03 +0000 buffalove 654964@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Congrats!! After 2 m/c, I had a really hard time getting excited. I did stay in a positive state of mind (like @Jennimac said). The day I got my BFP, I told DH that we might as well think positive because being negative about it wasn't going to do any of us any good. It helped, but I still felt very cautious during the first half of the pregnancy. I never had any strong pregnancy symptoms which was a blessing and a curse - even though my OB says the "worse the symptoms, the stronger the pregnancy" adage is an old wives tale, I know that morning sickness would have made it feel more real to me. </p> <p>Anyways, once I could feel baby move, things turned around and I was able to really enjoy being pregnant.</p> <p>Best of luck to you!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pregnancy-after-miscarriage#post-654930 Wed, 20 Mar 2013 13:02:21 +0000 Mrsbells 654930@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>yay!! sending you sticky baby dust </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pregnancy-after-miscarriage#post-654917 Wed, 20 Mar 2013 12:59:00 +0000 blackbird 654917@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Congrats!!!</p> <p>One day at a time, that's all! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pregnancy-after-miscarriage#post-654909 Wed, 20 Mar 2013 12:56:47 +0000 ladybee 654909@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I POAS every Monday and Tursday until I got to my 7 week u/s. I have spaced about 2 weeks apart till 12 weeks so I'm still riding the high of hearing the heartbeat when the next one rolls around. After that I'm still getting a Doppler but I think I'll always be anxious. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pregnancy-after-miscarriage#post-654898 Wed, 20 Mar 2013 12:54:25 +0000 wheres_c 654898@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think @Jennimac: says it best. Worrying isn't good for you or the baby ( I know, easier said than done) and there are no guarantees in life.<br /> Some things to consider for reassurance:<br /> early blood work. It's still debatable if low progesterone causes mc, but I found out mine was low at 6w, and started supplements immediately.<br /> Doppler. You can buy one and listen to the hb at home. Personally this would have driven me nuts and become an obsession, but I know it's really reassuring for some.</p> <p>Congrats on your BFP, wishing you a happy and healthy 9 months. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pregnancy-after-miscarriage#post-654892 Wed, 20 Mar 2013 12:52:44 +0000 sorrycharlie 654892@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I just wanted to say congrats and that I am so crossing my fingers and toes and elbows for you!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pregnancy-after-miscarriage#post-654841 Wed, 20 Mar 2013 12:38:03 +0000 singingbee 654841@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My mom told me worrying wasn't going to change anything. I told her I was probably going to be reserved until we were past 20 weeks, which is when we found out there was no more heartbeat. She told me that wasn't being good to me or the baby. I needed to be happy about being pregnant again. Sure, there are scary things, but nothing in life is guaranteed. It really stuck with me and has made me feel a little better about everything. She's gone through this before too. She delivered my brother, healthy and alive, then we lost him in a surgery afterwards. My parents went on to have another baby after that. Knowing what I know now, they were so brave. So, I tend to listen to her when she gives advice on this sort of thing. I don't want to be scared the whole time. I want to be happy about it. Right now I'm feeling so crappy in this pregnancy, there is no way I can compare it to my other one. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pregnancy-after-miscarriage#post-654823 Wed, 20 Mar 2013 12:32:34 +0000 Charm54 654823@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No advice ... but wanted to say CONGRATULATIONS!!!! So exciting :) Try and enjoy every day as best you can!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pregnancy-after-miscarriage#post-654819 Wed, 20 Mar 2013 12:31:39 +0000 PrincessBaby 654819@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Ash: Congratulations!</p> <p>It's hard. The only thing that eased my mind was getting frequent ultrasounds...And the reason I got early/frequent US was bc I had a SCH and had spotting and it had to be monitored. So that was a source of stress in itself. I wish I could have just relaxed, but I needed proof she was still alive and well in there. I had an ultrasound most weeks in the first tri, and I STILL used a doppler to get me from one US to the next!</p> <p>Wishing you a VERY HEALTHY pregnancy! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pregnancy-after-miscarriage#post-654739 Wed, 20 Mar 2013 12:13:42 +0000 lovehoneybee 654739@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>First off, congrats!</p> <p>Hard as I tried I was not calm. Every morning I looked in the mirror and told myself I was pregnant today. It got a little bit easier once I saw his heartbeat on the U/S, heard it on the doppler, felt him move, could listen to his heartbeat at home...every day was a little bit easier. I was still paranoid something was going to happen until I had him in my arms, though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pregnancy-after-miscarriage#post-654738 Wed, 20 Mar 2013 12:13:24 +0000 sslm 654738@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I didn't stay calm :(. I'm sorry but it was really hard to be positive and happy about my current pregnancy. Eventually I had to just let myself get excited, it was tough.</p> <p>The early u/s helped. And every time I got freaked I went to my midwife to hear the heartbeat. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pregnancy-after-miscarriage#post-654723 Wed, 20 Mar 2013 12:10:46 +0000 MrsH 654723@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Ash: I know I'm going to deal with this too. Maybe we should start a rainbow babies support thread. :)</p> <p>*hug* I think you just have to take one day at a time and just be thankful in the moment that you are KU. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pregnancy-after-miscarriage#post-654718 Wed, 20 Mar 2013 12:10:02 +0000 mrskc 654718@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Congrats!</p> <p>I have no advice b/c I was not calm! Especially the first couple of weeks before I had an U/S, I was sooo worried. Then I started getting morning sickness and we saw a heartbeat and that eased my worries a little, but they never completely went away. Just remember it's all out of your control! Good luck to you and I wish you a happy &amp; healthy 9 months! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pregnancy-after-miscarriage#post-654714 Wed, 20 Mar 2013 12:07:57 +0000 MrsTiz 654714@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh lord. I did not stay calm. I raised hell with my doctor because they wanted me to wait until 12 weeks to even be seen, which did NOT fly with me. So, Now i'm 7 weeks and I had my third U/S today. Don't be afraid to get bossy with them! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pregnancy-after-miscarriage#post-654712 Wed, 20 Mar 2013 12:07:48 +0000 MamaMoose 654712@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so happy for you! I really hate to tell you this but I had a hard time enjoying my pregnancy after my m/c. I was a nervous wreck the whole time. But I also had numerous spotting issues, and had pre term labor at 26 weeks. So it was tough not to stress. That being said I had a perfectly healthy full term baby and there's every reason to believe you will too! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pregnancy-after-miscarriage#post-654700 Wed, 20 Mar 2013 12:05:52 +0000 Bao 654700@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No experience, but yay!!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pregnancy-after-miscarriage#post-654685 Wed, 20 Mar 2013 12:02:57 +0000 Ash 654685@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Finding out you're pregnant is supposed to be a happy happy time! Well, on Monday I got my bfp - 6 months after our miscarriage. Yaaaaaaay! The past two days were fine but today the nerves are setting in. I don't want to experience the heartache of another miscarriage. </p> <p>Anyone who got pregnant after a m/c, how did you stay calm? I want to be excited but I am scared to death! </p>