https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 24 Jun 2026 08:22:53 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pregnancy-hormones-and-feeling-overwhelmed-disappointed#post-2373547 Mon, 30 Nov 2015 18:38:55 +0000 sampron 2373547@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No one else? :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pregnancy-hormones-and-feeling-overwhelmed-disappointed#post-2372597 Mon, 30 Nov 2015 03:24:06 +0000 sampron 2372597@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>❤️ </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pregnancy-hormones-and-feeling-overwhelmed-disappointed#post-2371147 Fri, 27 Nov 2015 14:02:09 +0000 sampron 2371147@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Bump </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pregnancy-hormones-and-feeling-overwhelmed-disappointed#post-2370372 Wed, 25 Nov 2015 22:41:09 +0000 sampron 2370372@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lilteacherbee: thanks for that! I hope that's the case. I'm sure once I see them all together it will be perfect. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pregnancy-hormones-and-feeling-overwhelmed-disappointed#post-2370190 Wed, 25 Nov 2015 20:07:41 +0000 lilteacherbee 2370190@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have two boys that are 20 months apart, but the youngest is only 3.5 months. I have a friend who has two boys. They are almost exactly 4 years apart and so close!! They are now 2 and 6 and the best of friends! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pregnancy-hormones-and-feeling-overwhelmed-disappointed#post-2370180 Wed, 25 Nov 2015 19:57:28 +0000 sampron 2370180@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Train: thank you for writing! I sure hope so. I have very little faith in myself at the moment and I just feel like a terrible momma. I sure do love my kiddos though. One hard thing for me is that I never bond with baby with I'm pregnant. Didn't do it with my first, second and not now. It only happened once I saw them. Then it was love at first sight. I really hope that happens again. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pregnancy-hormones-and-feeling-overwhelmed-disappointed#post-2370093 Wed, 25 Nov 2015 18:09:34 +0000 Mrs. Train 2370093@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have three boys and a girl. sure my house is loud and chaotic and they are all high energy but I just embrace our craziness. I think adding a new baby (of any gender) is a big change and for awhile family outings might not be as frequent. You will need to heal and adjust to a new baby. I freaked out right before my daughter was born because I was worried about how things would change. You will adjust to the new normal. I wouldn't beat yourself up about dissappoinmet. It happens. I am sure you will see your new boy and fall in love just like your first son. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pregnancy-hormones-and-feeling-overwhelmed-disappointed#post-2370044 Wed, 25 Nov 2015 17:37:01 +0000 sampron 2370044@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Anyone else? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pregnancy-hormones-and-feeling-overwhelmed-disappointed#post-2369776 Wed, 25 Nov 2015 14:41:44 +0000 sampron 2369776@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pregnancy-hormones-and-feeling-overwhelmed-disappointed#post-2369720 Wed, 25 Nov 2015 14:06:06 +0000 Mamasig 2369720@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My boys are 20 months apart. I love seeing them together. It's what made me definitely want a 3rd kid. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pregnancy-hormones-and-feeling-overwhelmed-disappointed#post-2369711 Wed, 25 Nov 2015 13:58:12 +0000 sampron 2369711@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mamasig: thanks. That's what I'm hoping. How far apart are your boys? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pregnancy-hormones-and-feeling-overwhelmed-disappointed#post-2369005 Wed, 25 Nov 2015 07:43:31 +0000 Mamasig 2369005@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So my situation is different because my 1st two are boys and now I'm having a girl. But I wanted to tell you how amazing it is to see the relationship between brothers (as I'm sure it is to see in all siblings). They are best friends and look out for each other. I also wouldn't worry about them being too rowdy. A lot of that is personality driven. My oldest is cautious and a rule follower like his mama. He is a little loud like all kids are, but not how maybe you are thinking.</p> <p>Oh and as far as going out, you can still do it. At least I plan too! Sure, it will be harder at 1st, but that will pass. </p> <p>Also remember how fast the baby stage passes by. You will literally blink and it will be over. I also think the youngest moves out of it faster because they are looking up to their siblings and trying to catch up. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pregnancy-hormones-and-feeling-overwhelmed-disappointed#post-2368947 Wed, 25 Nov 2015 04:02:48 +0000 sampron 2368947@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LindsayLou: Oh thank you so very much. It's so nice hearing this. I really want my kiddos to have a good relationship with each other and with me and their dad. I have so little family so it's very important to me. We try to do a lot of family activities and are very family-oriented. We eat dinner at the table every night together and we do lots of outings with just us 4. I really don't want to stop that. Thanks again for responding, means a lot. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pregnancy-hormones-and-feeling-overwhelmed-disappointed#post-2368935 Wed, 25 Nov 2015 02:57:31 +0000 LindsayLou 2368935@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>As an older sister to two younger brothers, I just want to say how amazing it was (and is, we're all close as adults), to have two little brothers. And if anything, my youngest brother was the most mellow of the three of us. He just went with the flow. Very easygoing, happy kid. </p> <p>My mom has told me a few times that she was worried that the transition from 2 to 3 kids would be rough, and dramatically harder. For her, 1 to 2 was apparently a huge change, but 2 to 3 was a breeze in comparison. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pregnancy-hormones-and-feeling-overwhelmed-disappointed#post-2368931 Wed, 25 Nov 2015 02:26:13 +0000 sampron 2368931@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>First, please understand my hormones are a huge mess right now. I've had a lot of health scares that are making this pregnancy extra hard on me, so I'm probably extra emotional and overanalyzing everything.</p> <p>I'm pregnant with #3. Not planned, and we were so done! I have a DD and DS. Both kids are potty trained, fairly independent, etc. This came as a huge shock to me. My husband accepted it a lot better than I did. Once I accepted the fact that I was pregnant I started thinking about about the advantages of having another baby. I always "thought" about having another one, but had decided it just wasn't financial fit. I also have tough pregnancies so it was just best left as is. Then, I started thinking about the idea of having another DD. It has been 8 years since I gave birth to my DD, so I thought it would be awesome to have another one. It sure validated my feelings when all my DD talked about was me having a girl. She has her brother, whom she is absolutely amazing with. She adores him and thinks he hung the stars. They seriously have such an amazing relationship despite the large age gap. </p> <p>Now, I will say, when I was pregnant with my son, I really wanted a daughter. I was disappointed to find out he was a boy. In my slightest defense, I grew up without a dad or brothers. Girls were all I knew. Once I had him, I fell head over heels in love with him. Seriously, he is the most amazing little boy ever and I am so incredibly blessed to have him. I often apologize to him for not wanting a boy but thank him many times for showing me a love I never knew possible. </p> <p>So, back to my point, I just found out baby #3 is indeed a little boy. Lots of feelings have rushed through me. I actually handled it quite better than I expected..at first. Now that it has sunk in i'm disappointed. And I feel like an absolute horrible person AGAIN! I have a boy, who is amazing, so how can I feel like this again? Sure, I understood why I did before as boys were completely new territory for me. I do feel like I"m more disappointed in the fact that I'm not getting another girl rather than the fact that my baby is a boy...but I just hate feeling disappointed. I LOVE my kids...I am a good mother (well I thought I was). I take care of my kids, spend time with them and cherish and adore their every bit of being. So HOW can I be disappointed by the fact that there is something between the legs of this new one who I clearly don't deserve?</p> <p>I feel like my family dynamics are going to change...for the worse. Right now there is a good balance. My daughter is calm and loving and nurturing. My son is lovable and can be active at times but overall he is a calm kid. He does well playing by himself but I'm worried once another boy comes he will end up being super rowdy and everything will just change. We love going out to do things, the movies, bowling, out to eat, etc. And I don't want to take that away from my DD and DS who love doing that stuff. Will adding a third (my second boy) really make things that difficult? Will we have to stay in the house all day? Will two boys who will be about 3 1/2 years apart be too crazy and rowdy? I know it's a lot of stereotypes but I don't want everything to change. </p> <p>Please don't be too harsh on me. I really feel that, deep down, next year I will look back at this and think how crazy I was and how I had no faith in myself. I'm sure that this little addition will fit in just perfectly and I will love seeing the sibling bond between my kids grow even more. I'm just scared right now and overthinking everything. I could really use some positive thoughts. Thank you &lt;3 </p>