https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 12 Nov 2026 07:43:03 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/prengnacy-competition#post-165485 Tue, 22 May 2012 15:36:58 +0000 LuLu Mom 165485@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sorrycharlie: No, we went over to their house and they had a bunch of people over and announced it. We really haven't said much since then, we did talk about going shopping for clothes so we will see how that goes! Hopefully easy going with no competition on outfits! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/prengnacy-competition#post-165462 Tue, 22 May 2012 15:09:01 +0000 sorrycharlie 165462@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@jessiejo17: I'm sorry, I just saw this! Did she tell you it was a girl in a way that made you think she might make it difficult from now forward? Or has she been okay? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/prengnacy-competition#post-163806 Sun, 20 May 2012 09:18:17 +0000 heffalump 163806@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That's sad that you have to go through that, it should be a fun time for both of you! Especially since you're both having girls, they can be such good friends growing up together! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/prengnacy-competition#post-163617 Sat, 19 May 2012 21:49:33 +0000 LuLu Mom 163617@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sorrycharlie: well it is a girl too! Hopefully this doesn't make things more difficult! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/prengnacy-competition#post-162996 Fri, 18 May 2012 13:32:10 +0000 LuLu Mom 162996@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Nskillet: Haha until it is her wedding and then it is the end all be all :) </p> <p>My sister is already giving me parenting advice, she is a great mother, however not exactly the way I want to raise my child. Oh sisters, you have to love them! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/prengnacy-competition#post-162980 Fri, 18 May 2012 13:17:38 +0000 Nskillet 162980@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@jessiejo17: this is exactly what mine did. She kept saying how important babies are and how unimportant weddings are. Plus she isn't even married and is on baby 2 with a guy my family isn't exactly fond of for various reasons. </p> <p>Aren't sisters great?! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/prengnacy-competition#post-162961 Fri, 18 May 2012 13:00:34 +0000 LuLu Mom 162961@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Nskillet: Your sister sounds like mine! She got pregnant during my wedding &amp; would make my wedding about her instead, very frustrating! </p> <p>She isn't pregnant yet, but keeps talking about trying for #2 this summer (she just had #1 last Sept.) so I'm like another thing she is going to take from me! I'm sure after I have DD she will be in the hospital room complaining of morning sickness or something to put the attention back on her! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/prengnacy-competition#post-162935 Fri, 18 May 2012 12:45:09 +0000 Nskillet 162935@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes! Except it was with family. I announced my first pregnancy and my attention starved sister announced her second pregnancy a miraculous 4 weeks after mine! She also got pregnant after I announced my engagement with her first baby. Until we found genders out it was constantly about who was sicker, had more complications, and that is MUST be a girl for her (she had a boy previously) she also jealously would say "you're going to give mom her first granddaughter I just know it". Sure enough, I did! And my sister is having a second boy. Things have calmed down for the most part but then it was the "I'm going to go into preterm labor" competition.</p> <p>I love my sister dearly but she has always been this way with me. It's kinda sad but when's DD was born 3 weeks ago she was so supportive. I know how hard it is to ignore/not get sensitive over but focus on your baby only and laugh and occasionally cry I you need to about the rest. That helped me! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/prengnacy-competition#post-162933 Fri, 18 May 2012 12:45:00 +0000 LuLu Mom 162933@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@chopsuey119: It is fun at times! It's nice to have someone to talk too when no one else wants to hear anymore about it! But at times it gets a little much! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/prengnacy-competition#post-162931 Fri, 18 May 2012 12:44:18 +0000 LuLu Mom 162931@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@autumnlove: I'm not sure competitive is the right word, if anything I feel like I'm not doing things "right" in her eyes if I decide to do something different than her. She's a nurse so even with medical things I feel a little judged. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/prengnacy-competition#post-162924 Fri, 18 May 2012 12:40:18 +0000 chopsuey 162924@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ugh that sucks! You'd think it would be fun to be pregnant with a friend! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/prengnacy-competition#post-162918 Fri, 18 May 2012 12:36:18 +0000 autumnlove 162918@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My friend and I both had girls with due dates a day apart. She was never competitive but I always felt inadequate when I heard about her plans for her baby shower and nursery! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/prengnacy-competition#post-162912 Fri, 18 May 2012 12:31:44 +0000 LuLu Mom 162912@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sorrycharlie: Her appointment was 2 hours ago, but she's not sharing until after they go out to eat with their parents tonight! So I have to wait awhile until we find out. </p> <p>Yes we plan on picking a name (they already have theirs picked for both genders and are not sharing) but I'm putting mine up on the wall so I would hope she would tell me if that was the same name they were planning on! Oh man I hope they are having a boy! haha </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/prengnacy-competition#post-162910 Fri, 18 May 2012 12:27:05 +0000 sorrycharlie 162910@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>oh man. I haven't had this problem during pregnancy (none of my close friends are pregnant)..I have some friends from HS that I might become more friendly with as we move into the "mom circle" but so far there hasn't been any competition that I know of! </p> <p>I'm just marking this in case something does come up, I can refer back here! I had some wedding competition going on..but I think kids are entirely different :/</p> <p>Hope someone has some better advice! What time does she find out what baby is? I'm so curious now!</p> <p>Side note (sorry my thoughts are all over the place!)...are you going to pick a name and share with her? I wonder if she'd steal it? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/prengnacy-competition#post-162907 Fri, 18 May 2012 12:22:55 +0000 LuLu Mom 162907@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have a good friend who is due 10 days before me, so I was excited that we would be sharing this together as it is both our first pregnancies. </p> <p>However as the weeks go on I see that she has started to get a little competitive when it comes to ANYTHING baby related. I thought it would be fun to shop together and get the nursery's ready, but instead I feel judged on things I pick out or that she would 'never do that" ect. I know she doesn't mean too, she's a sweet girl, but it's just coming off that way to me (and my pregnancy hormones.) </p> <p>She was finding out today what their gender was (we found out Wednesday it is a girl) and I'm praying they have a boy so there isn't competition placed on the kids in the future. Anyone else have this problem? Does it get better? </p>