https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 27 Apr 2026 14:29:01 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/preschool-friendships#post-2883773 Wed, 08 May 2019 21:46:33 +0000 MamaCate 2883773@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Calibee: you got some great advice. I think there is also a Daniel tiger episode about this what we liked—something like “when a friend doesn’t want to play with you, you can find something else to do” </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/preschool-friendships#post-2883728 Wed, 08 May 2019 14:02:23 +0000 Rocker2014 2883728@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Could you try role playing with her? You can take turns being your LO and being another kid in class. My 4 year old LO loves playing "pretend" anything, so when she's struggling with something I suggest we play pretend about it and role play ways to successfully try something new. Sometimes it helps to act out what she's worried about too, so she can see how to respond. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/preschool-friendships#post-2883725 Wed, 08 May 2019 13:56:19 +0000 Calibee 2883725@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ElbieKay: @Mrs. Lemon-Lime: @Corduroy: @Ajsmommy: Thanks all for the suggestions!!</p> <p>She’s such a sweet kid. When she was younger, she was so painfully shy. It’s getting better, but I can see she gets overwhelmed in large groups of people and has a hard time talking to people she’s not 100% comfortable with. So hard to see as a momma. But these are some great tips and tools to use!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/preschool-friendships#post-2883715 Wed, 08 May 2019 13:13:36 +0000 Ajsmommy 2883715@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is tough to answer. My LO hasn't had this particular issue but she has talked to me about what to do when her bestie is being "mean" or is trying to get LO to do something she doesn't want to.... meaning my LO needs to branch out and go elsewhere. I try to just encourage LO to find something she does want to do and ask others to join her or find others already doing something and ask to join them. It's hard to see our lo's in these situations but these are exactly the times that they are going to learn from and that will help them navigate the world as they grow. </p> <p>In your instance I would first validate her feelings that it is indeed nerve wracking to talk to others and it's ok to feel nervous, that I do too when I have to talk to new people but that she shouldn't be scared and I'd give her some ideas, like ask them what their favorite movie is or to maybe ask the teacher to help her talk to someone... or to pick an activity and ask someone to join her.</p> <p>@corduroy this is a great idea!! </p> <p>ETA I was the shy kid when I was younger and I missed out on so many things bc I was scared/nervous. I try to encourage my LO's to at least try .... I don't want them missing out on things and regretting like me </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/preschool-friendships#post-2883686 Wed, 08 May 2019 10:19:16 +0000 Corduroy 2883686@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My LO has a best friend that the teachers but the teachers desperately want him to branch out. When I dropped him off this morning we spent a moment looking at pictures of kids in his class. I asked him to pick one kid (besides his bestie) to ask to play today. Today it's Mason. This was the first time we tried it so I don't know if it will work but DS was excited to try it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/preschool-friendships#post-2883671 Wed, 08 May 2019 06:00:53 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2883671@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My LO is like that on a playground- he’ll scope someone out to play with and grab me because he wants to play with them. I’ll walk him back over and give him the words to say- “ do you want to play with me?” “ my name is X, what is yours?” </p> <p>For school, I’d speak with the teacher about pairing up your daughter with other kids. LO has always had besties in class at the same time he wasn’t always sitting with them during activities or snacks. </p> <p>During pick up and drop off you could initiate conversation with the other kids and ask your daughter to join in. Mine gets a little jealous if I speak to his class mates, but kids are so great about saying their own name and pointing out a piece of clothing or something in their hand. Might give you something to show your daughter she has in common with her classmate. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/preschool-friendships#post-2883664 Wed, 08 May 2019 05:39:35 +0000 ElbieKay 2883664@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would schedule some play dates. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/preschool-friendships#post-2883654 Tue, 07 May 2019 23:00:16 +0000 Calibee 2883654@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My daughter’s best friend was absent from school today, and she had a really hard time. She said she was “nervous” to ask anyone else to play with her. </p> <p>Any advice to help her make friends? Or feel more comfortable asking other kids to play with her/join in when they are playing? It broke my heart to see her so sad. Perhaps a book recommendation? </p> <p>For reference, she is 4 and has always been quite shy/slow to warm up to people. </p>