https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 13 Apr 2026 02:39:47 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/preschool-work-am-i-overreacting#post-1626910 Sat, 10 May 2014 20:38:44 +0000 Mrs.Panda 1626910@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That is ridiculous. And who grades in crayon? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/preschool-work-am-i-overreacting#post-1626685 Sat, 10 May 2014 17:09:44 +0000 sarac 1626685@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mamimami: if this was a frequent thing, I would not send another child there, and I'd let them know why. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/preschool-work-am-i-overreacting#post-1626322 Sat, 10 May 2014 10:33:56 +0000 lemondrop 1626322@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Sunshine: glad I'm not the only one. The big thing that made everything ok was that my mom asked me about it and made me feel justified. I hope that I cab do the same for my boys one day. </p> <p>@mamimami: glad you asked him about it and he was fine. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/preschool-work-am-i-overreacting#post-1626316 Sat, 10 May 2014 10:29:31 +0000 pinkcupcake 1626316@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lemondrop: I agree with you on the handwriting! ;)</p> <p>@mamimami: I would be beyond irritated. What do they expect from 3year olds?! Ridiculous :angry face: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/preschool-work-am-i-overreacting#post-1626305 Sat, 10 May 2014 10:23:29 +0000 Cole 1626305@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That is inappropriate and certainly goes against every Montessori philosophy I have ever been taught. I would at the very least bring it up with the teacher, probably even the director of the school. The only thing I can figure given the childish handwriting is they had an older kid "helper" that day? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/preschool-work-am-i-overreacting#post-1626266 Sat, 10 May 2014 09:58:00 +0000 jessibear 1626266@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree with everyone else, I would be extremely upset. C is only 15 months so I don't have preschool experience yet, but I can't even fathom how I would handle this. Montessori or not, this is not how I hope my child to be taught. Plus it seems like a passive aggressive attempt at communication with you and your husband. Ridiculous. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/preschool-work-am-i-overreacting#post-1626186 Sat, 10 May 2014 09:03:50 +0000 Mrs. Sunshine 1626186@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lemondrop: oh my gosh! Once in the first grade we had a substitute teacher &amp; we had to draw oictures. I was drawing a sun &amp; all the yellow crayons were taken so in my 7 year old mind I thought to use red since the sun is "fire" (to my knowledge at the time anyway) &amp; sometimes fire is red. She totally called me out on it in front of the entire class. It still bums me out lol </p> <p>@mamimami: I am upset for you. I don't think you are overreacting in the least </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/preschool-work-am-i-overreacting#post-1626157 Sat, 10 May 2014 08:26:02 +0000 yoursilverlining 1626157@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Completely inappropriate and I would be pissed. LO goes to an "academically focused" center and they would NEVER do something like this - the learning is in putting the cube together and deciding how many to color, talking about the colors and numbers. It's not about being "perfect" in the end; the learning is in the process, not just in the final product. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/preschool-work-am-i-overreacting#post-1626151 Sat, 10 May 2014 08:16:17 +0000 Mrs. Lion 1626151@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Coloring sheets and workbooks are come tell inappropriate at 3 anyway...let alone grading them. I would be looking elsewhere. Nothing about that is even remotely montessori. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/preschool-work-am-i-overreacting#post-1626128 Sat, 10 May 2014 07:46:09 +0000 lilteacherbee 1626128@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Wow, I'm a preschool teacher and that's completely inappropriate! What the heck?! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/preschool-work-am-i-overreacting#post-1626110 Sat, 10 May 2014 07:25:48 +0000 SugarplumsMom 1626110@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd be so pissed, I'd write a response to her explaining how normal it is for a 3 yr old to be distracted. I'd pull some stuff of the net and print her a few pages to brush up on toddler development. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/preschool-work-am-i-overreacting#post-1626108 Sat, 10 May 2014 07:25:17 +0000 Silva 1626108@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mamimami: I know its one incident, but I think it really speaks to their perspective on learning! :bummed: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/preschool-work-am-i-overreacting#post-1626104 Sat, 10 May 2014 07:23:15 +0000 Andrea 1626104@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That seems very harsh to communicate it to you like that. </p> <p>We had some comments about concentration during a parent teacher conference. They said that they were working on lengthening her concentration time. So I asked how long she was focusing on one "work" for. They said a good 15 min at least. She was 3 and just started Montessori so I thought they were being a bit crazy. 15 min of solid concentration on a complex puzzle, by herself, seems good to me at that age. I wasn't a fan of that comment, but at least they spoke to me in person about it so I could tell them how I felt! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/preschool-work-am-i-overreacting#post-1626103 Sat, 10 May 2014 07:23:07 +0000 SugarplumsMom 1626103@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@yellowbird: Exactly what I was about to write!!! Pissed! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/preschool-work-am-i-overreacting#post-1626082 Sat, 10 May 2014 07:07:55 +0000 yellowbird 1626082@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would be pissed! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/preschool-work-am-i-overreacting#post-1626058 Sat, 10 May 2014 06:42:08 +0000 swedishfish 1626058@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lemondrop: if you think that teacher's penmanship is bad, you should see mine. </p> <p>I think it's going a bit overboard and I would definitely ask about it nicely. There's nothing wrong with asking for clarification on a situation. You may not have the whole story even though the action seemed a bit extreme for a 3 year old's work. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/preschool-work-am-i-overreacting#post-1626056 Sat, 10 May 2014 06:35:57 +0000 mamimami 1626056@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lemondrop: I know, this is not gonna fly at Harvard!</p> <p>@Silva: he's in his last quarter at this school... He's going to the school where I work next year, but this is making me question sending my other child to this school, which I had been planning.... </p> <p>They have asked us to come in for a conference next week so I will give them a chance to explain I guess.... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/preschool-work-am-i-overreacting#post-1626050 Sat, 10 May 2014 06:30:58 +0000 Smurfette 1626050@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That seems a little much! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/preschool-work-am-i-overreacting#post-1626048 Sat, 10 May 2014 06:28:01 +0000 Silva 1626048@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would be really upset. Quite honestly, if you aren't looking for that kind of "academic" structure, I'd look for a new preschool. It's really important to me that me daughter be able to just play for the sake of playing for as log as possible. If it was me, I'd be pissed and looking for an alternative. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/preschool-work-am-i-overreacting#post-1626046 Sat, 10 May 2014 06:26:31 +0000 Charm54 1626046@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Montessori or not, I would be upset that my child was being critiqued in such a way at such a young age. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/preschool-work-am-i-overreacting#post-1626044 Sat, 10 May 2014 06:22:01 +0000 mamimami 1626044@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lamariniere: yeah, I tried to feel him out... I asked if his teachers were all nice to him and what they said to him yesterday and he said they were all nice.... Of course getting info out of a 3 yo is a bit difficult.</p> <p>@mrbee: I don't think he had any idea. When my husband got home he saw it and was like, "incomplete?" And I tried to get him to hush up because I didn't want W to hear it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/preschool-work-am-i-overreacting#post-1625991 Sat, 10 May 2014 03:39:31 +0000 Cherrybee 1625991@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't have a three year old and I have no experience with children this age on which to base my opinion but..... WOW! I'm furious for your little one. That just seems outrageous to me. I just showed DH and he's on the same page as me - we would want to discuss it with the preschool teacher. It just feels wrong to hold a 3 year old to account for "not finishing" something - surely it's meant to be about learning through fun, not neatly completing a project. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/preschool-work-am-i-overreacting#post-1625987 Sat, 10 May 2014 03:18:48 +0000 Bao 1625987@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think that's ridiculous, he's 3! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/preschool-work-am-i-overreacting#post-1625947 Sat, 10 May 2014 00:42:29 +0000 lemondrop 1625947@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Are these activities counting towards grades for his college application? That is beyond ri-donk! At 3 years old, they are still bouncing from wall to wall. </p> <p>It's silly, but I have one vivid memory from kindergarden (besides the bean and rice bins, I loved those!)- I had to color an elephant, and the teacher made a comment that it should be gray and not brown. 1) all the gray crayons were taken. 2) We had just watched a nature show at home with the elephants taking mud baths. Even 25 years later I'm annoyed by that. Scarred for life ;) </p> <p>PS- teacher's penmanship could use some work :P </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/preschool-work-am-i-overreacting#post-1625942 Sat, 10 May 2014 00:32:54 +0000 shopaholic 1625942@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Wow. That does seem harsh. I can't even imagine what they expect at that age (from my experience with 3 y/o)! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/preschool-work-am-i-overreacting#post-1625941 Sat, 10 May 2014 00:31:24 +0000 Pepper 1625941@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would be pissed! He did such a nice coloring job, too. If the teacher so badly wanted to correct a 3 year old's art project, why didn't they just send a note home or something? (Which would be equally ridiculous, but at least it's not ruining his work!). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/preschool-work-am-i-overreacting#post-1625935 Sat, 10 May 2014 00:24:57 +0000 StbHisMrs 1625935@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My son never attended a Montessori preschool, but the "regular " one he went to never put anything like that on any of his work. That seems more like a 1st-2nd grade remark. I'm sorry. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/preschool-work-am-i-overreacting#post-1625928 Sat, 10 May 2014 00:09:50 +0000 mrbee 1625928@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>How did he feel about it?</p> <p>I've noticed that my youngest (2 1/2) doesn't really react to feedback on her homework just yet. She's just in her own world... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/preschool-work-am-i-overreacting#post-1625927 Sat, 10 May 2014 00:07:24 +0000 HLK208 1625927@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>What?!?!! That would make me so mad!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/preschool-work-am-i-overreacting#post-1625924 Sat, 10 May 2014 00:04:41 +0000 lamariniere 1625924@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Interesting. My son is also three and in a Montessori school. I've never seen anything remotely like this, and it seems quite drastic, I think my biggest concern would be to find out if your son was admonished in any way for not completing it? </p>