https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 09 Jun 2026 03:32:23 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/problems-with-earlier-bedtime#post-1633544 Wed, 14 May 2014 11:25:26 +0000 abbydabbydoodlebug 1633544@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@kjpugs: We do pumped milk, but it's really hard for me to get enough for a bottle, so I think I'm going to just freeze what I pump so I can have a small stash. I am trying to increase my supply just on case that's the reason, but I'm not seeing any difference. </p> <p>I've thought about reflux but when I read the symptoms she doesn't match up with them I don't think. I've definitely lookedinto it a couple times when she's been upset for a reason I couldn't explain. But my gut tells me it's not that. </p> <p>I just think it's her age right now. And I need to be more patient with her. :-/</p> <p>eta: she was regularly sleeping 6 hours from 830-230 when she was in the RnP in our room. She started sleeping less when we moved her to her crib. So I think I might have to wait until she is sleeping on her tummy or side to get those longer stretches again. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/problems-with-earlier-bedtime#post-1633418 Wed, 14 May 2014 10:43:51 +0000 kjpugs 1633418@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Have you ruled out any medical reasons for her not being able to sleep longer? Sorry if I missed it if typed above, but do you know she's getting enough to eat from BF before bed (I think you said you did pumped bottles too?) because not being full could wake her back up... also did you rule out reflux? Reflux was the reason our LO had sleep issues and it's helped so much to have her on meds, it started around 4 months that we put her on meds and now at 7 months she's off and she's frequently STTN 12.5 hours! I wish I had figured that out earlier. Also it helped our LO to sleep on her stomach. After we saw her try to flip in the merlin we started her sleeping in just footed sleepers, and she immediately started sleeping on her side- and soon after, her belly - and slept much more soundly and longer.</p> <p>Just a few options, who knows if any of those are your situation but I know how frustrating it can be :( Hang in there!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/problems-with-earlier-bedtime#post-1633384 Wed, 14 May 2014 10:28:28 +0000 MrsKoala 1633384@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@abbydabbydoodlebug: Ahh, ok! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/problems-with-earlier-bedtime#post-1633373 Wed, 14 May 2014 10:24:09 +0000 abbydabbydoodlebug 1633373@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsKoala: well I didn't really know to move it up.. She just woke up from her nap early and I knew she wasn't going to last until her normal bedtime so I put her down early. But obviously that didn't work out well. Lol. </p> <p>I think I'm going to try to keep her bedtime at the same time as before... Which is start bedtime routine at 730, asleep around 830. But it all depends on her last nap. I don't want to keep her up longer than 1.5-2 hours after she wakes up from that last nap. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/problems-with-earlier-bedtime#post-1633255 Wed, 14 May 2014 09:40:57 +0000 sarahbs 1633255@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@abbydabbydoodlebug: I had this same problem last night! Baby D slept poorly during the day yesterday so we put him to bed early...and he woke up in the middle of the night! I guess I shouldn't complain because he's been doing 8-10 hour stretches most nights, but it was still surprising! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/problems-with-earlier-bedtime#post-1633234 Wed, 14 May 2014 09:33:32 +0000 MrsKoala 1633234@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@abbydabbydoodlebug: Thanks for this thread! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/problems-with-earlier-bedtime#post-1633230 Wed, 14 May 2014 09:32:10 +0000 MrsKoala 1633230@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>How do you know when to move the bedtime down? Right now, DS is going to bed at 9:30ish after his last feed for the night. He shows no signs of being sleepy before this. Basically, I feed him for the last time, he falls alseep, and we put him in the crib. Usually, he wakes up on his way to the crib and goes down awake but settles a bit and goes to sleep. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/problems-with-earlier-bedtime#post-1633169 Wed, 14 May 2014 09:01:49 +0000 abbydabbydoodlebug 1633169@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lawbee11: thank you! I know I'm not the only one dealing with it and I'm sure I have it better than a lot of others. She's definitely gotten better at putting herself down. We started trying that a couple weeks ago and she's much better at it now. So I'm hopeful. I didn't think it would be this difficult either! I had no idea. I was so naive, haha. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/problems-with-earlier-bedtime#post-1633128 Wed, 14 May 2014 08:52:02 +0000 abbydabbydoodlebug 1633128@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MamaBehr: ah, yeah I remember reading that before! According, to that. I'd have to train her now before she turns 4 months on June 4. We are going away for 2 nights over July 4t, so I'm sure hr sleep is going to get all messed up then. I wonder if I should wait to train after or try it now? I'd probably have to re train after anyway... That's 2 months away though. Ugh. I'll have to talk with DH about it.</p> <p>She ended up sleeping 945-2. 3-630. Not bad! Although she cried out in her sleep at midnight and woke me up. I was about to go in and checked the monitor and she was asleep. Then at 530 she was stirring again and I was about to go in but she grill asleep again. So I still woke up every 2 hours. Maybe I should turn the monitor volume down.</p> <p>Eta: sorry for spelling mistakes... Typing on my phone! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/problems-with-earlier-bedtime#post-1633107 Wed, 14 May 2014 08:46:23 +0000 lawbee11 1633107@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@abbydabbydoodlebug: I can SO empathize with you. Baby sleep has been our biggest struggle. My DH keeps telling me it'll get better and she'll STTN soon, but he has been saying that for months! I used to get really upset and cry about it but now I've kind of just accepted it (and this is with sleep training!). She's awesome about putting herself to sleep, and things have improved from 4 wakeups to 2, but if you'd told me while I was pregnant that 9+ months in we'd still be getting up twice a night I would've thought you were crazy.</p> <p>My best friend FF her son and he's been STTN since really early on. I don't know if FF has anything to do with it (I know there are a lot of EBF babies on HB that STTN early on, too), but at least when he does wake up her DH can do some of the feedings. It's definitely hard to hear about. Even now if I get 5 hours of consecutive sleep it's a really great night. Most of the time I still only get 3.5-4 (but I also don't go to bed til 10). Hopefully things will improve for you sooner rather than later, though! Wall me anytime if you want to vent! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/problems-with-earlier-bedtime#post-1633081 Wed, 14 May 2014 08:37:31 +0000 MamaBehr 1633081@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@abbydabbydoodlebug: this is a super helpful post on here about when to sleep train: <a href="http://www.hellobee.com/2012/12/20/does-when-you-sleep-train-help-determine-success/" rel="nofollow">http://www.hellobee.com/2012/12/20/does-when-you-sleep-train-help-determine-success/</a><br /> I think I'm going to sleep train at just over 5.5 months old. I just have to get DS#1 out of the crib first! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/problems-with-earlier-bedtime#post-1632831 Wed, 14 May 2014 02:46:37 +0000 abbydabbydoodlebug 1632831@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MamaBehr: I think we do plan on crying it out. I ordered Ferber's book and a friend is letting me borrow healthy sleep habits. She's actually bringing it by tomorrow for me, yay! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/problems-with-earlier-bedtime#post-1632830 Wed, 14 May 2014 02:45:16 +0000 abbydabbydoodlebug 1632830@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Emsmems: I hope the swaddling will help you! DD just keeps breaking out and always tries to get her hands to her face. She is able to rub her face and get her fingers s in her mouth in the merlin but it's really thick so it's probably hard to keep them there. If I switch to a sleep sack, it'll be a lot cheaper because we have to keep the ac on really cold so she doesn't over heat. </p> <p>@MamaBehr: She's honestly not that bad, but has been worse since moving her to the crib. She'll sleep 4 hours, sometimes 5, then awake every 2 after. She was doing 6 and 3-4 before. So now by the time I finish pumping and spending alone time with DH, I get like 2 hours of sleep at a time. I'm just a total B with little sleep, so my poor DH has it taken out on him a lot! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/problems-with-earlier-bedtime#post-1632828 Wed, 14 May 2014 02:32:48 +0000 MamaBehr 1632828@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@abbydabbydoodlebug: my daughter was a TERRIBLE sleeper, do I figured I'm already exhausted, might as well have a newborn! Hahaha how many MOTN wake ups do you have? Do you plan on CIO? My little guy isn't a great sleeper, we have about 3-4 MOTN wake ups (after the first wake up he's up every hour to hour and a half). I'm at my wits end as well, but I know it'll get better after CIO and he gets a little older. Though it never fails, that when he is sleeping well one of my other ones wake up!! Hope you had a good night :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/problems-with-earlier-bedtime#post-1632738 Tue, 13 May 2014 23:02:17 +0000 Emsmems 1632738@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@abbydabbydoodlebug: you took the words right out of my (and DH's) mouth about having more kids! </p> <p>I didn't think DS needed the swaddle anymore, but decided tonight to put him back in it (a halo swaddle sleep sack) and I think it's helping. He has stirred but hasn't woken up fully. He wasn't startling without it but he would start swinging his arms around as he stirred. So this week, we will swaddle again! Haha. </p> <p>Ugh, good luck tonight. And just know you are not alone! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/problems-with-earlier-bedtime#post-1632728 Tue, 13 May 2014 22:53:16 +0000 immabeetoo 1632728@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@abbydabbydoodlebug: If she's trying to suck her fingers, make them more accessible! That was another good thing- LO started thumb sucking, and we gave him an a&amp;a lovey. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/problems-with-earlier-bedtime#post-1632716 Tue, 13 May 2014 22:42:00 +0000 abbydabbydoodlebug 1632716@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Emsmems: No it's not magical! But she has been trying to suck on her fingers sometimes, so that's good? I actually don't think she startles, so I could technically move her to a sleep sack or something. But I'm not changing anything for fear of making things worse. I'm just going to do it all at once when we sleep train. </p> <p>She was taking good day naps, except for today which is why I think we had such problems at night tonight. A couple of days I was afraid that she was actually sleeping too much during the day.</p> <p>How do people even think about having more kids!? They say you forget the bad part of it all but I certainly remember everything still! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/problems-with-earlier-bedtime#post-1632710 Tue, 13 May 2014 22:33:37 +0000 Emsmems 1632710@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@abbydabbydoodlebug: this happens to us sometimes, whether we put him to bed early or not. I just treat it like a motn wake up and nurse him back to sleep. It usually works. </p> <p>I just bought the No Cry Sleep Solution, but with DS's cat naps, I haven't have time to read much. Sometimes I start thinking we should just do CIO and get it over with, but I can't do it (yet). DS's sleep seems to be all over the place! I know he's overtired, but we are in a vicious cycle of not sleeping well and being overtired. Ugh. Baby sleep is the most frustrating thing ever!! Any luck with the magic sleep suit? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/problems-with-earlier-bedtime#post-1632696 Tue, 13 May 2014 22:12:41 +0000 abbydabbydoodlebug 1632696@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@scg00387: Everyone says that it'll get better, but i heard that about making it to 3 months... But it only got worse then. :( </p> <p>I just wish I could get 1 night of decent sleep, just 1! I'm not even talking 10p-7a. I'm talking like 5 hours of sleep for me. </p> <p>I'm so jealous of my friend who formula feeds her daughter. She can at least get a night here and there to sleep while her husband takes over. I don't even have the option of formula because she's mspi. </p> <p>It took 45 minutes, but I nursed her to sleep. She woke up 5 minutes later crying, but seems to be settling... She's tossing and turning, but I think she's asleep. Ugh. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/problems-with-earlier-bedtime#post-1632660 Tue, 13 May 2014 21:50:54 +0000 immabeetoo 1632660@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@abbydabbydoodlebug: I know, I KNOW. I feel your pain, so hard. I keep telling DH it will be easier with any future LOs because I know, without a doubt, that there is an end to each phase and it will get better. BUt I know it didn't feel like it back then. Generally speaking, I've found that most folks find their babies sleep getting better around the 6 month mark and/or when LOs can roll to their tummy and sleep that way. Both were true for us (in addition to gentle, no cry sleep solution sleep training). Hang in there!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/problems-with-earlier-bedtime#post-1632636 Tue, 13 May 2014 21:41:18 +0000 abbydabbydoodlebug 1632636@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@scg00387: sigh, yeah. I am kind of grasping at straws because I'm just so exhausted. I'm falling asleep nursing her at least 1/day. I'm so tired of being tired! Why didn't I get a magical unicorn baby that sleeps thru the night at 8 weeks!? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/problems-with-earlier-bedtime#post-1632630 Tue, 13 May 2014 21:36:44 +0000 immabeetoo 1632630@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@abbydabbydoodlebug: I don't know how helpful this is, but I was pretty much in the same frame of mind around that age, read all the ideas (didn't try them all) and tried to figure out the perfect timing for every scenario.. and it didn't help that much! Everything seems to go in phases. Don't beat yourself up or spend too much time hunting for answers - next week you could easily find yourself in the same scenario, put her to bed early, and she sleeps extra long. There is just no telling :P I promise it will all get better! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/problems-with-earlier-bedtime#post-1632609 Tue, 13 May 2014 21:13:53 +0000 abbydabbydoodlebug 1632609@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lawbee11: ok I was thinking around that time too. I just hate baby sleep. Hate hate hate. I haven't slept more than 3 hours except for a couple rare occasions since she was born. I'm SO over it. This whole thing has never happened before so I'm at a total loss!</p> <p>I ordered Ferber's book today and I'm going to see if a friend has healthy sleep habits that I can borrow. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/problems-with-earlier-bedtime#post-1632602 Tue, 13 May 2014 21:09:49 +0000 lawbee11 1632602@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@abbydabbydoodlebug: Aww! Poor thing. So she got up around 8:15? I'd probably try nursing her around 9:15 and see if that makes her sleepy enough to fall asleep for the night.</p> <p>ETA: But I'm definitely not a sleep expert as evidenced by the fact that my 9 month old still wakes twice a night! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/problems-with-earlier-bedtime#post-1632596 Tue, 13 May 2014 21:05:18 +0000 abbydabbydoodlebug 1632596@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lawbee11: how long should I wait to put her back down? My DH is holding her and she's just crying. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/problems-with-earlier-bedtime#post-1632581 Tue, 13 May 2014 20:57:15 +0000 abbydabbydoodlebug 1632581@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ugh. I gave her a bottle and now I feel like I wasted it. It's so hard for me to pump enough for one. I guess I'll get her up for a little while and nurse her to sleep like ive done before.</p> <p>I just don't know what I was supposed to do in that situation. She's been tired all day and I didn't want her getting over tired trying to keep her up until her normal bedtime. She did the same yesterday and didn't take a cat nap and was super cranky. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/problems-with-earlier-bedtime#post-1632559 Tue, 13 May 2014 20:43:49 +0000 lawbee11 1632559@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@abbydabbydoodlebug: I'd probably get her up and try again in a bit. Sorry :( Baby sleep sucks!</p> <p>ETA: I read Healthy Sleep Habits Happy Child and it said if you shift up bedtime you should do it gradually and in small 10-15 increments. So it may have just been too big of a jump at one time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/problems-with-earlier-bedtime#post-1632542 Tue, 13 May 2014 20:36:11 +0000 abbydabbydoodlebug 1632542@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So LO had all short naps today and her last nap ended at 545. So we decided to move her bedtime up and had her asleep at 745 instead of 830-9. Well, she woke up after 35 min. I guess she thought it was a cat nap instead of bedtime. She's crying now and I'm not sure what to do. She's never woken early from bedtime. Normally I'd go get her if it was a day time nap. And does this mean that I should keep her bed time later like I have been? She's 14 weeks today. </p> <p>Ugh, I hate sleep problems! I feel like all I do is worry about her sleep. I'm so over wake ups and not getting more than 3 hours in a row of sleep. </p>