https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 10 May 2026 15:19:52 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/problems-with-listening#post-2607043 Fri, 19 Aug 2016 08:49:05 +0000 Maysprout 2607043@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My oldest turned 5 this summer and is pretty good but def doesn't like cleaning up toys. I'm just calmly persistent. Sometimes I'll help her but a lot of times I have other stuff that needs cooked or cleaned or what not. So I give her a schedule of things that need to be done before we can go. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/problems-with-listening#post-2607018 Fri, 19 Aug 2016 08:25:02 +0000 petunia354 2607018@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We're just running into this at 3.5 years old. Sometimes counting from 5 works but not always. It usually ends with him losing toys/privileges and me fuming. Not a good situation! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/problems-with-listening#post-2606973 Fri, 19 Aug 2016 07:41:12 +0000 looch 2606973@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've found something that works when my son is asked to do something and doesn't, or warned not to do something and does it...I ask him what I can do to help him understand the rule better. He's almost 6 now, so it's more of a discussion. I have also found that this keeps me from blowing my lid. I am much calmer too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/problems-with-listening#post-2606971 Fri, 19 Aug 2016 07:39:17 +0000 honeybear 2606971@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's not just you. Until he hit 5, LO was good about listening and following directions. It suddenly got a lot harder to get him to follow instructions/pay attention last year around 5.5 or so. </p> <p>It mostly occurs when I'm asking him to do something that he doesn't want to do, like cleaning up or getting ready to leave, because he's doing something else. The only solution I've hit upon on that front is to give him more notice of the not-daily events and try to build the other stuff into a routine. That has been moderately effective. I think other times it's a bid for attention. When he suddenly starts behaving super childishly, I suspect its that he feels a little deprived (but he is definitely not!). Five and six seems like a stage where he wants and needs independence and will happily do his own thing for a long time, but when he wants attention, he still wants it immediately. </p> <p>I will say that the recent spate of not listening feels different from the toddler/preschooler situations. It's less impulsive and harder to deal with because it often feels more like calculated resistance. For example, he'll tell me he can't do X now because he's reading or doing something else that he knows I generally consider productive. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/problems-with-listening#post-2606898 Thu, 18 Aug 2016 23:35:24 +0000 Boogs 2606898@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@iluvboba637: Totally feel your pain! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/problems-with-listening#post-2606818 Thu, 18 Aug 2016 20:47:30 +0000 iluvboba637 2606818@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I need tips too please. My threenager absolutely refuses to listen right now. He's having a hard time transitioning now that I'm returning to work from ~4months maternity leave with dd. Dd's transitioning fine though lol - fed, changed = happy. Haha. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/problems-with-listening#post-2601329 Thu, 18 Aug 2016 18:30:00 +0000 Boogs 2601329@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Anyone else have increasing problems with listening as their kids get older? I'm more specifically talking about my five year old. Is it just me, or is this something others are running into? Any tips you've learned along the way to improve the problem? </p>