https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 23 Apr 2026 20:55:45 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pronoun-reversal-saying-you-instead-of-i#post-2926223 Fri, 28 Jan 2022 11:15:37 +0000 kayla0416 2926223@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>All 3 of my girls did this. I had no idea it was supposedly a sign of autism! None of my kids are autistic. They figured out all the correct pronouns within a few months. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pronoun-reversal-saying-you-instead-of-i#post-2926221 Thu, 27 Jan 2022 19:33:06 +0000 karenbme 2926221@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks, ladies. So much online says that this is typical of autism and none of my friends’ kids did it, so it’s good to hear that it could be totally normal. </p> <p>@JennyPenny: The only time she’s ever said “my” consistently is when she tells the dog “that’s my food” so it’s not like she’s backsliding, she just hasn’t gotten the difference between you and I yet even though otherwise she’s speaking in full, correct sentences. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pronoun-reversal-saying-you-instead-of-i#post-2926220 Thu, 27 Jan 2022 16:29:52 +0000 Lahela017 2926220@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I also think this is pretty normal. I wouldn't worry about it. My almost 3 year old can't get she vs her or he vs him correct, and I think this is similar. They are still learning! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pronoun-reversal-saying-you-instead-of-i#post-2926217 Thu, 27 Jan 2022 16:08:31 +0000 JennyPenny 2926217@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Another vote for normal. My son did the same thing as @JJ2626 mentioned with the 3rd person. He had used me/my you/yours before but then when he learned the 3rd person, it's like he forgot those 2 and only used the 3rd person for everything for a while. He eventually grew out of it. I think as they learn new things like that they test it out a lot to see how it fits and temporarily forget the old stuff. Has your daughter used me/my before and is just now switching? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pronoun-reversal-saying-you-instead-of-i#post-2926216 Thu, 27 Jan 2022 13:31:10 +0000 JJ2626 2926216@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My daughter did this too! It’s really the same as when kids refer to themselves in the 3rd person which is so common. I actually asked my ped during a check up and he said it was normal and don’t do anything about it (nothing you can do anyway) except continue to talk to her. She grew out of it by 3! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pronoun-reversal-saying-you-instead-of-i#post-2926215 Thu, 27 Jan 2022 13:18:13 +0000 agold 2926215@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it is normal. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pronoun-reversal-saying-you-instead-of-i#post-2926214 Thu, 27 Jan 2022 12:15:59 +0000 hitchhiker 2926214@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think this is really normal. Both of my kids did it and they are neurotypical. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/pronoun-reversal-saying-you-instead-of-i#post-2926213 Thu, 27 Jan 2022 11:29:26 +0000 karenbme 2926213@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My 2 year old started saying "you"/"your" to mean "I"/"my" around her second birthday, and everything I'm seeing is that this is a major sign/symptom of autism. Otherwise, though, she has no symptoms--she's very engaged, verbal and seems to understand/care about us and our feelings. We try to correct her by saying whatever she's trying to say correctly (eg. "you mean, 'show mama MY painting'") and being conscientious about switching from saying "Mama wants to play with you" to "I want to play with you" but it doesn't really seem to be sticking. Just wondering if anyone has dealt with this before and how it turned out. </p>