https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 12 Apr 2026 13:09:51 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/proposed-policy-deleting-your-own-posts#post-20716 Tue, 22 Nov 2011 20:54:58 +0000 mrbee 20716@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We went ahead and made it possible for Hellobee members to edit a comment for up to three hours. (Previously edits were limited to one hour.) We'll see how that goes, and decide whether or not to make it permanent!</p> <p>Thanks to everyone for weighing in! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/proposed-policy-deleting-your-own-posts#post-20609 Tue, 22 Nov 2011 17:47:04 +0000 MaisyMay 20609@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It would be nice to delete posts occassionally. Maybe it could just say "Sorry, post deleted by poster" and if anybody replied via clicking reply it could say "linked post removed by previous poster." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/proposed-policy-deleting-your-own-posts#post-20565 Tue, 22 Nov 2011 17:13:10 +0000 tequiero21 20565@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i agree with the above posters. i think it would be nice to delete your own comments (although, i'm really not sure why people would want to do it days after they posted) but not the whole thread. i think it gets too complicated for you (or whoever) to try to write a program that will give error messages when people try to access the thread or what not. maybe a small "x" next to your post? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/proposed-policy-deleting-your-own-posts#post-20341 Tue, 22 Nov 2011 13:09:48 +0000 Boogs 20341@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: Thank you. Looking forward to see how it all turns out. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/proposed-policy-deleting-your-own-posts#post-20292 Tue, 22 Nov 2011 12:31:11 +0000 MamaMoose 20292@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: Done! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/proposed-policy-deleting-your-own-posts#post-20281 Tue, 22 Nov 2011 12:21:53 +0000 mrbee 20281@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Boogs: Neat ideas!</p> <p>I'd love to see how something like this might work out, and then maybe we could discuss expanding the program in the way you discussed! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/proposed-policy-deleting-your-own-posts#post-20274 Tue, 22 Nov 2011 12:13:48 +0000 mrbee 20274@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>&lt;&lt; I do think we need a longer editing window. &gt;&gt;</p> <p>@MamaMoose: Please do post that as a suggestion!</p> <p><a href="http://suggestions.hellobee.com" rel="nofollow">http://suggestions.hellobee.com</a> </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/proposed-policy-deleting-your-own-posts#post-20272 Tue, 22 Nov 2011 12:13:10 +0000 mrbee 20272@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@.twist.: Ah ok. Most forums I'm active on have an editing time limit.</p> <p>There are a few reasons for having an editing time limit. Mostly it's a matter of fairness to other members: if one person posts a question and other people take the time to answer, it's not really fair if the first person then erases their post (or worse, edits it to say something different).</p> <p>It's interesting: growing up, I think most everyone shared the expectation that you couldn't edit posts on message boards. I think people's expectations have changed over time though, as many of us have blogs and social networking sites where we can edit and delete posts at any point, if we'd like.</p> <p>The difference here is that this is a community and not a personal blog or social networking profile... we try to balance the two perspectives though, by allowing edits for a while after posting! And the proposed policy above would be a further step towards balancing the two perspectives...</p> <p>Hope that helps explain our reasoning a bit! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/proposed-policy-deleting-your-own-posts#post-20212 Tue, 22 Nov 2011 10:59:33 +0000 MamaMoose 20212@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I like the idea of three life time post deletions. People absolutely should know they are posting for the world to see but sometimes in the heat of the moment I'm sure common sense goes out the window. I would hope that even after 1 situation where someone needed to have a post deleted they would learn their lesson and never have to go through that again.</p> <p>But I do think we need a longer editing window. Sometimes I'll notice something as minor as a spelling error in one of my posts when I go back to a thread later in the day and it makes me crazy that I can't fix it! And I like the idea of an automated time stamp that identifies the post as having been edited. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/proposed-policy-deleting-your-own-posts#post-20166 Tue, 22 Nov 2011 10:23:10 +0000 .twist. 20166@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I guess I don't understand why we can't have the ability to edit our posts at any time? I've never come across a forum that does this (besides weddingbee). Is there a reason? </p> <p>Also, as for people deleting their own comments, you could have something that says "bzz bzzzz bzzz" in it... haha </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/proposed-policy-deleting-your-own-posts#post-20118 Tue, 22 Nov 2011 09:30:15 +0000 mrsjyw 20118@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Agree with @blushink &amp; @boogs... the 3 deletions I think is more than enough. People need to be their own filters and realize that this is a public forum and that deletion requests may not be as easy to run behind the scenes as it may seem for users. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/proposed-policy-deleting-your-own-posts#post-20077 Tue, 22 Nov 2011 08:34:31 +0000 Mrs. Sunglasses 20077@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I believe that threads in it's entirety shouldn't be deleted, (because lots of people comment on those and it would mean that the whole thread would disappear) </p> <p>That being said, I think people should understand that being on an online community you need to filter what you say if you feel like you are bound to overstep. </p> <p>The fact that you've enabled the option to change a username alone is a big step. why not just change your username all together so people have no clue who you are.</p> <p>I agree with being able to delete certain posts. (up to 3 in my mind is enough... you don't want to give too much because then people will ask for more)</p> <p>In a parenting/baby community topics can become quite intense. But it's simply back and forth of opinions. If there aren't actual attacks then it's only normal, people have different views and it's what makes a successful online community.</p> <p>Case in point... check before hitting send, and I agree with @boogs since the site is at an early stage, make up all the policies now, so that people can't complain mid-way. </p> <p>What if you wrote a mini disclaimer under the subscribe button. "Before hitting submit, please be sure to read our policy" or something of that sort. I dunno. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/proposed-policy-deleting-your-own-posts#post-20037 Tue, 22 Nov 2011 02:46:23 +0000 looch 20037@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Personally, I prefer to not have threads deleted in their entirety. If you want to delete your post, fine, but a lot of the time when things get ugly, people have quoted it, so there's no point. I do that on purpose when someone says something really offending to me on another post so I have a "record" of it, if that makes sense (on boards where the quote feature is available).</p> <p>If you posted something too personal, then that's a user's issue. You should be aware that you're posting on a site that is open to every one in the world with a computer and internet connection. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/proposed-policy-deleting-your-own-posts#post-20021 Tue, 22 Nov 2011 02:24:38 +0000 Mrs Green Grass 20021@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would like the ability to delete. </p> <p>I've actually never needed too, but I can see how deleting can be a form of self-editing that might avoid a problem. Like I could decide, "wow, that came off much differently than I intended." I can see how deleting could create drama (if someone is maliciously intent on creating drama), but also how it could relieve the types of drama that are less intended.</p> <p>I think by having a limit, users must still be responsible about what they are posting. If you have a recurrent issue with needed deletion beyond that, it would make sense that an admin or moderator should be involved. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/proposed-policy-deleting-your-own-posts#post-20019 Tue, 22 Nov 2011 02:23:39 +0000 Boogs 20019@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I know what you mean about things getting ugly on WB, for example. I say as far as deletions go, you should have a somewhat strict policy similar to the WB one in general that is well known sooner rather than later. </p> <p>However, since you want a bit more leeway, maybe you can program a way for users to maybe get to remove between 2-5 of their own posts? Maybe this is something that can be a yearly thing? Somehow when doing the programming there can be some sort of timer so that after a year a user gets their couple of deletions again? I know it might be tricky, but I see this site as a place where people will hang out for a good while. If you used up your 2, 3, or however many deletions in your first year, that would be a bummer for you if you've been around for say 3 years and really want to remove something. </p> <p>Or this may be a REALLY unrealistic programming nightmare for you, but what about depending on how long you've been a member that is how many deletions you'll be able to do yourself? Like maybe start with 1 or 2 for your first year of membership and maybe once you hit your second year you'll get your original 2 plus one more and each year you get another? </p> <p>However it turns out, I'm really excited to see what you end up deciding about this! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/proposed-policy-deleting-your-own-posts#post-19992 Tue, 22 Nov 2011 01:07:09 +0000 808love 19992@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. D: :~D </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/proposed-policy-deleting-your-own-posts#post-19991 Tue, 22 Nov 2011 01:01:57 +0000 mrbee 19991@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@loveablebee: I don't have any control over Weddingbee any more. So this would only apply to Hellobee... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/proposed-policy-deleting-your-own-posts#post-19988 Tue, 22 Nov 2011 00:58:41 +0000 loveablebee 19988@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Is this something that you will also be applying to weddingbee as well? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/proposed-policy-deleting-your-own-posts#post-19983 Tue, 22 Nov 2011 00:47:47 +0000 Mrs. D 19983@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: lol </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/proposed-policy-deleting-your-own-posts#post-19981 Tue, 22 Nov 2011 00:45:00 +0000 mrbee 19981@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. D: No comment!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/proposed-policy-deleting-your-own-posts#post-19975 Tue, 22 Nov 2011 00:37:00 +0000 Mrs. D 19975@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: We could get fancy, but simply "hide" or "remove" would suffice.<br /> Delete<br /> Expunge<br /> Junk<br /> Oust<br /> Purge</p> <p>Or my favourite off the top of my head:<br /> Withdraw </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/proposed-policy-deleting-your-own-posts#post-19974 Tue, 22 Nov 2011 00:35:34 +0000 mrbee 19974@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MsMini: That would require a moderator though... tough one. I guess we'd have to hope that redactions would be farily rare! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/proposed-policy-deleting-your-own-posts#post-19972 Tue, 22 Nov 2011 00:34:26 +0000 MsMini 19972@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: You would have to in that case, I would guess. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/proposed-policy-deleting-your-own-posts#post-19970 Tue, 22 Nov 2011 00:33:42 +0000 mrbee 19970@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MsMini: What if other members quoted from the deleted post... would we redact that text? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/proposed-policy-deleting-your-own-posts#post-19969 Tue, 22 Nov 2011 00:32:51 +0000 MsMini 19969@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: Exactly, I think if just a post was deleted then a message just like you wrote would appear, just so you know that something was deleted (otherwise threads get confusing if something gets referenced later that is now gone). That way we would also know if it was a moderator or poster that removed it (it sometimes helps with context for the rest of the thread.</p> <p>The reason I suggested that threads aren't removed, is that sometimes good advice/suggestions pop up on threads that if they were removed later are totally lost. If it is just posts deleted, the personal information is gone, but the info/advice is still available for everyone to see. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/proposed-policy-deleting-your-own-posts#post-19968 Tue, 22 Nov 2011 00:32:20 +0000 mrbee 19968@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. D: Any thoughts on what we'd call this? As in, if you want to hide your post and replace it with a Hellobee logo... what would the link that enabled that say?</p> <p>"NUKE" this post? That sounds a bit extreme... any other ideas? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/proposed-policy-deleting-your-own-posts#post-19966 Tue, 22 Nov 2011 00:29:28 +0000 Mrs. D 19966@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: that sounds good to me. You could have a hellobee logo in it's place, saying something about the post being removed by the poster. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/proposed-policy-deleting-your-own-posts#post-19964 Tue, 22 Nov 2011 00:27:32 +0000 mrbee 19964@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>These strict no-exception policies are great in theory! But people get really upset and it just gets really ugly. I'm citing personal experience on this front..</p> <p>I'd like to have *some* leeway here... and ideally, one that doesn't have to involve moderators or admins (i.e. one that can be self-service, if we do a little programming on our end).</p> <p>@MsMini: Hmm, that's interesting that you mentioned differentiating between deleting a thread and a post. If someone deleted a post, what would appear in its place... just a blank field that said, "SO-AND-SO has deleted the post that used to appear here."? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/proposed-policy-deleting-your-own-posts#post-19956 Tue, 22 Nov 2011 00:20:04 +0000 MsMini 19956@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would stand by not allowing deletion, because I think it becomes a slippery slope. People should think before they post! If you really want to allow deleting, I think a lifetime maximum of 3 is reasonable, but maybe not entire threads, just individual posts. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/proposed-policy-deleting-your-own-posts#post-19955 Tue, 22 Nov 2011 00:19:37 +0000 Mrs. D 19955@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: Really? wow, I figured it was people realizing the same day they shouldn't have said what they said. </p> <p>What about just always allowing editing, but making the post always say after that it was edited on such and such a date by such and such a user. </p>