https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 01 May 2026 00:24:16 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/public-nursing-incidentfeeling-guilty-about-my-reaction#post-2391924 Thu, 17 Dec 2015 09:42:02 +0000 jedeve 2391924@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ha. Those of you who haven't been so sleep deprived you forgot to put a boob away are lucky! Once my kid started gagging and I had to pop him up to burp him ASAP before he lost his lunch. Boob was still out. At church. Oops. </p> <p>I wouldn't blame yourself for your reaction. It's normal to feel surprise at things we aren't used to in our culture. But who knows what the deal was. In my state exposure of the breast near the time of breastfeeding (so not only the seconds the baby is latched on) is not considered indecent exposure explicitly in the law. I think it's hard enough to breastfeed without worrying that you are doing it discreet enough or covering quickly enough. This sounds more than a nip slip, sure, but I don't think there is a need to be like "that baby has been done nursing a whole half second!! Why is the boob still out?" (Not that you are thinking that, but some other comments sound like that!) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/public-nursing-incidentfeeling-guilty-about-my-reaction#post-2391915 Thu, 17 Dec 2015 09:37:43 +0000 avivoca 2391915@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm more of a "you do you" kind of person. I feel guilty for judging this poor woman who I don't even know, so I'm just going to go with the thought that maybe the baby just had a blowout and she needed to deal with it quickly. Maybe she has thrush and is trying to air out her nips. Who knows. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/public-nursing-incidentfeeling-guilty-about-my-reaction#post-2391910 Thu, 17 Dec 2015 09:35:12 +0000 Greentea 2391910@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lamariniere: Yeah!</p> <p>I let other people do them, who knows what her deal is and as long as the baby is cared for, who cares? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/public-nursing-incidentfeeling-guilty-about-my-reaction#post-2391832 Thu, 17 Dec 2015 09:00:46 +0000 pwnstar 2391832@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Truth Bombs: @blackbird: Yes! Awareness of certain things--like being nekkid--transcends sleep deprivation! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/public-nursing-incidentfeeling-guilty-about-my-reaction#post-2391828 Thu, 17 Dec 2015 08:59:11 +0000 blackbird 2391828@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Truth Bombs: Right?! I feel like I would be so paranoid that I would forget, that despite my exhaustion, I'd be hyper vigilant about it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/public-nursing-incidentfeeling-guilty-about-my-reaction#post-2391787 Thu, 17 Dec 2015 08:40:20 +0000 Adira 2391787@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm guessing the poor lady hasn't gotten a decent night's sleep in 3-6 months (or however old her baby is) and just so out of it, she forgot to put her boobs away! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/public-nursing-incidentfeeling-guilty-about-my-reaction#post-2391684 Thu, 17 Dec 2015 05:40:31 +0000 Truth Bombs 2391684@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have never in my life been so tired that I wouldn't notice both of my boobs flapping in the wind at the grocery store..... Having a baby in close proximity is not a free pass for indecent exposure. If the baby isn't actively nursing, put the boobs away. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/public-nursing-incidentfeeling-guilty-about-my-reaction#post-2391661 Thu, 17 Dec 2015 02:54:36 +0000 SugarplumsMom 2391661@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@blackbird: LMAO! Omg, I'm seriously cracking up by your reaction 😂😂😂 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/public-nursing-incidentfeeling-guilty-about-my-reaction#post-2391660 Thu, 17 Dec 2015 02:49:55 +0000 lamariniere 2391660@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I live in Europe and I've seen a similar situation on more than one occasion. I once saw a woman just sitting with her boob out (in a museum) while the baby was nursing on the other side (and I had my own nursing baby with me). Maybe she was a visiting European? :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/public-nursing-incidentfeeling-guilty-about-my-reaction#post-2391636 Thu, 17 Dec 2015 01:13:25 +0000 sarac 2391636@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I could not be any more into nursing in public, but there is just no good reason to have both!!! boobs just hanging out. No way. I'd lean towards her being so tired she forgot. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/public-nursing-incidentfeeling-guilty-about-my-reaction#post-2391619 Thu, 17 Dec 2015 00:13:08 +0000 Maysprout 2391619@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The only thing I can think of if she put her boobs away wrong. I've done it before in my house where I pulled my shirt back up but so distracted by something else I didn't realize I've pulled my shirt up weird. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/public-nursing-incidentfeeling-guilty-about-my-reaction#post-2391595 Wed, 16 Dec 2015 23:10:13 +0000 youboots 2391595@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I nurse the babe in public and she's usually covered well by my top layer, I don't even need a cover. I would have noticed too, and not in a good way. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/public-nursing-incidentfeeling-guilty-about-my-reaction#post-2391573 Wed, 16 Dec 2015 22:21:17 +0000 Mrs.KMM 2391573@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yeah that doesn't sound like nursing to me. That just sounds like flaunting your naked boobs in public. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/public-nursing-incidentfeeling-guilty-about-my-reaction#post-2391568 Wed, 16 Dec 2015 22:13:37 +0000 catomd00 2391568@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm a do your thing I'll nurse uncovered wherever I want and if a nip slip happens it happens, but this seems a bit much there!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/public-nursing-incidentfeeling-guilty-about-my-reaction#post-2391567 Wed, 16 Dec 2015 22:13:34 +0000 MrsRcCar 2391567@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would have been a put off if her breasts were just hanging not feeding her baby. Perhaps it slipped her mind. 😳 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/public-nursing-incidentfeeling-guilty-about-my-reaction#post-2391557 Wed, 16 Dec 2015 21:54:39 +0000 Bao 2391557@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm not sure how you could forget to put your boobs away if you're looking down changing your baby...haha!! So strange...that's not normal, in my opinion. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/public-nursing-incidentfeeling-guilty-about-my-reaction#post-2391550 Wed, 16 Dec 2015 21:47:27 +0000 Mrs D 2391550@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@irene: I'd estimate the baby was 3-6 mos...def not itty bitty but not toooo big yet... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/public-nursing-incidentfeeling-guilty-about-my-reaction#post-2391547 Wed, 16 Dec 2015 21:45:09 +0000 irene 2391547@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs D: I see I see, sorry for not reading carefully :P</p> <p>In that case, how old was the baby? Maybe the baby was very very newborn and she hasn't done this and she is out and about my herself the first time.... and like everyone said she probably forgot. But still. Something isn't quite right in the picture. What you described is what one would do.... at home...! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/public-nursing-incidentfeeling-guilty-about-my-reaction#post-2391546 Wed, 16 Dec 2015 21:44:25 +0000 Mrs D 2391546@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was crazy impressed by her at first...super put together lady confidently nursing her baby in public....then it just all went south.... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/public-nursing-incidentfeeling-guilty-about-my-reaction#post-2391545 Wed, 16 Dec 2015 21:43:26 +0000 Mrs D 2391545@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ok I am so glad this is odd and I am not a bad person for thinking so!</p> <p>I totally get things being exposed when you are starting out, transitioning or dealing with a squirmy one but this just seemed odd.</p> <p>Honestly she kept looking around like waiting for someone to stare so she could snap at them. She was not a frazzled, un showered in a bad place mess of a mommy. She was def comfortable and put together in what she was doing! It was so odd... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/public-nursing-incidentfeeling-guilty-about-my-reaction#post-2391540 Wed, 16 Dec 2015 21:39:29 +0000 Mrs D 2391540@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@irene: she was sitting on a bench the whole time - I was the one cruising around! :grin: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/public-nursing-incidentfeeling-guilty-about-my-reaction#post-2391537 Wed, 16 Dec 2015 21:38:05 +0000 Mamasig 2391537@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Um, I consider that flashing your boobs not nursing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/public-nursing-incidentfeeling-guilty-about-my-reaction#post-2391536 Wed, 16 Dec 2015 21:37:06 +0000 californiadreams 2391536@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>ya, i got rid of my cover after using it a few times because it was more annoying than anything else. And i also nursed by just pulling down my first, so fairly exposing the breast that was being nursed on. But i would always put it away after! Like as fast as possible. i am with @blackbird: and think maybe she didn't realize. i did a poster presentation at a conference once right after nursing my 5 months old and didn't realize until i got home that my nursing bra was rolled down the whole time. i was wearing a shirt over it obviously, but my boobs must have looked mis-shapen with one covered by a bra and the other only covered by a shirt! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/public-nursing-incidentfeeling-guilty-about-my-reaction#post-2391534 Wed, 16 Dec 2015 21:32:01 +0000 irene 2391534@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@regberadaisy: Oh I see, I was like crap she is following me to different aisles with her breasts pointing at me lol </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/public-nursing-incidentfeeling-guilty-about-my-reaction#post-2391531 Wed, 16 Dec 2015 21:29:57 +0000 regberadaisy 2391531@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am all for "doing whatever you need" to feed the baby. But I'm not sure why both breasts were still completely exposed while she was changing the baby? Unless like @blackbird: said she's so exhausted she completely forgot.</p> <p>@irene: the mom was sitting on A bench the whole time. OP was moving around the store. LOL </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/public-nursing-incidentfeeling-guilty-about-my-reaction#post-2391526 Wed, 16 Dec 2015 21:28:39 +0000 Rockies11 2391526@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i openly feed my baby everywhere, ditto with the first one and I have never walked around with a boob hanging out that didn't have a baby attached to it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/public-nursing-incidentfeeling-guilty-about-my-reaction#post-2391522 Wed, 16 Dec 2015 21:25:52 +0000 irene 2391522@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>hahaha. Awww.</p> <p>Wait, so she is nursing and she just walks around and basically stripping? How does she nurse walking around, I am actually not quite getting it. How big is the baby?</p> <p>I am so sorry you are confused. But honestly, either I am misunderstanding the description, or my first reaction is, is she mentally stable? Does she look like she is troubled mentally, or just a really regular but disoriented mom? Or does she look like she's the chairman of the nudists club? :P </p> <p>I am all for breastfeeding in public (I myself breastfed my son in an airport terminal in LAX right next to a construction zone where construction workers walked in and out, and I couldn't cover because my son won't eat, but I was very very discreet, so you can't tell what I was doing unless you really really look), just that public nudity, as in fully exposing both breasts in public, is against the law, is that right? Breastfeeding isn't, public nudity is, I thought.</p> <p>And how does she expose both of her breasts and walk around... where is the baby when she had both breasts exposed? That is just so bizarre and funny. I can't help but think is that baby even real :P </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/public-nursing-incidentfeeling-guilty-about-my-reaction#post-2391521 Wed, 16 Dec 2015 21:25:43 +0000 blackbird 2391521@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm sorry but wtf?!?!? Her boobs were just hanging out as she changed the baby? Maybe she was so tired she forgot to put them away. I can't see any other reason to be so exposed</p> <p>Eta: it's not a nursing thing if you're not actively nursing lol </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/public-nursing-incidentfeeling-guilty-about-my-reaction#post-2391492 Wed, 16 Dec 2015 21:03:07 +0000 Mrs D 2391492@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So I'm trying to evaluate something that happened today...</p> <p>I went to a grocery store this afternoon...on the way in a saw a mom nursing. She was uncovered but like most it was still very discrete - I obviously had no issue with her nursing.</p> <p>As I cruised the aisle I came past her again...she now was on to the second side and to my somewhat surprise had the first breast completely exposed still. At first I was a little shocked but the more I cruised and thought I figured maybe her nipple was sore and she was air drying it. Fine - initial thoughts past...I've had cracked sore nipples ... So you do what you do.</p> <p>When I was checking out she was on the same bench...changing her baby...both breast exposed fairly completely. I was shocked ... Just shocked. I went about my checkout and when I got to the car was trying to figure out my feelings.</p> <p>On the one hand I was horrified that I was judging this woman for her nursing in public. On the other hand I could not help but feel that what she was doing as the feeding went in was odd. I can't shake the negative feeling I have towards her - it honestly felt she was willing a reaction to come (which from what I saw she did not get) ... And it truly felt she was flaunting herself.</p> <p>Then again on the other hand I feel icky for those feelings and want to believe she was doing what she needed to to feed her baby...but honestly who nurses this way? Am I ignorant? I personally prefer to be covered but totally get that some babies and moms don't care for covers. Plus nursing is discrete the way I have done it...</p> <p>Someone explain to me what I am missing here from her side so I can understand?!?! </p>